Ngakho-ke, uzizwa sengathi awulungile ngokwanele ngabo…
Njengokuthi awukho ezingeni labo…
Njengokuthi bangenza kangcono kakhulu kunawe, futhi awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi kungani bezulazula.
Lokhu, ngeshwa, akuwona umuzwa ongajwayelekile. Abantu abaningi bazithola sebenobudlelwano lapho benesiqiniseko sokuthi umlingani wabo uyehlisa ngandlela thile ngokuba nabo.
Bangazi ngokujula ukuthi konke kusemakhanda abo, kepha noma kunjalo abakwazi ukuzamazamisa umuzwa, futhi kusongela ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwabo nomlingani wabo.
Kakade, yimuphi umuntu ofuna umlingani wakhe acabange ngale ndlela? Ubani ofuna ukuba nomuntu obabeka ezinyaweni, futhi angakwazi ukuzithokozisa?
Uma ubudlelwano bakho buzohlala futhi buchume, udinga ukuvalelisa emcabangweni wokuthi ngandlela thile uphansi. Kokubili ngenxa yakho.
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Into yokuqala okudingeka uyenze ukuthola ukuthi le mizwa yokuzenyeza ivelaphi.
Kungani uzizwa ungafanelekile othandweni lomlingani wakho?
Ngemuva kwalokho, sizobheka ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nale mizwa ngqo bese ufinyelela ekuqapheleni ukuthi wena kukhona ilungele noma ngubani.
Izizathu eziyi-7 zokuthi kungani uzizwe ungafanelekile kuzakwenu
Into yokuqala esidinga ukuyidwebela ukuthi akukho kulezi empeleni okuyizaba ezisemthethweni zokuzwa ukuthi umlingani wakho ulunge kakhulu kuwe, ngoba akunjalo, futhi yilokho.
Akekho umuntu ‘olunge’ kakhulu komunye umuntu.
Kepha kunini lapho abantu bake badinga khona izaba ezisemthethweni zokuzwa ngendlela esizizwa ngayo?
Asinangqondo ngokwemvelo, futhi singumphumela wakho konke okuhlangenwe nakho okusibumbayo.
Futhi kubalulekile ukucubungula izimbangela zalokhu kuziphatha okungenangqondo nemicabango ukuze ukwazi ukusebenza kuzo.
1. Ukwazile ukungazethembi useyingane.
Lokhu konke kungavela kokuhlangenwe nakho obukade useyingane okusho ukuthi awuzange uzakhele izinga eliphakeme lokuzethemba.
Okuhlangenwe nakho esinakho ebuntwaneni kwakha indlela esicabanga ngayo futhi esizibona ngayo impilo yethu yonke.
Mhlawumbe utshelwe ukuthi awulungile ngokwanele, noma wenziwa wacabanga ngaleyo ndlela ngesipiliyoni esithile ophila kuso.
2. Usaba ukwaliwa.
Ukuzikholisa ukuthi awumfanele omunye umuntu kwesinye isikhathi kuyisaba sokubeka izindonga ezingokomzwelo lapho wesaba ukuzivumela zingene enhliziyweni yakho.
Uma unokwesaba ukwenqatshwa yilo muntu, kungahle kube ukusabela kwakho okuzenzakalelayo ukuze uzikholwe ukuthi kudalekile ngenxa yokungafaneleki kwakho hhayi ngenxa yokwesaba kwakho.
3. Wake wehliswa othandweni phambilini.
Kwesinye isikhathi, le mizwa yokungafaneleki ingumphumela wesipiliyoni ebudlelwaneni bangaphambilini.
Mhlawumbe wehlise ukuqapha kwakho esikhathini esedlule futhi wazivumela ukuthi ukholwe ukuthi ulufanele uthando lomlingani, kuphela ukuthi konke kubuyiselwe emuva ebusweni bakho.
Uma ukholwa ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bangaphambilini abuzange busebenze ngenxa yento ethile ebikade ishoda ngakuwe, okungenzeka ukuthi idlala indima emizweni oyizwayo manje.
4. Awuzizwa uvikelekile ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukukhathazeka ngokungamlungeli umuntu kungumphumela wokuzizwa, noma ukwenziwa uzizwe ungavikelekile ebudlelwaneni.
Lokhu kungabangelwa ukungazethembi nokuzethemba, kepha futhi kungenxa yokuthi umlingani wakho akenzi iqhaza lakhe ukukwenza uzizwe uvikelekile.
5. Awunakho ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo okudingayo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Mhlawumbe umlingani wakho akakuniki ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo nokuqinisekisa okudingayo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Esikhundleni sokulindela okuningi kubo, unqume ukuthi isizathu sezinkinga eziphakathi kwakho ukuthi awubanele ngokwanele.
6. Ukuzethemba kwakho kungqongqozwa kwezinye izingxenye zempilo yakho.
Kungenzeka ukuthi le mizwa yokungafaneleki ayihlobene neze nomuntu wakho noma nobudlelwano bakho nakancane.
Mhlawumbe le nkinga ikwezinye izingxenye zempilo yakho.
Mhlawumbe udonsa kanzima ngokomsebenzi ngoba ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi noma unesithukuthezi ngomsebenzi wakho.
Mhlawumbe ube nezinkinga nomndeni wakho noma abangane noma untula umuzwa wenjongo.
Uma umlingani wakho kubonakala sengathi impilo yakhe ilawulwa ngokuphelele, ungahle ube nomuzwa wokuthi awuhambisani nezindinganiso zabo eziphakeme.
7. Uke wabhekana nezinguquko zomzimba.
Mhlawumbe inkinga ibangelwa izinguquko zomzimba ohlangabezane nazo ezikhathini zamuva.
Mhlawumbe ubugula, noma ukubukeka kwakho kushintshile ngendlela obona ukuthi imibi.
Lokho kungenzeka kube nomthelela omkhulu ekuzihlonipheni kwakho futhi kwaholela ekubeni ukhathazeke ngokuthi umlingani wakho angaba nomuntu kalula 'ahehe kakhulu' kunawe.
Izinyathelo Ezi-10 Zokuzwa Zanele Kahle Kumlingani Wakho
Uma uzizwa sengathi awumfanele ngokwanele umlingani wakho, leyo yinto okudingeka uyibhekane nayo kungekudala, ngoba le mizwa ingalimaza ngendlela emangalisayo ebudlelwaneni.
Nazi ezinye izindlela ongasebenza ngazo kulokhu, ukukusiza ubone ukuthi ulungele noma ngubani futhi akufanele neze ungabaze ukuzihlonipha kwakho.
1. Thola umsuka wenkinga.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ukucubungula zonke izizathu ezingenhla bese ufaka umunwe wakho kuzona ocabanga ukuthi zingaba yiqiniso kuwe.
Kungaba ukuxubana kwezici ezimbalwa ezihlukile ezinikelayo. Kuphela ngokukhomba imbangela (s) yenkinga lapho ungathatha khona izinyathelo zokuyilungisa.
2. Khuluma nomngane omethembayo noma umeluleki.
Lokhu mhlawumbe akuyona into ongakwazi noma okufanele ubhekane nayo. Udinga ukwesekwa ukuze ukwazi ukusebenza ngalokhu futhi uzuze amazinga ezinempilo okuzethemba.
Zinike isikhathi sokuxoxa ngemizwa yakho nomngane othembela kuye futhi okufunela okuhle.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi kungasiza, umeluleki kufanele nakanjani acatshangelwe. Bangakusiza ukuthi uvalelise kulezi zakhiwo unomphela.
3. Sebenzela ukuzethemba kwakho kuzo zonke izingxenye zempilo yakho.
Ngokuvamile, ukuzethemba kwakho mhlawumbe kudinga ukukhushulwa okukhulu.
Udinga ukuthuthukisa umuzwa ongcono wokubaluleka kwakho. Gxila ezintweni ezinjengokungasebenzisi ulimi olwehlisayo, ngoba amagama akho abaluleke kakhulu ekuqiniseni ukuzibuka kwakho.
Qaphela ulimi lomzimba wakho, ume umude, umomotheka ngokufudumele, futhi uvame ukuhlangana nabanye njengokuzethemba. Ushintsho oluncane olungenza umthelela omkhulu.
4. Gxila ezintweni ezikwenza uzizwe ujabulile futhi wenelisekile.
Lapho sizizwa sidangele ngathi nobudlelwano bethu, ngokuvamile sichitha sonke isikhathi sethu sigxile kokubi ezimpilweni zethu, kunokuhle.
Ngakho-ke, sekuyisikhathi sokugxila kwakho kuzo zonke izinto empilweni yakho ezikugcwalisa ngenjabulo.
Gxila kubangani bakho, emndenini wakho, bese ubeka phambili leyo misebenzi ekwenza uzizwe uzethemba futhi wanelisekile.
Beka kuqala inhlalakahle yakho futhi uzibonakalise ukuthi ufanelekile.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma ungazikhombisi uthando oluthile, ungaziqinisekisa kanjani ukuthi ufanelwe uthando lomlingani wakho?
5. Ziphonsele inselelo.
Uma ungazizwa umanele ngokwanele umlingani wakho, mhlawumbe udinga ezinye izinselelo ezintsha empilweni yakho ukuze uzibonise ukuthi ungumuntu onekhono ngendlela eyisimanga ofanelwe uthando.
Zama okuthile okusha - okuthile okukusabisayo.
6. Zithande lokho oyikho.
Ukucabanga ngale ndlela kuyisibonakaliso esiqinisekile sokuthi amazinga akho okuzithanda aphansi kakhulu, ngakho-ke udinga ukusebenzela kulokho.
ungasho kanjani ukuthi uyathandana
Ukuzithanda kumayelana nokwamukelwa, nokuzinika ikhefu.
Akudingeki ukuthi ube okhanga kakhulu, okhaliphile kakhulu, onamandla kunabo bonke, noma umuntu onobuciko kunabo bonke emhlabeni ukuze ufanele uthando.
7. Khumbula, akuwena wedwa.
Kuhlala kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi akuwena wedwa ozizwa le mizwa.
Sonke siyakungabaza ukuzihlonipha kwethu kaninginingi, futhi lokhu kuyinto ongasebenza kuyo uma uzama ngempela.
8. Cabanga ngobuhlobo bakho.
Isikhathi sokuhlala phansi futhi uthembeke kuwe mayelana nobudlelwano bakho.
Ingabe le mizwa nemicabango ingumphumela wezakhiwo zakho?
Noma, ingabe umlingani wakho wenza izinto ezihlanganisa imizwa yakho yokungabalungeli ngokwanele?
Ingabe bayakusekela, noma bakwenzele phansi?
Ngabe lokhu kungaphansi kwezinkinga odinga ukuzilungisa, noma ngabe kunenkinga ebudlelwaneni bakho edinga ukubhekwa?
9. Yiba nengxoxo eqotho nomlingani wakho.
Uma usubonakalisile ngalesi simo, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uvuleke futhi uthembeke kumlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi ubuzizwa kanjani.
Khetha isikhathi esihle sokuhlala phansi uvule imizwa yakho nokuthi kungani ucabanga ukuthi kungaba njalo.
Qaphela ukuthi uyihlela kanjani ukuze ingalimazi imizwa yabo , ikakhulukazi uma ubonile ukuthi izinkinga ezakho ngokuphelele, futhi azihlangene nendlela umlingani wakho aziphatha ngayo kuwe.
Xhuma kabusha nomlingani wakho.
Uma nizobhekana nalokhu nozakwenu, nobabili kudingeka nichithe isikhathi esiningi sekhwalithi ndawonye, nijabula futhi nithola inhlansi eqale yakuletha ndawonye.
Uma usebenza ukuzethemba kwakho futhi uqinisekisa ukuthi nobabili nifaka umzamo ebudlelwaneni benu, kufanele nikwazi ukudlula kulokhu njengomuntu ozethembayo futhi nizithandani ezinamandla.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi wenzeni ngemizwa yakho yokungabalungeli ngokwanele? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
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