Kuhle kakhulu kuthi sonke sinomngane ongabonakali ebonakala ukuthi ucindezelekile noma ukhathazekile nganoma yini. Bayawujabulela umsebenzi wabo, ngokuvamile bayathandwa futhi bayahlonishwa ontanga nabasebenza nabo, abacabangi ngisho nokusebenza isikhathi esengeziwe, futhi bahleke umqondo wokwenza noma yini abangafuni ukuyenza.
Abaningi bethu abakwazi ukuhlobana nalowo mqondo. Sibekwe esimeni esihle sokubekezelela yonke imibuthano eyisishiyagalolunye yesihogo ngenxa yemithwalo yemfanelo yabantu abadala njengokukhokha irenti nokuqinisekisa ukuthi izilwane ezifuywayo nezingane zethu ziyondliwa futhi zigqokisiwe noma yini enye.
Well that is crap, and your ever-chilled-out friend has the right idea.
Uma ngabe uke wacindezelwa waze wafika lapho ubudinga khona nje into eyodwa ukukunika imali onqenqemeni lomhlaba othi 'fuck this shit', kepha leyo nto ayikaze yenzeke, mhlawumbe awuyazi i-catharsis evela ekwenzeni ncamashi ukuthi.
Okungcono kakhulu ukwedlula umuzwa wokwaneliseka osuselwa ekujikeni nasekusukeleni kunoma iyiphi inkunzi engenangqondo olwa nayo iqiniso lokuthi ukwenza lokho kuyifanele ngempela impilo yakho yengqondo, futhi nansi indlela:
Kuyanika Amandla
Angazi abantu abaningi abangakaze bazizwe sengathi baphucwe amandla abo komuntu osesikhundleni segunya umuntu obekufanele azithobe kuye, noma ngabe lowo muntu ubenephutha.
Ngabe wake wasebenzela i-imbecile engenamakhono owayengathola kuphela umsebenzi wabo wokuphatha ngenxa ye-nepotism? Kuyakhathaza kanjani ukuthi kudingeke unqekuzise ikhanda futhi umamatheke futhi ulandele izinkomba zabo kanti wazi ukuthi konke abakushoyo akulungile, futhi kuyisiphukuphuku, futhi uzogcina ushushiwe ngakho?
Esinye sezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu engisitholile lapho ngineminyaka engamashumi amabili bekungukuthi hlala ulungele ukuhamba . Lokho akusho ukuthi kuwumqondo omuhle ukuyeka khona lapho noma ngubani lapho ekuphatha kabi, kepha kunalokho ukuthi awusabi ukubabiza lapho ukwenza kwabo kuwe kungamukeleki.
Uma bengakuphathi ngenhlonipho, kwenze kucace lokho kubo, futhi ubazise ukuthi akwamukeleki. Uma imibono yabo ingekho esihlokweni ngokuphelele futhi izokonakalisa iphrojekthi yakho (noma inkampani iyonke), kwazise lokho - ngokuqiniseka - nakubaphathi babo futhi, uma kunesidingo.
Ezimweni eziningi kakhulu, bazobanjwa umxhwele iqiniso lokuthi uke waqunga isibindi, kepha ekugcineni bazokuhlonipha ngokwenza njalo. Impela, ngezikhathi ezingavamile, ungazithola kufanele ukhethe phakathi kokuqhubeka nokubekezelela ubuwula babo noma ukupakisha izinto zakho bese uphuma, kodwa ngabe lokho kubi kakhulu? Kwesinye isikhathi udinga ukwazi ukwenza lokho kanye. Awukho umsebenzi emhlabeni ofanele ukulahlekelwa ngumphefumulo wakho ngenxa yempesheni.
Okuthunyelwe okuhlobene (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi)
- Izimpawu eziyi-13 Unobuntu obuqinile obungahle busabise abanye abantu
- Incwadi Yomthetho Womfazi Oqinile
- Izingibe eziyi-12 Zokuba Nobuntu Oqinile
Uzolala Kakhulu
Ngabe wake waba sesimweni lapho uphume khona phakathi nengqondo yakho ngokukhathazeka, udlula cishe kuzo zonke izimo ezimbi kakhulu ongazicabanga? Uma uke wakwenza, khona-ke mhlawumbe ujwayelene neqiniso lokuthi leyo micabango evuthayo ayenzeki nje emini - igcwele kakhulu ebusuku, lapho kufanele zama ukuthola ukulala okudingeka kakhulu.
Ukuqwasha kungenye yezindlela eziningi lapho ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kubonakala emzimbeni wakho, futhi empeleni kungenye yezingozi kakhulu. Ukuncishwa ubuthongo kuvame ukusetshenziswa njengendlela yokuhlushwa, futhi uma uqhubeka isikhathi eside ungalalanga, kulapho uzoba nokukhathazeka kakhulu nokudangala nokuxakaniseka.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke lokho, ukungalali kuthinta amasosha akho omzimba kanjalo nemizwelo yakho, ngakho-ke uma izinkathazo zikugcina uphapheme ubusuku nobusuku, maningi amathuba okuthi ugule kunokuba ubuthola ukuphumula okuhle.
Ukuvumela yonke imicabango ekhathazayo, yezandla ezulazula ekhanda lakho ikuvumela ukuthi uthole ukuphumula okuhle ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nanoma ikuphi ukuphila okugcinele usuku olulandelayo. Ukuzindla kusihlwa noma i-yoga emnene kuyasiza ngokumangazayo kulokhu, ikakhulukazi uma wenza izizindlo eziqondisiwe ezikusiza ukuthi ucabange izinkathazo zakho njengokushaya kude nawe njalo lapho kuphakama.
Uzoba nokuzethemba okukhulu (nobudlelwano obunempilo)
Ngaphandle kokuthi ungumBuddhist ozinikele osefinyelele ezingeni lomkhosi lokukhanyiselwa, amathuba okuba usungule okunamathiselwe okuqinile kwabanye abantu. Lokho okunamathiselwe akukubi ngokwemvelo njengoba izibopho zobungane nokubandakanyeka kwezothando kungaletha injabulo enkulu ezimpilweni zethu. Uma, noma kunjalo, zinamandla kangangoba uzimisele ukwamukela ukuphathwa njengendle ngabantu abathi bayakukhathalela, khona-ke lezo zinanyathiselwa zenza okubi kakhulu kunokuhle.
Iningi labantu lizithola livaleleke ezimweni ezimbi lapho lamukela ukuphathwa kabi ngoba lisaba ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma lingakwenzi. Isibonelo, othile angahle abekezelele owakwakhe othandana naye ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, ngokwengqondo, noma ngisho nangokomzimba ngoba besaba ukuba bodwa. Bazokuchazela ukungaziphathi kahle kothile kubo njengokuyinto eyiphutha labo ukuthi ukube nje bebengcono, ngandlela thize, bebengeke bathole ukwelashwa okunjalo.
Fuck lokho. Ngokuzimisela.
Uma umlingani wakho ekuhlonipha ngempela, bazovuma ukulungisa izingqinamba lapho uzikhomba, hhayi uma. Uma kungenjalo, ngakho-ke abakufanele ukugcina. Lolo hlobo 'lothando' lulimaza kakhulu kunokulunga: esikhundleni sokuba ebudlelwaneni bokusekelana nomuntu okuthandayo futhi okwamukele lokho oyikho, uzovele ugcine okwesibili uqagela zonke izenzo zakho (bona ukucindezeleka + ukuqwasha ngaphezulu lokho kuzokuthinta kanjani), futhi ukholwe yilokho uwena imbangela yalokhu kunya nokuhlukumeza kuzogqoka ukuzihlonipha kwakho kube yize.
Ngokudabukisayo, sivame ukubekezelela izinto ezisilimaza isikhathi eside kakhulu kunaleso esifanele, lapho esikhundleni salokho kufanele ukuthi sigxeka phansi ukuziphatha okungamukeleki ngokushesha lapho kuvela. Uyasikhumbula leso seluleko ngokuhlala ulungele ukuhamba? Lokho akugcini ngokuya emisebenzini enobuthi futhi kuya kunoma ngubani empilweni yakho ongakuphathi kahle.
Baningi abanye abangaba abangane nabathandi bakho laphaya, futhi bonke bayoba nempilo enhle kakhulu kuwe kunokukwazi ukubekezelela ubuhlalu obubabazekayo.
Uma ubhekene nesimo esikushiya ugcwele ukukhathazeka nokwethuka, zinike isikhathi sokucabanga ngokuthi ungaba ngubani ngaphandle kwaleyo nsizi empilweni yakho. Uma uwuthanda umqondo wokuba yilowo muntu, uma ukwazi ukulizwa iqiniso ujulile ukuthi yebo, unekhono lokushintsha umhlaba wakho, bese ulifuna.
Kukhona isisho esithi into efana nokuthi, 'Usisinqumo esisodwa kude nempilo ehluke ngokuphelele'. Yebo, leyo ndlela yokuphila enempilo, nenenjabulo, iqala ngamagama amabili alula kakhulu: “Fuck lokhu” .
Ingabe unalesi simo sengqondo noma ufisa sengathi ngabe unaso? Shiya amazwana ngezansi bese usitshela konke ngakho.
