Wake wahlangana narcissist ngaphambili? Ube yisisulu somunye? Ngemuva kwalokho uzofuna ukufunda lokhu. Konke.
Ube nenhlanhla ngokwanele yokuthi awukaze ubhekane nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist nganoma yisiphi isikhathi empilweni yakho? Usazofuna ukufunda lokhu. Konke.
AbakwaNarcissists bangabaphathi bolimi abasebenzisa amagama ukukhohlisa, ukuphoqa, ukukhohlisa nokudukisa. Banolimi oluyimfoloko lwenyoka futhi abanakho ukungabaza uma kukhulunywa ngokukhipha ukuhlukunyezwa okunobuthi, okuyisidina kuzisulu zabo.
Ukukhohlisa ngomlomo kuyindlela abayithandayo yokukhohlisa futhi banethalente lokukhuluma into efanele ngesikhathi esifanele ukudida, ukubukela phansi nokubukela phansi omunye umuntu.
Babeka phansi izisulu zabo, ngenhloso yokufuna ukubenza bazizwe bengelutho ukuze babathobele entandweni yabo. Imidlalo engapheli yengqondo yomlobi we-narcissist ilimaza ngendlela emangalisayo kulabo abasemkhatsini wokuthola ingaholela ekukhathazekeni, ekucindezelekeni, nakuyo yonke eminye imiphumela yengqondo.
Abahlukumezekile basala behlukumezekile yi-bombardment, nge ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo lokho kubonakala kungapheli. Bakhubazeka ngokwengqondo ngokuhlaselwa, bengakuqondi okwenzekayo noma ukuthi bangaphunyuka kanjani kukho.
Yingakho kubalulekile ukuthi uzifundise maqondana nolimi olunosizi lwama-narcissist kuphela lapho uzokwazi ukulubona lapho uhlangabezana nalo. Ukwazi izindlela zabo kuzokusiza ukuthi wakhe isihlangu ekuhlaselweni kwabo futhi kukulungiselele ukuphunyuka ngokushesha uma kungenzeka uhehe ngakunye.
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Uma usuvele uhlukunyeziwe ezandleni zombhali, ukuqonda kangcono ukuthi basebenza kanjani kungasiza kwinqubo yakho yokutakula. Kungasiza ukukuncenga ukuthi ubeyisisulu hhayi nje ukuthi ubambe iqhaza kuso sonke isiqephu. Noma ngabe iyiphi indima ocabanga ukuthi uyidlalile, maningi amathuba okuthi ubelingisa nje intando yombhali wezincwadi.
Ngakho-ke, nazi ezinye zezindlela umhlukumezi azosebenzisa ngazo ulimi ukulawula isisulu sakhe.
Ukuhlukunyezwa Kwezinga Eliphansi
Lesi yisambulela semifudlana ecishe ingapheli yamazwana amancane, acishe angabalulekile akha isisekelo sokunukubezwa ngomuntu we-narcissist.
Le yindlela abazovame ukuqala ngayo ukulawula izisulu zabo, baqale ekuqaleni kobudlelwano lapho kungabonakala kungaphutha elincane ekuziphatheni kwabo okuthandekayo.
Imvamisa ngokumomotheka kobungane ebusweni babo, bazosho izinto ezinjengokuthi 'uyinto ebucayi kakhulu angithi?' noma 'cha, awuqondanga kahle ebengikusho.' Lokhu kungukuqala kwenqubo ende kakhulu yokwehlisa isisulu phansi, kepha kuyaqabukela kubonakale ukuthi kuyini ngenxa yokuthi kubonakala kungabalulekile.
Lolu hlobo lokuhlukumezeka olufihliwe luzoqhubeka kulo lonke ubudlelwano njengokuhambisana nokuhlaselwa okuqhubekayo, okukhohlisayo.
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Inganekwane ethi 'Ubuhlobo Obukhethekile'
Okunye okuzokwenziwa ngabakwa-narciss, ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, ukukholisa isisulu sabo ngesibopho esiyingqayizivele nesikhethekile abanaso. Bangasebenzisa imishwana enjengokuthi 'Angikaze ngizwe lolu hlobo lothando kunoma ngubani phambilini' noma 'engikuzwayo ngawe kungaphezulu kakhulu kwalokho abantu abaningi abacabanga ukuthi uthando luyikho.'
Lolu uhlobo lokuzilungisa oluqala ukuhlwanyela imbewu yokubekezelela esikhathini esizayo kwesisulu sokuhlukunyezwa okulimaza kakhulu. Babambeke emqondweni wokuthi lokho kanye nabalingani babo be-narcissist abanakho akufani nanoma yini abake babhekana nayo ngaphambili.
Badukisiwe bacabanga ukuthi bonke ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu buqhuma futhi bunothando futhi lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi okwabo kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Isisulu siyakholelwa kuleli 'qiniso' futhi, ngaleyo ndlela, sikuthola kunzima kakhulu ukuyeka izinto usuku nosuku.
Bengingaqondile / Bengizincokolela Kuphela
Enye indlela umuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi anganikeza ngayo ukuhlukumezeka kulabo abahlukumezekile ukuthi aqhubeke nokuchitha ukuthukwa noma ukugxekwa ngokuthi azisho bona ngempela.
Bazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi inyamazane yabo izobe ilinyazwe ukuphawula kokuqala, kepha yenza izaba zabo zokufihla inhloso yabo enonya. Bathi bebehlekisa, kepha, empeleni, bebehamba ngobuqili behlasela ukuze bazenzele isikhundla esiphakeme.
Lolu hlobo lolimi luqhubeka lubeka isisulu ekwamukeleni isimilo sombhali. Iyabadida futhi ibenze bangabi nesiqiniseko sokuthi kufanele baphatheke kabi noma cha. Ukungazi ukuthi ukubheka nini ukuphawula njengokuhlambalaza nokuthi ukukuthatha nini njengehlaya kumane nje kunikeze umuntu osebenzisa izihibe amandla okusho lokho akuthandayo.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Ne-Narcissist: Ukuphela Kwendlela Okuqinisekisiwe Ukusebenza
- Ukuqinisekiswa Kwempilo Kwezisulu Zokuhlukunyezwa KwamaNarcissistic
- Ungayilimaza Kanjani i-Narcissist
- Uthando Lokuqhuma Amabhomu: Isibonakaliso Sesexwayiso Sokuqala sokuthi Uthandana Nomuntu OyiNarcissist
- Izinkawu Ezindizayo ZikaNarcissist Nendlela Yokugwema Imiphumela Yazo Enobuthi
- ICoververt Narcissist: Izinhlobo Ezinamahloni, Ezingenisiwe Zingaba Narcissists Kanjani
Ukuqondisa Amaphutha Nokungavikeleki
I-narcissist inekhono elingaqondakali lokukhipha ukungazethembi komuntu kuzo futhi ikhombe zonke izinto omunye umuntu azithatha njengeziphutha. Futhi banenkumbulo enhle yezinto ezinjalo nesikhathi esicishe siphelele uma kukhulunywa ngokuzisebenzisa ngokumelene nezisulu zabo.
Bangaze babe buthakathaka ekubuzeni kwabo, besebenzisa isembozo sobudlelwane obusondelene nokuba sengozini ukudiliza noma yiziphi izivikelo abangase bahlangane nazo. Kulowo ohlukunyezwayo, kuzwakala kuyindlela yokwakha nokuqinisa isibopho esakhiwe njengamanje, kepha kumuntu osebenza ngezidakamizwa, kuyindlela yokwakha izitolo zabo zezinhlamvu ezizosetshenziswa kamuva.
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Lapho isikhathi sifika, bazokwethula okuhlaselayo, basebenzise imininingwane oyinikeze ngokuthembela ekuvuleleni amanxeba amadala futhi kukwenze uzwe ukuhlukumezeka nobuhlungu obufana nobakho impilo yakho yonke.
I-narcissist ichuma ngamandla abambe phezu kwakho futhi ayesabi ukuwusebenzisa kunoma yisiphi isimo lapho ibona sengathi ingaqhubekisela phambili injongo yayo.
Ukudumisa Okungamanga Nokugxekwa Kwangempela
Ukuqhamuka njengobumnandi, obuthandekayo, futhi nokuncoma kuyikhono abaningi bama-narcissist abanalo. Bangadumisa kakhulu abanye abantu uma kubafanele, kepha akukho nelilodwa igama elisuka enhliziyweni futhi elithembekile.
Esikhundleni salokho, basebenzisa ukudumisa okungamanga ukuze basebenzise abanye, ukubenza babheke eceleni, nokwenza ukugxeka okulandelayo kube mnandi kakhulu. Bangase basho izinto ezinjengokuthi 'Ngiyayithanda ingubo yakho, kodwa empeleni ayisiqhakambisi isibalo sakho' njengendlela yokunciphisa igalelo ngenkathi usaqhubeka nokumba.
Kungabonakala njengokuthembeka, kepha akunjalo. Ukuncoma akuyona into emane kungamanga - okuthile bona ngokwabo abakholelwa kukho, kepha lokho kufeza injongo yabo.
Lesi ngesinye isibonelo sokuhlukumeza ngokuphelele okuthile okungase kungabonakali kubi kangako kohlukunyezwayo nakubabukeli ngokufanayo, kepha okunomthelela okhulayo nokonakalisa ukuzethemba kwalabo okubhekiswe kubo.
Ukuqagela
Imicabango nezenzo ezingadingeki, ezimbi, nezinobungozi ezisuselwa kumuntu othanda izigebengu akuzona izinto abafisa ukuzibona kuzo. Ukunqoba lokhu, lokhu kucatshangelwa kwesisulu sabo njengendlela yokudlulisela inkinga komunye umuntu.
Badedela inqwaba yamagama aklanyelwe ukukholisa omunye umuntu ngephutha labo, ukubenza babe ngoqweqwe ukuze bakholwe ukuthi benze okungalungile yize bengakwenzanga.
Benza izinsolo ezinjengokuthi 'uyaphanjaniswa' noma 'uyinqaba yokulawula' ukuze babonise izinkinga zabo bese bezifaka ezinkolelweni zezisulu zabo.
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Bayakuphinda lokhu kaninginingi, ngokuqiniseka okukhulu ukuthi omunye umuntu agcine ecabanga ukuthi empeleni bahlanganisa lezi zimfanelo noma ukuthi empeleni benze ububi obuthile.
Ukukhanyisa igesi
Lapho i-narcissist ingadida isisulu sayo, kuba lula ukuyenza igobele entandweni yayo. Bazosukela umkhankaso wokukhohlisa nokukhohlisa okuzothonya kancane isisulu sabo ukuthi balahlekelwa yingqondo. Ngokufiphaza umbono womunye umuntu weqiniso, i-narcissist ingabhala ngempumelelo umbhalo wayo futhi yazi ukuthi izokwamukelwa njengeqiniso.
Bazohlala bebuza inkumbulo yesisulu sabo futhi bagcizelele ukuthi imicimbi yehlukile kulokho okukhunjulwayo. Bazogodla imininingwane noma basebenzise iqiniso ukudala ukungabaza nokudideka komunye umuntu. Inhloso ukwenza isisulu sizizwe sincike kakhulu kubo futhi mancane amathuba okushiya.
Bangasho okuthile emigqeni yokuthi 'ngiyabonga ngokukhipha udoti namhlanje ekuseni' noma ngabe bazi kahle ukuthi bakwenzile bona. Lapho omunye umuntu ephendula ngokuthi abayikhiphanga, umbhali wezinwele uzogcizelela ukuthi kumele ngabe bakwenzile ngoba nakanjani abakwenzanga, futhi akuzange kuzihambele.
Into encane, mhlawumbe, kepha lapho lesi sehlakalo siphindaphindwa kaninginingi, singadida kabi isisulu.
Ukucula Ohlukunyeziwe
Ukuze kugcinwe umoya wokujwayelekile, nokubeka lonke icala ezinyaweni zomunye umuntu, umlobi wezinambuzane uzogcizelela ukuthi abakaze babe nezinkinga nabantu abangaphandle kobudlelwano.
yizinto ezilula empilweni
Bazofuna izinto ezinjengokuthi “uwena kuphela umuntu enginenkinga naye” noma “akekho omunye umuntu oke abonakale engangiqonda kahle njengawe” ukuze enze isisulu sikholwe ukuthi inkinga ilele kubo.
Lokhu kuqhubeka nokwenza buthakathaka ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kwelinye iqembu futhi kubenze babe sengozini yokuphathwa ngokuzayo.
Ukuthula, Umthamo, Nethoni
Kwesinye isikhathi ukusetshenziswa kolimi okunamandla kunakho konke okusetshenziswa yi-narcissist ukulandela indlela yokuthula. Ngesikhathi sokuhilizisana, bangavele bakhethe ukugqama, ukuhwaqabala, ukunikina amakhanda, noma ukufulathela.
Ngenye indlela, bangaguqula ivolumu yamazwi abo ukushintsha indlela abafinyelela ngayo umyalezo wabo. Bangase bakhulise kakhulu noma bathule noma ushintsho kungukubonakaliswa kobubi obugobhoza ngaphansi kobuso,
Bangashintsha futhi ithoni abakhuluma ngayo ukuze badlulisele incazelo ehlukile emazwini abo. Bangakhuluma baphakeme kancane lapho bezivikela noma begcizelela ngokukhethekile amagama athile ukucindezela i-ajenda yabo.
Lokhu kusetshenziswa kolimi - nokunye okufana nakho - kuklanyelwe ukuba nomthelela nokulawula isisulu. Umuntu osebenza ngezidakamizwa uzothatha noma iyiphi indlela edingekayo ukuze aqhubeke nempi yakhe yokuzijabulisa, afake omunye umuntu phansi ekuhlaselweni okungapheli engqondweni. Ukuhlonza la maqhinga kuyisinyathelo sokuqala kuphela sokuwanqoba kanye nokuzikhulula ekubanjweni umhlukumezi oyisichwensi anakho kuwe.
Lo mbhalo uphefumulelwe ngu Ulimi Oluyimfihlo LwamaNarcissist kusuka ku-Shahida Arabi engincoma futhi ukuthi uyifunde. Futhi uma ufuna ukuthola ukubukeka okujulile ngalesi sihloko, athenge incwadi yakhe kwa-Amazon okutshela konke odinga ukukwazi.
Uke wahlupheka ngolimi lomuntu osebenzisa izihibe? Ngabe uyakwazi ukuxhumana nolimi oluchazwe ngenhla? Shiya amazwana bese wabelana ngemicabango yakho nabanye.
