Ukuhlukumeza kwabantu abadala akuvamile ukuthi kubhekwane nakho. Kodwa-ke, amaqembu ezenhlalo kaningi anganikela ngesimo somzabalazo wamandla, futhi lokho kuza nemidlalo yengqondo nezwe eliyingozi lokubusa.
Sezadlula izinsuku lapho imisipha yenkundla yokudlala ikuphinze khona odongeni ngemali yakho yedina. Lokho kwakwesabeka ngokwanele, kodwa uma unenhlanhla umuntu omdala angangenelela.
Manje usungumuntu omdala. Inhlonipho yakho yangasese ingaba phansi, futhi abantu abadala abaqinela abanye baye baqinisa amakhono abo. Kungase kube nzima ukudalula amaqhinga acashile, obuqili, nawobuqili. Isifihla-buso segunya, imali, noma ulwazi oluphakeme kunikeza le miphefumulo engenangqondo amandla, ikushiye ungabaza ukwahlulela kwakho kwesimo.
Ngakho-ke umazi kanjani umuntu oyisiqhwaga omdala, ngenkathi ulwa nokwesaba kwakho i-paranoia?
1. Isizungu Sokuhlaselwa Ostracism
Uma amaqenjana namaqembu akhe futhi uzithola ungaphandle, kungenzeka ukuthi lihlelwe ngumuntu othokozela ukuphathwa kweqembu. Bayimpisi abagqokile okwezimvu, kodwa bembethe okomalusi, belusa umhlambi wabo.
Lapho ubhekene nazo wedwa, unga uzizwe unesizungu futhi abasengozini. Ukukhishwa kunikeza isicefe esiphindwe kabili. Isimo sakho sokuba wedwa singakwenza ube isisulu esilula kwezinye iziqhwaga futhi, ukubonwa njengo isizungu , kungaba nzima ukwakha ubungane.
Umhlaba wabantu abadala onamahlombe abandayo - ukunganakwa ngamabomu - kungakwenza ngokushesha uzizwe ungavikelekile futhi ungabalulekile. Lokhu kungafakazelwa njalo phakathi kwabazali enkundleni yokudlala yesikole, noma enkantini yabasebenzi. Ungakuthathi kancane lokhu nolaka Ukwenza ikhono labo lokukhulisa imizwa yakho yokukhathazeka kungakudambisa amandla. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukushiywa ngaphandle 'emsebenzini' kungaphazamisa kakhulu ikhono lakho lokufeza izibopho zakho zabasebenzi futhi kungalimaza nomsebenzi wakho.
2. Amahloni Okudicilelwa Phansi Komphakathi
I-Ostracism ingakhula ibe ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ezixhunyaniswe nokucekelwa phansi emphakathini. Izenzo ezijwayelekile zikushiya uzizwa udidekile futhi ungaqiniseki ngokuthi ungasabela kanjani. Ukuziphatha okufana nokukhulunyelwa phansi phambi kontanga yakho, noma ukuba nolwazi olugodliwe okushiya ubukeka ungenamsebenzi, ngezinye zezindlela isiqhwaga esingahle sikululaze ngazo emphakathini.
Lokhu kungahanjiswa zombili ngendlela esobala, okushiya ucwebezela unamahloni, noma ngobuqili, lapho usala ukholelwa ukuthi ungaphezu kwamandla ebucayi noma mhlawumbe i-paranoid encane. Izimpawu zokuhlukumeza ezingezwakali ze ukungahloniphi , njengokugudluzwa kwamehlo, kungakushiya uvalo futhi kungaba nomphumela wokuvala ukubamba iqhaza kwakho ekuxhumaneni kweqembu. Zonke lezi zenzo zidlalwa enkundleni yomphakathi, zivikela isiqhwaga, kepha sikwenze kube nzima kakhulu ukuthi uxoxisane.
3. Ukuzwa Udosi Lokuthotshiswa Komphakathi
Ukuzibandakanya ngqo nokudicilela phansi inhlalo ubuhlungu obuzwayo ngenxa yokuthotshiswa emphakathini. Lelo hlaya elingalungile elikushiya onyaweni lwangemuva, izinkulumo ezijivazayo ezenza izihlathi zakho zivuthe ngamahloni, nokwahlulela okunzima nokubeka phansi okwenza uzizwe usengozini futhi uvezwe obala, konke kuyingxenye yokululazeka emphakathini.
Imvamisa, lolu hlobo lokuhlukumeza lwenzeka emsebenzini futhi lwenziwa abaphathi bakho. Ngokwengeziwe, izinga lamazwana asuselwa ebulilini, ubuhlanga, nokuthanda ezocansi lisephezulu kakhulu. Ukuthuthuka kwamasiko sekwenziwe kulezi zindawo, yize ngokudabukisayo iziqhwaga eziningi zibambelela kokuchema okungafanele futhi ziyashesha ukukuveza.
Ngaphezu kwalokhu kuhlaselwa okuqondile, ukuhlazeka emphakathini kungathatha indlela yobuqili yokusabalalisa inhlebo ngesisulu. Ngokudabukisayo, ngentuthuko yezobuchwepheshe, le ndlela ecashile yokuxhashazwa itholakala kalula ngombhalo nangezinye izindlela zokuxhumana. Ukuhlukunyezwa nge-cyber akuyona into engafanele yokuziphatha eboshwe yiminyaka.
4. Ukukhohliswa Komsebenzi Wakho Nemibono Yakho
Esinye isimo esijwayelekile sokuxhashazwa emsebenzini ukuthi imibono yakho iphathwe kabi ngamabomu. Kaningi kakhulu, isiqhwaga esikhulile sizothatha udumo ngomsebenzi wakho siphike ukuthi sikufanele ukudunyiswa. Lokhu kudumisa kungathatha uhlobo lwemivuzo yezezimali noma ukukhushulwa.
Ukuphikisana nezenzo zabo kungazwakala sengathi uphikisana ngokungadingekile nokuthi awusiye ‘umdlali weqembu.’ Umphathi okahle uzokuthokozela ngenjabulo inkazimulo yakho ebonakalisiwe futhi akusize akweluleke ngomsebenzi wakho. Isiqhwaga sizokweba imibono yakho njengeyaso bese ngokuthokoza sivuna imivuzo.
Ngenye indlela, iziphakamiso zakho zingahle zihlaselwe, ukuxhumana ‘kulahleke’ noma kungatholakali. Okubi kakhulu, ungenziwa imbuzi yokuxolelwa imibono yabo eyehlulekile namasu abo. Ngaphandle kobufakazi obuphikisana nomphathi wakho, kubila 'ezwini lakho ngokumelene nelabo,' likwenza uzizwe sengathi babambe wonke amakhadi.
5. Ukubuswa
Ngabe ubona sengathi umuntu, osesikhundleni esiphakeme, usebenzisa kabi amandla akhe? Kubonakala sengathi bayakujabulela ukunqotshwa kwabangaphansi nontanga ngokufanayo. Izinhlaka zezinhlangano ezikulolu hlelo zingakusiza lokhu: abaphathi emsebenzini, amalungu amadala omndeni wakho, abantu abasezikhundleni ezivelele ngaphakathi kwamaqembu nemiphakathi, iziqu ezihlonishwayo emaqenjini enkolo noma emphakathini uqobo (isibonelo, iphoyisa noma osopolitiki), kwesinye isikhathi bazohlukumeza isikhundla sabo igunya.
Laba bantu abanamandla, abanolaka bangaziwa kakhulu kubaphathi babo, kepha akuvamile ukuthi babhekane nezenzo zabo. Kungakhonjiswa izenzo ezicashile ezinjengokwenza izimfuno ezingadingekile esikhathini sakho ukuze uziphathe ngendlela enobudlova evulekile ngenhloso yokukulimaza kwengqondo kanye / noma ngokomzimba.
Isimo senhlalo esihlukumezayo, ubuhlanga, noma ubulili buvumela abantu abacindezelayo ukuthi bacashe ngokusobala. Ukuphikisana, ukulawula ubuntu , bazophonsa intukuthelo ngolaka lwesigqoko ukuze bafeze izinhloso zabo. Ngokwengeziwe, zingase ‘zithandeke ngokuphelele’ kulabo abaseduze kwakho. Zingaba yisibonelo sangempela ‘sobumnandi’ kontanga yakho, ziphike izinsolo zakho zingasho lutho.
6. Umuzwa Wokwesaba Okushaya Inhliziyo
Izinsongo zokulimaza impahla yakho, impahla yakho, labo obathandayo, noma ukuphepha kwakho yizenzo ezingenakuphikwa zobuqhwaga. Lokhu kungavela ekuhlakazweni okubalulekile emsebenzini wokupenda wemoto yakho, ukungena ngempahla endaweni yakho, noma ukukubika emaphoyiseni ‘njengomsolwa’ ngaphandle kwesizathu.
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Ukwanda kwalokhu kuziphatha okusabisayo kungenzeka kwenzeke kancane, kukunciphise kancane kancane, noma kuhamba ngesivinini esisheshayo, kukushiye uthukile. Ukuhlaselwa ngamazwi kungakhuphuka ngokushesha kube ukwephula ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi. Lokhu kungavela kumuntu ongamazi noma kumuntu othathekile. Kungathatha uhlobo lokuhlukumeza kanye / noma ukulandela futhi kuqinise ekuhlaselweni okunamandla. Ngokudabukisayo, leli zinga eliphakeme lokuhlukumeza lingavela kumuntu esimthandayo / esimthandayo, lishintshe imizwa yethu ibe yi-gag.
Umuntu ononya ngamabomu, nganoma yiluphi uhlobo, unjalo anobuthi . Akekho onelungelo lokukuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo noma ngokomzimba. Isigaba sokuqala ukubona ukuthi othile uzama ukukukhohlisa endimeni yesisulu. Noma bazizwa bekhohlisa kanjani, yazi ukuthi unakho ukukhetha. Isinyathelo okhetha ukusithatha sizoba mathupha kuwe nakuzimo zakho. Funa ukusekelwa kubudlelwano obethembekile noma uthinte inhlangano esiza umphakathi efanelekile. Ungalenzi iphutha, ngaphansi kwezaba 'ezinengqondo', isiqhwaga sihlose ukulimaza.
