Ngeshwa, empilweni, asihloselwe njalo ukuhlangana ukuvuthwa , ukwazi ngokomzwelo abantu.
Okubuhlungu nakakhulu ukubona ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi, siyaphoqeleka ukuthi sibhekane nalaba bagibeli esikanye nabo ngokomoya abangasenathuneni ngoba bahlobene nathi, basebenza nathi, bangomakhelwane bethu, noma abantu esihlala nabo.
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Yini Ngempela kuyinto Ukuhlakanipha Ngokomzwelo?
Ngcono uDeveli owaziyo, akunjalo? Kungcono ukuqonda ukuthi yini esibhekene nayo lapho sithi 'ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo' noma 'EQ'.
Leli gama livame ukuphonswa ngephutha ukukhombisa isethi yezici zobuntu, kodwa lokho akusikho ngempela. Akuyona nje uchungechunge lwe izici ezingezinhle , ngoba wonke umuntu unezimbalwa zazo.
Ngubani ongazange enze into embi noma angabi nandaba ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yakhe?
Noma, ngezinga elincane, ngenkathi ukuba nomamezala okhuluma ngokungami kubuhlungu, akusho ukuthi akanakho ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kusho nje ukuthi uxoxa ngokweqile. Usengaba ngumuntu okhathalela ngokujulile, ozwelayo, noma kunjalo kuyacasula kakhulu , ngamunye.
Umehluko phakathi kokuthola nokuntula ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo ukuthi lezi zinyathelo ezingezona ezemvelo, ziyisigaxa kwesinye isikhathi. Lapho umuntu entula ngokuphelele ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo, uphuthelwa yizisekelo zokwakha zokuqwashisa umphakathi, ngakho-ke lezo zikhathi ezingathandeki ziba yizinto zansuku zonke.
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Kuyini ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo okuphansi ngempela kufana ne? Yebo, abantu abane-EQ ephansi abakwazi ukubhekana nengcindezi, futhi bayashesha ukuthukuthela. Basola abanye ngendlela abazizwa ngayo, babambele amagqubu ngoba abanamandla okwenza lokho thatha umthwalo ngemizwa yabo, noma ngendima eyenziwe yizenzo zabo ekwakheni lezo zimo.
Bakholelwa ukuthi umhlaba umelene nabo, nokuthi akukaze kube yiphutha labo. Abakwazi ukubhekana nokukhungatheka noma ukuphatha imizwa yabo, ngakho-ke bathambekele ekulweni, babe nolaka, futhi kwesinye isikhathi, ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo ukuze isiqhwaga abanye ekutholeni abakufunayo.
Ngokuvamile bazicabangela bona bodwa, benza izinto ngenhloso yokuqhubekisela phambili i-ajenda yabo, kungakhathalekile ukuthi ngubani abanyathela ukuze bafike lapho. Uhlehla empikiswaneni? NEVER. Laba bantu bangaba seTitanic futhi basaphikisana nokuthi umkhumbi awuhambi. Bemba izithende zabo ngaphakathi futhi bavikele iphuzu labo ekugcineni okumunyu ngoba abakwazi ukubekezelela ukulahlekelwa ubuso.
Ukuntuleka kobuhlakani obungokomzwelo kuthinta zonke izici zempilo yalowo muntu, futhi ekugcineni okwakho ngoba uphoqelekile ukuthi uxhumane nabo. Ngoba abanamakhono ayisisekelo wokuxhumana nabantu adingekayo ukubhekana nemizwa yabanye abantu, kanye neyabo, kungaholela ezinkingeni ezinjengalezi: ukubamba iqhaza emisebenzini, ukuzethemba okuphansi, ubunzima bokugcina ubungani, ukudala ukusondelana, nokugcina isikhathi eside- ubudlelwane besikhathi.
Ngokwakho konke lokhu, sikwenza kanjani ukuthi impilo ingabi buhlungu kithina lapho sisebenzelana nabantu abangazweli ngokomoya nabangahlakaniphile? Ngenkathi ukugwema bekungaba inkambo engcono kakhulu yokwenza, lapho singenakho lokho okunethezeka, singathatha izinyathelo ezilandelayo.
Ungabhekana Kanjani Nozakwethu Ongenakho Ukuhlakanipha Emsebenzini
Sonke siyalazi uhlobo: umlomo ophakeme oduna yonke ingxoxo, uyalwa lapho abantu bengavumelani nombono wabo, bese engaqondi ukuthi kungani igumbi liphuma lapho livela.
Kuthiwani ngomuntu osebenza naye othi imibono yawo wonke umuntu ngeyakhe, futhi ocabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu osehhovisi uphumile ukuyithola, kodwa bese ezibuza ukuthi kungani kungekho muntu ofuna 'ukuyophuza iziphuzo' ngemuva kwesihlanu.
Noma inhlebo yehhovisi, i-vampire engokomzwelo engemihle ngokweqile, futhi ethanda ukukuphinda uzitholele izindaba ezihlasimulisayo ngabasebenza nabo ngenkathi uzama ukuthola umnqamulajuqu. Lo muntu ofanayo ube esecasula ngendlela emangalisayo lapho ekugcineni uvele ngemuva kokuphazamiseka kweshumi.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke lokhu, kunethuba elihle kakhulu lokuthi laba bantu abakaze bakubuze nakanye ngosuku lwakho, ukuthi usebenza ini, noma ukuthi bangasiza kanjani. Ngizimisele futhi ukugembula ukuthi abazi lutho ngawe (ngoba bachitha isikhathi esiningi bekhuluma ngabo), kepha wena, ngeshwa, wazi kakhulu ngabo.
Ezimweni ezijwayelekile zokucindezeleka okuphezulu, namakhasimende acasukile, noma izinsuku zokugcina eziqinile, laba ngabantu bokugcina obafunayo eqenjini lakho, noma ofuna ukubaphatha. Bangabonakalisi bokusebenza ngokubambisana okukhiqizayo, futhi bachitha indawo yokusebenza ejabulisayo, nephumelelayo ngoba abakwazi ukujabula nganoma ngubani ozuza lokho angakakuzuzi.
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Esikhundleni salokho, bavame ukucekela phansi nokuphazamisa abanye ukuze bazenze babukeke kahle futhi baqhubekele phambili. Abanandaba neqembu abazikhathalela bona kuphela, futhi kuze kube bayayeka noma baxoshwe, kufanele ubhekane nokuziphatha kwabo okungabekezeleleki.
Njengoba uphoqeleka ukuthi uchithe amahora ayisishiyagalombili akhazimulayo osuku lwakho nabo, kungcono ukunciphisa umkhawulo onje:
Beka imingcele uma kufanele uhlale eduze kwabo faka amahedfoni futhi ungawanaki lapho kungenzeka. Qhubeka usho: Ngiyaxolisa, kodwa angikwazi ukukhuluma njengamanje. Amahedfoni abuyile, ivolumu phezulu. Indlela phezulu. Ikhanda phansi. Phinda.
ungamgcina kanjani umuntu onentshisekelo ngemuva kokulala naye
Idokhumenti, idokhumenti, idokhumenti indlela abaziphatha ngayo. Angikwazi ukugcizelela leli phuzu ngokwanele. Ungabavumeli ukuthi baphazamise ukusebenza kwakho kanzima, balimaze isithunzi sakho, noma bakuthathe wehle nabo. Kungabonakala njengokubuhlungu ngemuva, nomsebenzi owengeziwe ekugcineni kwakho, kepha khumbula: uma bethimba lakho bese ulahla ibhola, ungabheja i-paycheck yakho elandelayo bazokukhomba ngomunwe, noma i-co- isisebenzi. Ngakho-ke yenza isipele esinemininingwane yalokho okuvunyelwene ngakho, nokuthi kwenzekeni ngempela, ukuzivikela wena neqembu lakho.
Yiphakamisele phezulu. Ungesabi ukukhuluma nomphathi wakho, noma ukwehluleka lokho, HR. Akuwona umsebenzi wakho ukuphatha isimilo esingamukeleki se-EQ. Zinobuthi, futhi zingaletha kalula ihhovisi lonke ngedrama yabo nokunganaki. Khumbula: akuyena ugogo wakho lo. Isihogo, lo akusiye ngisho umngani ongamthandi lo muntu (kulungile, ihhovisi lonke nalo alikho). Ubuntu nokuziphatha kobungcweti yikho konke okudingekayo kuwe. Gcina konke ukuxhumana kufushane, kumnandi, futhi kufushane. Geza, hlambulula, bese uphinda.
Ungasondela Kanjani Emndenini Onzima, Abangane, nakomakhelwane
Uzobona lo anti ophendula konke ukudla komndeni kube ingxabano. Umoyizela kamnandi wonke umuntu, bese esho izinto ezinyantisayo uma seziphumile endlebeni. Le 'ngcebo yomndeni' ifaka ukwahlulela njengebheji yokuhlonishwa.
Noma umzalwane okuphila kwakhe kuhlale kunenkinga futhi uhlala ecela wena, nabazali bakho, imali. Lapho ekugcineni umi phansi, uyaqhuma, asole wonke umuntu ngezinkinga zakhe. Yena izizwa inelungelo ukusiza 'Ngoba ungumndeni,' kepha akanendaba iota eyodwa ukuthi unezibopho kumyeni wakho / unkosikazi / umlingani / izingane noma izikweletu, noma ukuthi abazali bakho basebenzisa imali abayongele umhlalaphansi ukuze bamkhiphe ngebheyili futhi futhi . Ngoba, kufanele eze kuqala njalo, akunjalo?
Kuthiwani ngalowo obizwa ngokuthi 'umngane' okuthi, uma usho isinyuso sakho sakamuva, alahle noma abukele phansi izindaba zakho, bese eguqula isihloko sibuyele kuye. 'I-BFF' engeke ithathe umthwalo wemizwa yayo yokungazethembi nokuzenyeza, ngakho-ke ikhipha umsindo ngokwenza imibono engacacile ngesisindo sakho, noma ngokudalula okuthile omtshele kona ngokuzethemba ukukwenza ubukeke umubi. Ubona njengomuntu oncintisana naye empilweni, hhayi njengomngani impilo yakho yonke.
Noma umakhelwane wakwamakhelwane ohlale ezama ukukwenzela wena konke ukuncoma okuthukiwe okukhulunywa ngakho, futhi iphutha lakhe lisethwe unomphela nolaka . Uqinisekisa ukuthi uyazi ukuthi imoto yakhe ibiza kakhulu, indlu yakhe inkulu, umyeni wakhe muhle ngokwengeziwe, futhi izingane zakhe zisesikoleni esingcono. Uzenza muhle kuwe, kodwa kahle futhi uzonda ngokweqile amathumbu akho.
Ngeshwa, asikwazi ukubeka ama-headphone etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa, noma sicele ukuthunyelwa ngocingo komunye umndeni. Futhi asikwazi njalo ukukhokhela ukusuka kubo bonke omakhelwane ababi, ngakho-ke lezi zimo zikhohliseka kancane kunokuba nehlombe lakho elingazweli lomuntu osebenza naye.
Uma ukuphunyuka kungeyona inketho esheshayo, ungathatha lezi zinyathelo ezilandelayo ukuzivikela emndenini ophansi we-EQ, abangani nomakhelwane empilweni yakho.
Ungazibandakanyi. Uma kukhulunywa ngomndeni, noma omakhelwane, ngenkathi ungeke ubashaye indiva ngokuphelele, unganqamula ukujoyina. Bangaqhubeka kuphela nokuziphatha kwabo okulimazayo uma bethola impendulo. Uma wenza ukungabi nentshisekelo, noma uyeka ukuphendula, bazobona ukuthi baba nengxoxo nabo bese baya lapho baqinisekile khona ukuthola impendulo. Abantu abane-EQ ephansi banobugovu, ngakho-ke uma ingxoxo ingasazungezi kubo, futhi bengasatholi ukunakwa abakufisayo, bazonyamalala bakuthole kwenye indawo.
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Khuluma, wenze ngakho. Ngenye indlela, lapho ungeke ugijime, noma izigxobo ziphakeme kakhulu, kungaba ngcono ume phansi ukhulume ngakho. Lokhu kwenzeka ikakhulukazi ezimeni zomndeni eziseduze lapho kungumzali noma ingane yakini elimazayo. Khomba lapho beqa imingcele yakho, ukuthi bakwenza uzizwe kanjani, nokuthi uzokwenzenjani uma beqhubeka nalokhu kuziphatha. Ngemuva kwalokho landela ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho kuziphatha kukhulisa ikhanda laso elibi. Abantu abane-EQ ephansi abajwayele ukuba namakhono amahle okulalela, ngakho-ke kwesinye isikhathi indlela engcono yokudlula kubo, nokuzivikela, ukusungula imiphumela eqinile yokuziphatha okungalungile.
Sika izibopho. Yize lokhu kungelula uma kuziwa emndenini, kwesinye isikhathi, ngenxa yenhlalakahle yakho yengqondo nokuzivikela kwakho, udinga ukuthatha lesi sinyathelo sokugcina. Igazi lingaba likhulu kunamanzi, kepha abantu banemikhawulo. Uma uzame konke, futhi alukho ushintsho, kungadingeka ukuthi usike lelo lungu lomndeni empilweni yakho.
Uma kukhulunywa ngomakhelwane nabangane, asikho isizathu sokulenga lapho. Bopha abantu abanomthelela empilweni yakho kabi, bahlala belimaza, noma benobuthi. Ukuba nomngane kuyilungelo, akulona ilungelo, futhi uma lowomuntu engakuphathi kahle, futhi engazimisele ngokuzibophezela ekuziphatheni nasekuthintekeni kwabo, dlulela phambili uzungeze nabantu abakukhathalelayo ngokweqiniso, futhi ngikuhloniphe.
Omakhelwane bangase bahlale komakhelwane, kodwa akudingeki ube nokunye okudlula ubudlelwano 'hi-bye' nabo. Uma nje zingabeki umlilo otshanini bakho, ungagcina oxhumana naye abe ubuncane obungenalutho.
Ngakho-ke unayo. Lapho ubhekene nomuntu ongenakho ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo, unezinketho eziningi. Ngokuya ngokuthi ngubani futhi nobudlelwano bakho nabo, inkambo oyenzayo iyohluka. Vele ukhumbule ukuthi akekho umuntu, noma ngabe umndeni noma umngani, onelungelo lokukwenza uzizwe kabi. Ukushibilika ngezikhathi ezithile cishe akunakugwenywa, kepha uma kuba yinto ejwayelekile, kufanele uthathe isinyathelo.
