Ubudlelwano bakho buswela okuthile.
Lokho okuthile ukusondelana ngokomzimba kanye / noma ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo.
Mhlawumbe uzizwa ngingenelisekile futhi engajabule , futhi babuza zona kanye izisekelo zesibopho onaso nomlingani wakho.
Ngenkathi kunezinombolo zezinto ezingonakala ebudlelwaneni obuzinikele, besikhathi eside noma emshadweni, izinkinga ngokusondelana nokuxhumana kakhulu okuvamile.
Lokho akubenzi baphile kabuhlungu kangako, kepha kufanele futhi kukhombe iqiniso lokuthi banganqotshwa.
Iqiniso ukuthi, imibhangqwana eminingi ebhekana nokuntuleka kokusondelana ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo kwesinye isigaba sobudlelwano bayo iyaqhubeka nokwenza izinto zisebenze ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Bathola izindlela zokuphinda bathole futhi bakhe kabusha lokho kuxhumana.
Nawe ungakwenza.
Uma ungathanda ukubuyisela inhlansi ebudlelwaneni bakho bese uphinde uthole ukusondelana nokuxhumana okubonakala kulahlekile, yini ongayenza?
Okokuqala, ungalandela lesi seluleko:
1. Yehlisa Ukulindela Kwakho
Ngiyazi ukuthi lokho akuzwakali kahle. Kwenza kuzwakale sengathi ngikutshela ukuthi umane uxazulule isandla osuphathisiwe. Kodwa akusikho lokho engikushoyo.
Angiqondile ukuthi okulindele kufanele kube phansi, kodwa nakanjani akufanele babe ukuphakama okungenangqondo , noma.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bomzimba cishe abusoze baba nayo inhlansi oyenzile ngenkathi uhlangana okokuqala.
Lokho konke kwehle ngama-hormone akhathazayo ahamba ngobuhlanya lapho uhlangabezana nalesi siwombe sokuqala uthando nenkanuko , kodwa ngokwemvelo hlala phansi kancane uma usudlulele kokunye ubuhlobo obuzinikele .
Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma sihlala njalo sisesimweni sokungazethembi esilutholwa uthando olusha, asisoze sathola lutho.
Uma ulindele ukuthi ibe njalo futhi ibe nentshisekelo njengoba yayinjalo lapho nihlangana okokuqala, uzibekela ukuphoxeka.
Ungahle uhlangane nezikhathi ezibuyela emuva ezinsukwini lapho niqala ukwazana, futhi nizoqhubeka nokuthola izinto ezintsha ngomunye nomunye njengoba nikhula nobabili nemizimba yenu nalokho enikuthandayo kuguquka, kodwa ngeke nilindele ubudlelwano bakho bomzimba buzoqhubeka buchoboze umhlaba iminyaka ekugcineni.
umyeni wami uhlala ngasohlangothini lomndeni wakhe
Kubalulekile futhi ukungavumeli umbono wokuthi abezindaba bathanda ukuqhubekisa ( ukuthi uma ungenayo impilo yezinguquko evuselelayo ngakho-ke uyinhlobo ethile yokwehluleka ) kuyakuthinta.
Akufanele uhlose ubudlelwano bomzimba obuhlangabezana nalezo zindinganiso zobuhlanya, kepha kunalokho okukujabulisa, lokho kususelwe ekuxhumaneni kweqiniso nge nokuqonda ye umlingani wakho.
Kufanele futhi ugcine okulindelwe okungokoqobo kokusondelana ngokomzwelo futhi, ngoba abanye abantu bakuthola kunzima ukuxhumana kunabanye.
Yize kungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, amadoda ngokuvamile athola ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kuyinselele ukwedlula abesifazane.
Ukuqonda lokhu nokwamukela ngezinga elithile kuzokuvumela ukuthi ube ocabangelayo ezinkolelweni zakho zokuthi ubudlelwano obusondelene kufanele bubukeke kanjani.
2. Khulumisanani
Ngiyazi ukuthi usuvele uyazi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuxhumana , kepha uma kukhulunywa ngezihloko ezikhohlisayo ezifana nobulili, ungahle ube nethemba lokuthi bekungafanele uhlale phansi ube nengxoxo enkulu ngakho.
Kodwa-ke, ukuhlala phansi ndawonye futhi nixoxe ngokuthi benizizwa kanjani maqondana nokusondelana ngokomzimba nokuxhumana ebudlelwaneni benu ngempela kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuxazulula inkinga.
Udinga ukwazi ukuthi nobabili ekhasini elilodwa, ukuthi akekho umlingani osola omunye , nokuthi nobabili nizimisele ngokusebenza kukho.
Okuthile okusemqoka lapha ukuthi ungalokothi ube nale ngxoxo ngemuva kokuthi nisondelane, njengoba kuyisikhathi lapho nobabili nikhona ngizizwa ngisengozini encane futhi, ngawo wonke lawo mahomoni egijima nxazonke, imizwa ingagijimela kalula phezulu.
3. Khuluma Nomelaphi
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuxhumana kwezithandani kungahle kungabi kuhle ngokwanele ukuthi bahlale phansi bakhulume ngezinkinga zabo.
Ezimweni eziningi, ukuba nomuntu wesithathu ekhona kungasiza ekuxazululeni inkinga indoda nowesifazane (noma enye inhlanganisela yayo) engaba nayo.
Umeluleki wezobudlelwano noma wezocansi angaholela engxoxweni nasezindabeni ezifanele kakhulu, agcine izinto zilandelana uma ziqala ukuphuma esihlokweni, futhi asebenze njengomlamuleli uma kukhona ukungaboni ngaso linye.
Futhi bangahlinzeka ngezeluleko ezithile zokubhekana nezinkinga ezithile umbhangqwana ongahle ubhekane nazo.
Imvamisa, kuzothatha amaseshini amaningi isikhathi esithile, kepha imiphumela ingahle ivikele utshalomali.
4. Qala Encane
Ukusondelana ngokomzimba akuyona yonke into ephathelene nobulili. Izinto ezifana nokubambana ngezandla, ukubheka iso ngendlela efanele , ukuthinta ingalo yabo, noma ukwangana kubaluleke kakhulu, uma kungenjalo.
Yilezo zenzo zomzimba ezincane ozenza nsuku zonke ezazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uyakukhathalela futhi ugcina ukuxhumana kuqinile.
5. Thola Ezothando
Ezothando azikho mayelana nokuthinta okukhanyayo. Kumayelana nokujabulela ubuhle empilweni kanye nenkampani yomunye nomunye ngasikhathi sinye.
Ngimatasa njengoba nginesiqiniseko sokuthi niyikho, kubalulekile ukudweba isikhathi sodwa, futhi bonisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ubeke umcabango othile ngobuqotho.
Thatha isikhathi esithe xaxa ukubaphekela isidlo esikhethekile, ngoba. Yenza ubuciko futhi ucabange ngaphandle kwebhokisi. Thatha umlingani wakho uye epikinikini endaweni enombono. Buka ukushona kwelanga. Babonise ukuthi ujabulile ngokuchitha isikhathi enkampanini yabo, futhi ufuna ukwenza izinkumbulo.
6. Phula Umkhuba Wakho
Labo izibonelo zokuthinta kothando ngezinye zezindlela ongaphazamisa ngayo iphethini impilo yakho engenile kuyo.
Umkhuba uletha izinzuzo eziningi, ikakhulukazi lapho impilo imatasa nezingane noma eminye imisebenzi edinga ukunakekelwa.
Kepha inqubo futhi ikuvumela ukuthi ukwenze ogwini ngempilo ngaphandle kokunaka ngempela okwenzekayo . Kuyi-autopilot yohlobo.
Mayelana nobudlelwano, ungahle ungaboni nokuthi ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba kunciphile.
Ngakho-ke, thatha amathuba amaningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze wephule inqubo yakho futhi wenze izinto ezintsha nezingafani. Noma, okungenani, izinto ongazenzi kaningi.
kuthiwani uma intombazane ikuthanda
Vakashela izindawo ezintsha ndawonye, zama imisebenzi emisha, hlangana nabantu abasha njengezithandani, nwebisa ama-horizons akho amasiko…
… Yenza noma yini eyenza wena nomlingani wakho nibonane futhi esikhundleni sokukhukhumeza impilo njengabagibeli nje.
Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nakanjani kuzokhula futhi uma usubalekele isizungu sempilo eqhutshwa inkambiso.
7. Yenza Izinto Ngokwehlukana
Njengoba ukwenza izinto ezintsha ndawonye kunganisondeza nobabili, kufanele futhi nizinike isikhathi sokwenza izinto ngokuhlukana.
Lokhu kusiza kakhulu uma wena nomlingani wakho nisebenzisa cishe sonke isikhathi senu samahhala sindawonye. Ungakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sobudlelwano obunothando, kepha isikhala nenkululeko yokuphishekela izinto ngokwakho kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yomuntu ngamunye engokomzwelo.
Kukunika isikhathi sokuphuthelana futhi kukwenza ukwazise onakho lapho ubuyela kuyo.
Futhi kususa ingcindezi maqondana nokuba semaphaketheni omunye nomunye ngaso sonke isikhathi.
8. Yiba Lowo Ovula Kuqala
Imvamisa, lapho omunye umlingani eqala ukuvala imizwa yakhe kancane, omunye umuntu uyalandela.
Kungukusabela okungokwemvelo. Sivame ukulingisa labo abasizungezile , futhi uma umlingani wethu enikela kancane ngokomzwelo, nathi simnikeza imbuyiselo encane.
Kuyafana nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuveza ngokomzwelo (noma okungasho lutho). Intukuthelo izala intukuthelo. Injabulo izala injabulo. Ukudabuka kuzala ukudabuka.
Isixazululo wukuzivulela ngokwakho futhi futhi uvumele umlingani wakho akubone lokhu futhi akufake isibuko nawe.
Kufanele ususe noma yiziphi izindonga ozakhile futhi uqhubeke ubonise imizwa yakho nothando lwakho ngabo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ngokunikeza imfudumalo yakho engokomzwelo kubo, umlingani wakho uzozizwa ukukhathazeka kancane ngobuhlobo futhi ngikwazi ukuvula futhi.
Yenza indawo ephephile yokuba umlingani wakho abe uqobo lwakho futhi ukusondelana okungokomzwelo nokuxhumeka kuzolandela ngokwemvelo.
Futhi lokhu cishe njalo kuholela ekusondeleni okukhulu ngokomzimba nakho.
9. Sekela Futhi Ukhuthaze
Lapho futhi lapho umlingani wakho ekhombisa ukusikisela kokuba sengozini ngokuveza imizwa yakhe noma ukuvula ngenye indlela, khombisa ukuthi uyawuthokozela lo mzamo futhi unethemba eliphelele mayelana nesipiliyoni.
Umlingani wakho udinga ukukuqonda lokho uzobaxhasa noma ngabe inqubo ingaba nzima kangakanani.
Lapho bebona ngokwengeziwe ukuthi abekho kulokhu kuphela, futhi ngokuphepha bazizwa bevula, ngokuqhubekayo bazodudula imingcele yabo engokomzwelo.
Zama ukubadedela bahambe ngejubane labo. Uma bebenemizwa kuhoxisiwe isikhashana noma uma beye baba njalo isikhathi eside njengoba ubazi, kuzothatha isikhashana ukuthi bathole ukuzethemba okwanele emandleni abo okusondelana nawe ngokomzwelo.
10. Zinakekele
Ezweni lesimanje, ngokukhangisa kanye ne-Instagram, kunengcindezi enkulu kabi yokubukeka ngendlela ethile, ngakho-ke angizukungeza kulokhu.
Ubuhle abulingani bonke abantu, futhi akufanele ngabe uzama ukufanisa namazinga angenangqondo.
Kodwa-ke, ukwenqaba izindinganiso zobuhle akusho ukuthi akufanele uzinakekele.
Ukunakekela kakhudlwana ngendlela ogqoka ngayo nokuzilungisa kwakho kungenza umehluko omkhulu, njengokungathi awuzizwa ukhanga, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi ukudlulisele lokho kumlingani wakho.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, njengoba sonke sitshelwe kaningi, kunzima ukwamukela uthando oluvela komunye umuntu uma ungazithandi.
Yenza izinto ezikwenza uzizwe kamnandi , noma lokho kulula njengokuthatha isikhathi sakho, ukugeza, ukubhuka usuku lwe-spa, ukudla ukudla okunomsoco kukushiya uqhuma ngamandla, noma uzivocavoca ngendlela ekushiya uzizwa umuhle.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba akusikho ukufeza uhlobo oluthile lomzimba, njengoba ukulingana kuza ngazo zonke izinhlobo nobukhulu. Ukuvivinya umzimba kusho ukuthi uzoba namandla athe xaxa futhi ube nombono wethemba ngokuphila, okuhehayo encwadini yanoma ngubani.
Uma uzibuka esibukweni, gxila ezintweni ozithandayo, kunasezintweni ongaziguqula.
Ngasikhathi sinye, qiniseka ukuthi uyamxhasa umaqondana wakho lapho ezenzela izinto, futhi ungakhohlwa ukubatshela ukuthi zinhle kangakanani, ngaphakathi nangaphandle.
11. Ukucindezeleka
Kunzima ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho lapho konke ongakucabanga ngakho yinqwaba yomsebenzi elinde etafuleni lakho ekuseni ngakusasa, noma lapho uhlola njalo ama-imeyili omsebenzi wakho.
Amathuba okuthi umlingani wakho akwazi kangcono ukwedlula noma ngubani, ngakho-ke bazokwazi ukutshela imayela uma ungekho egumbini labo ngempela.
Zonke izindawo zempilo yakho zizothuthuka uma ungakhathazekile, hhayi ukuxhumana kwakho nozakwenu kuphela. Kufanele ukwenze kuqala.
Vumela umusi ngokuzivocavoca futhi uthole umsebenzi ozokusiza wehlise ingqondo yakho ematasa, noma ngabe yi-yoga, i-journaling, ukuzindla, noma nje ukufunda incwadi enhle.
Unesikweletu kumlingani wakho sokuba khona ngokugcwele lapho unabo futhi ubanikeze konke ukunakekelwa okufanele.
12. Ungalindeli Ukushintsha Ngobusuku Obubodwa
Izinto ezinhle ziza kulabo abalindayo. Yenza umzamo oqondile wokusebenzisa amathiphu angenhla ebudlelwaneni bakho, kodwa ungalindeli imiphumela esheshayo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nokubekezela, lokho kusondelana okufisayo kuzochuma futhi.
Futhi cishe uzothola ukuthi uhlobo oluthile lokusondelana luholela kolunye. Ngakho-ke uma kulula ukuqala ngohlangothi lwezinto ezingokomzimba (futhi asikhulumi nje ngocansi), yenza lokho.
Noma uma ufuna ukukhulisa uhlangothi lwezinto ezingokomzwelo kuqala ukusiza ukubhekana nebanga lomzimba phakathi kwakho, leyo ndlela kufanele futhi isebenze.
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