Amaski Ayisithupha E-Narcissist (Nokuthi Ungawabeka Kanjani)

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AmaNarcissist ngabantu abavame ukuzama ukufihla ubuntu babo beqiniso. Umnyombo wawo lo muzwa ongakhululekile ngokudalula ukuthi bangobani ngempela.



Lokhu kubangelwa ukulimala kwabo ebuntwaneni kanye nokungavikeleki nokuzazi abanakho konke.

Ngokuya ngezinkumbulo zabo ezingagunci nezicacile zezidingo zobuntwana ezingakahlangani, ama-narcs amaningi athuthukisa umbono wokuthi izidingo ezinjalo azisoze zahlangatshezwa kamuva empilweni. Lokhu kwesaba okuyisisekelo kungumgogodla wokunamathisela okungenamqondo nokungaqondakali kwabanye be-narcissist. Bakhokhela ukwesaba ukungazitholi izidingo zabo ngesitayela esenziwe kahle, esizimele ngokweqile.



yini i-tiktok ethandwa kakhulu

Le cocktail yokwesaba nokukhokha ngokweqile nakho kuholela ekuntulekeni kokusondelana nabo, isikhala sokuzazi. Ngenxa yalokho, baba ngabalingisi abenza indima engenasici ukuze bahlangane nabanye futhi bathole lokho abakushoyo, okuyikho ngaphansi kohlelo lwabo oluyimfihlo: imali, isimo, indawo yokuhlala, ubulili, uthando, ukunconywa,… lokhu kuyisidina ukuhlinzeka abadinga ukusebenza empilweni. Ukuze bahehe abantu kwiwebhu yabo futhi bathole lokhu kuhlinzekwa kwe-narcissistic, bafaka imaski yomphakathi ekhangayo.

Kunezinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko ze-narcissist: i-cerebral ne-somatic. I-cerebral narcissist 'yazi konke,' izikhukhumeza, futhi ihlakaniphile 'ikhompyutha' - konke kumayelana nobuchopho. Ama-narcissist eSomatic akhathazeke kakhulu nge-soma noma umzimba, ukuthi ubukeka kahle kangakanani, ukuthi ungenzani, nokuthi balunge kangakanani ocansini.

Ngaphakathi kwalezi zinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko, kunezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene ze-narcissist ngokuya nge-egos yazo, ukwakheka kobuchopho, izimo, kanye nezisusa ababhekene nazo ebuntwaneni: ukufihla, ukuvelela, kanye kubi phakathi kwazo.

Lezi zinhlobo zizokwakhiwa zibe izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zomuntu ngezikhathi ezahlukahlukene ukuze kuhlangatshezwane nezwe: izimaski.

1. Isisulu

Lolu uhlobo lomuntu ohlale eyisisulu sesimo. Bonke abantu asebekhulile bayahlanya, abakwazi ukubamba umsebenzi omuhle ngenxa yebhadi, abanabo abangane ngoba abantu banomona kakhulu ngabo, njalo njalo, ngokungapheli.

izinto ongaxoxa ngazo nomngani wakho

Lo narcissist akazinaki izenzo zabo ngoba engqondweni yabo kababophezelekile kubo (lokhu kungenxa yendlela yokuzivikela ye-neurotic ukuqagela ), ngakho-ke zonke izindaba abakutshela zona zizoba nomphetho ofanayo: noma yini eyenzekayo, akulona iphutha labo elabo bonke abantu.

Uma becabanga ukuthi ungaba isisulu sokuhlaselwa, bazohlangana njengomntwana osengozini odinga kakhulu ukwamukelwa nokuvikelwa.

2. UMthandi

Impilo yalolu hlobo lwe-narcissist igxile ekuzithokoziseni kwabo ngokocansi futhi bazofuna ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabo ngokuziphonsa embhedeni nabalingani abaningi abahlukene. Kubo, inani lezinothi ezisekelweni lombhede wabo liwuphawu lokuheha nempumelelo yabo.

Lawa ma-narcs angongqondongqondo bokubukeka nokuthopha, futhi bakusebenzisa ukudweba kokuhlosiwe / izisulu zabo, kuphela ukubalahla eceleni kwendlela lapho injabulo yokujaha nokwaneliseka kwempumelelo yabo kuphelile futhi nobudlelwano obunamandla buba buthuntu emehlweni abo.

Abathandi bama-narcissist banobuhlungu benhliziyo obufihlekile. Bazosebenzisa amandla abo okuheha ukudakisa isisulu sabo ngaphambi kokuphula izinhliziyo zabo. Ekuqaleni babonakala njengosuku olufanele, kepha abanakekeli omunye umuntu ngaphandle kwabo futhi isenzo sabo sisebenza kuphela ukuhlangabezana nezidingo nezifiso zabo.

Zizoba ngothando, zithandeke, futhi ngokuzumayo zitholakale kuwe nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, kepha ngeke zihlale isikhathi eside. Ngemuva kwesikhashana kwalokhu okunamandla, bazokushintshanisa ngokunqoba okusha ngokuphazima kweso.

Ukufundwa okuningi kwe-narcissist (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):

3. Abasebenza ngokweqile

Bangcono kakhulu emsebenzini wabo ngaso sonke isikhathi ekusebenzeni okuphezulu. Akekho umuntu onekhono, onomthwalo wemfanelo, ozibophezele futhi ophumelele emsebenzini wakhe ukwedlula lo muntu. Bangakhuluma ngakho ngokungapheli (empeleni, ngeke baxoxe nganoma yini enye), noma ngabe yimuphi umsebenzi we-narcissist onawo. Njalo uma bekhuluma, uba nomuzwa wokuthi ulalele umnikazi wenkampani yezizwe ngezizwe, noma okungenani kubonakala kunjalo.

Uma unomlingiswa onjengalokhu emsebenzini wakho, qaphela. Ukuzikhulumela okungapheli kokuthi balunge kangakanani empeleni kufihla inqwaba yokungazethembi, futhi uma bezizwa besongelwa, kungenzeka babe nolaka Ukuhlukumeze noma zama ukukuqeda ngomkhankaso we-smear.

Zama ukuziqhelelanisa nabo. Uma ungeke ukwenze lokho, go rock grey (okungasebenzi ngokomzwelo) lapho uxhumana nabo.

4. UMhlengi

Bahlale bekulungele. Ukukusiza ngezindawo ezithile, ukuhlela ngempelasonto enhle kakhulu, ukugeza izitsha nawe ngemuva kwephathi, ukukunikeza izeluleko ngalowo msebenzi omusha onqikaza ngawo. Bazohlala njalo bekuvikela, bekuvikela futhi bakunakekele.

ukumelana kanjani nothile

Izisulu eziningi zama-narcissists (ngenxa ye-CPTSD - i-post post traumatic syndrome disorder - imvamisa imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa emindenini yabo) banomcabango wokuthi umsindisi uzoza ngesikhathi esithile ukulungisa izimpilo zabo futhi konke kuzobe kuphelele kusukela kulowo mzuzu kuqhubeke .

Ngiyethemba ukuthi lolu hlobo lwama-narcissist ludlala ngani. Akudingeki ukuthi kushiwo, akukho ukutakula okuzayo.

5. Elitist

I-elitist narcissist igcwele ukuzethemba okukhulu. Bazicabangela bona bodwa futhi benokuzenzisa, banomlutha wokubabazeka komunye. Sikhuluma ngokuziqhayisa nangaphezulu kokunye kunesidingo sokuba ngcono futhi bafakazele ukuthi baphakeme ngazo zonke izindlela.

Akubuzwa ezingqondweni zabo ukuthi bafanelwe ukuphathwa ngendlela ekhethekile yiwo wonke umuntu, futhi uma bengakutholi, bazothukuthela, njengengane ephosa umsindo. Bazibona njengohlobo lwe- 'alpha' lomuntu futhi bazoqinisekisa ukuzungeza nabantu, ngaphansi kwemigomo yabo , aphansi, ukuze kugcinwe umcabango wokuthi yiwona ohamba phambili kunombolo eyodwa.

6. Umfel 'ukholo

Lolu hlobo lwe-narcissist lunikela impilo yabo ekusizeni abanye. Bangase baqhamuke nezitatimende ezinjengokuthi 'Ngingumuntu osiza kakhulu engimaziyo,' noma 'Ngizokwaziwa ngemisebenzi emihle engiyenzile.' Ngokuyisisekelo, sikhuluma ngohlobo lomuntu ozidelayo futhi ozidelayo kangangokuthi ngisho nosanta uzobukeka njengejezi lobugovu uma eqhathaniswa nabo.

Baba “umfelukholo” njengendlela yokugcina yokulawula abanye - ikakhulukazi abalingani babo. Le ndima isetshenziswa kakhulu ngabakwa-narcissists abacashile, abaphendukela kuyo lapho bezizwa bengaphansi kwengcindezi.

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Uma othile ongaphakathi kwesiyingi sakho senhlalo, emsebenzini, ebudlelwaneni, noma ohlobene ngenye indlela ekhombisa izici ezinjengalezi, buyela emuva kangcono bese ukhombisa ukuthi lowo muntu uyilokho abonakala eyikho ngempela yini. Ngemuva kwesikhathi salesi sigaba 'semaski', lapho umbhali wezinsimbi eqiniseka ukuthi ubhajwe, lowo buso uzoqala ukushelela, futhi ngaphansi kulele umuntu ohluke ngokuphelele kunalowo omaziyo. Uzobambeka emdlalweni onganqobi.

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