Akunakuphikwa, lapho ungena endaweni yokucima ukoma futhi uskena igumbi lomuntu ongaba umlingani wakhe, ekuqaleni, kubukeka kukudonsela ngaphakathi.
Kepha ngokuhamba isikhathi eside, yilokho okuphakathi kwezindlebe zakho, hhayi phakathi kwemilenze yakho, okuzoqinisa isivumelwano.
Ngakho-ke, akumangalisi yini ukuthi sonke, ngandlela-thile, sikhangwa ubuhlakani?
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Okokuqala, ake siqale ngabesilisa nabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane.
Lelo yigama elisetshenziselwa abantu abavuswa ubuhlakani.
Leli gama livela esiLatini (ake sibhekane nakho konke okwenzekayo), ama-sapiens, okusho ukuthi 'ukuhlakanipha'.
Zivulwe ngendlela ingqondo esebenza ngayo, ngokubukeka okuhle kube ngemuva kokuxhuma okujulile kobuhlakani.
Okokudlalwa kwangaphambili, abesilisa abathandana nobulili obufanayo bakhetha ukuhlukana ngokwengqondo nabathandi babo.
Ukuqonda okusheshayo, ukuqonda okubukhali, kanye ne-banter ehlakaniphile kunamathuba amaningi okuthi zizenze zivulwe futhi zilale embhedeni kunama-biceps amahle, nolayini bokuqoqa abasemathinini.
Igama elithi 'Sapiosexual' liye lahlangabezana nokuvuselelwa okuthile muva nje, lapho abantu belisebenzisa ukuchaza inkanuko yabo yezocansi kumasayithi wokuthandana.
Kukhona nezinhlelo zokusebenza zokuphola ezinakekela abathambekele ekuhlakanipheni, okudlala ngokunganaki kwabo isiko elijwayelekile le-vapid hook up elidlange kakhulu ekuthandaneni online.
Laba bantu bafuna wazi ukuthi ngaphezu kokuhamba okude olwandle, nothando lokudla kwase-Italy, ‘Hheyi, ngilapha ngize ebuchosheni, hhayi ebuhleni.’
Kodwa-ke, ubungqingili bobulili obufanayo futhi buqubule kancane ukuhlukumezeka ngokuba yiziqumama, nokuzama ukwenza okuthandwa nguwe kube inkanuko eqondile yezocansi.
Kepha lokhu kungukugcina kude kwe-spectrum. Kuthiwani ngoJoe ojwayelekile ongazami ukwenza isitatimende ngesimo esibuhlungu sokuphola online?
Kumuntu ojwayelekile, ukuheha kwengqondo kusasebenza ngezizathu zokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Kulungile…
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Isayensi ikusekele ukuheha kwethu abantu abahlakaniphile.
Njengoba kuvela, kungukuziphendukela kwemvelo.
Ngokuya ngocwaningo lwe-University of New Mexico , amadoda anama-IQ aphezulu aphilile kakhulu futhi anesidoda esinempilo kunabalingani bawo abadidayo.
Ngakho-ke lokhu akuyona into engaqondakali nje: ubuhlakani + besidoda esihle busayina izakhi zofuzo ezinempilo kulabo abazoba ngabalingani.
Mayelana nokuziphendukela kwemvelo, lokhu kusho ukuthi abesifazane abakhetha abesilisa abanamazinga aphezulu obuhlakani ngandlela thile baziqinisekisa ngamathuba amahle okuzala kabusha.
Ngakho-ke unayo, isayensi ithi kunesizathu sokuthi abantu abahlakaniphile babonakale be-sexy.
Ukusinda kwalezi zinhlobo kuxhomeke ebuchosheni bazo obukhulu futhi… ”izinhliziyo ezinkulu.”
Olunye ucwaningo lomthengisi wamathoyizi ocansi lwase-UK luthole lokho abafundi abavela emanyuvesi aphezulu babene-sex drive engaphezulu kwesilinganiso .
Abafundi abangama-Horny? Akumangazi lapho, kepha i-clincher bekungekhona ukuthi ukuya ekolishi nje kukhulisa i-libido yabo, bekucacile kubafundi abavela emanyuvesi ahlonishwayo (mhlawumbe ngama-IQ aphezulu). Babenamashayela ocansi aphezulu kunabalingani babo.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi laba bafundi bebenza lonke lolu cansi olumnandi uma kuqhathaniswa nathi sonke.
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Empeleni, kuvela ukuthi kuphambene impela: abantu abane-IQ ephezulu bavame ukuba nobulili obuncane kuneningi labantu futhi bona qala kamuva empilweni , futhi.
Mhlawumbe bagxile kwezinye izinto, njengokwakha irokhethi elilandelayo emkhathini, noma ukuthola ikhambi lesifo esithile esesabekayo.
Bangase bakhethe ukuchitha isikhathi sabo kwenye indawo esikhundleni sokuphakathi kwamashidi.
Abalingani babo besikole abangahlakaniphi kangako banabalingani abaningi ngoba ukufundela owamanqamu akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu kubo (kulungile, lokho kungukuhlanganisa okukhulu, kepha uthola umqondo).
Yize lokhu kungazwakala kukubi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuyabasebenzela, ngoba ukuhlakanipha okuphezulu kukhonjisiwe ukuthi kuveza ukwaneliseka kwesikhathi eside ebudlelwaneni.
Ukukhalipha kwenza i-nerdy set choosier uma kukhulunywa ngozakwethu, ibakhethele izici ezingezona ukubukeka nje - izici ezinempilo ende.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
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Ekuseni emva…
Esinye isizathu sokukhanga kwethu kwezobunhloli silele emangeni naseqinisweni.
Sonke funa iphupho, kepha uma ukukhohlisa sekuphelile, sizinika isheke langempela.
Lapho ukukhanya okubandayo kosuku kushaya, futhi siyabona ukuthi siye salala nabangu-10, kodwa savuswa ngo-2, siyazi ukuthi kufanele kube nokuningi ukugcina umlilo uqhubeka.
Ngokuqinisekile abantu abashayi ebuchosheni bakho endaweni yokucima ukoma.
Sonke engajulile ngezinga elithile - unentambo yokubheka kuqala, bese ubuza imibuzo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kepha ngemuva kotshwala noma inkanuko siphela, sonke silangazelela okuningi: ukuhlangana, amahlaya, nengxoxo.
Kukuleso sikhathi sokugcina, ingxoxo , lapho ukuhlakanipha kudonsa phambili emncintiswaneni.
Bambalwa abantu abahlala namaswidi engalo isikhathi eside, ngoba ekugcineni kosuku, isimungulu akuyona 'enhle.'
Isimungulu siyisicupho futhi sisebenza cishe imizuzu emihlanu.
Kuyinto enhle esikrinini kumbhayisikobho we-frat house, kepha noma kuma-rom-coms akhuthaza ama-gag, umfana we-smart nerdy (noma gal) uhlala ewina ekugcineni.
IHollywood iyazi ukuthi sikuphi ngempela - ukubona umuntu ohlakaniphile ethatha umklomelo agoduke nawo.
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Okokugcina, into esiyaziyo sonke, kepha esaba ngasese: kubukeka kufiphala.
Madoda, ungabukeka njengoRyan Gosling manje, kepha eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu kuqhubeke, ngaphandle kokuthi uqeqeshwe ngumqeqeshi wosaziwayo, maningi amathuba okuthi labo abayi-6 pack abs bazobukeka njengephakethe lama-crisps.
Amabhithi akho amnandi azoguga nakanjani, futhi izingidi zakho ezinhle zingase zingabi lapho zonke.
Kodwa-ke, ubuhlakani bakho bungaba bukhali kunanini ngaphambili eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu eyinqaba.
Eqinisweni, kungaba njalo insingo ubukhali njengesipiliyoni sempilo nolwazi olwengeziwe ngokuqinisekile luzokubumba.
Lolo lwazi olwengeziwe luzosiza njengoba ukhula, futhi luyohlala lukhanga kuze kube phakade.
Madoda, ubuchopho bakho buzoba isici sakho esihle kakhulu lapho konke okunye kuhamba eningizimu.
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Bomama, izingane, amandla adonsela phansi, nemibimbi, ekugcineni kuzoguqula umzimba wakho wokubhukuda onento engama-20, kodwa ubuhlakani, amahlaya, nokuhlakanipha, okutholile ngaleyo minyaka kuzohlala kukhona.
Yilokho okuzobamba izinhliziyo lapho intsha iphela, futhi izinwele ezimpunga ne-botox ziba yi-de rigueur.
Akekho kithi ongavikelekile ekuqothulweni isikhathi.
Sonke sizophela njengama-prune amancane emashumini eminyaka ezayo.
Ngakho-ke esikhundleni samahora abuhlungu ejimini, kungakhokha ukusebenzisa amahora amnandi ngekhala lakho encwadini.
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