Okuwukuphela kwakhe Uhlelo lokutakula ukuhlukunyezwa uzodinga njalo.
Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde kabanzi.
Ukuzikhulula ekuhlushweni ngumuntu okuhlukumezayo kuyisiqalo nje senqubo ende yokululama. Into ebonakala ingabalulekile, kepha enamandla, ongayenza ukusiza ukululama kwakho ukuphinda uchungechunge lweziqinisekiso kuwe nsuku zonke.
Ukukhulunywa ngokuzwakalayo ngokuzwakalayo, lezi zitatimende ezinhle ngawe nangempilo yakho zingasiza ingqondo yakho ukuthi ilungise i-monologue yayo yangaphakathi kude nendawo yokungabi namandla, iye endaweni yokunika amandla.
Njengoba ukhuluma noma ucabanga ngabo, wakha futhi uqinise isimo sengqondo esiqinile. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzokwenza kanjalo ube namandla okuqina ekulimaleni nasekulimaleni okwenziwe esikhathini esedlule futhi kungathonyiwe kakhulu yikho.
Sebenzisa lezi ziqinisekiso njalo njengethuluzi elilodwa lamathuluzi amaningi ukuze udlulele ngale kwemiphumela elimazayo i-narcissism eye yaba nayo empilweni yakho.
Ngiphulukisa kancane, kepha impela, usuku nosuku isinyathelo ngasinye ngasikhathi.
Kubalulekile ukuzikhumbuza ukuthi inqubo yokuphulukisa yinto eqhubekayo. Ngokuya ngokuthi i-narcissist ibe yingxenye yempilo yakho isikhathi esingakanani, kungathatha izinyanga, iminyaka, noma ngisho nesikhathi sempilo ukuvumelana ngokugcwele nayo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, indlela akuyona ngaso sonke isikhathi eqondile ongayithatha phambili, izinyathelo zokubuyela emuva, kanye nezinyathelo eziseceleni. Mane ukhumbule ukuthi zonke izinyathelo ziyingxenye yohambo nokuthi akukhona ukumosha noma ukwehluleka ukuba nezingqinamba.
Lokhu kuqinisekiswa okulula kokuthi uyaphilisa kunganikeza amandla kanye nomfutho wokukudlulisa ezinkingeni ozohlangabezana nazo endleleni.
Ngibeka kahle okwedlule futhi ngishiya ngemuva kwami ukugxila kokukhona nakusasa.
Ezinye izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokweqile zizothola ukuthi izingqondo zazo ngokwemvelo zikhukhuleka ziye emicimbini eyedlule lokhu kufana nochungechunge oluboshwe emaqakaleni, kubavimbele ukuthi baqhubeke nempilo yabo.
Lokhu kuqinisekiswa kwesibili kuklanyelwe ukukukhipha kule ndlela yokucabanga ngokukubeka engqondweni ebheke phambili. Noma kunini lapho uthola izinkumbulo ezixhumene ne-narcissism zingena ekhanda lakho, phinda isifiso sakho sokwenza njalo dlulisa okwedlule .
Kudinga ukuqwashisela nokuphikelela ukuguqula imicabango yakho iye kude nemicimbi edlule, kepha kuyenzeka ngokuzimisela okukhulu nangezinga elithile ukuzithethelela lapho ushibilika.
Ngingumuntu othandekayo ofanelwe ukunakekelwa, ukuthandwa nokuhlonishwa abanye.
ungashiya kanjani umndeni wakho bese uqala impilo entsha
Lapho ubanjwa ngumuntu obhala ngezidakamizwa, kujwayelekile ukuthola ukuthi umuzwa wakho wokuzihlonipha uchithwa. Yingakho kubalulekile ukuthi uqale ukuwuthola futhi mzuzwana lapho ukhululeka.
Amaphuzu amathathu ayisihluthulelo kulesi siqinisekiso - ukunakekelwa, uthando, nenhlonipho - yizinto umuntu ngamunye okufanelekile, kepha labo abenza izinto ezingekho emthethweni abakwazi ukunikela (okungenani ngendlela eyiqiniso futhi eqotho).
Uma zigodliwe nganoma isiphi isikhathi, uqala ukukhohlwa ukuthi zizizwa zinjani. Ukuphindaphinda ibinzana elingenhla ngokungaguquki kuzosebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuthi awuthandi nje kuphela, kodwa nokuthi ufanelwe ukuphathwa ngomusa nangokucatshangelwa.
Ukufunda okubaluleke kakhulu kwe-narcissist (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- AbakwaLimi AbakwaNarcissist Basebenzisa Ukuphatha Nokuhlukumeza Abahlukunyeziwe
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Ne-Narcissist: Ukuphela Kwendlela Okuqinisekisiwe Ukusebenza
- Izindlela Zokubhekana Nesimo Lapho Ushiya Umlingani We-Narcissistic Ngemuva
- Izinto Ezinokwethembeka Ezi-4 Abasinde Ekuhlukunyezweni KwamaNarcissistic Bafuna Ukusho Kubahlukumezi Babo
- Izingwegwe ezi-5 Ezisetshenziswa NgamaNarcissis Ukugcina Ubuya
- IRollercoaster Yokubuyiselwa Okusuka Ekuhlukunyezweni KwamaNarcissistic
Ngenza ukuzinakekela kuqala.
Labo ababambeke kumuntu othanda ukubulala abantu ekugcineni banikela ngezinhloso zabo ukuze babeke elinye iqembu phambili. Lo mkhuba ungahlala kalula kuwe noma ngabe ukwazile ukusuka kubo.
Udinga ukuqinisekisa ukuthi, kusukela kuleli qophelo kuqhubeke, ubeka izidingo zakho kuqala - ngezindlela eziningi, ngisho nangaphambi kwalabo abancike empilweni yakho.
Ukubheka inombolo yokuqala akudingeki kube isenzo sobugovu ngempela, ukwazi kangcono ukuthanda nokunakekela abanye lapho uzinakekela kahle.
Ngiyazi futhi ngiyayethemba ingqondo yami.
Isikhali esivamile ku-arsenal ye-narcissist yilokho okwaziwa ngokuthi ukukhanyisa igesi . Empeleni, kubandakanya ukudideka, ukuphambukisa, namasu wokukhohlisa enzelwe ukukwenza uzingabaze futhi uthembele kuwo.
Ngakho-ke lesi siqiniseko esifuna ukuphinda sikunikeze ukholo emqondweni wakho nasekhonweni lakho lokuzimela. Ukusho nje ukuthembela onakho kumandla akho engqondo kaninginingi kuzokunika ukuzethemba okudingekayo ukuze ukuvumele kukuqondise.
Kancane kancane uzoqina ngokwengeziwe futhi uzimisele ngokwengeziwe ukuthatha izinqumo ezinesibindi ngokuya ngezinkolelo zakho kanye nokuhlaziywa kwesimo.
Nginemingcele eqinile namandla okunamathela kuyo.
Cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi, lapho uzama ukubeka ibanga phakathi kwakho nomuntu othanda izihibe, bazofuna ukubuyela empilweni yakho ngandlela thile. Kungenzeka kungenzeki khona manjalo, kepha ekugcineni, beqhutshwa yisidingo sabo sokunikezwa kwe-narcissistic, kungenzeka bafike bangqongqoze emnyango wakho.
Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukumisa ukuqina kwengqondo futhi imingcele yomuntu siqu ukuze kuvinjelwe intuthuko yabo. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba khona kwalezi zingxenye ezivikelwe ngamagama kuzosiza ukubanikeza amandla engqondweni yakho.
Ukuvimbela i-narcissist ukuthi ingaphinde ingene empilweni yakho iyimfuneko yokuqala ekululameni kwakho okuqhubekayo. Banikeze inhlansana yethemba futhi lokhu kuzobeka engcupheni enkulu. Ngakho-ke hlala ungayekeleli kunoma yini abaphonsa kuwe.
Ngisekelwa ngokugcwele ngabangane nomndeni wami.
Kuyafaneleka ukukhumbula ukuthi awukho kulokhu kuphela. Ngenkathi isikhathi sakho ne-narcissist kungenzeka ukuthi ubone ezinye izibopho zomuntu siqu ziba buthakathaka, abangane bakho beqiniso nomndeni wakho bazobe besekhona kuwe ngehora lakho lokudinga.
Uma ulwa nokuthile futhi uzizwa ungaqiniseki ukuthi ungabhekaphi, isiqinisekiso esingenhla sizokukhumbuza ngohlelo olubalulekile losizo olutholakalela wena.
Ukuyisho njalo kuzokunikeza isibindi esidingeka kakhulu lapho ecela usizo . Ngeke unqikaze ukufuna iseluleko sabanye lapho uqinisekile ngokuzimisela kwabo ukukunikeza.
Bheka lokhu inkambo eku-inthanethi yakhelwe ukusiza othile welapha ekuhlukunyezweni ngokweqile .
Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde kabanzi.
Leli khasi liqukethe izixhumanisi ezihambisanayo. Ngithola ikhomishini encane uma ukhetha ukuthenga noma yini ngemuva kokuchofoza kuzo.
