Uhlangana nomphefumulo wakho, ukuba semathandweni , futhi siphile ngokujabula njalo.
Yebo, emaphusheni akho.
Ubudlelwano bangempela abukona konke ukumamatheka okuhle, ukwangana okufudumele, nemicabango emnandi.
Ubudlelwano bangempela kwesinye isikhathi bungaba ngumsebenzi onzima ngokomzwelo, ubunzima bengqondo, ngisho nobunzima ngokomzimba.
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Kunezizathu eziningi.
Ubudlelwano bunzima ngoba…
1. Kufanele Uthathe Izinqumo Njengeyunithi
Umuntu ongashadile ojikijela indlela yakhe emhlabeni kuphela kufanele acabange ngaye. Bangazikhethela owabo umzila, bayeke kunoma yiziphi izindawo nokubona abakuthandayo, futhi basebenzise inqobo nje uma befuna endaweni eyodwa.
Faka uzakwethu ekuxubeni bese ngokuzumayo kufanele uvumelane ngokuthi uzoyaphi, uzobonani, uzodlani, uhlale isikhathi esingakanani, kanye nenqwaba yezinye izinto.
Impilo yangempela ifana nalolo hambo lojosaka, kuphela kufanele wakhe uhlobo lwecebo elihambisanayo lokuthi iyiphi indlela ozoyithatha ndawonye empilweni.
Ngabe uyafuna ukushada? Ufuna izingane? Mangaki? Kufanele uhlale kuphi? Yini okufanele uchithe izimpelasonto zakho uyenza? Kufanele uyisebenzise kanjani imali yakho? Kufanele wonge malini?
Futhi iyaqhubeka iyaqhubeka.
Awusakhululekile ukwenza njengoba ufisa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abanye izinqumo kuzofanele zithathwe ndawonye.
Futhi lokhu kungaba nzima uma ujwayele ukwenza njengoba uthanda. Ngokuvamile kuholela ekuyekethiseni, kungaholela ezingxabanweni, futhi kungaholela ekucasukeni lapho ungazitholi izinto ngendlela obungathanda ngayo.
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Kungazwakala sengathi impilo yakho ibekelwe imingcele, ikakhulukazi uma ungumuntu onenkululeko okhululeke kakhulu kuze kube manje okujabulele ukuzimela okuphelele.
Kungakho abanye abantu bakuthola kunzima kakhulu ukusuka ku-singleton kuya kwabashadikazi.
Ubudlelwano bunzima ngoba…
2. Kufanele Ucabange Ngomunye Umuntu
Umhlaba wakho uphindeka kabili ngosayizi lapho wena faka ubuhlobo . Awusenamandla okucabangela kuphela impilo yakho, imicabango yakho, imizwa yakho, okufunayo nezifiso zakho.
Kufanele ucabange nangomlingani wakho naye. Kufanele ubazi, imizwa yabo, izinkathazo zabo, izifiso zabo, imibono yabo.
Kufanele ukhumbule izinto ngazo ukuze ukwazi ukwenza ngezindlela zokukuletha Kokubili ukuthula nenjabulo.
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Ingabe zikhona izikhumbuzo ezithile ezidabukisayo ezibalulekile kubo njengokushona kothandekayo?
Ubudlelwano bungenye yamathuluzi amahle kakhulu wokuqeqesha inkumbulo atholakalayo ngoba kufanele ulalelisise lokho okushiwo umlingani wakho ukuze bezwe bezwakala futhi bebalulekile.
Lokhu kukufakela ingcindezi yokuthi ukhumbule yonke le mininingwane ukuze ungafaki unyawo lwakho kuyo noma usho noma wenze okuthile okungabalimaza nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Lokhu kungaba yinselelo enkulu kwabanye abantu kunabanye futhi kungaholela ekuzweleni ngokweqile, ikakhulukazi ezinyangeni zokuqala lapho uku ukwazana .
Kumele futhi wenze ngendlela ehlonipha umlingani wakho kanye nobudlelwano bakho.
Awukwazi ukuvele uyophuza iziphuzo ngemuva komsebenzi okungenani ungabonisananga nazo kuqala.
Awukwazi ukuthenga okukhulu ngaphandle kokuthola isivumelwano / isibusiso sabo (uzitshela ukuthi uhlanganisa imali yakho).
Awukwazi ukuziphatha ngendlela engafanele ezungeze umndeni wabo futhi ungalindeli ukuthi kuthinte indlela abazizwa ngayo.
Futhi, lokhu kubuyela ezinqumweni ozenzayo kanye nesidingo sokucabangela umlingani wakho lapho uzenza.
Ubudlelwano bunzima ngoba…
3. Abahlangani Njalo Ngalokho Okulindele
Ungakholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwano obufanele kufanele bube lula ukuthi buzoxazulula zonke izinkinga zakho obuzokulethela injabulo obukade uyifuna.
Kuphela, akulula, ngeke kuxazulule zonke izinkinga zakho, futhi ngeke kulethe injabulo esheshayo neyaphakade.
Ubudlelwano buvame ukuba nzima ngokwenziwa kwethu ngoba singena kubo silindele izimangaliso futhi singalindeli ukuthi sizosebenza kuzona.
Bonke ubudlelwano budinga ukunakekelwa ukuze bukhule bube yinto enempilo futhi ehlala isikhathi eside.
Futhi ngenkathi umlingani engaba ngumthombo omuhle wokusekelwa lapho unenkinga, abakwazi ukuba yibo abathwala imithwalo yakho.
Lokhu kungaba nzima ukuthi ukwamukele ngoba uphuphuthekiswe yizindaba zothando lwenganekwane nesithombe izithombe ezinhle zokuvumelana ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
Kepha izinganekwane zinjalo impela futhi awunalo ulwazi lomsebenzi kanye nemizabalazo engena kubo bonke ubuhlobo obubona eduze kwakho.
Uma unayo okulindelwe okungenangqondo ebudlelwaneni bakho , wenza kube nzima kuwe ukujabula ngayo.
Ubudlelwano bunzima ngoba…
4. Abantu Beza Nemithwalo
Unesikhathi esedlule. Qagela? Kanjalo nawo wonke umuntu kanjalo nomlingani wakho.
Futhi izinto ezithile ezivela ekudlulisweni kwethu zisenomthelela ongokomzwelo kithina namuhla.
Lokhu kungaba yinkinga kuwe ngoba lena yimicimbi eyenzeke ngaphambi kokuba ube khona. Awunaso isipiliyoni sokuqala kwabo.
Futhi ngakho-ke kungaba yinselele kuwe ukuqonda ngokweqiniso ukuthi kungani besabambe iqhaza elingaka kumlingani wakho namuhla.
Kwesinye isikhathi, indlela abaziphatha ngayo ingabonakala ingenangqondo impela futhi iphikisana nobuntu babo obujwayelekile. Kungakushiya uzizwe udidekile futhi ungakwazi ukusiza.
Ungasho noma wenze into engafanele ngoba awuyazi ngokuphelele imbangela yenguquko oyibonayo.
Noma ngabe uxoxile ngezinkinga ezidale le mizwa kumlingani wakho, ukuqonda kwakho kungakhawulwa kumbono onengqondo, oyiqiniso.
Ngeke ukwazi ukuqonda imicabango nemizwelo yomlingani wakho ngoba awuzange uphile ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo.
Noma ngabe umlingani wakho wahlukunyezwa ebuntwaneni, wayene-ex owayengathembekile, noma wayebandakanyeka kwesinye isigameko esibuhlungu njengengozi yemoto noma ukuhlaselwa kwamaphekula, ukutshelwa ngakho akufani nokuphila.
Futhi-ke kunezindlela ezisebenza kakhulu zomthwalo ezifana nezingane ezivela ebudlelwaneni obudlule, izinkinga zezezimali ezinjengezikweletu, nezinkinga zezempilo (yize zonke lezi zinto zinomthelela ngokomzwelo nazo).
Ngakho-ke uma ujoyina omunye umuntu ukwakha ubambiswano, kufanele wamukele ukuthi okwedlule kwabo kuza nabo, njengoba nje okwedlule kuza nawe.
Ubamba isandla somlingani wakho ngesandla esisodwa bese uphatha imithwalo yakho kwesinye.
Ubudlelwano bunzima ngoba…
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5. Sonke Sidinga Isikhathi Sodwa
Abantu bayizidalwa ezihlalisanayo, kepha kuza iphuzu lapho sonke sidinga ukuya ehlane (ngokukhuluma ngomfanekiso) futhi sibe nathi. Uwedwa.
Kuphela, lapho ubudlelwano bufinyelela esigabeni esithile, lesi sikhathi sisodwa siba silinganiselwe ngokwengeziwe.
Ungahlala nomlingani wakho futhi usebenzise isikhathi sakho esiningi esikhululekile unabo. Ukuhogela ukuthula nokuthula kancane akulula kangako.
Akunzima kuphela ngokomzimba ngenxa yokusondelana kakhulu, kepha umlingani wakho kungenzeka angadingi isikhathi esiningi sodwa njengawe, noma ngokufanayo.
Uma befuna ukuba nawe, kodwa ungathanda ukuba wedwa, ubhekene nenkinga: ukunikela ngesikhathi sakho wedwa noma ukuzibeka engcupheni yokucasula othandekayo wakho.
Ayikho inketho ekhangayo, yingakho lesi ngesinye futhi isizathu sokuthi ubudlelwane bube nzima kwesinye isikhathi.
Uma uqhubeka isikhathi eside ngaphandle kwezikhathi ezengeziwe zokuba wedwa, kukhulu amathuba okuthi uzokhathala ngenkampani umlingani wakho akunikezayo futhi maningi amathuba okuthi ubathole becasula.
Ungaqala nokubacasukela ngokuthatha isikhathi sakho samahhala.
Ama-introverts athola lo ngumzabalazo othile ngoba badinga isikhathi nendawo ukuze baqoqe imicabango yabo, bathole isikhungo sabo, baphinde bavuselele amabhethri abo.
Ngaphandle kwako, bayancipha ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo, okubeka okunye ukucindezeleka nobunzima ebudlelwaneni.
Ubudlelwano bunzima ngoba…
6. Kufanele Uveze Ukuba Sengozini Kwakho
Isikhathi esiningi sempilo yakho, uzokufihla ukukhathazeka kwakho, izinkathazo zakho, nokwesaba kwabanye abantu.
Ozakwenu, abangane bakho, ngisho nomndeni wakho kungenzeka bangazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphakathi kwalelo khanda lakho (kuya ngohlobo lobudlelwano onabo nalaba bantu).
Kepha ubudlelwano obunempilo budinga ukuvuleleka okwengeziwe, ukuba sengozini kakhulu kunalokho okujwayele.
Njengoba unikezwe isikhathi esanele sokuba ubudlelwano bukhule ngokugcwele, umlingani wakho kungenzeka abe umuntu owabelana naye kakhulu.
Uzokwabelana ngemizwa yakho, uzokwabelana ngemicabango yakho, uzokwabelana ngamaphupho akho nokwesaba kwakho nokukhathazeka kwakho nokungazethembi kwakho.
Futhi ukukhululeka lokhu komunye umuntu akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lona kanye igama elithi 'ukuba sengozini' likhombisa ukuthi uzibeka engozini yokulimala nobuhlungu.
Ungahle ungatholi impendulo ongathanda. Ungahle uchithe amathumbu akho bese umlingani wakho angakubuka angaboni, angazi ukuthi athini noma enzeni.
Abantu abaningi abanakho ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo ukuqonda ukuthi yini oyidingayo kubo kulezi zimo. Akulona iphutha labo, kodwa uzozizwa uphoxekile, ucasukile, futhi uthukuthele.
Futhi-ke kukhona uhlangothi lwe-flip. Ungahle ufune ukuthi umlingani wakho avuleke kakhulu futhi abe sengozini, ukuze ahlanganyele ukusebenza kwabo kwangaphakathi nawe, kepha kungenzeka bangathandi kangako.
Ukungalingani kwalolu hlobo kungaba yinselele ngezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu. Kungaba yisithiyo ekuxhumaneni futhi kungaholela kunoma yiziphi izinkinga.
Ungahle (ukholelwe noma ngokungeyikho) bakholelwa ukuthi kukhona abakufihlela okuthile. Izinkinga zokuthembela kungavela ezinhlangothini zombili. Ukuntuleka kokuvuleleka kungadala uqhekeko phakathi kwabantu ababili.
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Ngakho-ke, noma ngabe ubonisa ubuthakathaka bakho noma uyabufihla, umphumela ngeke kube ukuhamba epaki.
Ubudlelwano bunzima ngoba…
7. Azimusha Futhi Zijabulise Phakade
Izinhlansi zokuqala zobudlelwano obusha ziletha isasasa, izimvemvane, kanye nokulindela ukuthi ekugcineni uthole uthando lwakho olulodwa lweqiniso nokuthi impilo izoba ngcono kusuka manje.
Uphefumula umoya omusha, izinto uzibona ngamehlo ahlukile, futhi nobabili nimamula nikhiphe amandla ahlukile.
Kuphela, lokhu akuhlali.
Izinto ziyajwayeleka, zijwayeleke, ziphindaphindwe. Lokho nje ukuvela kwemvelo kwanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obubucayi.
Ngokushesha uyabona ukuthi ukugcina lokho isibopho sothando kudinga umzamo namandla. Kufanele usebenze ebudlelwaneni.
Onke amaphuzu adlule - kusukela ekucabangeni ngomunye umuntu kuye ekubhekaneni nemithwalo - adinga umzamo oqinile wokukhula njengabantu ngabanye nanjengobambiswano.
Abanye abashadikazi bakuthola kulula kunabanye, kepha bonke badinga lokho kunakekelwa nokunakekelwa ukuze baphumelele.
Ngokushesha noma kamuva ukungezwani, ukuphikisana nokudumazeka kuzovela. Ungahle ungazifuni noma uzilindele, kepha abukho ubudlelwano obungenabo ubuhle babo.
Okusemqoka ukubhekana nokubhekana nokwehliswa, ukuxhasana lapho impilo iphonsa ispani emisebenzini, futhi ujabulise futhi wandise okwenyuka.
Ubudlelwano bunzima ngoba…
8. Bakhethe
Uthando luwumuzwa futhi luyisinqumo . Uma ungena ebudlelwaneni nothile, uyabakhetha njengomlingani wakho empilweni (noma, okungenani, lokho kuyicebo).
Kepha njenganoma ikuphi ukukhetha, izinto zokungabaza zingangena.
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Ingabe lo muntu ukufanele? Ngabe uzibona sindawonye impilo yakho yonke? Ngabe uyafuna nokuzinza njengamanje? Ngabe ukhona umuntu 'ongcono' laphaya kuwe?
Ngeke ube nazo zonke izimpendulo zale mibuzo futhi lokhu kuyakwesabisa.
Ukungaqiniseki ebudlelwaneni kucishe kufinyeleleke ngandlela thile ngesikhathi esithile. Mhlawumbe kwenzeka kulawo masonto ambalwa okuqala nezinyanga zokuthandana, noma ngemuva isikhathi se-honeymoon siyaphela bese uqala ukuzinza esimisweni, noma ngemuva kweminyaka yokuba ndawonye.
Uma ushaya izigaxa emgwaqeni, ubhekene nokunye ukukhetha: uyakwenza buqede ubudlelwano uhambe izindlela zakho ezihlukene, noma ingabe uyaphinda kabili bese usebenzisa konke okusemandleni akho ukudlula kulesi siqeshana esibi?
Ukubhekana nalezi zinhlobo zemfoloko emgwaqweni kunzima. Ukwazi ukuthi impilo yakho ingashintsha ngandlela thile ngokuya ngesinqumo sakho kuyinto ethusayo. Kungakhathaza futhi kudonsele engqondweni ukuhamba phezu kwezinto ezisekhanda lakho kaninginingi.
Akufani nomndeni wakho lapho ungeke ubakhethe khona, futhi akufani nabangane bakho lapho ungaba nabaningi, kufanele ulungele ukuzibophezela kulo omunye umuntu futhi uqonde.
Ubudlelwano bunzima, kepha…
Kunzima, Futhi kukhona 'Okunzima'
Kodwa-ke uthole le ndatshana, mhlawumbe ubunethemba lokuthi izothi ubudlelwane obulungile ngeke bube nzima. Ukuthi lapho uthola umuntu ofanele, izinto zizoba lula.
Uxolo ngokuqhuma ibhamuza lakho.
Kodwa akuyona yonke inhlekelele nobumnyama. Yize ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu bungaba yinselele kwesinye isikhathi, buphinde bugcwele ukuhleka nenjabulo nezikhathi ezimnandi.
Futhi lo umehluko phakathi kobudlelwano obunzima ngomqondo wokuthi kungaba njalo umzabalazo nobudlelwano obunzima lapho bukhona njalo umzabalazo.
Uma uthola ukuthi izinsuku eziningi ziletha ubunzima nokungqubuzana okukhulu kunokwenza uthando nobunye, akuyona into engenangqondo ukubuza ubudlelwano obukubo.
Akufanele ulahle kalula ebudlelwaneni obuthulule inhliziyo yakho nomphefumulo wakho, kepha futhi akufanele uphikelele kobo obukulethele ubuhlungu benhliziyo kanye nengcindezi isikhathi eside.
Ngamanye amagama, uma kunethuba lokuthi izinto zingabuyela ezingeni lapho injabulo nokuthula kubusa ebudlelwaneni bakho, kulwele.
Uma ungasakuboni lokho njengokungenzeka noma ithemba, noma uma ukholwa ukuthi ukhona akuhambisani nomlingani wakho , kulungile ukuqeda.
Kukhona okunzima futhi kukhona 'okunzima' futhi uma ubudlelwano bakho buwela kokugcina, ulungile ukukhathazeka.
Ubudlelwano obuhle, obunempilo kufanele bukunikeze inzuzo ephelele okufanele ikunikeze ngaphezu kokudingayo kuwe izikhathi ezimnandi okufanele zidlule kakhulu kokubi.
Lokho kufanele kukhunjulwe ngesikhathi esizayo lapho ukhononda ngokuthi ubudlelwano bakho bungumsebenzi onzima.
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