Ukuthandana yinto abantu abaningi abayifunayo ebudlelwaneni, kepha futhi kungaba nzima kakhulu kwabanye.
Noma ngabe kuningi kakhulu noma akwanele, ukubonisa nokufuna uthando kungadala ukungqubuzana nakubudlelwano obuzinzile kakhulu.
Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola ezinye zezindlela eningakhombisa ngazo uthando kumlingani wakho kanye nokuthi niluthole kubo.
Kepha kuqala…
Luyini uthando?
Ngokwengxenye enkulu, uthando lukhombisa umuntu omkhathalelayo ngokuhlangana ngokomzimba, njengokugona, ukubambana ngezandla nokuqabulana.
Ingasuka kokuthinta okuncane kuye ekubonisweni okukhulu. Ukuthandana kwehlukile kubo bonke ubudlelwano, futhi sonke sinokulindela okungafaniyo kwalokho esikufunayo nokuthi yini esikujabulelayo ukukunikeza.
Noma ngabe ungumuntu ozethembayo ngokujwayelekile, ukukhombisa uthando kungazizwa njengokuqhuma okukhulu! Lokhu kujwayelekile, ngoba bonke ubudlelwano buhlukile.
Lokho ongakhululeka ukukwenza nabangane osondelene nabo (ukwangana, isibonelo) kungazizwa kusabisa impela nomlingani wakho omusha.
Izeluleko Ezi-6 Zokukhombisa Ukuthandana Ebudlelwaneni
Umlingani wakho angafuna ukuthi ubakhombise uthando futhi ungahle ungakhululeki ngokuphelele ngakho.
Zitshele ukuthi lokhu kulungile futhi kuvamile!
Akuwona wonke umuntu ozizwa ngendlela efanayo ngokubonisa uthando, ngakho-ke akufanele uzizwe unecala uma kungeyona into oyidinga noma oyijabulela ngokukhethekile.
Xhumana nomlingani wakho ngokuthi kungani uzibamba noma ukuthi kungani ungafuni ukusondelana nabo ngale ndlela.
Sizobheka ezinye izeluleko ezizonisiza nobabili ukuthi nithole izinga lothando enikhululeke kulo.
Zikhumbuze ukuthi uthando lumayelana nokuveza uthando nokunakekela - kuyinto ekumele uyijabulele futhi uyazise, hhayi into okufanele ibangele ukucindezeleka okukhulu.
Nobabili nizothola indawo enikhululekile ngayo ngokunikeza nokwamukela uthando, kuzothatha isikhashana.
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1. Hlonipha imingcele - eyakho neyabo.
Uma uvivinya amazinga amasha othando nomlingani wakho, noma ngabe kungubudlelwano obusha noma senibe ndawonye isikhashana, kubalulekile ukuthi unakekele imingcele .
Noma yini ekwenza uzizwe ungakhululekile idinga ukuba iphathwe ngenhlonipho , okusho ukungaduduli noma ukwenza izinto zizwe njengosongo.
Noma kungakanani ongafuna ukuthi umlingani wakho akubonise uthando oluthe xaxa, awukwazi ukubenza bazizwe sengathi kufanele bakwenze “noma kungenjalo…”
Uthando aluyona into yokuxoxisana noma okufunayo kumuntu, ukubonakaliswa kothando nokunakekela.
Amazinga ajulile othando aqhamuka ekwazini umuntu othile. Lokhu kusho ukuqonda okwedlule kanye nokwazi noma yikuphi ukuhlukumezeka noma ubuhlungu abake babhekana nabalingani noma abantu abedlule.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi lezi zinto zithatha isikhathi kwabanye abantu, nokuthi awukwazi ukushesha ukuphulukiswa komunye umuntu.
Uma umlingani wakho ekubambela lezi zizathu, zikhumbuze ukuthi akusikho okomuntu siqu nokuthi indlela oziphatha ngayo mancane amathuba okuthi ushintshe eyabo ngaphandle kokuthi nabo benze ukulungisa.
Ngendlela efanayo, akufanele uzizwe sengathi udinga ukuziphoqa ebudlelwaneni obunothando.
umkami ukhononda ngakho konke engikwenzayo
Uma uke wehlelwa okuthile okuhlukumezayo, udinga ukuzinika isikhathi esithile ngaphambi kokuba usheshe ekuboniseni uthando oluthe xaxa.
2. Yenza isikhathi sokuba nesikhathi esithandanayo.
Hlela izinsuku lapho ‘uhlangana’ khona - ukungena kulolu hlobo lwemizwa kukusiza ukuthi wakhe ingqondo egxile kakhudlwana futhi esondelene.
Hlela izinto ezinhle zokwenza ndawonye ezizonisiza nikhululeke komunye nomunye futhi nithokozele ukuba seduze komunye nomunye.
Ukuhlela izinsuku zobusuku kuyinto evame ukuphela uma sesiqomile, njengoba kukhombisa uthando. Uma wena nomlingani wakho nithatha isinqumo sokwazi ukubandakanyeka kakhulu komunye nomunye, uthando luzolandela.
Zibophezele kubusuku bosuku olulodwa njalo ngesonto noma amabili, kuya ngamahlelo akho.
Qiniseka ukuthi nobabili niyazi ukuthi le yinto okumele ithathelwe phezulu - uma omunye wenu kufanele akhansele, kufanele kube ngesizathu esihle kakhulu.
Ingxenye enkulu yokuvulela umuntu othile ithemba, futhi lolu hlobo lokuzibophezela luzonisiza nobabili nisebenze ukwethembana kakhulu , noma ngabe senibe ndawonye isikhathi esingakanani.
Isikhathi sezithandani singaba yinoma yini oyithandayo, inqobo nje uma kuyinto eniyithandayo nobabili.
Amanye amadethi aphathelene nokwenza okuthile okuthandwa umlingani wakho noma ngabe ungakujabuleli, ngoba ufuna ukukubonisa ukuthi uyakhathalela….
izinto ongazisho kumngani ngemuva kokwehlukana
KODWA… lezi izinsuku kudingeka zibe okuthile kuwe Kokubili jabulela ukwenza - kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi nobabili nizizwe nikhululekile ngomunye nomunye, njengoba maningi amathuba okuthi nivulelane futhi nozakwenu azimisele ngokwengeziwe ukwamukela uthando oluthe xaxa.
Thatha isikhathi sokuhlela lezi zinhlobo zamadethi. Ungavele uqonde ngqo kunketho elula efana nesidlo sakusihlwa ne-movie (ngaphandle kwalapho nobabili nikujabulela ukwenza).
Ngokwenza isiko lamadethi, nobabili nizoba nesikhathi sokujabula futhi nizilindele.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi nizoba ‘nomcimbi’ ofanele wokuqhubekela phambili, futhi nobabili niqale ukuwulindela futhi nabelane ngothando oluthe xaxa komunye nomunye. Sizoya kumasiko nemikhuba eminingi ngokuningiliziwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ku…
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- Okufanele Ukwenze Ngobudlelwano Obungenabo Ubudlelwano Nokuxhuma
- Izinyathelo Ezingu-17 Zokunciphiswa Futhi Unesidingo Ebudlelwaneni
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- Ingabe Kufanele Uguqukele Umuntu Omthandayo?
- Ungamenza Kanjani Umuntu Azizwe Ebalulekile, Ekhethekile, Futhi Ethandwa
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3. Amahlaya nxazonke.
Ukudlala ngokwengeziwe komunye nomunye kuzokusiza ukhululeke ngokwengeziwe ngokuthintana nokusondelana.
Lokhu kuxhumeka ekwethembeni, futhi - uma ungavuleleka futhi ube yisilima kothile, uthembele kuye nasekuqineni kobuhlobo bakho. Lokhu kusho ukuthi wena nozakwenu nizozizwa nikhululeke ngokwazana, okuzokhuthaza ngokwemvelo uthando oluthe xaxa oluvela kini nobabili.
Ngenkathi sikhulume ngokuthatha izinto ngokungathi sína nokwenza ukuzibophezela, kunesikhathi futhi sokuyekela sijabule.
Ngokuzivumela nikhululeke ngempela komunye nomunye, umoya uzokhanya. Izinto ezintofontofo futhi ezinenhliziyo elula, maningi amathuba okuba nobabili nifune ukwelula isandla nokubambana ngezandla noma ngokudlala ngenqindi engalweni (kancane!).
Ukugqolozela ngobumnene nokugcona kungaphakamisa imizwa futhi, kwenze izinto zizwakale njenge-flirty noma ngabe senindawonye iminyaka.
Ukubandakanya umlingani wakho ngale ndlela kuyisikhuthazo esikhulu kubo futhi - lapho bezethemba ngokwengeziwe 'ngemivuzo' yokunakwa kwakho, maningi amathuba okuthi banikele ngothando oluthile.
Lokhu kuzokukwenza uzizwe umuhle - empeleni awuceli uthando lwabo, ngakho-ke kuzwakala njengokuncoma kunempendulo yezimfuno zakho.
Zikhumbuze ngalokhu! Kuzokusiza uzizwe uqiniseka kakhudlwana ngokuzayo lapho ufuna ukukhombisa umlingani wakho uthando nokunakwa, nokuthi ukubuyisela nini.
Hlala udlala futhi kuzoqala ukujwayela kakhulu. Ukusondelana nomuntu ngokomzimba kungakusiza uvumelane nemizwa nemicabango yabo.
Izinto ezilula njengokudlala i-footsie ngaphansi kwetafula lesidlo singenza umehluko omkhulu. Lolu hlobo lwento lufihlakele kahle, ngakho-ke luphelele uma umlingani wakho engathandi ukuboniswa kothando esidlangalaleni noma enamahloni noma enamahloni.
uyangithanda noma ucansi nje
Kanye nokuba nobuqili kubo bonke abanye abantu, kuthumela umyalezo ocacile kozakwenu ukuthi ukhona, nabo, futhi ufuna ukusondela kubo.
Futhi, ukwenza lokhu ngendlela ehlekisayo kusiza ukususa ingcindezi futhi maningi amathuba okuthi baphumule, bakujabulele futhi bafuna ukukubonisa uthando.
4. Kubeke ngamagama.
Uthando aludingi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuba lomzimba - ukukhuluma kusebenza kahle impela eceleni kokuthinta okuthambile nokubambana ngezandla.
Ukukhuluma ngendlela ozizwa ngayo futhi kungani umthanda kakhulu umuntu wakho kuyindlela enhle yokuqinisa konke okwenzayo ngokuzibandakanya ngokomzimba.
Ngokwenza lokhu, uzobe unikeza umlingani wakho umfutho wokuzethemba. Uma benindawonye isikhathi eside, nobabili (ngethemba) niyazi ukuthi niyathandana futhi niyazisana, kodwa nobabili nidinga ukukhunjuzwa kaningi.
Qiniseka ukuthi umlingani wakho uyazi ukuthi unaye njengengxenye ye- ukukhetha okusebenzayo - uthanda ngenkuthalo ukuchitha isikhathi nabo futhi ujabulele ukuba phakathi kwabo.
Ukubatshela lokhu nokubakhumbuza ukuthi usakhangwa yibo kuzokwenza umehluko omkhulu emazingeni othando ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Lapho nobabili nizethemba ngokwengeziwe, kinina nasebudlelwaneni, maningi amathuba okuba nobabili nibonise uthando oluningi futhi ninake.
5. Zigcine zinethezekile ngokungaguquguquki.
Sithinte kulokhu phambilini, kepha iphuzu elibaluleke ngempela okufanele likhunjulwe…
Lapho uqhubeka nokuqhubeka nalezi zenzo, izinto eziningi zizonethezeka futhi zizizwe zijwayelekile.
Thuthukisa amagama noma amabinzana axhumene nezenzo ezithile, isb. ethi 'Ngiyakuthanda' kuzohlala kuholele ekugoneni uma usimende lowo mkhuba. Umlingani wakho uzoqala ukulindela, alindele, futhi funa ukwanga lapho bekuzwa ubatshela ukuthi uyabathanda.
Bazoqala ukuhlanganisa konke lokhu nemizwa efudumele, ejabulisayo futhi kuzozwakala njengenqubo evamile.
Lapho wenza lokhu ngokwengeziwe, bayohlala bekhululeke kakhudlwana nawe lapho ubathinta futhi ubanga. Izofika esigabeni lapho kulindeleke khona lokhu kuziphatha, bese ifinyelela esigabeni lapho ifiswa khona.
Uma sebejwayele ukukhonjiswa uthando nguwe, bazofuna okuningi! Ungathi 'Ngiyakuthanda' bese ulinda - bazobe bekulungele ukwanga, ngakho-ke, uma unganikeli ngaso leso sikhathi, bazothatha isinyathelo sokukwamukela.
Bazozwa sengathi bahamba nje nenqubo eniyidalile nobabili, kodwa futhi bazobamba iqhaza elibonakalayo ekukhombiseni uthando oluthe xaxa.
Lapho ubavumela kakhulu ukuba beze kuwe, lapho bezokwazi ukukhululeka khona futhi maningi amathuba okuthi bazenzele ngokwabo.
Kwenze kucace ukuthi uyathanda lapho beza kuwe kuqala, ikakhulukazi uma bengakwenzi lokho manje.
Bazokujabulela ukwazi ukuthi bakwenza uzizwe kahle futhi bazozizwa bejabule ukukwenza njengoba sekuvele kuyingxenye yenqubo ephephile, esungulwe.
ukwesaba ukungalokothi uthandwe
6. Khuluma futhi uthembeke.
Ungamhlazisi umlingani wakho noma umenze azizwe enecala, kodwa zizwe ukhululekile ukubazisa ukuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ufuna uthando olwengeziwe ngoba uzizwa ungavikelekile, noma unenkinga enzima kwezinye izingxenye zempilo yakho.
Kungenzeka ngoba nje ufuna ukukhombisa uthando lwakho kothile futhi ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuthi uyaphendula futhi uyaphindisela.
Vulela impendulo!
Akukona nje ukuthi utshele umlingani wakho ukuthi ufunani, kepha uqiniseke ukuthi nabo bazizwa bekhululekile.
Ozakwethu bavame ukungaziqondi kahle izimpawu, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi usekhasini elilodwa ngokukhuluma ngezinto. Lesi sigaba sokukhuluma asidingi ukuhlala unomphela, ngakho-ke noma ikuphi ukungakhululeki kokuqala ongase ubhekane nakho kuyinto nje yesikhashana.
Ngokuhlanganisa zonke lezi zinyathelo ezingenhla, ungaqala ukwenza inqubekela phambili maqondana nokunikeza nokwamukela uthando olwengeziwe ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ubudlelwano bumayelana nokwethembana, ukwethembeka, nozwela, futhi konke esikunikele lapha kuxhumanisa emuva kulezo zingqikithi ezisemqoka.
Sisizaneni nizizwe nikhululeke kakhudlwana futhi nizethemba nina kanye nobambiswano lwenu.
Khumbula ukuzazi futhi ubheke ukuthi yini oyidingayo nokuthi kungani uyidinga, kanye nokuqinisekisa ukuthi umlingani wakho uyakuqonda okwenzekayo.
Bekani isikhathi sobabili ngezindlela ezintsha futhi nihlanganyele ngokugcwele, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka noma ingcindezi - abantu ababili kuphela, abathandana ngokuphelele.
Lapho nikwazi ukujwayela lolu hlobo lokuziphatha, kulapho niyovulelana ngokwengeziwe, lapho kuthinta khona uthando, ukunakekelwa, nozwela.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ungaba kanjani nobuhlobo obunothando nomlingani wakho? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
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