Encwadini yakhe ethi “Man’s Search for Meaning,” owasinda ekuQothulweni Kwesizwe nodokotela wezifo zengqondo uViktor Frankl wathi umuntu angamelana nanoma yini uma nje enenjongo okumelwe ayilwele.
Manje kwenzekani lapho singazi ukuthi iyini inhloso yethu, ncamashi?
Cishe sonke silwe nomqondo wenhloso yomuntu ngasikhathi sinye.
Kwabanye, kungenzeka esikoleni samabanga aphakeme, lapho impilo iyinhlangano yokuzama ukuthola ukuthi benzeni ngeminyaka engama-40 ezayo. Abanye bangabhekana nomzabalazo wabo ngemuva kwesimo sempilo noma umcimbi omkhulu wokuphila njengokulahleka kwemisebenzi, isehlukaniso, noma ukuba umfelokazi.
Ngesinye isikhathi, sonke sibheka esibukweni bese sizibuza:
“Kumele ngabe ngenzani ngempilo yami? Ngifuna ukuba ngubani? Yiliphi ifa engifuna ukulishiya? ”
Konke lokhu kungasabisa kakhulu, futhi kungakhuthaza nokukhathazeka okulungile uma impendulo ingafiki ngaso leso sikhathi.
Singazizwa silahlekile ngaphandle komqondo, noma sizizwe sengathi sihudulwa umsinga ongazizwa ulungile, kepha asazi ukuthi senzeni ngakho.
Uma uzama ukuthola injongo yakho yokuphila futhi uzizwa ubambekile, kulungile. Yingakho silapha ukuze sisizane, akunjalo?
Ungayithola Kanjani Impilo Yakho Injongo
Zama ukubeka eceleni isikhathi lapho kungenzeka ukuthi ungaphazanyiswa abanye, futhi awunazo izibopho ezicindezelayo okufanele uzinakekele.
Thatha incwadi yakho bese ubhala phansi zonke izinto ezibalulekile kuwe. Hhayi nje izinto ozijabulelayo, kodwa okufeziwe okukwenza uzizwe uziqhenya ngawe, izinto ozenzayo ukusiza abanye abantu… izinto ezikwenza uzizwe ugcwalisekile.
Okulandelayo, bhala phansi uhlobo lwakho “lohlu lwamabhakede,” kodwa gxila kakhulu ezintweni ongathanda ukuzizuza empilweni yakho , kunokuba nje izinto ongathanda ukuhlangabezana nazo.
Cabanga ngezinto ezifana nokufuna ukusungula indawo yokugcina izilwane zasendle, noma ukwaziwa ngokwakha umugqa wososo oshisayo, kunokuba uzwe ukuthi kunjani ukushibilika esibhakabhakeni unqunu.
izimpawu zokuthi ngeke amshiye umkakhe
Ngingaba Nenjongo Edlula Eyodwa Yempilo?
Ubuza imvume kabani? Ngabe ufuna ukuqinisekiswa kwabanye abantu mayelana nokuthi uvunyelwe ukuba nezinjongo ezahlukahlukene ezingaki?
Nhliziyo othandekayo, ungaba nezinhloso, izitatimende nezinhloso eziningi ngendlela othanda ngayo.
Ukuba nokulangazelela okuningi kokuphila akunakwenzeka nje, kuyamangalisa. Isibonelo, ngesikhathi se-Renaissance, ukuba yi-polymath (umuntu ovelela ezintweni eziningi) kwakulindelwe futhi kukhuthazwe. Kube muhle nje muva nje lapho obekulindeleke ukuthi kugxilwe kakhulu emgomweni noma emkhakheni owodwa.
Abantu, ngokwemvelo yethu, bayizidalwa eziguquguqukayo ezinezintshisekelo ezahlukahlukene namasethi wamakhono. Ngakho-ke kungani ungabi nezinhloso ezingaphezu kweyodwa?
Umuntu kufanele akwazi ukushintsha inabukeni, ahlele ukuhlasela, ahlabe ingulube, ahlanganise umkhumbi, aklame isakhiwo, abhale i-sonnet, alinganise ama-akhawunti, akhe udonga, asethe ithambo, aduduze abafayo, athathe ama-oda, anikeze uku-oda, ukubambisana, ukusebenza wedwa, ukuxazulula izibalo, ukuhlaziya inkinga entsha, ukufaka umquba, ukuhlela ikhompyutha, ukupheka isidlo esihlwabusayo, ukulwa kahle, ukufa ngesibindi. Okukhethekile kungokwezinambuzane.– URobert A. Heinlein
Ake sibheke izitatimende ezithile ezinamandla zokuphila. Mhlawumbe uzothola eyodwa engakhuthaza eyakho nayo, noma okungenani ikunikeze indawo yokuqala yokuthola eyakho!
1. “Ngiyazilwela izindaba engikholelwa kuzo, futhi ngizikhulumela labo abangakwazi ukuzikhulumela.”
Lesi sitatimende senhloso yokuphila sihle kakhulu kubantu ubulungiswa nesihe okubaluleke kakhulu kubo.
Isibonelo, abantu abafuna ukusebenzisana nezinhlangano ezifana ne-Amnesty International, noma amaqembu ahlukahlukene alwela amalungelo ezilwane.
kwenzekeni ngehlengethwa lehlengethwa
Ngabe ucabanga ukuphishekela izifundo zomthetho? Noma mhlawumbe ungathanda ukuzinikela ekusindisweni kwezilwane, noma ekuqongeleleni imali ama-veteran, noma uze uzinikele ngezinhlelo zokufinyelela abangenamakhaya?
Ngalesi njengemantra yakho, nakanjani uzokwenza ushintsho olungavamile emhlabeni.
2. 'Ngizimisele ngokushiya umhlaba ngisesimweni esingcono kunamanje.'
Ingabe uyisishoshovu sezemvelo? Ngabe uphatha izikhwama zomgqomo wesipele ephaketheni lakho lapho uhamba izintaba ukuze ukwazi ukuqoqa nokulahla udoti wabanye abantu?
Ngemuva kwalokho isitatimende esinjengalesi kungenzeka silingane kahle.
Hewuzela esibhakabhakeni lapho uphonsa amabhomu embewu emasimini angenalutho ukuhlwanyela izimbali zomdabu zempova, noma ukuhlanza ukuchitheka kukawoyela emhlabeni jikelele.
3. 'Ngifuna ukuxoxa izindaba ezingavamile, futhi ngikhuthaze abanye abantu ngokubhala kwami'
Ungumxoxi wezindaba wemvelo? Ngabe uphupha ngokubhala inoveli (noma uchungechunge lwamanoveli!) Ezobandakanya abantu eminyakeni ezayo? Kuhle impela lokho.
Umhlaba uphehlwa yizindaba, futhi ezinkulu kakhulu ziyatshelwa ziphinde zilandiswe ngezizukulwane. Ngiqonde ukuthi, basenza ukulandisa nokuzivumelanisa noBeowulf, futhi lokho kwabhalwa eminyakeni eyinkulungwane eyedlule.
4. “Ngibizelwe ukuzinikezela ngokomoya wami, futhi ngisize abanye abasendleleni efanayo nami.”
Kunezinkolo eziningi ezahlukahlukene nezindlela zokomoya emhlabeni wonke, futhi zonke zinabalandeli abanikele ngempilo yabo ekusebenzeni okungokomoya.
Uma ukhangwa impilo engokomoya, ungazithola ufuna ukungena e-ashram, esigodlweni sezindela, noma esigodlweni sezindela.
Noma mhlawumbe ungathanda ukuzifaka ezifundweni zenkolo ukuze uzifundise abanye.
Uma unalolu hlobo lokushaya, isitatimende senhloso yokuphila esihlanganisa izinkolelo zakho siqu singaba ngumthombo omkhulu wamandla nogqozi kuwe.
5. “Ngizokwakha imisebenzi yobuciko emangalisayo abantu abangayijabulela emakhulwini eminyaka ezayo. Leli yifa engifuna ukulishiya: ubuhle. ”
Uke waqaphela ukuthi izivakashi eziningi emhlabeni wonke zizungeze ubuciko nezakhiwo?
Izigidi zabantu zithutheleka eTaj Mahal, eLouvre, eFlorence, nakwezinye izindawo ezingenakubalwa lapho zingathola khona ubuhle obudalwe abanye abantu.
Abaculi, abaklami, nabadwebi bamapulani baklame imisebenzi emangalisayo ngokuphelele, eminye yayo ebigcwalisa abantu ngovalo amakhulu eminyaka, noma izinkulungwane zeminyaka edlule.
Uma uphefumulelwe ukudala ubuhle obunjalo, khona-ke lokhu kuyisitatimende semishini kuwe.
6. Ngihlela ukuba ngushintsho engifuna ukulubona kulo mhlaba. ”
Lesi isitatimende senhloso yokuphila ejwayelekile, kepha esinamandla nokho.
Uma ulwela ukuthola kahle ukuthi ufuna ukwenzani, kepha uyazi ukuthi ufuna ukwenza okuthile ukwenza umhlaba ube indawo engcono, khona-ke leli iphuzu elihle lokwethula.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, ungahlala ushintsha inkomba uma usunyakaza. Ukhiye ukuqala bese uthola umfutho, akunjalo?
7. 'Ngifuna ukwelapha labo abalimele.'
Isitatimende senhloso yempilo esifana nalesi singavumelana nanoma ngubani ofuna ukusebenzela abantu ngendlela yokwelapha.
Lokhu kungaba ukuphulukiswa ngokomzimba, njengodokotela ohlinzayo noma we-physio / massage therapist. Ngenye indlela, ingahlanganisa ubuhlungu obungokwengqondo, obungokomzwelo, noma obungokomoya, njengobungancishiswa ngokwelashwa kwengqondo, ukwelulekwa ngokomqondo, noma olunye usizo olungelona olwasemzimbeni.
Uma ukhangwa ubuciko bokuphilisa, futhi ufuna ukunciphisa ukuhlupheka kwabanye abantu, khona-ke isitatimende semishini esilula njengalesi kungenzeka kube yilokho okufunayo.
8. 'Ngizokwakhela umndeni wami ikhaya elinothando, futhi ngisekele amaphupho nemizamo yezingane zami.'
Lezi zinhlobo zezitatimende zenjongo yokuphila zilungele labo okufanele bakhuliswe ngumndeni nezingane.
Uma izingane zakho zingumhlaba wakho, futhi ufuna ukunikela impilo yakho ekukhuliseni (futhi ekugcineni kube ngugogo omkhulu), khona-ke okuthile kulo mthambo kungakulungela kahle.
Abazali, ababheki, nabazali abangabondli babo bangasiza ukusetha izisekelo zenhlalakahle nempilo yabanye abantu.
Ukuba ngumzali, omunye wemisebenzi enzima kakhulu, kodwa futhi kungenye yemivuzo emikhulu.
9. “Ngifisa ukwamukelwa ngokwenza kahle emkhakheni wami wezemfundo, nokuthatha umhlalaphansi ngokwazi ukuthi ngibe negalelo elikhulukazi emkhakheni wami wobungoti.”
Uma uthole umsebenzi owuthanda ngokuphelele, futhi ungathanda ukunikela impilo yakho kuwo, lokho kuhle kakhulu! Uyitholile inhloso yakho, kanye nesitatimende esizokusiza ukukwazisa.
Noma kunini lapho unosuku olubi, futhi osebenza nabo noma amaphrojekthi osebenza kuwo akwenza uzizwe udangele, khumbula lesi sitatimende.
Eqinisweni, zama ukuyiphrinta nge-typeface enhle kakhulu bese uyiphina ngaphezu kwedeski lakho.
“Ngihlose ukusebenzisa amakhono ami ukondla abalambile, ngifundise nabantu ukuthi bazitshalele kanjani ukudla futhi bakhulisane.”
Ingabe ukudla kuyisifiso sakho? Ngabe uyafuna ukusiza ukuqeda indlala, futhi ngethemba lokuhlomisa abanye ngamakhono abawadingayo ukuzondla bona nemindeni yabo?
Ngemuva kwalokho vumela isitatimende senhloso yokuphila esifana nalesi sikukhuthaze.
Ukuphepha kokudla kuyinkinga engathinta wonke umuntu emhlabeni ngesikhathi esithile, ngakho-ke ukwazi ukuthi singakutshala kanjani futhi sikupheke ngokwethu ukudla kubaluleke kakhulu.
Futhi uma unekhono lokufundisa abanye lamakhono, ungadala ushintsho olukhulu olukhulu kulo mhlaba.
kanjani ukungazethembi futhi ube nomona ebudlelwaneni
11. “Ngifuna ukuqongelela ulwazi, bese ngiludlulisela kwabanye.”
Ingabe uyaphumelela ezifundweni? Futhi uyathanda ukwabelana ngakho konke okufundile nabanye abantu? Ngemuva kwalokho ukufundisa kuzwakala kuyinjongo yokuphila okuqinile kuwe.
Kukhona inani elimangazayo lokuhlakanipha nolwazi laphaya emhlabeni. Kuningi ongakuthola, futhi uzijabulele, bese wabelana nabanye.
Noma ngabe inhloso yakho ukufundisa, noma ukubhala, nakanjani uzokwandisa izinkalo ezingenakubalwa ngemizamo yakho.
Khumbula ukuthi inhloso yakho kungenzeka iguquke kaningi phakathi nesikhathi sempilo yakho. Kulungile impela lokho, futhi akukho okuzodida ngakho.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, sonke sikhula njalo futhi siyashintsha, futhi okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kungasigqugquzela ukuthi sishiye indlela ngokuphawulekayo okungenani kanye noma kabili.
Uma lokhu kwenzeka, zinike isikhathi sokuzihlanganisa kabusha bese uphinda inqubo efanayo futhi.
Zihlole ukuthi ukuphi, ufuna ukuba kuphi, ufuna ukuba ngubani, nokuthi ufuna ukuqhubekela phambili kanjani. Ngemuva kwalokho, dala isitatimende senhloso yokuphila entsha noma i-mantra yokukunika ugqozi, uyiklwebhe odongeni, umemezele emazulwini, bese ugxumela phambili kuleyo mpilo entsha.
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