Noma ngabe yisiphi isikhathi empeleni sivela ngombono wesayensi, ngokwami, ngokwabantu, umbono, isikhathi into enamandla angibangela ukukhathazeka okukhulu.
Angikwazi ukusho ngokuqinisekile ukuthi ngaba kanjani ngale ndlela, kodwa uma nje ngisakhumbula manje, ngithole isikhathi sokuba yinto eyinkimbinkimbi futhi edidayo evela lapho kuvela khona ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka okukhulu.
Lokhu kubonakala ngezindlela eziningi:
- Ngiyakuzonda ukufika sekwephuzile ngakho-ke ngizinika isilinganiso esiningi ngokweqile lapho ngiya ezindaweni. Ekugcineni, lokhu kungishiya ngidinga ukubulala isikhathi ngenkathi ngilinde abanye abantu ukuthi bafike noma imicimbi iqale.
- Imvamisa ngigcizelela inani lomsebenzi engikwazi ukuwuqedela ngosuku - lokhu yinto eyenzekile selokhu ngazisebenza eminyakeni eyi-7 eyedlule. Uma ngingazizwa sengathi usuku lwami selukhiqize, nginamathuba amaningi okuthi ngibe nesimo esibi futhi, imvamisa, ngibe nekhanda kusihlwa. Ngicabanga ukuthi kumele kube nokuthile okuphathelene nesikhathi “sokuchitha”, okuyinqaba ngoba anginaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ngichaza kanjani “ukuchitha” isikhathi - angithandi lutho ngaphandle ukukhahlela emuva phambi kwe-TV ngemva kwakho konke!
- Ngikhathazeka ngenqubekela phambili engiyenzayo ekufinyeleleni ezinhlosweni zami nokuthi ngabe ngisemgqondweni noma ngemuva kwesikhathi. Anginazo ngisho nezinhloso ezikhonkolo ikakhulukazi isikhathi esiningi, kepha lokhu akungivimbi ekucabangeni ukuthi ngenza kanjani uma ngiqhathaniswa nentambo ethile engenangqondo.
- Nginokukhathazeka okususelwa esikhathini esizayo nokuthi ngizoba nemali eyanele yokuzondla mina nomndeni wami, yize okwamanje ngingenakho ukuphuma okuthile enginenkinga yokuhlangabezana nakho. Eqinisweni, ngenxa yobudala bami, ngimi kahle ngokwezomnotho, kepha ngisazizwa ngikhathazekile futhi nginesifiso sokwengeza umholo wami ngandlela thile.
- Ngithola ukukhathazeka okulindelekile okungenzeka kwesinye isikhathi kube nzima kakhulu lapho ngazi ukuthi kunomcimbi wanoma ikuphi ubukhulu obuzoqhamuka emaminithini / emahoreni ambalwa alandelayo. Ngisho nokwazi ukuthi othile uzoshaya ucingo ngesikhathi esithile kungishiya ngishaya ngamandla, ngijuluka futhi ngisebenza ngokweqile.
Ngiyazi ukuthi angikwazi ukuba ngedwa kulokhu, noma ngabe izinkathazo zakho ezenzelwe isikhathi zihluke kancane kulezo ezingenhla.
Kepha, maye, mhlawumbe awunantshisekelo ezinkingeni zami, mhlawumbe ulapha ukuthola ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nenkinga yakho yesikhashana futhi, kulokhu, ngikwazi ukushumayela isixazululo esisodwa esikhulu: i-now.
Linda! Ngaphambi kokuchofoza kude, ucabanga ukuthi usuyifunde yonke ngaphambili, ngiyanxusa ukuba unamathele kimi isikhashana nje. Ngineziphakamiso ezimbalwa ezingakucela.
Esokuqala salokhu ezinye iziqinisekiso ezilula zokubhekana nokwesaba kwakho:
Imicimbi empilweni yami izovela ukuthi yenzelwe nini futhi kanjani. Ngeke zenzeke kusenesikhathi, ngeke zenzeke sekwedlule isikhathi, zizokwenzeka lapho zenzeka ngakho-ke akukho sizathu sokuthi ngizikhathaze ngazo.
Noma ngabe kuncane noma kuncane engikufezile namuhla akubalulekanga, ukuphela kwento engikwazi ukulawula ukuthi ngiyivumela kanjani ukuthi ingithinte.
Ukukhathazeka ngekusasa kungukuzivocavoca okuyize ngoba angikwazi ukubikezela ukuthi yikuphi ukusonteka nokujika okuzolandela.
Phinda lokhu ekhanda lakho noma ngokuzwakalayo ngokuzayo lapho uhlangabezana nanoma yikuphi ukucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka okuhlobene nekusasa.
Okulandelayo amanye amathiphu awusizo wokubhekana nokukhathazeka okusekelwe esikhathini:
- Uma wazi ukuthi udinga ukuzishiyela isikhathi esithile, yithi imizuzu engu-15, ngaphambi kokwenza okuthile noma ukuya endaweni ethile, sebenzisa i-alamu ocingweni lwakho, iwashi, ikhompyutha noma iwashi lakho le-alamu eliseceleni kombhede ukuze likuxwayise lapho udinga ukuqala ukuzilungiselela. Lokhu kufanele kukuvumele ukuthi ubheke kulokhu manje futhi unciphise isidingo sakho sokubheka njalo isikhathi njalo emizuzwini emi-2 ukuqinisekisa ukuthi awephuzi.
- Uma ungathandi ukufika sekwephuzile emicimbini lapho abanye abantu bekhathazekile, khetha eyodwa lapho abangane abaningi bezobakhona khona bese uziphoqelela ukuthi wenze imizuzu eyi-15 ngemuva kwesikhathi esihleliwe sokuqala. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ukwamukele iqiniso lokuthi ukufika sekwedlule isikhathi akusikho ukuphela komhlaba futhi akubeki muntu ngaphandle. Uzoqala ukubona ukuthi ungafika kuphela manje nokuthi ukuzama ukufika ngokuzayo ngaphambi kwesikhathi akunakwenzeka. Ungakwenzi lokhu lapho uhlangana nomunye kuphela umuntu, noma kunjalo, njengoba bengeke bakubonge ngakho.
- Prakthiza inhloso eyindida - ukuzivocavoca okwenziwe ngudokotela wezifo zengqondo uViktor Frankl. Uma uhlangabezana nophawu oluthile lomzimba lapho ukhathazeka, esikhundleni sokuzama ukusinciphisa, zama okusemandleni akho ukukwenza kwenzeke ngobudlova obukhulu. Ngakho-ke uma isisu sakho sikhukhumala ngomcabango womcimbi osondelayo ngesikhathi, zitshele ukuthi 'Ngizokwenza isisu sami siqubule ngendlela engakaze ibonwe ngaphambili, kangangoba ngizoze ngigule.' Kufanele uthole ukuthi ukuzama ukuziphoqa ukuthi ubonise lezi zimpawu empeleni kuvimbela ikhono lakho lokwenza lokho ngoba unjalo kugxile manje , ukuthi umcabango wekusasa uyaphela.
- Uma, njengami, ukhathazeka ngokuba nemali eyanele noma ingcebo ngokuzayo, shintsha ukucabanga kwakho ngokubhala phansi uhlu lwazo zonke izinto ongabonga ngazo khona manje. Uma uphinda lo msebenzi njalo lapho kuvela ukukhathazeka okunje, ekugcineni uzobona ukuthi uhlala une- inala enkulu kakhulu ukubonga nokuthi, noma yini eyenzekayo ngokuzayo, inala lisazoba khona ngandlela thile.
Ngisenayo enye indlela engingayihamba ngaphambi kokuba nginqobe izinkinga zami zokukhathazeka ezinesikhathi, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi kufanele ngikwenze ngokwengeziwe lokho engikushumayelayo futhi empeleni ngisebenzise amaqhinga angenhla, angisize, ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene.
Ngiyethemba manje usuyabona ukuthi awuwedwa ekubhekaneni nale ndlela yokukhathazeka nokuthi kunezindlela zokubhekana nayo.
Uma uthole le ndatshana ikhanyisa noma iwusizo, sicela ushiye amazwana ngezansi. Ngiyayazisa impendulo ngayinye engiyitholayo.
