Uhlobo lwe-narcissist iningi lethu elicabanga ukuthi siyalazi yilolo olucatshangwayo oluvame ukuvezwa kumafilimu nakumabonakude. Lo ngumuntu onomsindo futhi ocijile, obeka abanye phansi ukuzijabulisa kwabo, udinga ukuba yisikhungo sokunakwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ungalokothi ukhathalele ukuthi ukhuluma ngani: ake siphinde sikhulume ngabo!
Ngokuphambene nalokho, i-narcissist eyethuliwe kunzima kakhulu ukuyibona. Futhi banxanela ukunakwa nokunconywa, kodwa bazokwenza kanjalo ngezindlela ezingenzi lutho. Bangazifela ngokwabo ngenxa yesizathu ukuze abanye badumise ukungabi nabugovu kwabo, noma badlale isisulu esimweni ukuze bathole ukuzwelana.
Bazosebenzisa amahloni abo ukwenza izintambo kubantu abazokwenza konke okusemandleni ukubakhulisa, babaqinisekise ngokuthi bakhetheke kangakanani futhi bayaphana futhi banomusa kangakanani, bese bejika bese behlambalaza i-White Knight yabo uma bezama ukubuyela emuva bayeke ukubadumisa ngokudumisa.
Lolu hlobo lwe-narcissist olufihlekile lungalimaza abantu ngokulinganayo, kepha kunzima kakhulu ukukubona. Kulula kakhulu ukubona umuntu osebenzisa izinto zobudlova ojwayelekile ngokuya ngokuziphatha kwakhe, kepha umuntu osithekelayo angathatha izinyanga ukuziveza… bese kuthi ngaleso sikhathi, umonakalo usuvele wenzekile.
Nazi ezinye izinto okufanele uzibheke lapho ucabanga ukuthi ungahle ubhekane ne-narcissist eyimfihlo:
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Ubudlova Bokuphatha Nokukhwabanisa
I-narcissist egodliwe efuna ukwaziswa nokudunyiswa ngobuhle bayo ingahle icasuke noma iziphi izimfuno ozenza kuzo. Lapho futhi udinga okuthile kubo, bazokusho 'impela' futhi bakuqinisekise ukuthi bazokukhathalela, akunankinga, bese bethukuthela bathule ngokuthula ngoba bazizwa bephelelwe amandla isikhathi namandla kudlalwe.
Bazokugwema ukwenza lokho okucelwe kubo, bese bekugwema lapho uzama ukubalandela. Ufika nini futhi uma ekugcineni ubhekana nabo mayelana nokuziphatha kwabo, cishe bazokhamuluka baqhubeke nokuthi bebematasa kangakanani nokuthi ubungacabangi kangakanani ngokwenza izidingo ezingenangqondo ezinjalo zesikhathi sabo.
Bangase benze lokho okucelile kubo, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi awusoze wezwa ukuphela kwakho, futhi bazotshela wonke umuntu ukuthi wawubabhedela kangakanani ukuze bazuze uzwelo lwabanye abantu ngenkathi bevela njengabafel 'ukholo abababazekayo.
Laba bantu abasebenzisa izihlukumezi futhi abanankinga yokwehlisa izindlela zokukhohlisa eziphansi, ezinamacala amaningi ukuze bathole abakuthandayo. Isibonelo kungaba ngumuntu ofuna umlingani wakhe azohlala naye ekhaya ngoba abazizwa kahle. Lapho umlingani ebaqinisekisa ukuthi bazolunga isikhashana ngaphandle kwabo, umbulali angaphikisana nokuthile okufana nokuthi, “Awu, kulungile. Uyaphuma uyozijabulisa nabangane bakho. Ukuze wazi nje, nginenkinga yokuphefumula, ngakho-ke uma ngihlaselwa yisifuba somoya bese ngifa ngoba ngilapha ngedwa, kuzofanele uphile nalokho. ”
Lokho kungabonakala kumnandi, kepha lokho kuyisibonelo esicishe senziwe ngomuntu othile obefanele abhekane namaqhinga anjalo elungu lomndeni. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kuhambisana kanye ne…
kungani i-narcissist ifuna ukukulimaza
Ukuntula Uzwela
Kungenzeka ukuthi ulele embhedeni umkhuhlane uphakeme kakhulu kangangokuthi uhlangana nemibono, kodwa-ke, uthembisile ukuthi uzophuma uye kudina kusihlwa, futhi uma wephula leso sithembiso, kusho ukuthi uyi-assh * le yobugovu. Lokhu yinto umuntu ongacasuli ongakusola ngayo, ngoba konke abangagxila kukho ukuthi izinhlelo zabo eziyigugu zizophazamiseka, okubacasulayo. Abacabangi ngempela ukuthi ungazizwa kanjani. Kungenzeka ukuthi abakwazi ngisho nokwenza kanjalo.
Lokhu ukungabi naluzwela kungalimaza kakhulu abantu ababazungezile, ngoba empeleni abakwazi ukuba nenjongo ngemiphumela yezenzo zabo (noma ukuntuleka kwayo) kwabanye.
Umzali ocashile we-narcissist onempilo ebuthakathaka angenza izimfuno ezingenangqondo ngokuphelele emalungwini omndeni wakhe kuze kube yilapho oshade naye, izingane, ngisho nezingane zakubo zikhishwa kuze kube seqophelweni eliphezulu, kepha ngeke nje bakubone. Konke abangagxila kukho yimpilo yabo egulayo, abakufunayo, izidingo zabo, futhi noma ngubani ongenzi lokho abafuna ukukwenza bazizwe bengcono / bajabule uyisiqhwaga esinonya, esingenazwela futhi esingenandaba nabo.
Ukuzithathela kwabo kanye nokungabi naluzwela kwabanye kungathinta nalabo abangaphandle komphakathi wabo. I-narcissist ingalimaza ubungani bomlingani wabo noma bezingane, ubudlelwano obusondelene nabo, imfundo, noma nemisebenzi yabo ngamaqhinga amakhulu okuphatha.
Lapho laba bantu bebizelwa izenzo zabo, bazodlala isisulu ngokushesha. Bazokudweba njengomuntu owesabekayo ongabakhombisi uzwela noma uzwela, bakunikeze ukuthula, futhi ube ngumuntu ononya owesabekayo uze ubanikeze lokho abakufunayo futhi.
indlela yokubhekana nabantu abangakuthandi
Ukufunda okubaluleke kakhulu kwe-narcissist (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Izinto eziyi-8 i-Narcissist Angeke ikwenzele zona (Noma Noma ngubani Omunye)
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Ne-Narcissist: Ukuphela Kwendlela Okuqinisekisiwe Ukusebenza
- Ukususwa komuntu: Indlela YamaNarcissists Nama-Sociopaths Ukuphatha kabi Abanye
- Ngabe Uyiphutha iMachiavellianism YeNarcissism?
- Ukuthi Ukukhohlakala Kobukhulu BamaNarcissist Kubavimba Kanjani Ekukuthandeni
- AmaMaski ayisi-6 amaNarcissist angagqoka (nokuthi ungawabeka kanjani)
Hypersensitivity, Ikakhulukazi Ekugxekeni
Bobabili abakwa-narcissist abajwayelekile nabangasese bayakuzonda ukugxekwa, kepha kanti okuvelele, i-megalomaniacal standard narcissist inomqondo okweqile wokuzibona kwabo kubalulekile futhi izophendula ngezindondo ezihlabayo, i-narcissist eyimfihlo ivame ukuba nezinkinga ngokuzethemba, futhi izophendula ngendlela ehlukile.
Inarcissists eminingi eyethuliwe izovame ukuphendula kokucatshangwa okuncane ngokuhlaselwa okuphakeme. Bazozama ukuxhaphaza omunye umuntu ngalokho abakubona kungukuqonda kwabo okuphezulu, bakhulume imibuthano ebazungezile ukuze babadide futhi babenze bazizwe bebancane, bese bebahleka usulu ngokungakwazi 'ukuhambisana.'
Le yindlela i-narcissist efihlekile egcina ngayo umuzwa wayo ophakeme wokuzibona ubalulekile: ngokwephula noma ngubani ozama ukubangqubuza esisekelweni sabo, nganoma iyiphi indlela edingekayo. Akudingi nokuthi kube ukugxeka okwedlulele okuzobaphonsa ku-furor: kungahle kube yisimo esilula njengokubuzwa kweminye yemikhuba yabo, noma okusho ukuthi enye inkambo yesenzo ingaba umqondo ongcono kunowodwa babenomqondo.
Bazozama ngokushesha ukubuyisela obuzayo “endaweni” yakhe, bavame ukufuna ukuthi bavikele umbono wabo, bese bachitha konke abakushoyo ngamazwana abunayo. Ngokuyinhloko babahlukumeza ukuze bazithobe futhi babathulise ngamahloni nokuzithemba kwabo. Lapho-ke, uma kuphela ukuhleba okuncane kwamandla omuntu sekuqediwe, i-narcissist izokwenza uthando-ibhomu obuzayo futhi axolise futhi akhulume ngomonakalo wabo wobuntu kanye nokuba sengozini kwabo ukubuyisa uzwela nokukhulekelwa abakufisayo, futhi wonke umjikelezo uqala kabusha.
lapho indoda ishiya umndeni wayo
Ama-coar narcissists nawo azwela kakhulu ekucindezelekeni nasezinkingeni zobukhona bansuku zonke. Ngenkathi i-narcissist ephuma kakhulu izomane iqede indlela yabo yokuphila inganaki kangako umonakalo oyimbangela abawudalayo, uhlobo olufihlayo lungafaka izinto ngaphakathi, lucabangisise, futhi lube nokukhathazeka okukhulu nengcindezi enkulu. Bangaze bagweme umhlaba obanzi futhi bathole ukunikezwa kwabo kwe-narcissistic ngokukhethekile kubantu abambalwa abahlala kubo eduze kwabo.
Ngokungafani nozakwabo obedlulele abakholelwa ukuthi bayisipho sikankulunkulu, umlobi oyimfihlo angaba nemizwa eyimfihlo yehlazo, nokungafaneleki. Bazokugwema ukuthintana nanoma ngubani impumelelo yakhe abayithandayo ngasese, ngoba abakwazi ukubhekana nokungavikeleki umhlangano onjalo ongabakhuthaza. Ngakho-ke bazizungeza nabantu abababona njengabaphansi, ukuze balondoloze umbono osentekenteke wokuzibona onabo ngabo.
Wangenisa, Kepha Hhayi Ngendlela Yesiko
Ama-covert narcissists angahlangana njengabangenisi, futhi ngandlela thile ayibo, kepha kokunye ahluke kakhulu kulokho obukulindele ngokweqile.
Kokunye, ngokungafani nabethuli abaningi, bangabalaleli bemfucumfucu. Imane nje ayinikezi ama-hoot amabili ngempilo yakho noma ngezinkinga zakho kungcono bakhulume ngazo uqobo.
Lokhu kuzithathela futhi kusho ukuthi, ngokungafani nabangenisi beqiniso, abanandaba kangako nezinto abazifunayo njengokufunda, ukuhamba izintaba, ezemidlalo wedwa, ukubhaka, ukuhamba kwamabhayisikobho, izinsimbi zomculo, amaphazili, njll. Bathanda imisebenzi engenziwanga ngaphezulu ezokwenza indlela ethile ibazuzisa - ukuzilungisa, ukuyothenga, ukuya ezindaweni zokudlela ezibizayo (ukuze baziqhayise ngakho kamuva), nanoma yini engabakhuthaza emehlweni abanye.
Njengabethuli abaningi, bachitha isikhathi esiningi emakhanda abo, kepha akusiwo umcabango wokudala obamba ukunaka kwabo, kodwa imicabango yabo eyonakalisayo yokuzingabaza, yokucindezela. Bahlushwa izinkinga zabo (ezingokoqobo noma ezibonakalayo), ubudlelwano babo (imizwa yomona, umona, nentukuthelo ukubala nje abambalwa), nokuhlela izindlela zokukhohlisa abanye.
Vala, yebo. Ngenisa, hhayi impela.
Ukuzikhipha ebuhlotsheni nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist ekusithekeni kungaba nzima kakhulu: bayovame ukuthola ububele nesihawu abakukhuthaze kuwe ukuqala, bezama ukulawula imizwa yakho ukuze ungahoxisi umbele wokunikeza amandla kubo. Uma kade bekukhanyisa ngogesi , ungaba nobunzima bokukholwa eyakho imicabango nemizwelo njengeyiqiniso futhi evumelekile.
Akunamahloni okufuna ukwelulekwa ukukusiza ukuthi uzulazule noma uzisuse ebudlelwaneni obufana nalobu, noma ngabe unelungu lomndeni eliseduze, umlingani, noma umuntu okuthiwa umngani. Uyakufanelekela ukuhlonishwa, ukwethembeka, nothando, futhi ngeke uthole noma yikuphi kwalokhu okuvela kumuntu osebenza ngezidakamizwa, noma nini, noma ngabe banjani.
izinto ezihlekisayo okufanele uzenze lapho unesithukuthezi
Ngabe uke waba nokusebenzelana nomuntu ocashile we-narcissist? Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi bahluke kanjani kumuntu othanda ukucasula, obala ngokweqile? Shiya amazwana ngezansi ukuze wabelane ngemicabango yakho.
