Abantu abadansela ushuni wabo futhi baphile izimpilo zabo ngaphandle kokulindelwe abanye abantu bavame ukugwenywa yilabo ababambelela ekufaneni okwamukelekayo emphakathini.
Noma ngubani ongahambisani nalokho umphakathi okuthatha njengokujwayelekile, 'okungukuthi lokho okwenziwa yiwo wonke umuntu, angabonwa njenge-pariah.
Kepha ungacabanga ukuthi impilo ibingaba buthakathaka futhi ibe nesidina kanjani ukube wonke umuntu ubenjani?
Uma ubiziwe “Uyinqaba” nganoma yisiphi isikhathi empilweni yakho, mhlawumbe ungumuntu othakazelisa ngokumangazayo, kunokuba yilungu leqembu 'Ngizoba njengabo bonke abanye'.
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Ngezansi kunezizathu ezimbalwa nje ezahlukile zokuthi kungani abantu bengacabanga ukuthi uyinqaba, nokuthi kungani empeleni besho ukuthi uyigolide elibabazekayo olwandle lwamanyela.
1. Awugqoki Ngendlela Efana Neyomunye Umuntu
Ubani othola ukunquma ukuthi hlobo luni lwezingubo olungeyona imfashini, noma olwamukeleka ngenye indlela?
Ngabe uke wabuzwa mayelana nokuthi uthanda ngempela ukugqoka amabhuzu e-Ugg noma ibhulukwe elikhanyayo eliphuzi? Nami bengingeyena.
Iningi labantu libonakala lilandela noma yini ehamba phambili ku-Instagram noma kumamagazini ahlukahlukene wemfashini, elwela ukuthandana nabantu hhayi olunye uhlobo lobuntu.
Kubonakala sengathi bayasaba ukuphuma esixukwini, noma ngabe kusho ukuthi bachitha usuku nosuku bengakhululeki futhi bengathembeki.
Abantu bangacabanga ukuthi uyinqaba ngoba usebenzisa izingubo zakho ukuveza hhayi nje umqondo wakho wesitayela, kepha nezinto ozithandayo kanye nokuziphatha kwakho.
Mhlawumbe uthanda ukugqoka zonke izindwangu zemvelo ezihamba futhi zigeleze nawe ngoba uthanda ukudansa noma ukuzivocavoca ngenye indlela ngokomzimba. Noma uwathanda ngempela ama-aesthetics enkathi ethile, futhi ukugqoka izitayela kusuka ngawo-1870s noma 1940s kukujabulisa.
Gqoka izingubo ezikufanela kahle ukuthi ungubani nokuthi yini oyithandayo, futhi ungalokothi unake ukuthi omunye umuntu ucabangani.
Uma bekuhlekisa ngalokho okugqokile, kungenzeka ukuthi yingoba besaba kakhulu ukuveza imizwa yabo futhi baveza ulaka lwabo ngobugwala babo kuwe.
2. Unezintshisakalo Abanye abangaziqondi
Ngiyazi abantu abaningana abathatha injabulo enkulu ngokuba ngumlandeli wezinto zomlando kabusha. Laba bantu bachitha amahora amaningi bethunga izingubo eziqondene nenkathi ethile ngesandla, imvamisa kusuka ezindwangwini nasezintanjeni abaziphothile, baziphotha, futhi bazidayayi.
Baqeqesha izikhali zasendulo, noma ubuciko obufana nokweluka obhasikidi nobumba, futhi baya emikhosini nabanye abanengqondo efanayo lapho bathengisa khona amakhono futhi bajabule emikhosini yezikhathi ezedlule.
Futhi ngeke ukholwe ukuhlekwa usulu abakutholayo ngale misebenzi. Abantu okuthiwa “abajwayelekile” bayabahlekisa ngokuzilibazisa kwabo ngoba bahlukile kulokho okwenziwa yiwo wonke umuntu.
Ngokufanayo, uma ucwile kokuzilibazisa noma umsebenzi lokho kwenza abanye abantu bangakhululeki , noma baze badideke nje, imvelo yabo yokuqala ivamise ukuyihleka noma bayilahle ngoba 'kuyaxaka.'
Okuhlekisayo lapho lokhu kuthanda kwakho 'okuxakile' kungazelelwe kuba okuvamile ngenxa yefilimu noma uchungechunge lwethelevishini noma ukugunyazwa kosaziwayo, bese kuthi kungazelelwe kuphole futhi wonke umuntu angene kuwo. Abathandi ukukhunjuzwa ukuthi bake bakuhleka kanjani, ngikholwe.
3. Unomqondo Ongajwayelekile Noma Omnyama Wamahlaya
Labo abake baphila ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle okumnyama bavamise ukukhulisa izindlela zombili zokubhekana nobunzima, nomqondo omnyama noma ongajwayelekile wamahlaya.
Lokhu kuvame ukusiza abantu ukuthi badlule ebunzimeni, futhi kubanikeze indlela yokusebenza futhi baveze imizwa yabo ngaphandle kokuziphatha okubi ngabo.
Abantu abebenezimpilo ezithambile nezimnene ngaphandle kobunzima obukhulu ngokuvamile angikwazi ukuhlobana nalolu hlobo lwamahlaya. Kubenza bangakhululeki, futhi abantu ngokwemvelo bagwema noma yini ebanga ukungakhululeki.
Bathanda ubunye abangakwazi ukuhlobana nabo futhi bathembele kubo. Hheyi, yingakho abahambi abaningi beya ezindaweni zokudlela zakwaMcDonald kwamanye amazwe kunokuthatha isampula lokudla kwasendaweni: ukujwayela kuyaduduza.
Akungabazeki ukuthi uthole abanye abantu abathanda umuzwa wakho wokuhlekisa, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuthi uthule noma yini phansi ukuze ungasunduzi abanye baphume endaweni yabo yokunethezeka. Yiba ngokoqobo, ube nguwe.
4. Angeke Uhlale Ngokulindelwe Komphakathi Ngokuhlonipha
Esinye sezizathu esenza ukuthi abanye abantu babizwe ngokuthi 'baxakile' ukuthi abakulandeli lokho abanye abakuthatha njengamaphrothokholi afanele omphakathi.
Isibonelo, labo abane-Asperger's syndrome noma ngenye indlela kwi-autism spectrum bavame ukubhekwa njengabantu “abaxakile” ngabantu abane-neurotypical ngoba bakhipha noma yini esemqondweni wabo, noma babuze imibuzo abanye abantu abangase bangayithandi.
Onke amaqembu amasiko anemibono eyehlukene ngokuqondene nokuthi yini ehloniphekile nengamukelekile, noma kunjalo.
Uma ngabe uke waya endaweni yokudlela eyi-dim sum, uzobe unabantu abanolwazi abakhuluma bodwa futhi beshaya etafuleni ngaphandle kokungabaza. Lokhu kungathathwa njengokungahlonipheki (kuyinqaba!) Ngamazinga amaningi aseNtshonalanga, kepha kuyinto ejwayelekile kumasiko amaShayina.
Futhi okuphambene nalokho: ukudla okuningi kwaseNtshonalanga, imikhuba, nemikhuba kuyenyanyeka kwezinye izingxenye zomhlaba.
Ingabe uhamba ngomgwaqo, ucula ngokuzwakalayo, uye ekuhluphekeni kwabanye abantu? Ingabe uhleka kakhulu lapho ujabulile? Kuhle! Kulindeleke ukuthi ulandele izindinganiso zikabani, futhi ngani?
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungani kufanele kube nendaba kuwe ukuthi 'uyamukeleka' kulokho wonke umuntu akwenzayo vele?
5. Awukholwa Lokho Okwenziwa Nguwo Wonke Umuntu
Ngabe izinkolelo zakho zezepolitiki zehlukile kwezabangani bakho noma amalungu omndeni wakho? Ngabe uwena kuphela okholwa ngokomoya olwandle lwabantu abangakholelwa ebukhoneni bukaNkulunkulu (noma okuphambene nalokho: ukuphela komuntu ongakholwayo emphakathini wabazinikeleyo)?
Noma ngubani ophethe izinkolelo nemibono ngaphandle kwalokhu okukhishwa yilabo abaseduze kwabo uvame ukubhekwa 'njengexakile.'
Izinto zinjengoba zinjalo, akunjalo? Kungani emhlabeni ungababuza?
Kulula impela, ngoba kunezindlela ezahlukahlukene zesihloko ngasinye, futhi kungokucwilisa ulwazi kuphela lapho singakhothoza khona ukuthi sizizwa kanjani ngempela nganoma yini.
Funda ngazo zonke izinkolo zomhlaba ukuze nquma ukuthi yini oyikholelwayo ngempela. Funda imithombo yezindaba evela emazweni ahlukene ukuthola imibono eyahlukene ngodaba olufanayo.
Zifundise, futhi uzokwazi ukulandela indlela eyiqiniso kuwe, noma ngabe lokho kusho ukuzenzela eyakho indlela nokushiyela abanye umkhondo.
6. Uthanda Ukuchitha Isikhathi Wedwa
Uke waqaphela ukuthi abantu abaningi abakwazi ukuma bathule, ingasaphathwa eyedwa?
Uma bengenayo i-TV noma umculo okhalayo, basuke besocingweni. Noma kufanele babe kunkampani yabanye abantu ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Futhi-ke, bacabanga ukuthi 'uyinqaba' uma uthi ungakhetha ukuchitha ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu ufunda kunokuya emaphathini.
Ukukhululeka, nokuqukethwe, enkampanini yakho kuyamangalisa. Uma bengakutholi lokho, bangafuna ukucabanga ngokuthi kuyini ababalekela khona, noma ukuzama ukuziphazamisa ekucabangeni ngakho.
7. Awulandeli Isimo Esikhona
Yini, awunawo umsebenzi oqinile, oshade naye, izingane ze-2.3, indlu emaphethelweni edolobha, imoto, amakhadi wesikweletu, nohlelo lokonga umhlalaphansi?
Hawu, lokho 'kuyaxaka' ngempela.
Noma kunjalo?
Labo abahlelelwe ukuthi baphile izimpilo zabo ngendlela ethile banobunzima ngombono wokuthi empeleni zikhona ezinye izindlela zokuphila.
Baye bakholwa ukuthi noma ngubani ongaphandle kwemodi yokusebenza ejwayelekile ngandlela thile uyaphambuka.
Impela, bangaba lusizi ngokuphelele, baphile izimpilo ezingazilingani kahle futhi babambe iqhaza emisebenzini abanayo, kepha okungenani abazona izinhlaka zomphakathi.
Bubula.
Khohlwa ukuzama ukunamathela kwiqiniso lokuvumelana ongakaze uvume kulo. Uma uzisebenzela ngenjabulo, uhlala kwi-yurt noma ikharavani, ufeze ngemisebenzi yethu, lapho-ke uzuza empilweni kakhulu kunalabo abadabukile futhi abalandela umhlambi ngoba.
Ubungqabavu, Noma i-Wyrd-ness?
Ngokwesiko lasendulo lamaNorse, igama elithi 'wyrd' belihlobene nokudalelwa. Labo ababelandela indlela ye-wyrd babephila izimpilo ngokweqiniso kubo, kaningi ngamandla angaphezu kwawemvelo aqondisa izenzo zabo. Lowo ngumcabango omuhle kakhulu, akunjalo?
okufanele ukwenze lapho ubhorekile
Abaculi abadumile nabaculi babonakala bekwazi ukweqa ngokugqoka, ukukhuluma nokuziphatha ngendlela abathanda ngayo. UMoreso, bashayelwa ihlombe ngobuntu babo nobuciko.
Ngakho-ke kungani wonke umuntu kulindeleke ukuthi alandele lo mqondo onjengezimvu lapho wonke umuntu kufanele abukeke futhi aziphathe ngendlela efanayo?
U-Helena Bonham Carter ungumlingisi ohlale ethokozela ngokuba ngumuntu, futhi ukucaphuna kwakhe okukodwa kuhambisana nomoya wale ndatshana. Uthe:
'Kungenzeka ngingeyona inkomishi yetiye yawo wonke umuntu, kodwa ngiyinhlamvu ephindwe kabili yomunye umuntu ye-whisky.'
Cwebezela, wena dayimane elihlanyayo. Cwebezela ngendlela oyifunayo, nokukhanya kwediski okukhanyayo okukhiphayo kuzokusiza uthole isizwe sakho.
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