Kule ndatshana emfushane, ngikukhombisa ukuzivocavoca okulula ngokumangazayo ukusiza ukulinganisa imicabango yakho lapho uzizwa uphansi ngokulandelayo.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, impilo ayinakukhanya ilanga lonke futhi imomotheka njalo ngomzuzwana wosuku lapho uzobhekana nezinselelo futhi uzizwe udangele ngezikhathi ezithile. Ngaphandle kwalawa mazwibela aphansi, noma kunjalo, ubungeke uthokozele ukuphakama, ngakho-ke ungalahli ithemba lapho impilo ikuphatha kabi.
lokho okubhekwa njengokukhohlisa isoka lakho
Esikhundleni salokho, lapho okuthile kungahambi ngendlela ongathanda ngayo, usengafunda futhi ukhule kuyo. Ungavuselela ingqondo yakho ukuze okungekuhle kubuse ngokuphelele ukucabanga kwakho.
Ukwenza kanjani kahle lokhu?
Kulula impela. Konke kuqala ngodokotela wezifo zengqondo uViktor Frankl, owakhuluma 'ngentando enencazelo' futhi ngiyakholelwa ngokuqinile endleleni yakhe yokuphila. Uncoma ukuthi, kunokulindela okuthile empilweni, kufanele sibuze ukuthi impilo ilindeleni kithi.
Wafakaza, ngesikhathi esekamu lokuhlushwa lamaNazi, ikhono lethu thina bantu lokuthola injongo kunoma yini nayo yonke into - ngisho nokuhlupheka okubi kakhulu. Usebenzise amava akhe ukusiza ekwakheni indlela yakhe yokwelashwa kwengqondo (i-logotherapy).
Isisekelo yilesi: udinga ukuzama ukuqonda okushiwo kumzuzu ngamunye wokuphila, noma ngabe kuyinto engemihle, engathathi hlangothi, noma enhle.
Ngakho-ke, nanka amagama ayi-4 engifuna ucabange ngawo lapho uzwa umuzwa wokuphelelwa yithemba ngokuphelele nencithakalo.
Ngibona incazelo ku…
Uma usucabangile lawa magama, zama ukuqedela umusho ngokufuna incazelo esimweni sakho. Akunandaba ukuthi izinto zingabonakala zimbi kangakanani, kuhlala kukhona ichashaza lokuzithemba lifihlwe okwamanje konke okufanele ukwenze ukulithola.
Yithathe kimi, la magama ama-4 angakusiza ukunqoba izikhathi ezimnyama obhekene nazo futhi uqonde kangcono i- ukuhlela ukuthi indawo yonke inakho .
Kufanele uzibuze: kulo mzuzu, ngezinto engibhekene nazo, impilo ilindeleni kimi?
Futhi yebo, kwesinye isikhathi impilo izolindela ukuthi ube lusizi, ukuze lusizi ngokulahlekelwa , ukuzizwa uphelelwe yithemba, kepha uma usuqonda ukuthi kunencazelo ekuhluphekeni kwakho, kuba lula ukukuthwala.
kwenzekani uma uthanda umuntu ngokweqile
Ukuthola incazelo ngokuvamile kuyisinyathelo sokuqala senqubo yokwelashwa futhi kungakunika izindlela zokubhekana nanoma yini ephambi kwakho. Ayikwazi ukuvimba ubuhlungu ebingahloselwe ukubenza, kepha incazelo inganikeza induduzo nezikhathi lapho ubuhlungu buyadamba noma ngabe bufushane kangakanani.
Vele, lapho ubhekene nesithiyo sanoma ikuphi ubukhulu, kuyasiza ukusebenzisa inhlanganisela yezindlela. Lokhu kungenye yezinto eziningi ezingasetshenziswa ngazwilinye ukunqoba noma yini. Ngemuva kwakho konke, okushiwo wukudla komoya.
