Labo ukuthula okungathethekiyo.
Lezo zikhathi lapho ubumbano lwesifaniso lushaya egumbini.
Ukuxhumana kume kabi lapho kungaqali.
Ama-shutter ayenyuka futhi kusobala impela ukuthi inhloso yokushintshana ngamagama ambalwa amnandi nomuntu ongakaze uhlangane naye ihlulekile.
Kwenzeka kithina sonke.
Kusishiya sizizwa singafaneleki, singakhululekile, futhi silahlekelwe ukuthi singasibuyisa kanjani isimo.
Kwesinye isikhathi kuba nesilingo sokusho okuthile… noma yini ukugcwalisa isikhala.
Noma wenza iphutha ngokudubula inqwaba yemibuzo ukumboza ukungakhululeki kwakho, ukuyenza izwakale njengophenyo kunengxoxo ehloniphekile.
Noma ngabe kusemsebenzini, endaweni yokuzijabulisa lapho abangani bebancane, noma ngisho nase-bar lapho uzungezwe abantu ongabazi, sonke sifuna ukwenza umbono omuhle wokuqala.
Kuyakhathaza lapho uzithola ungakwazi ukuxhasa ingxoxo bese ngaleyo ndlela uphuthelwa yithuba lokukhanya.
Esimweni sobungcweti, ukudala isithombe esingcono kakhulu kithi kuyisidingo sokukhuphuka ileli lomsebenzi.
Umehluko phakathi kokubethela leyo ndima ekudala ifunwa kanye nephakheji yayo yezinzuzo zezinkanyezi nokudluliswa kungehla kulowo mbono wokuqala obaluleke kakhulu.
Inkulumo encane-ke, ibaluleke kakhulu kunendlela igama layo elingase liphakamise ngayo, futhi ikude kakhulu nokuba yichitchat engabalulekile.
Ngakho-ke, masizame ukufaka uwoyela amasondo alezi zimo futhi siziguqule zisuke ebuhlungu ziye kokuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo.
Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi ubuciko bezinkulumo ezincane bungafundwa, noma amahloni kuyisethingi yakho ezenzakalelayo. Akulona nje ikhono okwenzeka ukuthi uphiwe noma cha.
Qhubeka ufunde ukuthola amathuluzi nezihloko ozidingayo ukuze ube nekhono lokushintshisana ngezinto ezimnandi nanoma ubani, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, noma kuphi.
1. Akukhona konke lokho okushoyo.
Lapho uqala ingxoxo nomuntu ongamazi nhlobo, noma umuntu ohlangane naye kodwa ongakwazi ukuphumula naye, udinga ukubenza bazizwe bekhululekile.
Mayelana nalokhu, ukukhuluma komzimba kucishe kubaluleke njengokuphuma emlonyeni wakho.
Qiniseka ukuthi ubanaka ngokuphelele futhi ungavumeli ukuphazanyiswa.
Uma weqa izingalo zakho noma uthambise amahlombe akho kude nazo, uzokhombisa ukuthi awunantshisekelo.
Ukungena endaweni yabo yomuntu kungenye cha.
Qiniseka ukuthi ugcina ukuma kwakho kuvulekile futhi kungeneka, usebenzisa ukuxhumana kwamehlo (kepha hhayi ukugqolozela okugcwele), ukukhombisa ukuthi banakekile.
Bheka ubheke phambili, kepha ungadluli kukho.
2. Yiba nobungane.
Ezimweni lapho usuvele umazi omunye umuntu, vele ubingelele futhi uqiniseke ukuthi usebenzisa igama labo: 'Sawubona, Diana, kuhle ukukubona futhi.'
Lokhu kulula, kuqondile, futhi kusetha ithoni enhle ukuqala ingxoxo yakho.
Lapho uhlangana nomuntu okokuqala ngqa, thatha isinyathelo kuqala bese uzethula kuqala ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho.
Thatha ithuba lokubuza amagama abo.Icebo elihle lokwenza omunye umuntu azizwe ekhululekile ukuphinda igama lakhe abuyele kubo.
Ezimweni ezithile zomphakathi ezivaliwe ezifana namaphathi, izingqungquthela, noma endaweni yokufundela yasekolishi, zama ukuthatha isinyathelo ngokuvula iziteshi zokuxhumana ngokuthi, “Hei! Angicabangi ukuthi sengihlangane nawe okwamanje. ”
Lokhu akuyona indlela exakile njengoba ukuxubana kulindeleke kulezi zimo.
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Uzogqama ngasikhathi sinye njengomuntu wezenhlalo ngoba uyiqalile ingxoxo.
Impendulo ye-reflex kuzoba ukuphendula bese ungena, ubuze imibuzo efanelekile yokulandela ngokuya ngesimo.
3. Yigcine ivuma futhi inenhliziyo elula.
Umphumela omncane wokushintshisana ngolwazi engxoxweni ukushintshana ngamandla.
Ukugcina ukukhuphuka kwethoni nokushesha ukumamatheka - noma ukuhleka lapho kufanele khona - kuzobandakanya omunye umuntu futhi kubenze bafune ukugcina ingxoxo iqhubeka.
Kuzokwenza futhi ukuthi kukhunjulwe. Udaba lungaba yinto ethokozisayo njengesimo sezulu, kepha kusengaba mnandi futhi kube kuhle.
I-droning engeyinhle ukucisha okukhulu kunakho konke ukuxhumana okufufusayo.
4. Kwenze kube mnandi.
Ezimweni ezithile zomphakathi (akunconyelwe ukusetshenziswa nozakwethu osebenza naye osanda kuhlangana naye), ungakhanyisa ukuhlangana kokuqala ngokwenza umdlalo omncane wokuqagela.
Zama ukubabuza ukuthi bavelaphi, kodwa, ngaphambi kokuba baphendule, yithi, “Ima kancane. Ake ngiqagele! ”
Ukuqagela kwakho kwasendle akunakwenzeka ukuthi kushaye uphawu, kepha kuzoshukumisa ukumomotheka / ukuhleka.
Uma kuzwakala kufanelekile, le kungaba yindlela ejabulisayo yokuqaqa phezu kokungahambi kahle futhi ubhebhethekise indlela yengxoxo engokwemvelo ngokwengeziwe.
5. Thola ukuthi yini enifana ngayo.
Okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kwempilo nezinto esizithandayo kungahluka kakhulu, kepha sonke sibhekana nesimo sezulu esifanayo, sonke sidinga ukudla, futhi sonke sidinga ukuzigcina simatasa.
Akunandaba ukuthi kuncane kangakanani ongazizwa ukuthi nifana ngakho nomunye umuntu, lezi zihloko kulapho uzothola khona indawo ohlanganyela ngayo.
Usebenzisa izihloko eziphakanyisiwe ezilandelayo zenkulumo encane futhi uqaphele ukulalela izimpendulo, kulula ngokumangazayo ukubuza imibuzo elandelayo ekuyisa ngale kwesihloko sokuqala.
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6. Gcina imibuzo ivulekile.
Ungasungula indawo enivumelana ngayo ngokusebenzisa imibuzo evulekile. Ufuna ukwazi ukuthi 'kanjani' nokuthi 'kungani.'
Lokhu kuzosiza ukuqhubela ingxoxo imizwa kunamaqiniso.
Uma usutholile ukuthi kukhona owabelana ngakho, amathuba engxoxo azokwanda kakhulu.
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7. Ungalungiseleli ngokweqile.
Ungacabangi ukuthi ungamane ubambe ngekhanda inqwaba yemibuzo, ngoba noma yini ephindaphindwayo izohlala izwakala iqinisiwe futhi ingathandeki.
Ukuhlela akusebenzi.
Isibonelo, uma uncike kulayini ophindwe kahle, ungakubuyisela emuva noma ukuvele ukushiye uyisimungulu.
Ake sithi ukuvulwa kwakho okujwayelekile ukuncoma othile ngento ethile ayigqokile. Lokho ngeke kukuthathe kude kakhulu uma begqoke isikibha esimnyama nejean. Kuyozwakala kukhala kunedada elinomlenze owodwa.
Uma unezihloko ezimbalwa uphakamise umkhono wakho njengalezo ezibalwe ngezansi, kuhlala kunokuthile okuphawulayo noma umbuzo ofanele ongawubuza.
8. Lalelisisa.
Iphutha elijwayelekile ukuba matasa uhlela umbuzo wakho olandelayo ngenkathi omunye umuntu esakhuluma, kunokuzwa impendulo yakhe embuzweni wakho owedlule.
Uma sebekotini lokuthi awulaleli, izingxoxo zizoma ngokushesha.
Eqinisweni, uma unaka ngokuphelele, amathuba ukuthi izimpendulo zabo ngokwemvelo zizoveza eminye imibuzo ukusiza ukugeleza kwengxoxo.
Emizameni yakho yokwenza inkulumo encane ibe yinjabulo kunobuhlungu, kufanele ufise ukwenza ukushintshana kuzwe kungokwemvelo futhi kungabi namandla.
Unalokho engqondweni, kuwumqondo omuhle ukuba nezihloko ezimbalwa zomhlaba wonke uphakamise umkhono wakho ukuvula ingxoxo.
Nayi eminye imibono:
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Isimo sezulu
Kuyazama ukukhipha isimo sezulu njengesihloko esibuhlungu nesingalindeleka, kepha empeleni ingumthungo ongahle ucebe engxoxweni.
Isibonelo, ingxoxo engabalulekile ngesimo sezulu ingaholela kalula engxoxweni ende mayelana nohambo lwamuva lokushushuluza eqhweni noma igagasi lokushisa elibikezelwe nemiphumela yalo engaba khona.
Imvula noma ukukhanya, isiphepho noma ukushisa, kuhlale kunokuthile okuphawulayo ngakho, noma ngabe kwenzakalani manje noma kubikezelwe ikusasa eliseduze.
Futhi isimo sezulu sihambisana nawo wonke umuntu, ngakho-ke siyisihloko esiphelele esilingana-sonke-senkulumo.
Izindaba
Indlela enhle yokulungiselela inkulumo encane noma kunini ukuhambisana nezindaba. Kunezaba ezincane zokuphuma ngaphandle uma kufinyeleleka efonini yakho.
Uma wazi okwenzekayo endaweni yangakini, kuzwelonke, nasemhlabeni jikelele, awusoze waswela ukuqala ingxoxo.
Uma untula isikhathi, kunezindawo ezinhle zokugaya izindaba laphaya. Zigcwalisa izindaba eziyinhloko zibe yizinqamu zosayizi wokuluma, zikwenze uzwakale unolwazi kakhulu kunalokho oyikho ngempela.
Ezemidlalo
Ukuze ube nekhono ekusebenziseni lesi sihloko, kuzodingeka ulandele isenzo sezemidlalo sonyaka kulo lonke ibhodi: ibhola, i-baseball, igalofu, njll.
Ukuba nolwazi oluthile ngemiqhudelwano kazwelonke neyamazwe omhlaba nakho kuyinzuzo.
Lokhu kuzoza ngokwemvelo uma ungumthandi wezemidlalo, kepha, noma izintshisekelo zakho zisekude nenkundla yezemidlalo, ukumane uchaze ukuthi kungani lokho kungaholela engxoxweni ethelayo.
Sebenza
Lokhu kukala njengenye yezihloko ezidume kakhulu zenkulumo encane.
Futhi kuyisihloko esifanelana kahle ‘nomdlalo wokuqagela’ oshiwo ngenhla.
Ngakho-ke, uma kufanelekile esimweni obhekene naso, ungabuza 'Wenzani?' kodwa ilandele ngokushesha ngokuthi “Ima kancane, ake ngiqagele…”
Amathuba okuqagela kahle mancane, kepha konke ofuna ukukufeza kuyinhliziyo elula, ejabulisayo yengxoxo yakho, okushiya kukuhle okuhle okuhlala njalo.
Umndeni
Yinto sonke esabelana ngayo, emikhulu noma emincane, kanye nokuvula izingxoxo okuvame kakhulu.
Zilungiselele ukubuza abanye ngemindeni yabo futhi uphindisele ngokuphendula imibuzo mayelana neyakho.
Ungafunda okuncane ngothile ngokushesha ngokufunda ukuthi ushadile nokuthi isikhathi esingakanani, uma banezingane zakini, njll.
Ukuvakasha
Enye yezinto ezijabulisa kakhulu abantu abaningi yiholide labo. Bayathanda ukukhuluma ngokuthi bake bakuphi nokuthi yini esohlwini lwamabhakede abo.
Ukubuza imibuzo mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kokuhamba nezincomo zezindawo ezithokozisayo kanye / noma ezinhle ongazivakashela kungaholela ekushintshaneni kwemibono okwanelisa kakhulu futhi okungenakulibaleka.
Ukuzilibazisa
Ungamangala ukuthi iziphi izinto zokuzilibazisa ezingajwayelekile abanye abantu abanazo futhi, noma ngabe zizwakala zibuthuntu kuwe, umdlandla akakhathali ukukhuluma ngenjabulo abayithandayo.
Noma ngabe i-crochet noma iqoqa i-cacti, bazokujabulela ukunikezwa ithuba lokukhuluma ngakho, okwenza lokhu kube ngumthungo ongahle ucebe ongangena kuwo.
Idolobha lasekhaya
Wonke umuntu uvela endaweni ethile, okwenza lokhu kube esinye isihloko esitholakalayo.
Noma ngabe kwakuyimiphakathi efudumele futhi yamukelwa kakhulu, kudala izinkumbulo ezimnandi kuphela, noma kwakuyindawo ababengasakwazi ukulinda ukuhamba kuyo, ukubuza imibuzo ngokuthi bakhulele kuphi kungasiza ingxoxo igeleze.
Izihloko okufanele uzigweme
Isikhumbuzo esifike ngesikhathi sokuthi izihloko ezithile ziyingxoxo, ezingamukelekile ngokwesiko ukuxoxwa nabantu ongabazi.
Izihloko okufanele zigwenywe ngazo zonke izindlela ezezimali, ezepolitiki nenkolo.
Ngokufanayo, noma ikuphi ukukhuluma ngeminyaka noma ukubukeka, ubulili, inhlebo yomuntu siqu, kanye nobudlelwano obudlule kungukuhluleka okuqinisekile.
Ngokunjalo, amahlaya acasulayo aku-cha ngokuphelele.
Ayikho imiklomelo yokuqagela ukuthi kungani lezi zihloko zikhawulelwe ezingxoxweni ezincane.
Inkulumo encane, umbono omkhulu.
Khumbula ukuthi inkulumo encane imayelana nokwakha ibhuloho phakathi kwakho nomunye umuntu.
Akukhona ukuphenywa ngemibuzo.
Akukhathalekile kangako ukuthi ukhuluma ngani, kodwa kunalokho ukuthi uvule iziteshi zokuxhumana.
Lokhu kushintshana, yize kuvame ukufushane, kungabaluleka kakhulu ngokwakha umbono omuhle wokuqala.
Ungakhohlwa iqiniso lokuthi ukukhuluma okuncane kungavula iminyango yemisebenzi, ukukhuphula, ubungani obusha futhi, yebo, ngisho nasothandweni lwaphakade.
Empeleni, kungaba inkulumo enkulu ongayenza.
