Uke waqaphela ukuthi mangaki ama-TV namafilimu “izindaba zempumelelo” mayelana nowesifazane onesizungu, odabukisayo ongashadile ogcina ethola uthando olumqedelayo? Impilo yakhe empeleni iyigobolondo elingenalutho aze ngomlingo athole umlingani ozovuma ukuba naye? Miningi kakhulu imibukiso enjengaleyo ekhona, futhi kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ukuvezwa ekushayeleni okunjalo kwenza iningi labesifazane libe nomuzwa wokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngabo, nokuthi kukhona okushodayo ezimpilweni zabo ngaphandle kokuthi bahlanganiswe ngobumbano. Yeka umthwalo ophindwe kabili.
Lokhu kukude neposi enesihawu, egcwele amazwi enduduzo ngebodwa futhi iziqinisekiso zokuthi abesifazane abampofu, abangashadile bazothola izikhulu zabo ezinhle ngelinye ilanga. Cha.
umfana ubheka kakhulu emehlweni ami
Le yi-ode kowesifazane ongashadile owazi ukubaluleka kwakhe futhi ongeke akhokhele noma yini engaphansi kozakwethu olinganayo ... futhi uma lowo mlingani engakatholakali, kungcono ahlale engashadile, ngiyabonga.
Uyazi ukuthi Ungubani (Noma Unombono Omuhle, Okungenani)
Owesifazane okhetha ukungashadi emhlabeni obonakala ekhathazekile ngabantu abamatanisayo ungumuntu onamandla ngokumangazayo, ozethembayo. Uma engakabi nawo umuzwa oqinile wobuyena, amathuba ukuthi uthatha izinyathelo zokufika lapho, futhi okungenani unombono oqinile wokuthi akayena. Lokhu kufaka ukuqwashisa ngalokho akwenzayo nangakufuni, nokuthi ngeke avume ukulamula kulowo ongaba umlingani wakhe.
Abantu abangashadile abangazami ngokulangazelela ukuthola abalingani bavame ukuhlakulela ubungani obucebile nabanye, futhi kaningi banomkhawulo ophansi womdlalo. Bathatha isikhathi sokuzibonela, futhi bangathatha iqhaza ekuphishekeleni okuxhuma komzimba nengqondo njenge-yoga noma i-tai chi. Ukungazisongeli ngokuphelele komunye umuntu kuvumela umuntu ukuthi azicwaningele bese ethola ukuthi bangobani, futhi lokho kuyabasiza ukuthi banqume ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo abakhanga kakhulu kuzakwethu.
Uyakwazi Futhi Uyazethemba
Ubuwazi ukuthi abesifazane abangashadile bahamba kakhulu kaningi kunamadoda angashadile? Owesifazane ongashadile ozethembayo futhi othuthuke umuzwa wokuzijabulisa unamathuba amaningi okupakisha isikhwama futhi ahambe ayohlola indawo entsha kunomlingani wakhe wesilisa. Kunezindawo ezinhle ongazithola emhlabeni jikelele, futhi uyazi ukuthi uzokujabulela lokho okuhlangenwe nakho ngaphandle kokuyekethisa ukuzidela kwakhe ngokuthanda komunye umuntu.
Ukungashadi kusho nokuthi ubezisekela futhi kungenzeka uthembele kuye kuphela iminyaka. Uzimele ngokwezezimali, kungenzeka enze inani elifanelekile lokulungisa ikhaya eyedwa, futhi angakwazi ngisho nokuxazulula izinkinga zesicabucabu ngaphandle kokucela usizo.
Unozwela, Kodwa Akanaso Isineke Ngedrama
Ukuba sebudlelwaneni nomunye umuntu ngokungenakugwenywa kusho ukuthi ubudlelwano nabanye abantu empilweni yabo: amalungu omndeni anzima, abangane abahlukumezayo, i-ex engeke ivele, njll. Abantu abangashadile banedrama encane kakhulu ukuphikisana nalokhu, ngakho-ke ngokuvamile banokubekezela okuncane kakhulu lapho kuvela.
Kungenzeka abe oqonda kakhulu futhi onesihawu , ngoba ngokungangabazeki kuye kwadingeka abhekane nobunzima bakhe obuningi eminyakeni edlule, kodwa futhi uyazi ukuthi kufanele enze nini umugqa. Uma ezwa ukuthi abantu bayamsebenzisa noma bamsebenzisa nganoma iyiphi indlela, uzobabiza ngokwenza lokho, noma aqede ngokushesha okukhulu. Ayikho indawo empilweni yakhe yama-leeches noma ama-vampires angokomzwelo.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungashada Kanjani Futhi Ujabule Ngemuva Kokuba Ubuhlobo Obude Buphele
- Izizathu Ezi-8 Zokulindela Okuhle Uma Ukhathazekile Awusoze Wathola Uthando
- Izimpawu eziyi-13 Unobuntu obuqinile obungahle busabise abanye abantu
- Izimpawu Ezinkulu Eziwu-7 Uzakwenu Ubona Njengokuthi Ungakhetha, Hhayi Ukuza Kuqala
Uyamazi Ukubaluleka Kwakhe
Owesifazane ochithe isikhathi esiningi eyedwa ngokuvamile unombono oqinile wenani lakhe, njengomuntu ngamunye, nanjengomlingani othandana naye. Uyawazi amandla akhe, amakhono akhe, umusa wakhe. Angaba nesineke futhi abe nomusa, noma abe nolaka futhi aqhutshwe, noma inhlanganisela enhle yakho kokubili. Angakhuluma izilimi eziningana, noma akwazi ukupheka ngendlela ezokwenza uNigella abe namahloni, noma mhlawumbe akwazi ukuba ngumnikazi cishe noma ngubani kuWarcraft.
Akunandaba nokunambitheka kwamakhono namakhono akhe ahlukile, wazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi umuhle kangakanani, futhi ufuna ukuthi abonwe ngobuhle obushiwo. Lona ngumuntu wesifazane ongeke abe kuthathwe kalula , ngoba akanankinga nakancane ukusuka kumuntu ongamazisi. Uyaphila nje yedwa, futhi angathanda ukuba yedwa kunokuba aphathwe kabi.
Ngeke Ahlalise
Fuck izingcaphuno ezikhuluma ngamakhosana, abalingani bomphefumulo, nokuthi kungani ungashadile kungenxa yokuthi indawo yonke 'isabhala indaba yakho yothando'. Cha.
Ake sithathe isicaphuni esivela kwenye yezincwadi zika-Anais Nin esikhundleni salokho:
i mrbeast uyithathaphi yonke imali yakhe
Mina, ngesimo esijule ngokwengeziwe, ngikhetha indoda ephoqa amandla ami, owenza okufunwa kakhulu kimi, ongangabazi isibindi sami noma ubunzima bami, ongakholelwa ukuthi nginamuntu ongenacala noma ongenacala, onesibindi sokungiphatha njenge owesifazane.
(Ake sicabangele ukusebenzisa kwakhe “indoda” kushintshelwe ekubeni “umlingani” ongathathi hlangothi ngokobulili lapha, futhi siligolide.)
Ezikhathini zangaphambilini, owesifazane ongapheli ongashadile kungenzeka akhonjiswe njengomuntu olahlayo futhi ongathandeki, onobuntu oburhabaxa kanye nokushoda okuphelele komusa womphakathi. Ngokuyinhloko, owesifazane okungekho muntu ongamfuna, yingakho isizathu sobunikazi bakhe. Leyo nhlamba isemi ngezinga elikhulu, futhi akujwayelekile ukuthi abantu bazibuze ukuthi konakelephi kowesifazane uma engakashadi ngeminyaka ethile. Bheka ama-synopses weBridget Jones 'Diary angatholakala kumawebhusayithi amaningi, futhi uzothola ukuthi ngaphezu kwakhe (okubonakala kukuningi) amaphutha omzimba, '… okubi kakhulu, akakashadi'. Sengathi leso yisiphetho esibi ukudlula ukufa.
Bangaki abantu obaziyo abangagcwalisi ubudlelwano ngoba nje bengafuni ukuba bodwa? Noma ngoba bathole umuntu abazwana naye 'kahle kakhulu', futhi ngenxa yalokho banomuzwa wokuthi bangaxubana futhi babhekane nokufakwa kabusha kwe-metric izici ezimbi bayadelela kumlingani wabo ngoba kwesinye isikhathi bayezwana kahle? Kwanele ngalokho. Baningi kakhulu abantu ababekela eceleni izidingo zabo zokwenza omunye umuntu empilweni yabo eze kuqala, futhi bathi umlingani akavamile ukuphindisela. Kuyinto eyodwa uma abantu baphilela ukwenza impilo yomunye isimangaliso, kepha uma umlingani oyedwa ethatha okungaphezulu kakhulu kunalokho abakunikezayo, lokho kungama-shades amahlanu angamukeleki, khona lapho.
Ngakho-ke masiphakamise izingilazi zethu (noma izinkomishi zekhofi) ku-toast kumuntu ongashadile ongapheli. Siyabonga ngokusikhumbuza ukuthi sizihloniphe futhi sizihloniphe, ukuze nabanye basihloniphe. Uhola ngesibonelo, uhamba indlela yokuzimela, umusa, isithunzi, futhi ngethemba lokuthi uzokujabulisa kakhulu, ngaphandle kokuyekethisa izindinganiso zakho noma ukwamukela okuncane kunalokho okufanele.
Uma ufuna ukuthola umlingani womphefumulo weqiniso yilokho okufunayo, lokho ngokungangabazeki yilokho ozokuthola. Sikufisela inhlanhla enkulu: wena onegazi kahle ufanelwe okungcono kakhulu.
