Kubaluleke kangakanani ukuhambisana kwengqondo ebudlelwaneni?
Impendulo ithi: kubuzuzisa impela ubudlelwano, kepha akubalulekile ku-100%.
Kunezibonelo eziningi zabashadikazi abangalingani ngokomqondo nokho abagcina ubudlelwano obujabulisayo, obunempilo, futhi obaluleke kakhulu, obuzinzile.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukusebenzisana kusebenza ezindaweni eziningi kakhulu ebudlelwaneni (ngokomzwelo, ngokomoya, ngokomzimba, kwezenhlalo, njll.) Ukuthi isibopho esihlukile endaweni eyodwa singakudlula kalula ukungafani kokunye.
Njengoba ubudlelwane bukhula, ziningi izinto ezidlalayo futhi inhlanganisela ehlukile yezinhlobo zobuntu idinga ukukhuthazwa okuhlukile ukukhiqiza ubudlelwano obusebenza ngokugcwele.
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Kodwa-ke, iqiniso lokuthi uchofoze kule ndatshana lisikisela ukuthi ungaba ngumuntu ozizwa ngokwemvelo ukuthi ukusebenza kubude obufanayo bobuqili njengoba umlingani wakho kubalulekile kuwe.
Mhlawumbe usesebudlelwaneni manje nomuntu ongaphandle okulunge ngokuphelele, okuphatha kahle, kodwa kukhona nje into ongeke wakwazi ukubeka umunwe kuyo okugcina izinto zikha phezulu.
Akukho ukujula futhi akulona iqiniso uxhumano.
Lokhu kwenzeka kaningi ngokwanele lapho uzulazula ngendlela yakho echibini lokuphola.
Ukuzama ukuthola ukuthi kungani ubudlelwano bakho bungekho lokho 'okuthile okuthile' kungakunika ukuthula kwengqondo.
Ukuzenza wazi ezinye zezimpawu zokuhambisana kobuhlakani ebudlelwaneni, ngakho-ke, kunengqondo kakhulu.
Lapho ubona lezi zibonakaliso ebudlelwaneni bakho, kufanelana kahle wena nomlingani wakho empeleni nisezingeni lokuqonda.
1. Nifunda komunye nomunye.
Ukuba nolwazi namakhono ahlukene kodwa ahambisanayo nokuzimisela ukufunda komunye nomunye kuyinkomba enkulu yokuhambisana kobuhlakani.
Uma kungekho ukuzimisela noma ukufundisa noma ukufunda komunye nomunye, khona-ke igebe lolwazi liba yisithiyo phakathi kwenu kunokuba ngumgqugquzeli wokuqonda.
Umphumela uba ukuthi omunye umlingani uzizwa ephansi ngokwengqondo noma ephakeme kunomunye okudala isikhubekiso kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
Ekugcineni, ubudlelwano buhlukaniswa ngomlingani oyedwa odlala indawo ‘kothisha’ omunye abe ‘ngumfundi.’
Ukuvumelana kobuhlakani kuya ngesilinganiso esingcono lapho bobabili abalingani bevulekele ukufunda komunye nomunye, okuvumela ukuthi kukhule njengoba ubuhlobo bukhula.
2. Ingxoxo ingaba yinselele - kodwa ngendlela enhle.
Ukuxhumana kuwo wonke amazinga kuyisidingo esiyisisekelo sobuhlobo obanelisayo.
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi izingxoxo zakho zikhuthaze futhi ungabambeki enkulumweni engapheli yenkulumo encane noma ugcine ezihlokweni ezikha phezulu.
Lapho usaqala ebudlelwaneni, lokhu kujwayelekile ngokuphelele - izingxoxo kufanele ziqale kwenye indawo, akunjalo?
Lapho usukade uzungeze ibhulokhi izikhathi ezimbalwa ndawonye, uzothola ukuthi izingxoxo zakho zimboza uhla olubanzi lwezihloko futhi zikhuthaze futhi zibe nenjongo.
Abambalwa abanenhlanhla bazothola ukuthi badlulela phezulu ngokuphelele futhi banamathela ezihlokweni ezinobuthi, bahlole izifundo ezijulile nezenelisayo kusukela ngosuku lokuqala.
Izingxoxo phakathi kwezithandani ezihambisanayo ngokwengqondo ziyakhuthaza futhi kwesinye isikhathi ziyinselelo njengoba niphenya ngokujulile ezinkolelweni zomunye nomunye nasezinhlelweni zenani futhi ngaleyo ndlela nithuthukise ukuqonda okukhulu kokuthi yini eninenza nobabili nikhathaze.
Esikhundleni sokubanga ukungqubuzana, ukuxabana ngamazwi okungavela ezingxoxweni ezinjalo kusebenza ukuqinisa ukuxhumana kwakho.
Ungalibukeli phansi inani lezingxoxo ezikhona maqondana nenjabulo ephelele. Ucwaningo olulodwa iphakamisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwenhlalonhle nokuhwebelana ngamazwi okunenjongo.
Kubukeka sengathi yingakho impilo egcwele izinkulumo ezincane ingagculisi ngokujule kangaka.
3. Nihlonipha ilungelo lomunye nomunye lokuba nombono ohlukile.
Kumbhangqwana ongahambisani ngokwengqondo, umehluko ocacile wemibono ngokushesha uveza imigqa yamaphutha ebudlelwaneni.
Kodwa-ke, uma zombili izinhlangothi zizethemba ngombono wazo, kepha futhi zamukela futhi zikhuthaze nemibono ephikisayo yomlingani wazo, lokhu kuba amandla.
Lokhu kubuyela ephuzwini langaphambilini ngokubaluleka kwengxoxo enengqondo yombhangqwana oxhumene ngokwengqondo.
Isenzo sokuhlola yonke imikhakha yesihloko esiyinselele, lapho izinhlangothi zombili zizethemba khona elungelweni lazo lokubamba umbono ohlukile, siholela ekuxhumaneni kobuchopho okujulile nokwanelisa nobudlelwano obujabulisayo.
Umbhangqwana onobuhlakani beqiniso obuqondayo uyaqonda ukuthi imibono yomuntu oyedwa ayingcono kunomunye, futhi ukwabelana ngemibono eyehlukene kuvumela ukukhula nokufundisana futhi kwengeza ukudlidliza ebudlelwaneni.
4. Awukaze ube nesithukuthezi nomlingani wakho.
Uma isikhathi osichitha nomlingani wakho sizuzisa ngokwengqondo futhi unentshisekelo yangempela kulokho abakushoyo, izihloko abakhetha ukuxoxa ngazo, nokuzilibazisa abakukhethile, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ube unesizungu ebudlelwaneni bakho .
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Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, uzithola ufinyelela kubangani, umndeni, nabanye abantu ukuthola lokho kukhuthaza, lokho kungaphakamisa ifulegi elibomvu njengokuthile okushoda ngokusobala ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Konke akulahlekile uma kunjalo, noma kunjalo.
Ukwenza umzamo wokuthola ezinye izinto enizithandayo - ezemidlalo, ezokuvakasha, ukudla, ngokwesibonelo, kungathuthukisa ukuxhumana kwakho futhi kukunikeze okuthile okuyigugu langempela ongabelana ngakho.
Kunganciphisa futhi noma yimuphi umqondo wesithukuthezi obangelwa ukungahambisani kahle kwakho kobuhlakani.
Uma ukuzilibazisa okuthandayo kufaniswa, amathuba okuba nesithukuthezi noma ukunganeliseki ebudlelwaneni bakho ancishisiwe.
Isibonelo, uma wabelana ngothando lokufunda noma bobabili bejabulela itiyetha yesimanje, lapho-ke ngeke ube nokuningi kokuxoxa kuphela, kodwa futhi nokuxhumana okujulile kobuhlakani.
5. Awukho umqondo wokuncintisana phakathi kwakho.
Umbhangqwana ohambelana ngokwengqondo ngeke uzizwe sengathi udinga ukuthola amaphuzu.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, lo mbhangqwana ovama njalo futhi ovame ukuvela njengezitha kunezimbangi zawo mancane amathuba okuthi abe semkhawulweni ofanayo wokuqonda.
Yebo, kwesinye isikhathi kungaba mnandi futhi kube nokudlala ngothando ukuncintisana okuncane, kepha futhi kungagqoka uma kuyisethingi ezenzakalelayo yobudlelwano bakho.
Akunasidingo sokuzivocavoca ubuchopho obungapheli ukuze ufakazele ukulingana kwakho ngokomqondo.
Isibonisi esihle sobuhlakani yikhono lokukhulumisana ngokwethembeka, ngokukhululeka nangenhlonipho.
Lokho akubizi umjikelezo okhandlayo wokuncokola ngomlomo - ngaphandle kokuthi, nobabili nicabanga ukuthi kumnandi lokho.
6. Isithandwa sakho sithuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakho.
Ukuzethemba kuyinto entekenteke futhi inkomba enhle yokuvumelana kwengqondo ukuthi uzizwa uzethemba kangakanani enkampanini kazakwenu.
Kufanele uzizwe ukwazi ukuveza imibono yakho ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuthi izolungiswa noma yahlulelwe.
Akufanele kube nentukuthelo, umona, noma ukwesaba phakathi kwenu, futhi akufanele nizizwe sengathi ubuqotho benu buyalulazwa noma buyabuzwa.
Ukulingana kwakho ngokomqondo ngeke kuzwe isidingo sokuphazamisa njalo, ukuchaza ngokweqile, noma ukukubeka phansi.
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Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunokwanda kakhulu komuntu- noma owesifazane okuqhubekayo - okwenza uzizwe uvikelekile noma ubukelwa phansi - kungadingeka ukuthi ubuze ukuthi umataniswe kahle yini ngokomqondo.
7. Wabelana ngokufana, noma okufanayo, ukunambitha emculweni.
Kukhona okuthile ngomculo okuxhuma nezinga elijulile lomzwelo le-psyche yomuntu.
Kaningi kunalokho, abantu abahambisana ngokwengqondo bavame ukujabulela izitayela ezifanayo zomculo, njengoba uhlangana nazo zombili ngokulinganayo ngokomzwelo.
Uma ngabe uyizwe elithe xaxa, ngakho-ke, futhi umlingani wakho emayelana nokushaya ikhanda okunzima, kunethuba elihle lokuthi ukhukhuleke ngokomqondo.
Lokhu kungahle kungabi yiqiniso emhlabeni wonke, kepha, njengoba imibhangqwana eminingi ichuma naphezu kwegebe elibonakalayo ekuthandweni kwabo komculo. Ukhiye wokuphumelela ezimweni ezinjalo ukuthi bayahlonipha ukwehluka komunye nomunye.
Iqembu ngalinye linikezwa isikhala nesikhathi sokujabulela uhlobo lomculo oluthandayo ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
KULUNGILE, kungenzeka badinge ukuzitika ngasese, noma nabanye abalandeli (ngoba akekho umuntu okufanele aphoqwe ukuthi alalele umculo obeka imizwa yabo onqenqemeni noma owenza izindlebe zabo zophe), kodwa lokho kwamukelwa ngenjabulo phakathi kwabo.
8. Wabelana ngezinga elifanayo lelukuluku lokufunda izinto ezintsha (noma cha).
Abanye abantu banelukuluku lokufunda noma lokuhlangabezana nezinto ezintsha kunabanye.
Mhlawumbe unesidingo esifana nesipanji sokuthola ulwazi, noma mhlawumbe uhlala ufuna isiko elilandelayo elilandelayo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungahle weneliseke nje ngokuba 'yikho,' ngaphandle kokomela noma yini ethile.
Akukhathalekile ukuthi yikuphi okusebenza kuwe, ngoba ayikho enye noma enye indlela 'efanele' yokuphila.
Akunzima ukubona ukuthi umuntu othanda ukuthakazelisa kungenzeka ukuthi akayena umlingani ofanele ngokomqondo womuntu ongakaze ajabule ukwedlula lapho ekhaya izinyawo zabo ziphezulu phambi kwe-TV .
Ngokufanayo, umfundi okhuthele wezincwadi ezingamaqiniso ngeke ahambisane kahle ngokomqondo nomuntu odla imibukiso yezinkulumo ze-TV yasemini kanye ne-TV engokoqobo.
Nakulokhu futhi, akukho okungalungile, kepha ngalokho konke izingoma ezibalulekile zengqondo kuyasiza kubo bobabili abalingani ukuba babe nezifiso ezifanayo.
Okubalulekile uma kukhulunywa ngokuhambisana ngokomqondo ukuthi nobabili nithambekele ngendlela efanayo.
9. Ubudlelwano bakho abukho konke ngokwenyama.
Ukudlala ngothando nokudlalwa kwangaphambili kumnandi ngokungangabazeki futhi ubudlelwane bobulili obujabulisayo, kubantu abaningi, bungokhiye obalulekile ebudlelwaneni obuzinzile.
Lokho kusho, ubudlelwano phakathi kwabalingana ngokwengqondo abuqali futhi buphelela ekamelweni.
Imayelana nazo zonke izinto ezibalulwe ngenhla nokuningi.
Uma omunye umlingani ezama ukuxhuma ezingeni lomzwelo, ngenkathi omunye egxile kakhulu kokungokomzimba, kungasho inkinga.
Kungaba inkomba yokuthi ucansi lusetshenziselwa ukukhokhela ukungabi bikho kobuhlakani bengqondo.
Uzakwethu oyedwa akakwazi ukuzibandakanya nezinga lobuchopho futhi ngenxa yalokho ubuyela ekuxhumaneni ngokomzimba okuhloliwe nokuhloliwe esikhundleni.
Lokho, ngakunye, akuyona inkinga, kepha kungakhombisa isidingo sokuhlola ezinye izindawo zokuhambisana ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi ubudlelwano bakho buyanelisa ngokweqiniso kwelinye izinga.
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