Ukuzimela ngokwakho kuzwakala njengesenzo esiqonde ngqo lapho wazi khona ukuthi ungubani, usethe imingcele yokuthi uzobekezelela bani nokuthi uzobekezelani, ukhethe izimpi zakho, futhi ungaqali izimpi.
Kepha lapho ukuvumelana kwamanje kuphakama ukuthi kufanele 'ume uqine' noma 'uzenze mkhulu futhi,' ngabe ukuma kwakho kubukeka kanjani?
eyodwa. Zazi ukuthi Ungubani
Ubani omele wena? Ukube bekufanele ukwenze zichaze nobuntu bakho bangaphakathi kumuntu ongamazi, bangathola umqondo wokuthi ungubani?
Zisuka nje kululwane, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi umbono awukona ukuthi ungubani. Sishukunyiswa ukucabanga ngandlela thile futhi, ngenxa yenganekwane yomuntu omangele, sikwazi ukuphatha kalula ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi imicabango ingeyethu.
Vikela okwakho, akunjalo?
Ngaphandle, kaningi, imibono yethu ayihlali kahle nezethu.
Akubona ubuwula ukumela i-façade?
Esikhundleni salokho, sebenzisa ukucabanga. Kunezincwadi, amavidiyo, namawebhusayithi atholakala kalula ukuze uqalise.
Ukucabanga kusisiza ukuzikhulula ku-Id esebenza njalo, futhi ngokwenza njalo kusivumela ukuthi sibone - futhi sazise - ukuthi singobani ngempela.
Lapho uzazisa, uyimele i uqobo , hhayi inguqulo yakho enamathiselwe.
2. Setha Imikhawulo
Noma ungasiza kangakanani, kuyohlale kukhona umuntu ocabanga ukuthi angakwazi Ukuhlukumeze ekwenzeni okuningi, ukunikela okuningi, nokuba ngaphezulu.
Ukuzimela kusho ukubeka imingcele ukuze ungabi yisikhwama sokuphela, okungaholela ekubeni yisikhwama sentukuthelo.
Uma ungumuntu osebenzela ekhaya ovame ukuphazanyiswa abantu abakubuza ukuthi ubungeke yini ukhathazeke ngokubenzela izinto ezithile (njengoba ungekho “emsebenzini”), ubazise amahora akho ehhovisi anjalo-futhi- okunjalo kuzosebenzela izimangaliso empilweni yomgogodla wakho.
Vumela abathandi bazi ukuthi yini oyithandayo nongayithandi. Yazisa abangani ukuthi yini eyamukelekayo nengamukeleki.
Iningi labantu kwimibuthano yakho yangaphakathi lizokwamukela ukuthi isikhathi sakho asipheli, futhi izinsiza zakho azipheli.
Ukuthi cha kwabanye akulona uphawu lobugovu noma ubudlwangudlwangu, kanti noma ngubani olindele ukuthi yebo kuwe ngaso sonke isikhathi ukhombisa okuthile okungathandeki.
3. Prakthiza, Zijwayeze, Zijwayeze
Njengakuzo zonke izinto, lapho ukwenza ngokwengeziwe, uthola kangcono kukho. Ukuzimela ngokwakho akuhlukile.
Kuyasiza ngisho nokuqala emthonjeni: wena.
Ukuzimela ngokwakho ngokuvamile kusho ukwenza i-tango enobuso esibukweni. Ukusukuma kungaba lula njengokuqaqa lelo zwi elibi elithi 'Kungani uzihlupha?' lapho ujabulile futhi ukhuthazeka ukwenza izinguquko ezinhle.
Yidla lesosithelo esikhundleni salelo dlanzana lamabhere we-gummy!
Hlola izidingo ezingapheli zemithombo yezokuxhumana ngenjabulo ethule yesikhathi sodwa nencwadi!
Ukuzimela ngokwakho kukusiza ukuthi usukume ngoba wena.
4. Wazi Amalungelo Akho
Njengoba amazwe ewaqonda ngokungaqondakali amalungelo sengathi izitatimende zemfashini (okuphakathi, okushisayo, yini i-couture!), Sizokucacisa lokhu ngokuthi 'Amalungelo Akho Obuntu.'
Unefayela le- ilungelo lokuhlonishwa . Yazi lokho.
Unelungelo lokunakekelwa nokuthandwa. Yazi lokho.
Unelungelo lokuqonda nozwela.
Unelungelo lokwehluleka.
Unelungelo lokuphumelela.
Unelungelo lokuthula.
Wazalwa unelungelo lenjabulo.
Singaqhubeka nokuqhubeka. Akekho onelungelo lokukuphatha kabi. Akekho onelungelo lokukulimaza. Akekho umuntu okufanele afune ukukuqukatha, abe ngowakhe, noma ngenye indlela angakunaki.
Singabantu, akekho kithi odlula omunye umuntu. Qaphela labo abaphila impilo yabo sengathi ukuba isibhakela ibheji lodumo.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungakholelwa Kanjani Kuwe Futhi Unqobe Ukuzinyeza
- Ungakhuluma Kanjani Ngokucacile, Yeka Ukumemeza, Futhi Uzwakale Njalo
- Yisho Lezi Ziqinisekiso Eziyi-6 Zosuku Nosuku Ukwakha Ukuzethemba Nokuzethemba
- Ungayinqoba Kanjani Imizwa Yokungazethembi Futhi Ubhekane Nezimbangela
- Izindlela Ezi-5 Ezihlakaniphile Zokuphatha Abantu Abangajulile Abanciphisa Izinketho Zakho Zokuphila
5. Funda Ukubaluleka Kokuthula
Yazi isisho esidala esithi “Khulumela phansi uphathe induku enkulu”? Thatha leso sinyathelo ngokuqhubekayo: khulumela phansi - futhi kwesinye isikhathi ungathethi nakancane - futhi abantu bangase bahloniphe futhi bancome ukuzibamba kwakho.
Kunokuthile okumele kushiwo ngeqhawe elingajiki, noma i-sensei inkemba yayo engashiyi sikhafu sayo, noma leyo ngane ethule esikoleni engazange ikhethwe ngenxa yokuthi abantu bayithakasele ngokuthula yenza into yayo.
Bakwazile ukuzimela ngaphandle komzamo owengeziwe ngoba abantu bebengazi ukubacasula uma bethule.
Lokho, futhi, kungaba nguwe.
6. Ulimi Lomzimba
Ukuzimela ngokwakho kungaba lula njengokuma ngokoqobo… ngqo!
Ulimi lomzimba ludlala indima enkulu ekutheni abantu bakhetha kanjani ukuxhumana nathi. Ukugoqa, ukusonga ngesandla, ngokulambisa ukuxhumana nabanye - konke kufaka isandla ezimweni lapho ungaphathwa khona ngendlela yokuthi uzimele.
Okuhle ngolimi lomzimba ukuthi lezi yizimpendulo ezijwayelekile, hhayi ezigxilile. Ungaziqeqesha uzikhiphe kuzo ukwethula ukuzethemba okukhulu, ukuqinise.
7. Khetha Izimpi Zakho
Njengoba kushiwo ekuqaleni, impilo ingabonakala njengekholi evulekele abenzi bempi futhi. Wonke umuntu ulwa noma impi yakudala noma impi yomunye umuntu.
Akukhona konke ukuxhumana okukodwa lapho ubungqabavu bakho bungatshazwa khona. Labo abanomuzwa wokuthi kumele bavikele ngokungaphezi noma bazivikele noma isikhundla abasigxilile ukuze bacabange ukuthi bayaqinisa, kanti empeleni bangamahlaya.
Ungabi yisidina. Ungasizwa isidingo sokugxumela ezinyaweni zakho, ‘splain, pontificate, refute, and / or chest beat at every opportunity. Uzophuma ungavikeleki uma ucabanga ukuthi awunakulinganiswa ngqo lapho uzizwa ukuthi uzuze iphuzu lomuntu siqu.
Ukuzivikela akukhangi, noma ngabe kungakanani okufuna ukugqoka njengokuthi 'uzimele' uqobo.
Ukucasula kubi kabi.
8. Thembeka
Abantu abathembekile ngokuvamile banesikhathi esilula sokuzimela ngoba abachithi amandla ayigugu avikela izingilazi eziyinkimbinkimbi.
Lokhu kubalwa ebudlelwaneni, lokhu kubalwa nasemsebenzini, noma ngabe uhlangana kanjani nabantu ongabazi ekuphumeni kokudla.
Uma uthembekile ezinkolelweni zakho nasendleleni obheka ngayo umhlaba, ukuzimela ngokwakho kumane nje kuyindaba yokusho u-XY bese ushiya abanye ukuthi benze ngalokho abakuthandayo.
Ngeke uzwe kunesidingo sokuntengantenga ukuze uzizwe umkhulu ekukhulumeni omunye umuntu ukuze ubabukele phansi ungaze uqinise wena ukuze abanye bangakwazi ukusizakala ngawe.
Njengomuntu othulile, uzothola ukuthi ngaphansi kwesambulela sokwethembeka awuhlangabezani nezimo eziningi lapho abantu banquma ukusebenzisa imizwa yabo njengendlela yokukuwisa.
9. Hlafuna, Ungagwinyi
Kukangaki uluma ulimi lwakho kunokuba ukhulume ngengqondo yakho? Lokhu akunampilo ngezindlela eziningi, kepha ngezinhloso zokuzigqaja, kuwukuzihlula ngendlela emangalisayo.
Uma uwuhlobo lokugwinya amagama akho kunokuhlafuna futhi ugaye inyama yokuhlangana, thatha umoya ojulile, wazi ukuthi akukho lutho oluqondakalayo oluphuma emlonyeni wakho olungabhekana nokwethuka, bese ukhuluma.
Izinto ezishiyiwe zingashiwongo zingukuzibulala okuzenzakalelayo kokuxhumana okunempilo, okwejwayelekile, kufaka phakathi ukungavumelani.
Khuluma futhi uzimele ngokuthola izindlela zokusho okusengqondweni yakho ezikufanela kahle wena nezidingo zakho.
Lokhu kwenziwa ngokulalela esikhundleni sokuphendula ukugayeka esikhundleni sokuzama ukubamba kakhulu ekugcineni - futhi, kaningi, ngokungathandeki - kuphuma kuhlanza njenge-bile yomlomo nengokomzwelo.
“Kodwa ake ume kancane,” ngikuzwa ukhala, “ushilo phambilini ukuthi wamukele ukuthula. Yiphi leyo? ”
Umbuzo omuhle. Esimweni esedlule, bekukhulunywa ngokukhombisa amandla ngaphandle kokuhlasela ngamazwi.
Lapha, kusho ukuthi uzimisele futhi ukwazi ukukhuluma ngokungagunci ukuze wenze izifiso zakho noma imibono yakho yaziwe kwabanye. Imayelana nokukwazi ukuxhumana ngempumelelo nabanye ukuze kugwenywe ukudideka noma ukungaqondi.
Umehluko omkhulu.
Ukuzimela akudingeki ukuthi ube ngumsebenzi weHerculean. Empeleni, akufanele kube njalo, ngoba uma kunjalo, kunokuthile okungahambi kahle ngomkhondo wempilo yakho.
Kuzohlala kunezikhathi nabantu abasivivinyayo thina bantu abakhipha ubuthakathaka bese behlasela.
Kepha ukubona kuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi awukweleti muntu ngaphezu kwakho ozimisele ukunikela ngakho kuyindlela yokuzinikeza ukugcwala okukhulu, nokunciphisa ngendlela emangalisayo inani lezikhathi okungenzeka ukuthi ushaywe ngazo.
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