I-narcissism ebulalayo yinto ezuze ukubonakala okukhulu muva nje. Manje sekuxoxwa kabanzi ngezimo ezahlukahlukene futhi ngabantu abaningi, izinhlelo, nezincwadi.
Lapho kuvela izindaba zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili ebuhlotsheni bazo zonke izinhlobo, maningi amathuba okuthi isisulu sibhekene nomuntu obulala abantu kabi.
Njengoba izici ezakha i-Narcissists Personality Disorder (NPD) zonke zihlala eceleni kwe-spectrum, ngakho-ke i-narcissism uqobo nayo iza ngamazinga ahlukene obukhali.
Kukhona labo okungatholakala ngokufanele ukuthi bane-NPD abangaphezu kwabangane abaziqhenyayo, abangajulile, abaswele, abanomona, nabakhulu, osebenza nabo, amalungu omndeni, nabantu obajwayele ongaxhumana nabo njalo.
Ngaphandle kokukhipha ngandlela thile futhi kube nzima ukukuthanda nganoma yimuphi umqondo ojulile noma onengqondo, bangaba njalo ngokuqhathaniswa engenabungozi, enobungozi ngisho (uma kuqhathaniswa nokuba yigama eliyisihluthulelo - zisengadala ingozi noma zibe wuhlupho impela).
ungayithola kanjani injabulo emshadweni ongajabule
I-narcissist ebulalayo ihleli ngakolunye uhlangothi lwe-spectrum lapho kukhulunywa khona izici ezimbi.
Kanye nezici ezibucayi ze-narcissist, laba bantu futhi bathambekele ekwabelaneni ngezimpawu ze-Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD), psychopathy, nezinye izinhlobo zokuphazamiseka kobuntu.
Yize i-narcissism ebulalayo ingabonwa njengesifo esihlukile ngabasebenzi bezengqondo, singazama ukukuchaza nokho.
Le ndatshana izokhuluma ngezici zobuntu ezihlobene kakhulu ne-narcissist ebulalayo.
Kuyafaneleka ukukhumbula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi ngayinye yalezi zimfanelo izoba nobubanzi bayo. Abukho ubuntu obufanayo obufanayo futhi ezinye izimpawu zingabonakala zivelele kakhulu kunezinye ngokusho komuntu.
Ngenkathi ungafisi ukunika inkambiso eyodwa ukubaluleka okukhulu kunenye, lezo ezibonakala ziphakeme kulolu hlu zihlobene kakhulu nokucacisiwe kubi i-narcissism esizama ukuyichaza. Lezo ezibheke ezansi zitholakala kakhulu kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokubhuda.
1. Usizi
Incazelo yobubi, ngokusho kwe-Dictionary.com ithi: “ithambekele ekulimaleni, ekuhluphekeni, noma ekucindezelekeni ngokuzizwa ngamabomu noma ngokukhombisa inzondo.”
Lokhu kuchaza ngokuphelele enye yezimpawu ezibalulekile zomuntu obulala umuntu kabi: usizi.
Umuntu odabukisayo uthola injabulo ebuhlungwini, ekuhluphekeni nasekululazweni kwabanye. Bazinikela ngokuzithandela lokhu kuhlupheka ukuze bazenelise futhi balawule abanye. Lokhu kungabonakala njengokuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi, ngokomzwelo, nangokomzimba.
Kungakhombisa nasendleleni abaphatha ngayo izilwane nokungabunaki kwabo ubudlova kumabhayisikobho, ezinhlelweni ze-TV, nasezindabeni.
2. Ukuphathwa okusebenzayo
Bonke abakwa-narcissist bakhohlisa ngokwezinga elithile kuyindlela yabo yokuthola abakufunayo.
Kepha ukukhwabanisa kuza ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene. Kukhona labo abangosomathuba, abafuna ukwenza inzuzo emicimbini noma basebenzise noma ngubani osesimweni esibucayi.
Bese kuba khona abanye - izinhlobo ezimbi - abasebenza ngokukhohlisa kwabo. Ngalokhu, sisho ukuthi abalindi ukuthi kwenzeke okuthile bese beyakuphendula, bazosebenzisa lapho bezizwa khona isidingo.
Eqinisweni, bathola injabulo enkulu ngokukhohlisa abanye njengoba bethola ngokubenza bahlupheke. Lokhu, mhlawumbe, akumangazi ngandlela thile ngoba ukukhwabanisa kuvame ukuholela ekuhluphekeni.
Banamandla amakhulu futhi abacashile ekutheni babaphatha kanjani abanye, kepha basebenzisa uhla olukhulu lwamaqhinga kusuka ukukhanyisa igesi uku thanda amabhomu .
Lezi zenzo zokukhohlisa ziyabalwa, zihlelelwe, zihlonishwe eminyakeni eminingi yokusetshenziswa zize zifinyelele ekusebenzeni kwazo okuphezulu. Lesi ngesinye sezingozi ezibalulekile ze-narcissism ebulalayo - inkululeko yokuzikhethela yesisulu iyancipha futhi bakhula bengenakuzisiza kakhulu ukuzisusa kulesi simo.
3. Izindlela Zokuziphatha Ezingavumelani Nomphakathi
Njengoba kunikezwe ukuthi i-narcissism ebulalayo iwela ku-Antisocial Personality Disorder, mhlawumbe ngeke kusimangaze ukuzwa ukuthi bahlanganyela ezinhlotsheni ezahlukahlukene zokuziphatha okungahambisani nomphakathi.
Zivame ukwenzeka abaqambimanga be-pathological , bayakopela, beba, bathambekele kakhulu kuzo izimo eziguquguqukayo , ulaka nobutha obungavunyelwe.
Bayilungele impi - noma yikuphi ukulwa, nanoma ngubani, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Lokhu kuyingxenye yephethini elimazayo yokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic.
4. Ukuzwela ngokweqile Ekugxekweni
Ugxeka i-narcissist eyingozi engozini yakho.
Abanye abanesifo se-NPD ngokuya phansi esikalini bangase bakwazi ukugxeka ukugxekwa ngoba bakubheka njengokuhlekisayo nehlaya - baphelele phela.
Abanye bathola noma yiluphi uhlobo lokugxeka luhlambalaza umlingiswa wabo bese beqhubeka nokuhlaselwa nganoma yikuphi okuncane.
uyini umehluko phakathi kokwenza uthando nokuya ocansini
Umuzwa wabo wobuntu ubuthakathaka kangangokuba ulimala kalula, futhi ukuziphindisela noma ukukhuphuka kuyindlela kuphela abazi ngayo ukuthi bazizwa kangcono ngabo.
5. IParanoia
Ama-narcissist amabi awathembi muntu. Ngokuphambene nalokho, empeleni. Basola ngokweqile wonke umuntu futhi bakholelwa ukuthi abanye bazimisele ukubathola.
Lokhu kungenzeka kubangelwa iqiniso lokuthi bafuna ukukhohlisa abanye ukuze bazizuzele bona, ngakho-ke bakholelwa ukuthi wonke umuntu wenza ngendlela efanayo (noma unamandla okwenza).
Le paranoia ingaholela esimweni sokuzithiba lapho zihlala zibheke izinsongo. Bangaba matasa ngalokho abanye abantu abakwenzayo kaningi okubaholela ekulawuleni ukunyakaza kwezisulu zabo ngokwesaba ukuthi yini abangahle bayenze noma bazothini.
6. Ukuntuleka Kokuzwela
Bonke abakwa-narcissist abanalo uzwela ngezinga elithile, kepha njengazo zonke lezi zimfanelo, kukhona okubonakalayo.
Njengoba sesike saxoxa, uhlobo olubi luzokuthokozisa ukulimala nobuhlungu kwabanye. Bazishaya indiva futhi basebenzise noma imiphi imizwa ekhonjiswe ngomunye umuntu.
Into esemqoka okumele uyiqaphele ukuthi abakwa-narcissists abayingozi kakhulu bangakwazi ukuzwa uzwela, kepha imvamisa - yize kungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi - abafuni ukukuvumela kubathonye. Bangaze bazisole noma bazisole ezingeni elithile.
I-narcissist ebulalayo ayikwazi nje ukuzwa ukuzwela ngokuphelele. Abakwazi ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomunye noma bahlobanise nemizwa yabo. Kungumqondo ongaziwa ngokuphelele kubo. Bazizwa futhi bangakhombisi ukuzisola nganoma yikuphi ukuhlupheka abakudalayo futhi le yindlela abangaziphatha ngayo ngendlela enonya.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Indlela Yedwala Elimpunga Yokusebenzelana Nombhali We-Narcissist Lapho kungekho Oxhumana Naye Akuyona Inketho
- Izinto eziyi-8 i-Narcissist Angeke ikwenzele zona (Noma Noma ngubani omunye)
- AbakwaLimi AbakwaNarcissist Basebenzisa Ukuphatha Nokuhlukumeza Abahlukunyeziwe
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Ne-Narcissist: Ukuphela Kwendlela Okuqinisekisiwe Ukusebenza
- Ungayishiya Kanjani I-Narcissist + Izindlela Zokukwazi Ukuqhubekela Phambili
- IRollercoaster Yokubuyiselwa Okusuka Ekuhlukunyezweni KwamaNarcissistic
7. Ukwehluleka Ukwamukela Isibopho
Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthatha umthwalo wezenzo zethu - lokhu akulona iqiniso kuphela ngama-narcissists.
Yize kunjalo bathatha izinto baye kwelinye izinga. Kwesinye isikhathi bazokwamukela ukuthi benze ngendlela ethile, kepha bazofiphaza iqiniso ukuze kubonakale sengathi bekufanelekile ukwenza njalo. Bazokhipha isibopho entweni ethile noma komunye umuntu (ngamanye amagama, badlale umdlalo wokusola).
Ngezinye izikhathi bangahle benqabe ukwamukela ukuthi izenzo zabo bezingalungile noma azamukeleki. Bazokulahla ngaphandle ukusola umthwalo wokulimala okubangelwe abanye noma eminye imiphumela engathandeki okungenzeka ibangele.
8. Isidingo Sokunakwa
Bonke abakwa-narcissist badinga uhlobo lokuphakelwa. Lokho wukuthi, badinga ukunakwa njalo, ukukhulekelwa, nothando lwabanye ukuze bazizwe bezwana futhi babuyise amandla abo.
Bayayondla.
Izinga eliphansi noma i-narcissist elinganiselayo bangafuna izindlela eziningi zokunaka ukuqinisa ukuzethemba kwabo. I-narcissist ebulalayo ingathola ukwaneliseka okucishe kufane nokunakwa okungafanele nayo.
Bangakuthokozela ukudlala isikhohlakali futhi, njengoba sishilo ngenhla, abakwesabi ukubhekana nokulwa ngomqondo wokuziphatha, wobuhlakani, noma womzimba.
Lesi sici empeleni ngesinye lapho kuncane kakhulu ukuhlangana nomuntu onenkinga ye-Antisocial Personality Disorder noma i-psychopathy.
Ngokuvamile abanendaba ukuthi abanye abantu bacabangani ngabo futhi kwesinye isikhathi bazokhetha ukuba yisizungu kunesikhungo sokunakwa.
9. Ukudideka Kobukhulu
AbakwaNarcissist banomoya wokuzibona bebalulekile. Bakholelwa ukuthi bangcono kunabanye ngazo zonke izindlela: bayakhanga, bahlakaniphe ngokwengeziwe, baphumelele ngokwengeziwe, babaluleke kakhulu.
Lokhu kukhulu kuyimbangela yabo umuzwa welungelo . Njengoba bezikholelwa ukuthi baphakeme kunabo bonke abanye abantu, bakubona kudingekile ukuphathwa kanjalo.
Futhi, lokhu akuvamile kulabo abane-APD.
10. Umona
Ngoba bazihlonipha kakhulu, uma behlangana nomuntu onesici noma indlela yokuphila noma impahla abanayo abayifisayo, badliwa umona.
Bayakuzonda ukubona abanye benokuthile abangenakho. Lapho bekwenza, bazobabukela phansi futhi babeke ubunikazi babo bento leyo ngenhlanhla enhle. Imvamisa bayavuma ukuthi umuntu othile ufanelwe yinto enjalo.
Uma leli thuba livela, abesabi ukonakalisa impumelelo yomuntu ngokunikeza izeluleko ezimbi noma ngenhloso ngokugcona igama lakhe.
Futhi bajabulela ukwehluleka kwabanye - mhlawumbe hhayi ngokweqile (yize lokhu kungenzeka), kepha impela ngaphakathi bazobe benza umdanso ojabulisayo.
11. I-Egocentricity
Njenge-narcissist, kumayelana nami, nami, kanye nami. Bazenzela inzuzo yabo hhayi eyomunye umuntu.
Bayakhuluma ngabo, abaningi bayakujabulela ukubekwa obala, babeka abanye phansi, futhi bakhathazeke ngokweqile ngokubukeka kwabo nokuthi abanye abantu bacabangani ngabo.
Babona izinkolelo zabo njengamaqiniso ayiqiniso, banombono omfushane futhi banomqondo omncane, futhi bathambekele ekwenzeni lula isimo esiyinkimbinkimbi ukuze sivumelane nemibono yabo.
12. Umusa
Iningi lama-narcissist linamandla okuvula intelezi lapho kudingeka. Eqinisweni, lapho uqala ukuhlangana noyedwa, bangabonakala njengabantu abanobungane, nabathandekayo.
ngubani kate beckinsale ukuphola
Yile ndlela abakwazi ngayo ukubamba izisulu zabo. Bona gqoka isifihla-buso futhi baqaphele ukuthi bangayivumeli ishibilike kuze kube yilapho inhloso yabo isetshenziswe kahle futhi yehlisiwe.
Noma ngabe awuyena umgomo wabo oyinhloko, bazozama ukusebenzisa ikhubalo elihlaselayo ukukwenza uziphathe ngendlela ethile noma ube nombono othile ngabo
Konke kungamanga futhi kungamanga empeleni abasho noma benze izinto ezinhle nganoma yikuphi ubuqotho.
Ngakho-ke, i-narcissist ebulalayo ithathwa njengomuntu ophazamisa zombili i-Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) ne-Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD).
Ngenkathi kungenzeka ukuthi bahlanganise zonke izici zendabuko ze-narcissism, zizohluka ngandlela thile kumuntu one-APD noma i-psychopath.
Bazophinde babe nokuthambekela kwehaba okwengeziwe kwe-narcissistic kunabanye ababulali, ikakhulukazi ezindaweni ezibandakanya ukulimaza abanye, ulaka, nokukhohlisa.
Bayihlobo elibi kakhulu, elihlukumezayo, neliyingozi lama-narcissist futhi okufanele agwenywe ngazo zonke izindlela.
