Uthando luyinto enhle, kepha umbulali akakwazi ukuluzwa noma ukuluveza. Futhi kunesizathu esisodwa esilula ukuthi kungani.
Uma ungene emcabangweni womuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist (futhi uqaphele uma wenza kanjalo), uzobona ukuthi imicabango yabo izungeza bona uqobo, izidingo zabo, izifiso zabo, nokuthi bangafeza kanjani izinhloso zabo.
okufanele ukwenze lapho isoka lakho lingakwethembi
Kubo, abanye abantu bayizinto nje okufanele zisetshenziselwe ukubazuzisa nokwanelisa. Bakholelwa ukuthi baphakeme kunabo bonke abantu nanoma ngubani omunye, futhi lokhu kuduka kobuhle yisizathu esiyinhloko sokuthi kungani bengakwazi ukuzwa lokho mina nawe esizokubiza ngothando.
Uthando, ukuthandana noma okunye, ukuxhumana kungukuhlangana kwemiphefumulo lapho abantu ababili behlangana ndawonye futhi babelana ngokunakekelwa okujulile komunye nomunye. Ukuze lokhu kuhlangana kwakheke, zombili izinhlangothi kumele zibone ngale kwezingqimba zomuntu futhi zifakazele iqiniso elalifihlwe ngaphansi. Kumele bamukelane njengeziboniso zobuntu babo futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, njengabalingana babo.
Ukulingana, ngalo mqondo, kusho ukufanelwa inhlonipho efanayo, ukuphathwa nokunakekelwa njengesidalwa esiphilayo. Futhi uthando alukhawulelwe kwabanye abantu kungenzeka nje ukuzwa uthando lwamalungu ombuso wezilwane.
I-narcissist, noma kunjalo, ayibheki abanye ukuthi balingane nabo nganoma iyiphi indlela. Bakholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi bangcono, bafaneleke kakhudlwana, futhi bakhulu cishe kuzo zonke izici.
Ngakho-ke, bahlala ezinyaweni zabo besibukela phansi thina bantu nje abayedelelayo. Ngalokho-ke, kuyamangaza-ke ukuthi umbalisi wezinto akakwazi ukwakha izinhlobo zokuxhumana okusondelene okuyisisekelo sothando?
Uma behluleka ukwamukela ukuthi omunye umuntu angafanelekela ngokulingana futhi afaneleke njengabo, bangaziphatha kanjani ngendlela ekhombisa lobunye? Bangathanda kanjani?
Impendulo emfushane: abakwazi.
Kusho Ukuthini I-Narcissist Uma Kukhulunywa Ngothando?
Ukwehluleka kwabo ukubona noma ngubani olingana naye kungavimbela umuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi ukuba athande, kodwa akubanqandi ekumemezeleni 'uthando' lwabo kwabanye. Ngempela, ukumenyezelwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi kothando lwabo olungapheli kuyisu elithandwayo ngabaningi bezingcweti kulokho okwaziwa kabanzi ngokuthi thanda amabhomu .
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Okungacaci kangako ukuthi ngabe abakwa-narcissists bakholelwa ngokwabo ukuthi bathola uthando ngomqondo walo olubi nolubucayi. Singazi ukuthi lokho abakuzwayo akusilo uthando, kepha bangacabanga, ngokombono wobuhlakani, ukuthi kunjalo.
Lo mbuzo, yize uthakazelisa, awusebenzi kakhulu. Abazizwa bethandwa, kepha kungenye into ngokuphelele.
Iphutha abalenzayo lidida umuzwa ojulile, wothando nothando olukha phezulu isimo sengqondo sokuthatheka . Mayelana nobudlelwano bezothando, iningi labantu lizodlula esigabeni sokuthatheka lapho into yesifiso sabo ingavamile ukusuka kude nemicabango yabo. Kodwa-ke, uma ubudlelwane bugcinwa, lokhu kukhula kube ukuxhumana kothando okuchazwe ngenhla.
I-narcissist, noma kunjalo, izobambeka esigabeni sokuthatheka okungapheli. Bazocishe babe ngapha nangapha futhi babhekane nabalingani babo, babasebenzise njengomthombo wokuhlinzekwa kwezidakamizwa.
Ukuhlinzekwa kwe-narcissistic ngokuyisisekelo kwehlela kumuntu ohlukunyezwayo - into yokuthatheka kwabo - kunikeza i-narcissist ukunakwa abakufisayo ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye. Ama-narcissist amaningi, ngaphandle kwe- uhlobo olufihlekile kakhulu , izothola ukuheha kokugqama nje kungenakuvinjelwa, futhi ukunakwa kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo kuzokwanelisa izifiso zabo…
… Okungenani okwesikhashana.
Ukufundwa okubalulekile kwe-narcissist (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
umyeni wami uyazicabangela futhi akacabangeli
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Ne-Narcissist: Ukuphela Kwendlela Okuqinisekisiwe Ukusebenza
- Izindlela Zokubhekana Nesimo Lapho Ushiya Umlingani We-Narcissistic Ngemuva
- AbakwaLimi AbakwaNarcissist Basebenzisa Ukuphatha Nokuhlukumeza Abahlukunyeziwe
- Ukuqinisekiswa Kwempilo Kwezisulu Zokuhlukunyezwa KwamaNarcissistic
- Ngabe Uyiphutha iMachiavellianism YeNarcissism?
- AmaMaski ayisi-6 amaNarcissist angagqoka (nokuthi ungawabeka kanjani)
Uyabona, i-narcissist incamela lokhu kunaka namandla okulethayo ukuze kuqiniswe inkolelo abanayo ngokwabo njengomuntu ophakeme. Njenganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokudla, ukudla okujwayelekile kuyadingeka ukuze uhlale usuthi.
Ngakho-ke, lapho i-narcissist ithatha umlingani, ikwenza lokho ngokuyinhloko ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukunikezwa okunokwethenjelwa nokujwayelekile kokunakwa. Ngokufanayo, lapho bekhetha osebenza naye, umngane, noma ilungu lomndeni njengesisulu, nabo baba njalo ngifuna ukunakwa okufanayo .
Lokhu kuhlinzekwa kwezidakamizwa, nokuthatheka okuvame ukuholela kukho, kungabhekwa njengokungena esikhundleni sothando. I-narcissist izokufisa kakhulu njengoba sonke sifisa ukuthandwa. Bazozwa ukwaneliseka okukhulu lapho beyithola, bazonikwa amandla yiyo, bese benqena ukukuyeka.
Bangacabanga ukuthi lokho abakuzwayo luthando, kepha uma ubheka kancane, kufana nokuthile okuthe xaxa emigqeni yokuncika. Ngempela, ubudlelwane be-narcissistic buvame ukuphela njengokuthi abaxhomeke ngokubambisana lapho umbulali athembele kwelinye iqembu ukunakwa nokukhulekelwa, kuyilapho bona, bona, bethembela kumuntu obiza ngama-narcissist ukuba abatshele ukuthi kufanele baphile kanjani (imvamisa ngenxa yokucekelwa phansi kobunjalo babo ngemuva kwezinyanga noma iminyaka yokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo).
Lezi zinhlobo zobudlelwano zingacishe zivele njengothando ebusweni, kepha lokhu akuyona into nje ecishe ibe mncane efihla iqiniso elilele ngezansi. Uthando lungahle lube kwisilulumagama somlomo se-narcissist, kepha baswele ukuqonda kwencazelo yalo yangempela. Benza iphutha lokuthatheka kwabo, isidingo sabo sokunikezwa kwe-narcissistic, kanye nokwenelisa abazizwa lapho bekuthola, ngothando.
Ngokukhohlisa kwabo ngobukhulu inkolelo yabo yangempela yokuthi bangabantu abaphakeme, i-narcissist ilahlekelwa amandla abo okwenza ukuxhumana okunengqondo nabanye abantu. Ama-egos abo ngeke avume ukwehliselwa esimweni sokulingana nanoma ngubani, futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu, inhlansi yothando lweqiniso ilahleka unomphela kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwane abayingxenye yabo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bakholelwa ukuthi basezinhlungwini zothando lweqiniso, kuphephile impela ukusho ukuthi abukho ubudlelwano bokunanaza kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo obususelwe kulomuzwa ocebe kakhulu, ongcolile, futhi ofunwa kakhulu.
