Izinto Ezisontekile AbakwaNarcissist Bayasho Futhi Benze Ukukubuyisa

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Uma uke wathandana nomuntu osebenzisa izihibe, wazi kahle ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukunqamula ubuhlobo bakho nabo. Lezo zinsimbi ezihehayo, ezikhohlisayo zibonakala zazi ukuthi iziphi izinkinobho okufanele uzicindezele ukwenza uzizwe sengathi uyisikhohlakali sokudela inyunyana yakho, noma ngabe sezikudlulisile emazingeni amaningi esihogo somzwelo kunokuba ubungachaza .

Ukugqashula kungenzeka, noma kunjalo, ikakhulukazi uma wazi amaqhinga abalulekile ama-narcissists azowasebenzisa ukuzama ukukugcina ezimpilweni zabo. Ulwazi lungamandla, futhi uma ubona lokhu kuziphatha, ungakukhipha izikhali, ukugweme, futhi ususe laba bantu empilweni yakho kube kuhle.



Nazi izingwegwe ezi-5 ezijwayelekile ezisetshenziswa ngabakwa-narcissist ukukuheha ubuyele emahlathini abo:

1. Ukuzulazula

Ake sithi ukwazile ukunqamula izibopho nowayengumlingiswa wakho. Ulondoloze ukuthula emsakazweni, usuqale ukubeka impilo yakho ndawonye… futhi ngaphandle kwalapho, baphinde bahlangana nomyalezo omane ukukhahlela emathunjini.

Mhlawumbe bezwa ukuthi umzali wakho ushonile futhi bakuthumelela imiyalezo nje ukukwazisa ukuthi bathumela amazwi enduduzo. Noma mhlawumbe uthola umbhalo ogcwele izinyembezi uqhotyoshelwe emnyango wakho lapho bakhala khona ngokuphuka kwabo futhi bathi nguwe wedwa into enhle eyake yenzeka empilweni yabo, futhi bayazisola kakhulu ngokuthola izinto phakathi wena.

Njenge-vacuum cleaner yakho ejwayelekile, lena yingwegwe ehloselwe ukukuncela emuva kuwebhu yabo.

Uma uzivulele lo muntu, bayakwazi ukuba sengozini kwakho. Bayazi ukuthi yini ekwenza uthikhe, futhi njengombulali oqeqeshwe kahle, bayazazi izindawo ezibuthakathaka abangazikhomba ukufeza inhloso yabo: kulokhu, ukukubuyisela ngandlela thile.

Kungenzeka ukuthi, empeleni abafuni ukuvuselela ubudlelwano nawe - bafuna nje ukuzibonakalisa ukuthi bangakuthola uma befuna, ukuze bakwazi ukuncela amandla akho ukuze bathuthukise imidlalo yabo ye-ego isikhashana ngaphambi kokukulahla futhi.

imidlalo emihle kakhulu ye-wwe ka-2016

2. Ukuqiniswa okungapheli

Uyakhumbula lapho izinto zazimangalisa ngempela ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho? Ngaphambi kokuthi yonke into iye ku-sh * t? Lapho wawungumhlaba wabo, ilanga labo, izinkanyezi zabo? Ngaphambi kwayo yonke into oyenzile ubacasulile? Yilezo zinkumbulo umculi we-narcissist azosebenzisa zona ukukuxhuma.

Cabanga nje ngenja ekhahlelwa ngumnikazi wayo ngamaphesenti angama-95 wesikhathi, kepha amaphesenti amahlanu asele, athole izingalo nokuphathwa nothando. Inja izokubekezelela ukukhahlela ngenxa yenkumbulo yokuthi kwakumnandi kanjani lapho babe nezikhathi zokuthandwa ngokweqiniso, futhi njengombhali wezinambuzane uzokuphatha njengesikhohlakali isikhathi esiningi, bangase bakubuke bakudumise njalo ngezikhathi ezithile, bemangele umuhle kangakanani, nokuthi abafanele kanjani umuntu omangalisa njengawe.

Le ndlela isebenza ngempumelelo enkulu uma unokuzethemba okuphansi, ngoba izigaxa ezincane zomusa zifana ne-oases yethemba kokunye okuyincithakalo ye-sh * te. Uma lezo zikhathi zenzeka futhi nini, zikhumbuze ngobubi obukhulu obenzeka isikhathi esisele, nokuthi lezo zikhathi ezidlulayo azenzi kanjani ukuthi zikuphatha kabi kangakanani. Phrinta imiyalezo ebhaliwe kanye nama-imeyili bese uwalengisa odongeni lwakho ukuze uthole izikhumbuzo ezisheshayo, uma udinga.

Futhi funda le ndatshana enhle ukuze ufunde kabanzi mayelana nokuthi ukuqinisa okusebenza ngezikhathi kusebenza kanjani.

3. Izithembiso Zoshintsho (Amanga Amanga Amanga)

Umuntu owake wathandana naye, kepha ngesihe ukhululwe isikhashana, ngokuzumayo akuthumela ama-imeyili noma akuthumele imibhalo ukuze akwazise ukuthi ukwelashwa.

Baye babona ukuthi badinga usizo. Bafuna ukushintsha. Bathatha izinyathelo zokwenza njalo, futhi enye yezinto abafuna ukuyilungisa ukuthi bakuphathe kabi kanjani.

… Bese uyahamba izinhliziyo zakho, ngoba ubukhathalela lo muntu ngokunamandla (futhi mhlawumbe usakwenza), futhi bavele banyathela kuleyo ndawo ethambile enhliziyweni yakho ebilokhu inethemba (bathandaza, baphupha) ukuthi bazovuka babe namandla abo futhi ube ngumuntu obulokhu wazi ukuthi bangaba yibo.

Into ukuthi bazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi le hook ingasebenza kanjani, yingakho beyisebenzisa. Kuyisisekelo se-sh * t, kunjalo, kepha kuyisu elihle lokukhohlisa elilahliwe ngoba linxusa uzwela nobubele bakho.

Okunye ukufunda okubalulekile kwe-narcissist (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):

4. Ngikhulule!

Futhi enye ingwegwe ezogwaza emnkantsheni wakho ikubuyisele emuva kulapho into oyithandayo ngaphambili isengozini ngokuzumayo. Mhlawumbe ubudlelwano babo obusha (kuthiwa) sebuphenduke babuhlukumeza, futhi badinga ukuvikelwa noma amandla akho ukubakhipha kulo. Mhlawumbe bathathe ukweqisa izidakamizwa, noma baboshwa, noma bazithola bekunye isimo esesabekayo futhi i-omg uwukuphela komuntu emhlabeni abangathembela kuye futhi bathembele lapho besendaweni embi kangaka ngicela usize …Ngiyacela.

Kuyaphumelela, akunjalo? Ngokusobala u-f * cked nganoma iyiphi indlela: uma ubasiza, ubuyela ku-vortex yabo emnyama yokwesaba futhi wonke umjikelezo uzoqala kabusha. Uma ungabasizi, uzozizwa njengomuntu onenhliziyo ebandayo kakhulu emhlabeni ngokubalahla ngenkathi benesikhathi sokuba sengozini futhi befinyelela kuwe (kuwe! KUMELE bakuthande ngempela!). Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ungabasizi lapho futhi uma bephonsa udobo lwabo lokudoba ukukuphindisela emuva, ungazithola ubhekene ne…

5. Imikhankaso ye-Smear

Abanye abantu bakhetha ukubuyela kumlingani we-narcissistic ukuze bazibonele ngokwabo (nakwabanye) ukuthi abayena umkhohlisi owesabekayo, ohlukumezayo… okuyindlela umbhali wezinketho akhethe ukuyipenda ngayo ngemuva kokwehlukana.

Uma umlingani wakho wobudlova ubelokhu exhumana nomphakathi wakho futhi ebatshela izindaba ezethusayo ngokuthi ubanonya kanjani kubo wase ubashiya, uzobukeka njengomuntu omubi kunabo bonke emhlabeni. Ungase uzithole ungasakwazi ukuphila kwabantu, noma unqunywe ngabantu ongabazi nhlobo ngezenzo ongazenzanga, noma ozenze ukuze uzisindise.

Njengokushiya.

Kulesi simo, kungenzeka kube nguwe ozama ukwakha ukuxhumana futhi nomuntu osebenzisa izinto zobuciko, ukuze uchibiyele umbono wokuthi ungumuntu owesabekayo. Ungazithola uxolisa kubo ngokubenza bazizwe kabi ngenkathi ubabiza ngokuhlukunyezwa kwabo. Ungahle ugobeke futhi ucele ithuba lesibili ngemuva kokuthi ube nesibindi sokusuka ukukhanyisa kwabo igesi nokunganakwa.

izimpawu zokusetshenziswa ebudlelwaneni

Uma bekubheka njengokufanele ngokwanele, bangakunika ilungelo lokukuvumela ubuyele empilweni yabo, lapho umjikelezo wonke uzoqala kabusha. Ngeke kube mnandi lokho?

Uma kukhulunywa ngabakwa-narcissists, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi bayindlela abayiyona ngoba balimala. Zonakalisiwe, futhi isimilo sazo sivela endaweni yomonakalo omkhulu wangaphakathi. Kuyaqabukela ukuthi umbhali wezidakamizwa angashintsha, kepha ungalahlwa ngokuqinisekile ukuthi bazolimaza iningi labantu abavumela eduze kwabo.

Uma uthanda i-narcissist, kulungile: ungumuntu onomusa, mhlawumbe onozwela oke wafuna ukusiza umuntu okusobala ukuthi usezinhlungwini. Kepha udinga ukuzithanda ngokwengeziwe, futhi uthole isihogo ngaphambi kokuba ugcine ulimele kakhulu kunabo.

Bheka lokhu inkambo eku-inthanethi yakhelwe ukusiza othile welapha ekuhlukunyezweni ngokweqile .
Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde kabanzi.

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