Anginaki noma yini ekudumiseni noma ekusolweni komunye umuntu. Ngimane ngilandela imizwa yami.
- UWolfgang Amadeus Mozart
Uke uzizwe sengathi unamathele phakathi kokudonsana kwempi phakathi kwenhliziyo yakho nengqondo yakho? Uma kunjalo, yimuphi ongathi ngokujwayelekile uwina?
Uma ufana neningi labantu, impendulo kungenzeka ibe yingqondo yakho. Bambalwa kakhulu kithi abalalela imizwa yethu yangempela ngakho-ke siyehluleka ukuthatha imilayezo ebalulekile abayithumelayo.
Kule ndatshana, ngizohlola ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka, ukuthi yini okudingeka uyikhumbule ngemizwa, ukuthi ungayiqonda kanjani, nendlela engcono yokubhekana nayo.
Isimo Esikhona Njengamanje
Angicabangi ukuthi ngiphuthelwa umaki kakhulu lapho ngithi iningi labantu liqondiswa kakhulu yimicabango yalo. Isifiso sokukala ubuhle nobubi bazo zonke izimo sinamandla ngoba lokhu kuvame ukufundiswa njengendlela engcono yokubhekana nezinkinga.
Mayelana nezinkinga ezithile, lapho ikhambi elilungile lingatholwa ngesizathu, lokhu kunengqondo ngokuphelele. Kodwa-ke, kufanele ngibuze ukuthi kungenzeka kangaki lokhu.
Futhi nokho lapha siqoqekile sabantu abavumela ukucabanga kusinqumele ukuthi sikuphila kanjani izimpilo zethu. Sicindezela imizwa yethu sithanda izingqondo zethu, sikholelwa ukuthi lena indlela engcono yokwenza kuzuzwe ukwaneliseka futhi ugweme ukudumazeka.
Ukungayivezi imizwa yakho yangempela kumuntu omdala kubonakala kungokwemvelo kusuka eminyakeni eyisikhombisa noma eyisishiyagalombili kuya phambili.
- UGeorge Orwell
Esinye sezizathu ezinkulu zalokhu ukuthi sifisa ukuzivumelanisa nomphakathi owenqaba imizwa njengengathandeki.
Izinhlelo zethu zemfundo zivame ukuza ngohlobo ‘lwesilinganiso esisodwa silingana nakho konke’ lapho ubuntu buzabalaza khona ukuqhakaza phakathi kwezifundo eziqinile ezibekwe yindikimba ebusayo. Esikhundleni sokwamukela imizwa nezifiso zomfundi ngamunye, izama ukufaka izikhonkwane eziyisikwele emigodini eyindilinga. Futhi-ke, intsha yethu ifundiswa ukufihla ucezu lwayo kude ukuze izwane.
Umhlaba wobumbano webhizinisi elikhulu awusekho kangcono ekuzizweni ngaphambili. Izinkampani zifuna uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi lowo onokuthula, ongaphazamisi, 'umdlali weqembu' oyisaga osebenza kanzima futhi onekhono ukucabanga okubucayi . Abathambekele kangako ukuqasha abantu ababucayi abasebenzisa amathumbu abo ukusiza ukuhola izinqumo zabo.
wazi kanjani uma uthanda umfana
Ngisho noma sikanye nemindeni yethu nabangane, kungenzeka singazizwa sikwazi ngaso sonke isikhathi siveze imizwa yethu yangempela . Uma sikholwa ukuthi zizophikisana nezabanye, singakhetha ukungazinaki futhi sigqoke imaski ukuze samukelwe ngamanga.
Lezi kanye nezinye izikhungo zezenhlalo ezifana nabezindaba kanye nohulumeni konke kubonakala kusiholela esikweni lokuzibamba nokuvimbela.
Zama ukungalahleki ngokuziqhathanisa nabanye. Thola izipho zakho bese uzivumela zikhanye!
- UJennie Finch
Esinye isizathu esikhulu esenza singakunaki ukulalela imizwa yethu ukuthi simatasa kakhulu sifisa ukuthi ngabe besingomunye umuntu.
ngifuna ukuzizwa kakhulu ngawe
I- fisa ukuziqhathanisa nabanye Kubonakala sengathi sekukhule kwaba yisilinganiso sobhubhane lwezinto ezibanzi kakhulu ukuthi zingangena lapha.
Kepha umphumela ukuthi sihlola lokho imizwa yethu isitshela khona ukuthi sifuna ngempela futhi, esikhundleni salokho, sigxile kulokho esizizwa kufanele ukuthi sikufune ngokuya ngalokho abanye abakwenzayo nokuthi banakho.
Kucishe kufane nokuthi sesiphenduke isibalo sabantu esakhiwe ikakhulu ngama-conformists asekhohliwe ukuthi singaba kanjani ngabantu.
Ingabe Simane Singaqondi Imizwa Kuqala?
Uma othile ekubuza ukuthi ukwesaba noma ukudabuka kwakukuhle noma kubi, ubungasho ukuthi babemubi. Cabanga futhi…
Umuzwa, ngokwawo, awuqondile noma awunampilo.
Uma udabukile, kuyindlela ye- ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo futhi, ngezindlela eziningi, ingalinganiswa nobuhlungu obungokomzimba obuzwayo lapho usika umunwe noma ushaya idolo.
Kodwa ubuhlungu bumane nje buyisiginali etshela ubuchopho bakho ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ukusikeka noma ukulimazeka okuyinkinga eyisisekelo umzimba okufanele ubhekane nayo.
Ngokufanayo, umuzwa umane uyisiginali esivela kumuntu wakho wangaphakathi uye engqondweni yakho ukutshela ukuthi okuthile akulungile impela. Ngokungafani nobuhlungu obungokomzimba, inkinga eyisisekelo ivame ukuba yangaphandle.
Kodwa imizwa ayikwazi ukunganakwa, noma ngabe ibonakala ingenabulungisa noma ingabongi kangakanani.
- U-Anne Frank
Ngenkathi umzimba ukwazi ukwelapha izifo eziningi zomzimba ngaphandle kokungenelela kwakho, akunakushiwo okufanayo ngezinkinga ezingokomzwelo. Awukwazi ukumane ungakunaki ukudabuka ngethemba lokuthi kuzonyamalala, ngoba kufanele ubhekane nezimbangela, kakhulu njengoba kwenza umzimba wakho ngezinkinga zomzimba.
Ngingaphakamisa futhi ukuthi abantu abaningi bacabange ukuthi imizwa ayinangqondo, ayinangqondo, futhi ayilusizo kuyo ukwenza izinqumo . Bona, esikhundleni salokho, babheka ngosizo lwangaphandle kanye nolwazi abangabeka kulo izinto.
Kodwa-ke, imizwa yethu ayigcini kulwazi esingaluthola kalula ezingqondweni zethu ezazi kahle, kepha umtapo wolwazi omkhulu kakhulu wezinkumbulo nolwazi egcinwe equlekile .
Ngakho-ke, empeleni, imizwa yethu kungenzeka inikeze ukubonakaliswa okunembe kakhudlwana kwazo zonke izinzuzo nezingozi esimweni eziningi esingase singakwazi ukuziqonda ngokunengqondo.
Isiphetho-ke ukuthi ngenkathi ingqondo yakho enengqondo isiza kakhulu kwezinye izimo, ikhawulelwe kakhulu kwezinye. Ngakho-ke, imizwa yakho nemicabango yakho kufanele kusetshenziswe ngasikhathi sinye kumazinga ahlukahlukene.
Akuyona imizwa NOMA umqondo kunemizwa NOKUQONDA.
Ukufunda Ukulalela Imizwa Yakho
Lapho usukutholile ukubaluleka kokulalela imizwa yakho, kuba yisifundo sokufunda ukuthi kanjani.
Le nqubo inokufana nokufunda ulimi olusha - kuzothatha isikhashana ukuqonda lokho okushiwoyo nokuthi ungaphendula kanjani kangcono. Ngakho-ke ungalindeli ukuyilawula ngobusuku obubodwa!
Isinyathelo sokuqala senqubo ukufunda ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwemizwa ehlukahlukene ongaba nayo. Akwanele ukuhlanganisa yonke imizwa engemihle ibe lusizi, ukwesaba noma intukuthelo futhi konke okuhle kube yinjabulo, injabulo noma uthando esidinga ukukhulisa ulwazimagama lwethu olungokomzwelo ukuze siqonde okushiwoyo.
lapho ungathandi umuntu kodwa ungazi ukuthi kungani
Thatha umona nomhawu ngokwesibonelo abantu abaningi bangakuthola kunzima ukuqonda umehluko phakathi kwabo. Kodwa-ke zehlukile ngendlela eyodwa ebaluleke kakhulu: umona yilokho ozizwa khona uma ufisa okuthile omunye umuntu anakho, kuyilapho umhawu umuzwa owutholayo lapho kunosongo lokuthi ungalahlekelwa okuthile osunakho kakade.
Ungaba nomona ngobuhlobo obuhle bomunye umuntu, kepha awukwazi ukuba nomona ngabo, ngoba alukho usongo lokulahlekelwa kuwe.
Ukuchaza imizwa yakho, ngakho-ke, isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile sokufunda kubo.
Umzimba wakho unganikeza izinkomba ezithile zokuthi uzizwa kanjani, yize kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukubonakaliswa okufanayo komzimba kwenzeka ngemizwa ehluke kakhulu.
Isibonelo, isasasa nokukhathazeka kwabelana ngezinto ezifanayo zomzimba: izintende ezijulukayo, inhliziyo egijimayo, nokuzwela okukhulu komsindo nokukhanya. Kepha ngenkathi ukukhathazeka kungakunika isisu esingazinzile, lesi akusona isibonakaliso esihlala sihlotshaniswa nenjabulo.
Ngakho-ke, udinga ukuhlanganisa imicabango yakho, imizwa engokomzimba, nezinkomba zesimo ukukusiza ukuthi usebenze obhekene nakho.
Ukuphathwa ikhanda njalo kufana nokucindezeleka nokungezwani, ukukhanya okukhanyayo ngokushaqeka, nesicanucanu ngokunengeka. Ngakho-ke, qaphela lokho umzimba wakho okutshela kona.
Indlela Engcono Yokubhekana Nemizwa Yakho
Lapho usuthole ukuthi yini umuzwa ngamunye, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuthola imbangela yawo.
Ungayibhala kanjani incwadi yothando
Kufanele uzizwe umona ngokuvuleleka komlingani wakho nomunye umuntu, kuzofanele uzibuze ukuthi ngubani umuntu wesithathu onomona ngaye nokuthi yini abelana ngayo nomlingani wakho oyithola isongela kangaka.
Mhlawumbe baxoxa ngezinkinga zabo nomzali noma ingane yakini kunokuba baxoxe nawe. Okokuqala, zibuze ukuthi kungani uthola leli qiniso lisongela ubuhlobo bakho. Mhlawumbe uzizwa sengathi wena nomlingani wakho aninakho ukusondelana kweqiniso ngoba kunjalo engakwazi ukuxhumana ngokujulile njengoba ungathanda.
Imicabango iyizithunzi zemizwa yethu - ihlala iba mnyama, ithulule futhi ilula.
- UFriedrich Nietzsche
Ngemuva kwalokho, cabanga ngokuthi ungakuletha kanjani lokhu nabo ngendlela engeyona eyokulwa.
Ekugcineni, cabanga ngezinyathelo ezingathathwa ukuxazulula inkinga. Kulokhu, wena nozakwenu nikwazi ukuzibophezela ekuvulekeni kakhulu komunye nomunye, noma ungavele ukhethe ukwamukela ukuthi umlingani wakho unezinye izibopho ezisondelene nokuthi lokhu akulona uphawu lobudlelwano obuhlulekayo.
Lesi sinyathelo siphikisana nendlela ejwayelekile ethathiwe, okuwukuthi uveze imizwa yakho ngendlela engakhi (isb.Ukuba nomugqa) noma ukubacindezela. Ayikho inketho emele isixazululo.
Ukufaka Imizwa Yakho Ekuphileni Kwansuku Zonke
Kuleli qophelo, kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngokuthi uqhubeka kanjani uvumela imizwa nemizwa yakho ikuqondise usuku nosuku.
Into yokuqala okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi imizwa yakho ikhombisa njalo ukuthi indlela oyikhethile empilweni ifana kanjani nobuntu bakho bangaphakathi. Lokho kusho ukuthi, bazokwazisa lapho uphambuka endleleni efiswa yinhliziyo yakho kanye nokuziphatha kwakho.
Unalokhu engqondweni, udinga ukuqala ukufunda ukuzethemba ngokwakho futhi wazi ukuthi lokho ozizwa kungenzeka ukuthi kube yisiqondiso esihle kunazo zonke oyoke ube nazo.
Lokhu kwethemba kufana nemisipha - kungaqiniswa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi njengoba uyisebenza kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, iseluleko sami ukuqala kancane. Qala ukulalela imizwa yakho ezimweni ezibandakanya ubungozi obuncane bese wakhe izinqumo ezingaba nemiphumela ebanzi kakhulu.
ungaba nomphefumulo ongaphezu koyedwa
Mhlawumbe uzizwa uvinjelwe yimingcele yedolobha eli-dreary, elimpunga noma idolobha - qaphela ukuthi imizwa yakho ikutshelani bese wenza okuthile ngakho. Phuma uye emaphandleni noma olwandle uthathe uhambo lokuhambahamba, noma uthole inqwaba yokuthula epaki noma engadini.
Thembela nje ukuthi noma yini enye okungenzeka ukuthi ubuyihlelile ngalolo suku, unikezwe umyalezo obalulekile futhi udinga ukusetshenzwa ngawo manje.
Lapho unamathela ngokwengeziwe emizweni yakho - lapho ukwazi kangcono ukuyiqonda futhi uyihlukanise phakathi kwayo - lapho ungabavumela bakunikeze izinqumo ezinkulu nezinkulu.
Imizwa yakho ingunkulunkulu wakho. Umphefumulo uyithempeli lakho.
- Chanakya
Ngakho-ke, ukubuyisa izinyathelo okudingeka uzithathe ukuze usebenzise imizwa yakho:
- Isinyathelo 1 - lalela imizwa yakho (kubandakanya ukuzijwayeza ukuqonda ngamunye)
- Isinyathelo 2 - cabanga ngomnyombo womuzwa wakho (ngubani, ini, ngani?)
- Isinyathelo 3 - zama ukuthola indlela yokufinyelela esinqumweni ukuze imizwa yakho yehle ngokwemvelo (i.e. ungabacindezeli)
- Isinyathelo 4 - yenza, zijwayeze, zenze
Akufanele ubalekele imizwa yakho, futhi akufanele uyifihle lapho iqondakala kahle, ingaba umthombo wokuhlakanipha okukhulu. Unethuba namuhla, futhi nsuku zonke, ukuthola izinkolelo zakho eziyisisekelo nezifiso zakho futhi uphile ngazo.
