Sonke siyamazi umuntu ongayihloniphi imingcele yomuntu siqu, akunjalo?
Kungaba osebenza naye ophikelela ukuthi eze phezu kwedeski lakho ngenkathi uzama ukusebenza, ungatholi mfana uma usho kaninginingi ukuthi unomnqamulajuqu ocindezelayo.
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Kungaba isihlobo esihlala sikushaya ingalo ngenkathi sikhuluma nawe yize ukubeke kwacaca ukuthi uyakuzonda uma uthintwa kanjalo.
Kungaba nguzakwethu okhuluma nawe ngenkathi uzama ukusebenza, yize ucelwe kaninginingi ukuthi uhloniphe isikhala sakho nokuba wedwa kwakho ngaleso sikhathi.
Ngenkathi ukukhala phezulu kwamaphaphu akho nokuphonsa izicathulo kulaba bantu kungaba yi-cathartic emangalisayo futhi kuzokwenza umthelela owenele wokunqanda ukuziphatha komunye umuntu, kuvame ukuba ngcono ukona ohlangothini lwezokuxhumana futhi uthole ezinye izindlela zokuvikela okwakho isikhala. Lokhu kusebenza ikakhulukazi uma kuthiwe ukuphonsa izicathulo kungahle kuholele ekuxoshweni kwakho.
Ngezansi kunezindlela ezimbalwa ongavikela ngazo isikhala sakho ngaphandle kokwethusa abantu abaseduze kwakho.
Yiba Nesizotha, Kodwa Thembeka
Sebenzisa amagama akho.
Kukhona amandla aphawulekayo ekubeni aqondile futhi qotho maqondana nesimo noma okuthandwa nguwe, njengoba kungashiyi 'gumbi lokuzulazula' lokuhumusha kabi. Wenze ukuma kwakho kwacaca, uyazi ukuthi yini oyithandayo (noma ongayithandi), futhi kukumunye umuntu ukunamathela kulokho osungule ngakho.
Ake sithi uno-anti ophikelela ukugudluza nokushaya ingalo noma ithanga lakho ngesikhathi sengxoxo ukugcizelela amaphuzu ahlukahlukene, futhi ukukuzonda ngokuphelele lokho. Ngothando oluvuthayo.
Mbheke ezinhlamvini zamehlo umazise ukuthi awuthandi ngempela uma enza lokho. Ungamfaka nesakhe isandla lapho ephinda futhi, bese uphinda inqubo yokwenza (nokubamba) ukuthintana kwamehlo , ngesicelo (funa) ukuthi ayeke.
Angaphendula ngokuthi, 'Hhayi-ke, nginjalo nje,' lapho impendulo yakho ingaba yile: “Futhi ngiyile ndlela engiyiyo. Ngicela ukukuhloniphe lokho. ”
Angase athole ukuhlekisa ngakho, kodwa ubuze ngesizotha, futhi manje sekukuye ukuthi ahloniphe izifiso zakho. Abanye abantu bangazivikela impela lapho becelwa ukuthi baziphathe ngendlela ehlukile kunalokho ngokuvamile abakwenzayo, kodwa labo abakukhathalelayo ngokweqiniso bazozama ukwenza uzizwe ukhululekile.
Uma amagama engathwali isisindo esanele…
okufanele ukwenze ukuzijabulisa lapho unesithukuthezi
Gcina Ibanga Lomzimba
Ake sithi u-anti othandekayo empeleni akakuthathi ukusikisela, noma nje ukhetha ukungakunaki okushilo ngokuthanda kwakho maqondana nokuthwilwa ngenkathi kukhulunywa naye. (Okubi kakhulu, uma ekuhlambalaza ngokuthi ube nesibindi sokukhuluma ngezinto ezinjalo ukumenza azizwe enamahloni, futhi aphume endleleni yakhe ukukuthinta / ukukushaya ngenhloso.)
Ezimweni ezinjengalezi, nikwazi ukudala umgoqo womzimba phakathi kwenu nobabili ukuze angakwazi ukukuthinta ngokomzimba.
Khuluma naye kusuka ngaphesheya kwetafula ukuze ungafinyeleleki, noma ubambe isiphuzo esandleni esiseduze naye ngakho-ke uma ekushaya, uzobhoboka. Umqondo wakhe wokuzivikela maqondana nokungafuni ukuthola noma yini okuphuzayo kuyo yonke indawo kungenzeka kuzuze umusa kuwe.
Ungazithola usesimweni lapho engase akulandele azungeze uye ngaphesheya kwetafula ngoba ukude kakhulu, s'thandwa. Eek. Abanye abantu benza izinto ezinjengalezi ngoba bayakuthokozela ukucindezela izinkinobho zabanye ukuzama ukubenza bangakhululeki, okuyinto engavamile yokwenza i-douche-y.
Uma enza lokhu, ungaqhubeka nokuzungeza itafula ukuze usuke kuye.
Angakubiza ngalokho, ngaleso sikhathi umkhumbuze ukuthi ulokhu eshaya ingalo yakho yize umcelile ukuthi ame. Phakathi kwezikhumbuzi eziphindaphindwayo neqiniso lokuthi ukhona ngibalekela yena ngokoqobo , angayithola.
Hlala Uzolile, Futhi Uqine
Uma inkinga ihlobene nomsebenzi osebenza naye omi ngaphezu kwedeski lakho ngenkathi uzama ukusebenza, futhi nje engathathi ukusikisela, kungadingeka ukuthi ube nokuzethemba okuthe xaxa. Sukuma etafuleni lakho, umbheke emehlweni, futhi umtshele ngokusobala ukuthi unesikhathi esinqunyiwe, futhi udinga ukugxila.
Ukuletha into ethinta imizwa kukho njengokuphawula ngokuthi unendlela yokusebenza eqinile kanjani futhi umuzwa wobuqotho , futhi ungafuni ukudedela iqembu ngokuphuthelwa umnqamulajuqu kungamfaka emqondweni omkhulu wokuqwashisa.
Iningi labantu abangayihloniphi imingcele yabanye abakwenzi lokho ngenxa yomuzwa wobubi, kepha kunalokho ukuthi bayazibandakanya bona uqobo ukuthi akwenzeki kubo ukuthi kube nemiphumela ekhubazekile ezenzweni zabo.
wazi kanjani ukuthi unembile
Uma ezulazula ngendaba ethile, ungamtshela ukuthi ungathanda ukuxoxa ngaleyo ndaba kamuva, kodwa manje, udinga ukunikela konke ukunaka kwakho emsebenzini wakho.
Ukuqamba isihloko akhuluma ngaso kumbonisa ukuthi ulalele ngokuzimisela, futhi kuqinisekisa iqiniso lokuthi yebo, unentshisekelo yokukhuluma naye hhayi ukumhlanza nje.
Ngokunokwenzeka uzosabela ngendlela enhle kakhulu uma engazizwa enqatshiwe: uzokuthatha lokhu njengemvula nje, futhi kungenzeka ahloniphe iqiniso lokuthi usethe lo mkhawulo wobungcweti.
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Yenza ihlaya kulo
Ukusebenzisa amahlaya kungaba yindlela enhle yokuvala igebe phakathi kokugcina izinga lakho lokunethezeka nokungacasuli abanye abantu, ngoba kungasusa ukungezwani okuningi.
Endabeni ka-anti wakho, ungabamba ingalo yakho ne-WAIL lapho ekushaya, noma uwe phansi ngokungathi ulimele kabi. Uzobe esekuxubha ngokuthi uyingane enkulu, wonke umuntu uzosihleka lesi simo, uzohlangabezana nokuthi uyisidididi, futhi ngeke azizwe ekhishwa njengoba ekhuzwa ukuziphatha okungathandeki .
Endabeni ebandakanya osebenza naye, ukudubula amabhande okunwebeka noma izingcezu zephepha ezishubile kuye aze abaleke, ngenkathi ukunikela ngesinono esikhulu esinobungozi kungabeka iphuzu kahle.
Ungathola ukwelulekwa okuncane ngabaphathi bakho emsebenzini, kodwa maningi amathuba okuthi babone amahlaya akuyo futhi baqonde izenzo zakho ngokuphelele. Lowo mfo ngeke nje avale, akunjalo? Kwesokudla.
indlela yokwenza umngane wakho omkhulu ajabule ngemuva kokwehlukana
Yenza Izithiyo Eziqinile Zokulwa Nokungahloniphi Kwabo
Lokhu kusebenza kancane, futhi kusetshenziswa kangcono lapho izimo zanda, noma uma umuntu ozama ukunqanda ukuziphatha kwakhe engakutholi nhlobo.
Kuyishwa uma ufinyelela ezingeni lapho kufanele usebenzise amanye ala maqhinga, kepha iqiniso lokuthi abantu abaningi ngeke bashintshe ngaphandle kokuthi baphoqelelwe ukwenza kanjalo, futhi izimo zokuphelelwa yithemba zivame ukubiza izindlela zokuphelelwa yithemba. .
Uma unomlingani ohlala naye ongasihloniphi isikhathi sakho wedwa, khiya umnyango wegumbi okulo bese ubeka uphawu olukhulu emnyango, ufuna ukuthi ushiywe wedwa ngaphandle kokuthi kukhona umuntu ofayo.
Uma kwenzeka bekuphazamisa noma kanjani, kungakhathalekile ukuthi yiziphi izithiyo ezisobala ozibeke endleleni yabo, uphakathi kwamalungelo akho okubakhuza.
Uma umuntu ohlala naye endlini efuna ukuthi udle ukudla kwakho noma uboleke izingubo zakho yize ucelwe kaninginingi ukuthi ushiye izinto zakho zodwa, tshala imali emabhokisini amancane okukhiya.
Uma bebuza ukuthi kungani izinto zakho zivaliwe, ungasho ukuthi ubacele kaninginingi ukuthi bahloniphe isikhala sakho nempahla yakho futhi abenzanga kanjalo.
Uma becasulwa, kwenze kucace bha ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kukushukumisele kuleli qophelo lokuthi nawe awuthokozi ngokuba lapho, kodwa kunemiphumela ezenzweni.
Ekugcineni, Icala Liyathathwa, Alinikwanga
Uma kwenzeka uthola ukuthi azikho kulezi zindlela ezingenhla ezixazulula ngempela inkinga obhekene nayo, kulungile impela ukuthi ubuyise isikhala sakho nganoma iyiphi indlela edingekayo. Khumbula ukuthi ukuvikela isikhala sakho siqu kuqala kunokudla okuthandwa ubani omunye umuntu.
Uma abantu abasempilweni yakho becasulwa ngoba umela isidingo sokuvikela isikhala sakho, ungahle ufise ukuphinda uhlaziye izindima abazidlalayo empilweni yakho.
