Ingxenye yezinkinga zalokhu kuphila ingalandelwa ukuthi yebo ngokushesha okukhulu futhi ungasho maduzane ngokwanele. - UJosh Billings
Ukuthi cha kubantu kungenye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi - noma kungenxa yokuthi awukwazi ukwenza okuthile, usuvele unezinhlelo, noma awufuni nje ukukwenza!
Sivame ukuvala umoya ukuzizwa nginecala mayelana nokuthi cha, nokukhathazeka ukuthi kuzothinta indlela abanye abasibona nabasiphatha ngayo.
Khumbula ukuthi awukwazi ukwenza njalo njalo futhi ufunde ukuthi cha ngokuqiniseka. Nakhu ukuthi:
Yiba Olinganiselayo
Uthe cha ngesizathu - mhlawumbe akusona isibopho sakho noma awunaso isikhathi sokwenza. Ukuba nengqondo kuyindlela engcono yokubhekana nalolu hlobo lwezinto, futhi kuzokuvimba ekuzizweleni unecala.
Uma ungazitshela ukuthi uyabonelela (futhi uyakholelwa), mancane amathuba okuthi uzizwe unecala lokuthi cha.
Kujwayelekile impela ukuthi kube khona ukuzibophezela noma amapulani asevele enziwe futhi awunangqondo ngokungafuni ukushintsha lezo zinhlelo. Awunabugovu ngokungafuni ukubuyela emuva kumalungiselelo wangaphambilini.
Khumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu unempilo ngaphandle komsebenzi - abangane, ophathina, imindeni, izinto zokuzilibazisa - nokuthi kubalulekile ukubeka izinto ezithile kuqala ngezikhathi ezithile.
Awunangqondo ngokuba nezinye izibopho endaweni (noma ngabe lezo zibopho zibandakanya wena, ukugeza okushisayo, nengilazi enkulu yewayini!) Lapho ungazitshela lokhu kakhulu, uzozizwa kangcono ngokwenqaba.
kungani ngizizwa ngisehluleki
Thembeka
Uma kunesizathu sangempela sokungakwazi ukwenza okuthile, kuchaze lapho uthi cha.
Zama ukwenza umuntu aqonde ukuthi ukuze umsize kulo msebenzi, umenzele lokhu okuhle, noma uphume naye, uzobe uvumela omunye umuntu ukuthi anciphise noma adele ezinye izibopho.
Ngu ukwethembeka futhi nokwazisa umuntu ukuthi uzozizwa unecala uma ukhansele izinhlelo zakho, uzoqonda ukuthi unozwela futhi uzibophezele.
Impela, kungahle kungabi kuhle kubo, kodwa bazokwazi ukuzwelana nawe. Akekho othanda ukukhansela izinhlelo, ikakhulukazi uma kufaka ukwenza okuthile abakuthandayo, noma ukubona umuntu omkhathalelayo, ngakho-ke dlala kulokhu.
Awudingi ukubenza bazizwe benecala ngokukubuza, kodwa thembeka futhi uchaze ukuthi awufuni ukwehlisa umlingani wakho / umngane / ingane yakho. Bazoqonda futhi nakanjani bazokwazisa ukwethembeka kwakho.
Yiba Nengqondo
Yini embi kakhulu engenzeka uma uthi cha? Mhlawumbe wake wakwenza esikhathini esedlule futhi othile wakuphatha kabi noma wakudelela, kodwa mhlawumbe akuphelanga kabi njengoba ubucabanga.
Khumbula ukuthi abanye abantu bathe cha kuwe, futhi, esikhathini esedlule - mhlawumbe awubabambeli igqubu futhi ungaqonda ukucabanga kwabo ngemuva kwalokho. Khumbula lokhu lapho uzizwa unecala!
Awukwazi ukuthukuthela kothile ngokuba nezizathu ezizwakalayo zokungakwazi ukwenza okuthile, futhi nabo ngeke bakuthukuthelele.
Ukuhlenga izimo kungahle kube yinkohliso okwamanje, ikakhulukazi uma kunemizwelo efana necala elihilelekile.
ngifuna nje ukuzizwa ngithandwa ngumyeni wami
Zama ukucabanga ngesimo ngokushesha ngemuva kwalokho ngokubhala phansi ukuthi kwenzekeni nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngakho.
Lokhu kuzokusiza ukukubeka phansi ngokuzayo lapho kwenzeka isimo esifanayo, njengoba uzokwazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela nezindlela okungenzeka ukuthi weqise ngazo amandla esikhathini esedlule.
Qina
Lapho uzwakala ugculisa ngokwengeziwe lapho uthi cha, maningi amathuba okuthi umuntu okucela okuthile kuwe akwamukele.
Zama ukukhuluma ngokuzethemba - khumbula ukuthi awunasizathu sokuzizwa unecala, bese uchaza ngomoya ophansi ukuthi kungani uthi cha.
Uma ubhekene nomngani noma ilungu lomndeni, bazoqonda futhi ngeke bakududule. Uma ingxoxo yakho inomuntu osebenza naye noma umphathi, khumbula indawo obhekene nayo futhi ujwayele ukuthi cha ezintweni ezingaphandle kwalokhu.
Ngokusekela isitatimende sakho nge amandla angaphakathi , abantu basemathubeni amaningi okubona ukuthi uzimisele futhi mancane amathuba okuthi bazame ukuqhubeka bekuhlohla.
Namathela kulokho okushoyo futhi wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuthi ungabuyeli emuva - lokhu kuzoba lula lapho ukwenza kaningi!
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Zilungiselele
Kwesinye isikhathi kungaba nzima ukusabela kokuthile okwamanje, ikakhulukazi uma ungajwayele ukuthi cha.
Zama ukulungiselela izimpendulo ukuze ungabanjwa ungalindelanga - maningi amathuba okuthi uvume izinto uma uzizwa unengcindezi ebekelwe isikhathi.
Thola imishwana embalwa ezwakala ingokwemvelo futhi kulula ukuyikhumbula, njengokuthi 'Ake ngibheke idayari yami futhi ngizobuyela kuwe.'
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuzwakala unenkani futhi unesibindi - awusho lutho olujwayelekile futhi ulawula okwamanje. Le yimpendulo yokuqala eyamukelekayo ngokuphelele futhi isho ukuthi akuvamile ukuthi uqhume uthi 'yebo!'
Ukusuka lapha, ungathumela i-imeyili noma umyalezo uchaze ukuthi kungani ungakhululekile, ngoba lokhu kungazwakala kunzima kakhulu futhi kusabise kunokuthi cha ebusweni bomuntu.
ungayithola kanjani insizwa ezolala nawe futhi
Qina
Lapho uchaza ukuthi kungani ungeke wenze okuthile, fingqa ngamafuphi esitatimendeni esilula - 'Ngiyaxolisa, sengivele nginezinhlelo.' Lokhu kwamukeleka ngokuphelele futhi kulula ukukhumbula!
Lapho othile ephikelela ebuza, unganamathela kulo musho.
Qina futhi uqiniseke bese uziphinda kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze imininingwane icwile. Awudeleli ngokwenza lokhu, umane ukwenze kucace kakhulu, ukuthi awukwazi ukwenza lokhu abakucelayo ngalesi sikhathi.
Esikhundleni sokuphendula eminye imibuzo emisha abangazama ukukujikijela ngayo, hlala uhlukanisiwe bese uphinda isitatimende sakho esiyisisekelo.
Zama ukungazivumeli ukuthi uphazamiseke, ngoba lapho kungenzeka ukuthi uzame ukuphendula imibuzo yabo, ukhungatheke bese ugcina ngokuthi yebo.
Ziqhenye
Njalo uma ukwazi ukuthi cha entweni ethile, bhala ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Bhala phansi imizwa nemicabango yakho mayelana nokuthi cha, nokuthi ulindele ukuthi kwenzeke manje.
Ekuqaleni, cishe uzokwenza amanothi ahlanganisa ukuzizwa unecala, ukhathazeke ngokuthi uzondiwa noma uxoshwe emsebenzini, uvalo lokuthi ungumuntu omubi.
Ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, bhala ngemiphumela - mhlawumbe omunye umuntu uceliwe ukuthi ahlale sekwedlule isikhathi emsebenzini, noma umngani wakho athole omunye umuntu ozobashayela baye aphoyintimenti.
u-lana usashade no-rusev
Noma ngabe yimuphi umphumela, kungenzeka ukuthi awusondele ndawo kubi njengoba ububikezele.
Ngokubhala phansi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani bese ulandela kamuva ngemiphumela yangempela yezenzo zakho, uzoqala ukubona ukuthi ukuthi cha akugcini enhlekeleleni!
Lapho ukwazi ukukusebenzisa ngokwengeziwe lokhu, uzozizwa kangcono ngokwenqaba. Ngokushesha uzobona ukuthi ungayiqondisa kabusha ingqondo yakho ukuthi ucabange ukuthi cha njengento enempilo, enengqondo, kunokuba indlela eya ezenzweni ezimbi ezenzekayo.
Uma uthi 'yebo' kwabanye, qiniseka ukuthi awusho 'cha' kuwe. - UPaulo Coelho
