Abantu bayizidalwa zomphakathi ezinhliziyweni zethu mhlawumbe besingeke size kude nezinhlobo zezilwane ukube bekungenjalo. Osukwini lwesimanje, kodwa-ke, sekubukelwe phansi ngandlela thile ukwenqaba ithuba lokuzihlanganisa - into esingathanda ukuyibona iguquka.
Kufanele sifunde ukulalelisisa izinhliziyo zethu futhi sithi cha emicimbini lapho kungcono sihlale ekhaya, sibuke i-TV noma singene emanzini.
Asibizeli ukwehlukaniswa futhi ngokuqinisekile asifuni ukukhuthaza abantu ukuthi babe ngabangcweti esikusikisela ukuthi umqondo wokuthi kungcono kithina nakubudlelwano bethu bomuntu siqu lapho singathi cha kuzimemo ngezikhathi ezithile.
Uma sifuna ukufeza ushintsho olunjalo, kuzodingeka silubhekise ezinhlangothini ezimbili.
ungamtshela kanjani umuntu ukuthi uyamfuna
Okokuqala ukususa isici sokulindela kubantu ingcindezi yontanga esiphoqelela ukuthi sivumelane nokuthile ebesingathanda ukungakwenzi. Lokhu kuphoqelelwa komphakathi kungenye yezici ezingenampilo zesikhathi samanje lapho izingcingo eziphindaphindwayo zokuthi uvume umcimbi uvele uzizwe sengathi awunandlela yokuzikhethela.
Esikhundleni salokho, labo abamemayo kufanele basamukele kakhulu isinqumo somuntu ngamunye. Khumbula, noma ngabe kukhona okukukhangayo, akusho ukuthi kuzoba okwabo bonke abanye abantu.
Ukuba necala kuyinto yesibili okudinga ukulungiswa uma sifuna ukuveza ukubonakaliswa okunempilo kwezifiso zethu zangempela kumongo wokuzijabulisa. Imvamisa, labo abangafuni ukwenqaba isimemo bazithola belwa nomuzwa wecala. Lapho leli cala lisinqoba, sigcina sesithi yebo ezintweni esingathanda ukuthi cha.
Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko esizizwa sinecala elinjalo yingoba sikholelwa ukuthi sidumaza omunye umuntu ngandlela thile. Singaze sicabange ukuthi sizibeka engcupheni yokuthola ubudlelwano ngenxa yokwenqatshelwa esikubonisa kubo.
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Leli cala linqotshwa kangcono ngokukhulumisana kahle imizwa yakho ukuze omunye umuntu aqonde lapho uvela khona. Kulungile ukuthi 'ngiyabonga ngesimemo, kodwa uyazi ukuthi yini, ngishaya kancane ngemuva kweviki elimatasa, ngakho-ke ngicabanga ukuthi ngizozipholela ekhaya namuhla.'
Uzothola ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho kungenzeka buchume uma nikwazi ukukhululeka komunye nomunye futhi ngeke ugcine ucasukele umuntu ngoba bekucindezela ukuthi uthi yebo lapho ubukade uthi cha.
Akukona Konke Ngezethulo Vs Extroverts
Kungenzeka ukuthi ufunda le ndatshana ukholwa ukuthi imayelana nokuthi kanjani izethulo ngithanda ukuhlala ekhaya ngenkathi ama-extroverts ethanda ukuphuma ukuzijabulisa. Kepha kuyajula kunalokhu.
Okokuqala, abantu bangangeniswa futhi badonswe ngezikhathi ezahlukahlukene umqondo wokuthi umuntu unesikhundla esisodwa esigabeni se-introvert-extrovert ngokujwayelekile akulungile.
Wonke umuntu unekhono lokuzitholela kunoma yikuphi ukuphela kobubanzi ngezinga elikhulu noma elincane. Lokhu kuncike ezintweni eziningi ezifana nokuthi ngubani osibuzayo, ukuthi yini umcimbi (mhlawumbe umcimbi okhethekile), yini ngempela engabandakanyeka (kunomehluko phakathi kokudla ngaphandle nosuku olugcwele lwemisebenzi yezemidlalo ebangelwa i-adrenaline ), nokuthi unikezwa isixwayiso esingakanani kusengaphambili.
Ungajabula futhi uzimisele kakhulu ukuvuma yebo kwisiphuzo sosuku lokuzalwa esixegisiwe neqembu elincane labangane abaseduze okuhlelwe kusenesikhathi, kunokuba ungavuma ukuya ebhokisini lokupenda neqembu elikhulu labantu (abanye babo ongabaniki ' t yazi) ngesaziso sosuku noma ezimbili kuphela.
Akunakuphikwa ukuthi abanye abantu bathola ukulingana kwabo kwemvelo ekugcineni kwesikali, kepha cishe wonke umuntu uzosizwa isidingo sokuphumula isikhathi nesikhathi.
Into amaqembu womabili okudingeka ayikhumbule ukuthi: cha namuhla akudingeki ukuthi lisho kusasa.
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Uma umeme osebenza naye ukuba aphuze emva kokuphuza umsebenzi izikhathi ezi-5 futhi bathe cha isikhathi ngasinye, ungayeki ukubabuza ukuthi bangafuna ukukujoyina okwesithupha, kepha uma ungabamemi, kungenzeka uzizwe ukwazi ukubuza.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma kunguwe othi cha ngalesi sikhathi, qiniseka ukwazisa omunye umuntu ukuthi ungafisa ukwenza enye into ngokuzayo. Ungathi 'Angizizwa kahle ngalesi sikhathi, kepha kungani singahleleli okuthile kwesonto elizayo?'
Ukungqubuzana Kwangaphakathi
Ukusebenzisa isikhathi sakho samahhala sokuhlala futhi uphumule kwesinye isikhathi kungaholela emzabalazweni wangaphakathi nawo.
Ingxenye yakho ungathanda ukuchitha iMigqibelo yakho phambi kwe-TV ubuka ezemidlalo noma ufunda incwadi oyifundayo, kodwa ngezikhathi ezithile ungathola eminye imicabango ingena ekhanda lakho. Ungase ukhathazeke ngokuthi ulahlekelwa yimpilo nokuthi kufanele ngabe wenza okuningi ngesikhathi sakho.
Izinkundla zokuxhumana kufanele zithathe amanye amacala ngalokhu. Lapho ubona abangani bakho bethumela izithombe ku-Facebook, noma bebheka izindawo abazihambelayo, kungakunika isithombe sokuthi bathokozela impilo ukudlula wena. Kungaba umcabango ongenangqondo, kepha uqala ukukholwa ukuthi yilokhu okufanele ngabe ukwenze nawe.
Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele uzikhumbuze ukuthi uhlangabezana nalezi zinto lapho uzizwa unjalo. Akufanele uzizwe unesidingo sokuminyana nsuku zonke lapho uvuka khona nemisebenzi uma lokhu kungeyona into ofisa ukuyenza ngokweqiniso. Ukuchitha usuku noma kusihlwa ekhaya kungavuza ngokomzwelo njengokuhamba.
I-Conscious Rethink: ukwenza ukwamukelwa kuyisihluthulelo ezimeni zenhlalo labo abenza isimemo badinga ukwamukela isinqumo somuntu lapho bethi cha, kuyilapho labo ababuzwa kufanele bamukele imizwa yabo futhi bangabakhapheli ngokuthi yebo. Ukuphumula ekhaya akukwenzi ube yisicefe futhi akusho ukuthi ulahlekelwa yimpilo, kuyisidingo esiyisisekelo kithi sonke - ukuthi nje abanye bethu bakudinga kakhulu kunabanye.
