Akungabazeki ukuthi kukhona umuntu osempilweni yakho ocasula ubudedengu obuphilayo kuwe.
Lokhu kungaba osebenza naye, ohlala naye endlini, umngani womndeni, noma umuntu omjwayele ongahlangana naye kwesinye isikhathi… noma yiliphi inani labantu abahlukahlukene.
unkosikazi uyenqaba ukuthola umsebenzi
Iqiniso ukuthi, laba bantu banekhono lemimoya lokukwenza ugaye amazinyo akho unamathisele futhi uchithe usuku lwakho lonke.
Iningi labo kungenzeka ukuthi alikwenzi ngenhloso lokhu, kepha ngokuqinisekile kukhona.
Ake sibheke ezinye zezinto ezicasula kakhulu, nezicasulayo ezingenziwa ngabantu ezimpilweni zethu.
Ngethemba ukuthi singathola ukuqonda ngokuziphatha kwabo, futhi sigweme ukufana nabo.
1. Ukucindezela Izinkinobho Ukuze Ukwenze Usabele
Cabanga ngengane yakini eyazi ukulahlwa kahle ukuthi uyalizonda igama elithi 'olumanzi,' ngakho-ke bayaqiniseka ukuthi balisho etafuleni lesidlo noma nini lapho umndeni uhlangana ndawonye ukuze udle.
Uyogoqana ngqo ezinzwaneni zakho, futhi bazohlala nje lapho, bakubhuqabhuqe.
Kungani bekwenza?
Empeleni, ngoba bane-streak enesihluku futhi bathatha injabulo nokwaneliseka ekukucasuleni.
Uzothola lolu hlobo lokuziphatha ku-intanethi. “I-Trolling” ibukeka ichuma ku-inthanethi, ngoba abantu bane-carte blanche engachemile… futhi ukusuka kude.
Ku- Ukuthambekela kukaMachiavellian .
Lapho lawa majezi esethola indawo ethambile, ayayithinta. Futhi baqhubeka bepheka baze bathole ukusabela abakufunayo.
Behla kuyo, futhi bazoqhubeka nokwenza njalo inqobo nje uma uqhubeka nokuphendula kuma-proddings abo.
Indlela yokubayekisa ukwenza lokhu ukwenza lokho okwaziwa njengokuhamba ' Idwala Elimpunga . '
Njengoba lawa majezi ethola ukukubona uhlupheka, okusemqoka ukuthi ubhekane ne-poker ngempela futhi ube yisidina, ngakho-ke nje balahlekelwa intshisekelo.
Kuzwakala kulula ukushiwo kunokukwenza, kodwa kufanele uzame… ikakhulukazi uma leli ilungu lomndeni okuzofanele uhlale ulibona.
Uma ukhombisa ukuzijabulisa okuphikisayo ukuzijabulisa, ungahle uthande ukubhuka isikhathi esithile nodokotela. Lokhu kucindezelwa kwezinkinobho kungaba yinto eyodwa yodaba olubucayi, futhi uma ungayilungisi manje, ubeka engcupheni yokulahlekelwa yiwo wonke umuntu omkhathalele ngempela.
2. Ubumpofu Obungabekezeleleki Bokwabelana Ngokweqile
Ubuza ukuthi impelasonto yabo ibinjani bakutshele konke ngama-hemorrhoids abo.
Ngesikhathi sokudla kwasemini, baxoxa ngezindaba zezempilo zamalungu omndeni ngemininingwane esabekayo, noma bakutshele konke ngento exakile eyenziwa umlingani wabo embhedeni.
Okuphakelayo kwabo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kugcwele izinto zangasese uqobo ofisa ukuthi ngabe awusoze wazifunda (noma wazibona), futhi uzithole ushaqeka ngokungapheli futhi ungakhululeki ngemininingwane abaphikelela ukuyabelana ngayo.
Okubi kakhulu, uma ubatshela ukuthi awufuni ukuzwa ngesihloko, bangakuphendula ngokuthi 'kulungile, kodwa ...' bese uqhubeka uqhubeke ngakho…
… Noma kukwenze uzizwe sengathi uyidouchi ngoba awusekeli ngesifufula sezinkinga zomuntu siqu abakuchazela zona.
Kuningi okungashiwo ngobuhlakani, nangokubuza ukuthi ngabe omunye umuntu ukhululekile yini ngendaba ofuna ukuyixoxa.
Yebo, kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngezinto ezingaba 'icky' noma eziphazamisayo, kodwa ezinye izinto kukhulunywa kangcono ngazo nomelaphi.
NOMA, cela imvume yokuthi ngabe lowo muntu usesikhundleni esifanele ngokomzwelo sokuxoxa ngezinto ezishiwoyo.
Inhlonipho eyisisekelo, nakho konke.
3. 'Anginabo ubuntu ngaphandle kobudlelwano bami'
Ubuza umngani wakho ukuthi benzelani ukudla kwakusihlwa, futhi bakutshele ukuthi benza intandokazi yozakwethu.
Uma uncoma izingubo zabo, baphendula ngokwazisa ukuthi umlingani wabo ubakhethele bona.
Yonke imithombo yezokuxhumana, yonke ingxoxo, izungeza ngokuphelele umlingani / oshade naye, futhi kubonakala sengathi abanabo ubuntu ngaphandle kokuba yingxenye yothile.
Abasenazo ngisho nezokuzilibazisa noma izintshisekelo zabo.
Ngokuyisisekelo, bazivumelanise nezinsiza ezifanele zalo omunye umuntu, futhi kuyacasula futhi kuyakhanya njengaso sonke isihogo.
Abantu abaningi abangazethembi, nabazethembayo abanjena, ikakhulukazi uma besebudlelwaneni nama-narcissists.
Impilo yabo yonke inikezelwe kumlingani wabo, ngakho-ke lelo zakwethu liyabenza uzizwe ulusizo futhi uqinisekisiwe esikhundleni salokho. Kungangakhululeki ngempela ukuthi abanye bafakaze.
Uma uzungeza konke ukuba khona kwakho kokunye, uzoba ngubani uma bengasekho empilweni yakho?
4. Holier-Than-Wena
Laba bantu bazozama ukukukhulisa noma ngabe wenzani.
Bajwayele ukuhambahamba ngamabhamuza okuzenza abalungile, futhi basole noma yini ewela ngaphansi kwezinqumo noma izenzo zabo.
Ungumuntu odla imifino kuphela? Hawu. Kulungile. Lokho kuyisiqalo esihle, ngicabanga kanjalo. Kepha ziyi-vegan, ngoba empeleni okuyi ngezilwane futhi ungadli NOMA YINI lokho kuvela kubo.
O, usuvegan manje? Banjalo uku izinga 5 , organic, i-vegan eluhlaza.
… Uthola umqondo.
Akunandaba ukuthi uthini noma wenzani, awusoze walunga, noma uziphathe kahle, noma ube nesimilo, noma uthuthuke emphakathini njengabo.
Bazikholisile ukuthi baziphethe kahle kunabo bonke abantu ababazungezile.
Izingxoxo zabo eziningi zizoqala ngezitatimende ezinjengokuthi, 'Akukho ukwahlulela, kepha ...' kulandelwe okuthile okwahlulela ngendlela emangalisayo.
Bazohlala bethola amaphutha athile ku impilo yomuntu ikhetha ukwehlisa isithunzi noma agxeke, futhi ngokuvamile uzokwenza lokho ngokuzithoba okukhulu.
Kungani beziphatha ngale ndlela?
Mhlawumbe ngoba kudingeke ukuthi babhekane nokuziphatha okuningi okungajwayelekile ezimpilweni zabo futhi ngenxa yalokho bazame ukuziphakamisa ngaphezu kwazo zonke izinto ezimbi ababhekane nazo.
Kungenzeka bangaboni ukuthi bahlukanisa abanye abantu, benza ngendlela abenza ngayo.
Eqinisweni, bangakholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi indlela abaziphethe ngayo izogqugquzela abanye abantu ukuthi babe ngcono: baziphathe ngobuqotho nangomusa, njll.
Inkinga ukuthi, lapho bebhekene nesimo esinzima, laba bantu kungenzeka ukuthi baziphathe kabi njengalabo ebebebagxeka.
Bafuna kholwa ukuthi baphakeme ngokokuziphatha nangokokuziphatha, kepha lapho i-push ifika ekushoseleni, bavame ukuswela isibindi sokukholwa kwabo.
5. Konke Kuyihlaya! Ungabi Serious Kakhulu…
Uyamazi lowo muntu ongalokothi athathe noma yini ngokungathí sina futhi aphathe yonke into njengehlaya elikhulu?
Kukangaki ufuna ukushaya lowo muntu nge-toaster? Kwesokudla.
Impilo ingaba nzima impela kwesinye isikhathi, futhi iba nzima kakhulu uma labo osondelene nabo bengakuthathi ngokungathi sína.
Kunzima nokwazi umuntu ngokweqiniso uma ebhuqa noma enza amahlaya ngokoqobo ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Abantu abaningi abaphendula zonke izimo zibe yihlaya empeleni bakhathazekile ngokwemvelo.
Ukuziphatha kwabo ngokuhlanganyela kuyindlela yokuzivikela yokubasiza ukuba babhekane nokwesaba kwabo okukhubazayo, kungaba ngokufa, noma ngokugula, noma yini enye abangayibona ingathandeki.
Bangase babe nokuzethemba okuphansi impela, futhi bacabange ukuthi kufanele badlale indima yaphakade yokuba 'umjabulisa.'
Lokho kuzokweqa ekunciphiseni izindonga zabo futhi babe sengozini, futhi ngaleyo ndlela kube sengcupheni yokwenqatshwa.
Inkinga ngokwenza lokhu ukuthi kwenza omunye umuntu azizwe engavunyelwe ngempela.
Kungaba nzima impela ukuthi bavule okuthile okubahluphayo, futhi bazovele bavale uma behlangabezana nokuhlekwa usulu… noma ngabe kuhloselwe ukudlala nje.
Ezinye izinto zibucayi ngempela, futhi zidinga ukuphathwa ngaleyo ndlela, noma zikhishwe inhlonipho eyisisekelo kanye nesizotha esivamile.
6. Intrusive Social Media Twits
Lokhu kuvamise ukuba yilungu lomndeni elidala, noma umngane womngani onomusa omningi wezenhlalo njengezicubu ezisetshenzisiwe.
Bazobutha udonga lwakho lwe-Facebook ngama-meme “amahle”, ama-GIF ama-animated, nezitikha ezicwebezelayo, futhi bakumake kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezithombe.
Bazokwenza ukuphawula okuyishumi nambili (kwesinye isikhathi okungafanele) kunoma yini oyithumelayo, kwesinye isikhathi isuke ingahambisani nesihloko ngokuphelele.
Laba bantu bangaqala izingxabano kokuphakelayo kwakho kwe-Twitter, babe yinqaba ngempela ngezinto ozibhala ku-Instagram, futhi bazenzele isicefe esijwayelekile.
Okubi kunakho konke, ngeke ubavimbe ngoba bangabazali bakho / ugogo / ugogo / umalumekazi / umngane wakho wobuntwana futhi uzobamba ubuqili obuphelele kubo (nakwabanye) uma uvimba noma yini abayenzayo.
Unecala lokuziphatha? Ungahle ubalekele umbuthano okhethekile wesihogo obekelwe ikakhulukazi i-ilk yakho uma usika lokho ngaso leso sikhathi.
7. AmaJerks angacabangeli
Laba bantu benza futhi basho abakufunayo, lapho bafuna khona, futhi kuyaqabukela (uma kwenzeka) bacabange ukuthi izenzo zabo zingabathinta kanjani abanye.
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Ezinye izibonelo zazo yilezi:
- Abantu abahlala ezihlalweni eziningana ezintweni zokuhamba zomphakathi, futhi abenqabayo ukunyakazela noma ngubani - kubandakanya nabesifazane abakhulelwe, asebekhulile noma abakhubazekile. Banethezekile lapho bekhona, kubi kakhulu.
- Abangane noma amalungu omndeni aphazamisa futhi akhulume ngabantu phakathi kwengxoxo. Imicabango yabo ibaluleke kakhulu ukwedlula noma yini eshiwoyo njengamanje, phela.
- Ozakwethu abakhipha ukudla kwabanye abantu efrijini lomphakathi ukuze benze indawo yokudla kwabo kwasemini. Noma udle ukudla okulula kwabanye abantu ngaphandle kokucela.
- Osebenza nabo endlini noma abashade nabo abashiya izingubo ezingcolile / izinzipho zezinzipho / ukudla okubolile nxazonke ngaphandle kokuzihlupha ngokuzilanda. Njengokuthi kuzovele 'kuqedwe.'
Kungani laba bantu beziphatha njengoba benza?
Mhlawumbe kungenxa yokuthi babonakele ngokweqile futhi bazitika ebuntwaneni futhi akukaze kudingeke bafunde ukuzibophezela ngezenzo zabo , futhi ungabacabangeli abanye.
Uma ubona noma yikuphi kwalokhu kuziphatha kuwe, gibela isihogo. Akekho omunye umuntu ozuzisa wena.
8. 'Ngikuthola Kucasula Lokho' (a.k.a. Virtue Signaling)
Uke waphawula ukuthi abantu abaningi bakhubekiswa yinto enhle kakhulu kulezi zinsuku?
Into encane kunazo zonke ingabahlehlisa, ngaleso sikhathi bayobe bememeza kakhulu ngokuthi baphatheke kabi kangakanani.
UMoreso, babonakala bethanda kakhulu ukucasula abanye abantu.
Lolu hlobo lomuntu lufana ncamashi ne- # 4 (Ngcwele kunawe). Bazimisele kakhulu ukufakazela ukuthi bathuthuka kanjani bathathe wonke amathuba ukukhombisa ukulunga kwabo.
Ziwubuhle obutshengisa, obukhombisa umhlaba ukuthi 'BANGOVUKILE.'
Iningi labantu liziphatha kanjena ngenxa yokwesaba. Kungani? Ngoba bayashaqeka bethuka ukuthi ngaphandle uma behewula ulaka lwabo lokuziphatha ophahleni lwendlu, bazobhujiswa esidlangalaleni futhi bahlaselwe, ikakhulukazi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
Kukangaki uzwe ngabantu abathola izinsongo zokubulawa kanye nawo wonke amanye ama-flavour wokuhlukunyezwa online ngoba benze noma basho okuthile omunye umuntu akuthole kucasula?
Lapho becasula ngokwengeziwe, mancane amathuba okuthi bacasule abanye. Ergo, 'baphephile.'
Ngokudabukisayo, kunesinye futhi isizathu sokuthi kungani bengasebenzisa leli qhinga: ukukhohlisa.
Uma umuntu ebanga icala esimweni esithile, babamba indawo ephakeme yokuziphatha. Lowo obaphathe kabi ube esephoqeleka ukuba azulazule kubo ukuze balungise izinto futhi.
Luhlobo olubi impela lohambo lwamandla… futhi uma bengakwenzi lokho, i-crybully ingahle ihlasele.
Inonya futhi inesabekayo nxazonke.
9. Awukwazi Ngisho Umuntu Omdala
Ukukhula kunzima. Siyakuthola.
Noma ngabe kuqinisekiswa ukuthi udoti uyakhishwa ngosuku olufanele, noma udla okuthile ngaphandle kokudla okusanhlamvu okunoshukela kakhulu isidlo sakusihlwa njalo ebusuku inyanga, kunengcindezi enkulu ehambisana nokuba umuntu omdala.
Into ukuthi, kuhlale kunabanye abantu abathembele kithi ukwenza izinto, futhi umuntu oliphonsa ibhola ngokoqobo ngaso sonke isikhathi ngoba bakhetha ukuba sekhaya kuma-PJ abo, ukubukela opopayi nokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo, kuba yisicefe ngempela , ngokushesha okukhulu.
Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi emsebenzini: lapho uthembele kwilungu leqembu ukuthi lizibambe futhi bahlala benza izaba zokuthi kungani bengakwazi ukwenza izinto zabo zenziwe ngesikhathi.
Noma baqala ukukhala nini futhi uma ubabiza ngokunganaki kwabo.
… Bese bezokhalaza ngokuthi unonya kangakanani.
Abanye abantu banjena ngoba abakaze banikezwe noma yiluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi ebusheni babo, futhi ngenxa yalokho abakaze bafunde ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukusukuma. Abanye unqabe ngokuqinile ukukhula , futhi ngimile ngineminyaka engu-14.
Noma ngabe usebenza naye, uzakwethu, noma ujwayelene, lolu hlobo kunzima impela futhi luyacasula ukubhekana nalo.
Ngokuyinhloko kufanele “nibe ngabantu abadala” kini nobabili, uma kungenjalo akukho okwenziwayo, noma okufanele kwenziwe kahle. Futhi. Ngawe.
10. Labo Abangacabangi Ukuthi Unokuphila Ngaphandle Kwezidingo Zabo
- Umphathi okwabela okuthile ngoLwesihlanu ntambama lokho kufanele ngoMsombuluko ekuseni, ngaphandle kokukubuza ukuthi unezinhlelo zempelasonto yini.
- Iklayenti elizimele elifuna ukukhuluma ngomsebenzi ngo-11: 40 ebusuku ngoLwesithathu ebusuku. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uvukile - kungani ungasebenzi kuphrojekthi yabo?
- Uzakwethu owenza izinhlelo ezibandakanya wena ngaphandle kokucela okokufaka kwakho (noma inzalo).
- Umzali okwazisa ukuthi bazovakasha ngosuku lwe-X, ngaphandle kokubuza ukuthi lokho kukulungele yini.
Ngabe kukhona okunye kwalokhu okuzwakala kujwayelekile?
Abantu abaningi bayazibandakanya kakhulu, bagxile kakhulu kumaphrojekthi abo nasezinhlelweni zabo behluleka ukukubona njengomuntu ngamunye.
Awuyena umuntu, onakho okuthandayo, izidingo, okufunayo, nokunye okunjalo: uyithuluzi elitholakala kubo nganoma yini abayidingayo noma abafuna yenziwe.
Lokhu kuziphatha kuzenzela ngokweqile futhi akucabangi. Yehlisa abanye abantu ezintweni, kunabantu, futhi ayihloniphi ngendlela eyisimanga.
Ingabe unecala lokwenza lokhu kwabanye?
11. Abakhohlisi Becala Elibi
Laba bantu banobugovu obumangalisayo, futhi bafundile ukuthi indlela engcono yokuthola abakufunayo - noma nini lapho befuna - ukuphatha abanye abantu.
Ulaka lokungenzi lutho nokuzikhubekisa ngecala ngezinye zezindlela zabo eziyinhloko, futhi benza wonke umuntu obazungezile athukuthele futhi aphatheke kabi ngokuziphatha kwabo.
Lokhu kuyacasula ngempela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunomphumela ophambene kunalokho okufiswa ngabantu abaningi, ngoba akekho ofuna ukuchitha isikhathi esithe xaxa nomuntu odonsa lolu hlobo lokukhohlisa.
Uma uzibona wenza noma yini efana nale, yeka. Vele ume.
Zama ukuba mnandi futhi ube mnandi ngokwengeziwe ukuba phakathi kwakho, futhi ngeke kudingeke uzame ukuphoqa abanye ukuthi bakwenzele izinto futhi. Uzofanele umzamo wabo esikhundleni salokho.
12. Abakwazi Ukubeka Ifoni Yabo Phansi Noma Bazofa
Le iya ngokuya yanda kakhulu, futhi kufanele ime.
Kuyacasula ngendlela eyisimanga lapho uphume nomngani (noma ungena nomlingani wakho) futhi bakucingo lwabo esikhundleni sokukhuluma nawe.
Noma bamane nje banikeza izimpendulo ezincane 'yebo' noma 'uh huh' ngesikhathi sengxoxo, ngoba baskrola kokuphakelayo kwabo ngasikhathi sinye.
Kuyafana uSime uma bethatha izithombe zayo yonke into ngokoqobo, noma ngabe ukudla abazokudla, noma i-selfie, bese bakuthumela ngokushesha ku-Instagram. (Bese ubheka ukuthi bangaki 'ukuthanda' abakutholile.)
Abantu abaningi bakhohliwe amakhono ayisisekelo okusebenzelana nabantu, nokuthi iqiniso lokuthi ukungabi khona nomunye umuntu kuwukwedelela ngendlela engakholakali.
Uma udinga ukuhlola ifoni yakho manje ngoba ingane yakho egulayo inomuntu ogcina ingane futhi uthola izibuyekezo, kulungile.
Ngaphandle kwalokho? Beka into elahliwe kude.
13. Kubonakala Kukhuliswe Izimpisi
Bazodla bevule imilomo, begxishe futhi beshibilika bedlula kunoma yisiphi isidlo.
Zibopha ngokungathandeki, zibeka izinyawo ezingcolile etafuleni, azigezi izandla zazo ngemuva kokusebenzisa indlu yangasese.
Ngokuyisisekelo baziphatha njengezilwane zasendle ezingakaze zifunde ngisho nokuhlobisa okuyisisekelo, futhi zikwenze ufune ukuqoboka.
Manje, kunokwehluka okuthile kwamasiko kwesinye isikhathi okuthethelela imikhuba emibi.
Isibonelo, isobho lokugoqa etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa liyesabeka esikweni laseNtshonalanga, kepha liyamukeleka eMpumalanga Ekude.
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Ngokufanayo, ukubhinca nokushayisa esidlangalaleni akubhekwa njengokungahloniphi e-Iceland, kuyilapho ukuhlafuna ushungamu emphakathini kubhekwa njengokweyisa eSwitzerland naseFrance.
Umuntu onemikhuba emibi uyethusa kungenzeka ukuthi ukhuliswe ngamasiko ehlukene, noma angaba semkhakheni we-autism futhi angazi nakancane ukuthi ahlasela wonke umuntu obazungezile.
Uma ungabaza, kuwumqondo omuhle ukubuka ukuthi abanye abantu baziphatha kanjani, futhi ulandele okusemandleni akho. Uma bekugqolozele ngokwesaba okukhulu, babuze ukuthi kungani, bese uzivumelanisa nezimo ngokufanele.
14. Imithambo yokuqina / yokudla
Ngokushesha nje lapho ungena ehhovisi, uzakwenu uqhamuka ezokutshela konke ngempumelelo yabo yakamuva yeCrossFit, nokuthi baqeqeshwa kanjani manje ngenselelo ye- 'Tough Mudder'.
Bese bekubuza ukuthi uzoqala nini ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ngoba uyazi ukuthi ubukeka futhi uzizwe ungcono kakhulu uma ungabavumela bakwazise kumqeqeshi wabo…
Uphuma uyodla isidlo sasemini nomngane futhi ucasula isiphakeli esimpofu ngazo zonke izindlela zakhe zokudla.
Ngenyanga edlule ubephezu kokukhahlela okusanhlamvu / kwevegan, manje usegcwele uKeto, futhi ukutshela konke mayelana nenqubo yakhe yokwengeza. Ngoba ubuze, akunjalo?
Kuhle uku thanda izinto , kodwa abanye kungenzeka bangahlanganyeli nentshiseko yakho.
Eqinisweni, bangahle babe nezinkinga zezempilo ongazazi wena, futhi ukuphuma kwakho ngokungabelani nokuqina kwakho kokuqina komzimba kuzobenza bazizwe bengamahloni.
Uma ufuna ukulimaza ngokuzivocavoca noma ukudla kwakho, kwenze ejimini noma ujusi bar, nabanye okusobala ukuthi banomqondo ofanayo.
15. Abahlaseli Besikhala
Wake waba sendizeni, ukugibela isitimela, noma olunye uhambo olude lwezinhlobo futhi umuntu ohlezi eduze kwakho ngeke asivimbe isihogo?
Kuyesabeka nje.
Nakho ke, ufuna ukushiywa wedwa ukuze ufunde noma ubuke i-movie yendiza ngokuthula, futhi ohlala naye esihlalweni ulokhu ekuhlikihla ngendololwane ukuze ubheke okuthile okucocekile…
… Noma ngifuna ukukutshela konke ngezinhlelo zabo zokuhamba, umndeni wabo, ubudlelwano babo, i-fistula yabo.
Hhayi kuhle. Kube bonke.
Impela, zingahle zibe nobugagu futhi zibe nobungane, kepha futhi zingena esikhaleni sakho. Ngokuzithandela kwakho, ngezidingo zakho.
Kuyafana nakuwe: uma uzwa isidingo sokuxoxa nalowo ohlala naye esihlalweni, mhlawumbe ubabuze ukuthi bazizwa bekhuluma yini.
Kungenzeka ukuthi babuya ekhaya bevela emngcwabeni noma okuthile futhi abanasithakazelo ekukhulumeni.
Hlonipha.
16. “Awu, empeleni…”
Awuthandi nje lapho abantu bengena engxoxweni bese beqala ukuqumba ukuze bakhombise ukuthi banolwazi kangakanani?
Ikakhulukazi lapho bengazihluphi ngokubuza ukuthi ngabe usuvele uyazi mayelana nesihloko esishiwo, futhi nje u-monologue ngakho?
Esikhathini esingengakanani esidlule, ngifunde indatshana lapho umlobi asho okuthile okwenzeka ephathini yakhe yokukhipha izincwadi. Omunye umfana weza kuye futhi waqala ukuzulazula ngesihloko sencwadi.
Akazange amuzwe ngisho nalapho ephendula, “Yebo, ngiyazi. Incwadi ngiyibhalile. ”
Wayenendawo enhle kakhulu, ethanda ukukhombisa ukuthi wayekhaliphe futhi enolwazi kangakanani ngokumangalisayo kangangokuba akazange ayeke ukukhuluma kuze kube yilapho omunye umfana emthethisa futhi ekhomba ukuthi owesifazane owayephambi kwakhe, empeleni, umbhali .
Ube esephephuka wabaleka.
Abanye abantu bagxila kakhulu ezifundweni abazithandayo, bese bethatha wonke amathuba ukuhambisa ngazo.
Kungenzeka zingasho ukuzwakala njengoprofesa be-wannabe abaqhoshayo, kepha bagcina bezwakala kanjalo nokho.
Nanti icebo: uma ungenasiqiniseko sokuthi othile ujwayelene nendaba ethile yini, buza kubo .
Ungajabula kakhulu ngale ndaba futhi ufuna ukukhuluma ngayo, kodwa ungacabangi ukuthi ungumuntu onolwazi kakhulu emhlabeni.
Omunye umuntu angahle abe ngungoti, futhi uzobukeka njengeprat efanelekile ukuzama ukuyifunda ngesihloko esaziyo ngaphakathi.
17. IDrama Queens
KONKE okwenzekayo kuvusa amadlingozi ngokomzwelo kunalokho ongakucabanga.
Bazokushayela phakathi kwamabili ukhale ngokuhlukana okwesabekayo ababenakho ngothando lwempilo yabo ... abaphume naye kabili.
Uma uphuma ukuyothenga nabo futhi umthengisi engabaniki noma yini abayithandayo, bazofuna ukukhuluma nomphathi ukuze akhononde.
Bathumela ukudla emuva ezindaweni zokudlela ngaphandle kwesizathu esizwakalayo, bakhala ngakho konke, futhi badinga ukuba yisikhungo sokunakwa ngaso sonke isikhathi.
BAYATHANDA nokuhleba, futhi bazibandakanye mathupha lapho kwenzeka inhlekelele.
Ngokuyisisekelo, bayachuma kumdlalo, futhi uma bengazinikeli ezindabeni zabanye abantu, bavusa izinto ukondla isidingo sabo sama-maelstroms angokomzwelo.
Abantu abane-setting yabo ezenzakalelayo eyi- 'histrionic' bathambekele ekukhaleni noma bakhale kalula, baphume emihlanganweni yomsebenzi, futhi bathathe konke uqobo.
Kunzima ngendlela eyisimanga ukubhekana nazo, futhi azinakucatshangelwa ngokuphelele. Abanye bagcina behamba ngamagobolondo amaqanda ngoba into encane kakhulu ingabasusa.
Futhi, lokhu kaningi kuyisimo sokuzethemba okuphansi, ngakho-ke umuntu izama ukuthola ukunakwa okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuqinisekisa ukuba khona kwabo.
Kubuhlungu njengoba kucasula ngendlela exakile.
18. Abaphethe kabi
Bazosebenzisa imali encane ngangokunokwenzeka kunoma yini, futhi bazame ukugoqa izinto zamahhala kwabanye noma nini lapho bengakwazi.
Uma iqembu liphuma ukuyodla isidlo sakusihlwa, lizokhokha ngqo isabelo salo (kuya epeni lokugcina) ngaphandle kokunikela ngokufaka noma yini ithiphu.
Noma bazobe 'bekhohliwe' izikhwama zabo, kodwa bafunge ukukukhokhela ngokuzayo. (Abaze bakukhokhele.)
Bathanda ukujabulela izinto ezinhle, kepha kungenzeka ukuthi abakwazi ukuzikhokhela, noma bafuna abanye abantu babathengele lezo zinto.
Ngenxa yalokho, ushiywe ukhipha imali egameni labo, futhi abaze baphindisele.
Ngabe lokhu kuwubudlabha? Ukuzithokozisa ngokwakho?
Kwazi bani, kepha amathuba okuba uma ubabiza ngawo, bazokucasula futhi bazokukhathazeka doti-khuluma wena ngemuva kwakho ngokuba yinsini engasho lutho.
19. Abaqeda Izigwebo
Kuseduze kakhulu ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuba nengxoxo nalolu hlobo lomuntu, ngoba bacabanga ukuthi bayazi ukuthi uzothini ngaphambi kokuba ukusho, futhi bathathe inkululeko yokukuqedela imisho yakho.
Lokhu kungaba ngumlingani wakho, umngani, umzali, osebenza naye, noma umphathi wakho, futhi kuhlala kungamhloniphi futhi kuyacasula njengesihogo.
Kudlula ukuphazanyiswa nje, njengoba esikhundleni sokuqhumisa imicabango yabo ngenkathi uzama ukukhuluma, empeleni bazikhukhumeza ngokwanele ukucabanga ukuthi bayakwazi ozokusho, futhi bazokusho ngawe.
Uyazi, uma kwenzeka ungeke uzenzele wena.
Akunandaba ukuthi ubabiza kangaki kulokhu, ngeke nje bakuthole. Ezingqondweni zabo, bazwelana nawe kakhulu, futhi bakubambe kanzima, ukuthi bavele bangene engxoxweni nawe, uyazi?
Cha.
Kwenze kucace bha kulaba bantu ukuthi ngaphandle kokuthi bayeke ukwenza lokho, uzoyeka ukukhuluma uma beseduze.
Thatha i-HR uma udinga, noma ugweme amalungu omndeni njalo lapho bekwenza.
Bangase bafunde ekugcineni, kodwa bazokhononda kuyo yonke indlela.
alice in Wonderland ngiyabonga izingcaphuno
20. UMoya
Lo muntu angavele anyamalale kuwe izinsuku, amasonto… ngisho nezinyanga noma iminyaka.
Ungahle wenze izinhlelo nabo, futhi esikhundleni sokukwazisa ukuthi ngeke bakwazi, ngeke nje baphendule imibhalo yakho….
… Noma ngeke ivele ngesikhathi esihleliwe nasendaweni.
Bazoba nezaba ngokuziphatha kwabo, kunjalo, imvamisa bazenza isisulu noma iqhawe lanoma isiphi isimo abazithola bekuso, futhi bacele ukuthethelelwa / elinye ithuba, njll.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, bekungelona iphutha labo, akunjalo?
Into ehlekisayo, kungahle kungabi yiphutha labo, kepha hhayi ngenxa yezizathu abazama ukuzisebenzisa.
Abantu abaningi abaphefumula kanjena bahlushwa yizinkinga zempilo yengqondo ezinjengokukhathazeka okukhulu noma ukuphazamiseka kobuntu emngceleni.
Lapho besebunzimeni bokuhlaselwa ukwethuka noma ukukhungatheka ngokomzwelo, bayabaleka bacashe baze bazizwe “bephephile” futhi…
… Futhi lokho kubandakanya ukungabi nokuxhumana nomuntu ongazidala noma azilimaze nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Ukubabiza ngokuziphatha kwabo ngesikhathi esinjengalesi kubenza bazizwe bephoxekile futhi bezisola, ngakho bayacasha.
Zama ukungakuthathi mathupha . NjengoDon Miguel Luis uthi ezivumelwaneni zakhe ezine:
Ungathathi lutho uqobo lwakho - Akukho okwenziwa abanye kungenxa yakho. Lokho abanye abakushoyo nabakwenzayo ukuqagela iqiniso labo, iphupho labo. Lapho uvikelekile emibonweni nasezenzweni zabanye, ngeke ube isisulu sokuhlupheka okungadingekile.
