Ingabe abantu bangashintsha?
Yebo bangakwazi.
Ingabe abantu bazoshintsha?
Yebo, lowo ngumbuzo ohluke ngokuphelele.
okufanele ukwenze uma ungalungile kunoma yini
Isidingo soshintsho kuvame ukuvela ekuvezweni komuntu siqu ukuthi indlela umuntu aqhuba ngayo impilo yakhe ayisamsebenzeli.
Isizathu soguquko ngokuvamile siyinto ethinta inhliziyo kakhulu. Kuyinto edinga ukuqina ngokwanele ukufaka indlela ababona ngayo iqiniso labo, ukudala ukuzindla, nokukhuthaza isenzo ekwenzeni ushintsho olunengqondo.
Ikhono lokwamukela ukuthi umuntu udinga ukuguquka yisinyathelo esikhulu ohambweni lokululama. Futhi asikhulumi ngokuvuma nje ukuthi ushintsho ludinga ukwenziwa. Kulula ukwamukela inkinga bese ungenzi lutho nhlobo ngayo.
Lokhu esikhuluma ngakho ukwamukela. Ukwamukela ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha kwenza impilo yami ibe yimbi kakhulu, kuthinte kabi abanye abantu, futhi kudale izinkinga.
Yini ebangela ukuthi umuntu amukele ukuthi kudingeka aguquke?
Ayikho impendulo eyodwa elingana ngempela, ngoba abantu bayizidubedube, izidalwa ezingokomzwelo.
Enye yezinto ezibangela ushintsho kakhulu ukuzwa imiphumela yokuziphatha okungenampilo, okuzilimazayo, noma okunobuthi. Lokho kuvame ukwenzeka lapho abantu abazungezile benemingcele enempilo.
izinto zokudala ongazenzela intombi yakho
Lo muntu uzozithola ethola uhlobo oluthile lwemiphumela emibi noma imiphumela ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe.
Cabanga ngalesi sibonelo esilandelayo.
USarah uzelapha ngezinkinga zakhe zempilo yengqondo ngotshwala ngoba akakholelwa ukuthi udinga usizo. Ekuqaleni, wayedinga kancane kancane lapha nalaphaya ukumsiza ukuthi angene ezikhathini ezinzima.
Lokho uSarah akwaziyo, kepha akuzibe, ukuthi utshwala buyacindezela futhi bungenza ukugula kwengqondo kube kubi kakhulu.
Akakwamukeli ngempela ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kwezidakamizwa nokuphuza ngokweqile kuyizifo zabo ngokwengqondo. Futhi lokho ukuzakhela ngokusebenzisa utshwala njengendlela yokubhekana nakho.
Ngemuva kwesikhashana, iqala ukukhombisa. USarah udinga utshwala ukuze asebenze. Unotshwala obufihlwe endlini. Unebhodlela elifakwe edilowaini lakhe ledeski emsebenzini, uyazi, lapho efuna ukuthatha unqenqema.
Kuphuma ubudlelwano bakhe bomuntu siqu. Akanakuthenjwa ukuthi azolanda izingane ngoba waqala ukuphuza lapho ephuma emsebenzini futhi engakwazi ukushayela. Uchitha imali umndeni wabo ongenayo ngempela ekuphuzeni ngoba kumvumela ukuba abalekele izinkinga ezisengqondweni yakhe nasezingcindezelweni zempilo. USarah akalindelekile futhi akajabulisi ngenkathi ephuza.
Akukho kulokhu okuyinkinga isikhathi eside. Umlingani kaSarah uyamthanda futhi akafuni ukumbona ehlupheka, engazinzile, noma ecasukile, ngakho-ke akakhulumi ngakho. Uzakwethu kaSarah unika amandla, kuze kube yilapho bengekho.
Umlingani ekugcineni ukhathele ukuthi uSarah akathembeki, uyaguquguquka, futhi udakiwe. Ngakho-ke, baqala ukudweba imingcele futhi balwa noSara ngokuphuza kwakhe.
Mhlawumbe uSarah ekugcineni uyabona ukuthi kunenkinga futhi ufuna usizo. Noma mhlawumbe uSarah uyenqaba futhi ucabanga ukuthi umlingani uyinkinga.
Mhlawumbe uSarah akakwamukeli kuze kube yiminyaka engamashumi amathathu phansi komgwaqo lapho ebheka emuva empilweni yakhe yobudlelwano obuphukile, alahle amathuba, futhi waphuthelwa injabulo ngoba akakwazanga ukwamukela ukuthi udinga ukushintsha.
Kungani abantu bengaguquki lapho kucace bha inkinga yangempela?
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi abantu abaguquki.
Unabantu, abakwa-narcissists kanye nama-sociopaths, abangakwazi ukuzibonakalisa noma ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zabo. Azishintshi ngoba azizwa zidinga ukushintsha.
Yibo bonke abanye abantu abayinkinga. Kuyiphutha lakho ukulinyazwa, noma ukungathandi isenzo sabo, noma ukungakwenzi lokho abathi bakwenze, noma ukungavumelani nendlela abaphila ngayo impilo yabo.
ungatshela kanjani uma unezinkinga zokuzibophezela
Bayenqaba ukuma bese bethatha isikhashana ukucabanga ngakho ngoba bayazi vele ukuthi baqinisile. Manje kungani kufanele bazihluphe?
Lapho-ke unabantu abangafuni ukushintsha ngoba ushintsho luyesabisa. Ushintsho alwaziwa ongena kulo ungazi ukuthi izinto zizohamba kanjani.
Mhlawumbe ufaka wonke umsebenzi ukwenza ushintsho, futhi umphumela awulona obekulindele. Mhlawumbe ubulindele okungaphezulu mhlawumbe ubungalindelanga lutho nhlobo. Kunoma ikuphi, kunzima ukucabanga ukuthi impilo yakho iyohluka kanjani uma ususendleleni yenguquko.
Ukwaneliseka nakho kuphazamisa ushintsho. Mhlawumbe lowo muntu weneliseke ngokuphelele ngempilo yakhe. Mhlawumbe abasiboni isidingo sokushintsha ngoba vele benza konke abafuna ukukwenza nezidingo zabo ziyahlangatshezwa.
Lokho kubanikeza inkululeko yokulinganisa zonke izidingo zenguquko. Uma ecabanga emuva esibonelweni esedlule, uSarah angathethelela kalula ukuba umlutha wotshwala nezinkinga zakhe uma ebamba umsebenzi ojwayelekile. “Angikaze ngiphuthe emsebenzini. Ngifeza iningi lezibopho zami. Yini inkinga? ”
Futhi abanye abantu abashintshi ngoba abazizwa benamandla noma ikhono lokushintsha. Lolu uhlobo lokucabanga olubona kubantu abangabasinda ekuhlukunyezweni kwasekhaya noma kwezingane abanesithunzi.
Umuntu ocabanga ukuthi akakwazi noma akafanelekile kungenzeka angazami ukushintsha ngoba eholelwe ekukholweni ukuthi abanalo ikhono ngokwanele. Lawa ngamanga abahlukumezi abafuna ukuthi izisulu zabo bazikholelwe ukuze babalawule.
indlela yokunqoba umuzwa wecala ngemuva kokukopela
Iqiniso ukuthi noma ngubani angafeza okuningi uma ezimisele ukusebenzela kukho, amukele ukwehluleka njengengxenye yenqubo yokufunda, bese uzama futhi ngalokho akufundile.
Ngingakhuthaza futhi ngikhuthaze kanjani ushintsho?
Isenzo sokukhuthaza nokukhuthaza ushintsho sinamathele. Abantu bayakuzonda ukutshelwa ukuthi benzeni nokuthi benzeni.
Ukungena ebhizinisini lomunye umuntu nokubatshela ukuthi baphile kanjani ngempilo yabo kuzohlangana nengxabano nobutha. Lokho kuvamise ukubeka omunye umuntu ekuzivikeleni, futhi ngeke balalele ngoba bazogxila kakhulu ekuzivikeleni.
Okuvame ukusebenza kangcono ukuthi ube nemingcele yakho enempilo, eqinile futhi uyisebenzise. Gqugquzela ngokukhuthaza. Abantu abaningi badinga ukukhunjuzwa ukuthi bayakwazi futhi kufanelekile, nokuthi banamandla amakhulu kunalokho abangakucabanga.
Ngeshwa, ukudweba nokuphoqelela imingcele kungadala izingxabano. Kungasho futhi ukuphela kobudlelwano noma ubungani uma izenzo zomuntu zikubangela ukulimala kanye nempilo yakho. Lokho nje kuyiqiniso elingelihle sonke esidinga ukulamukela.
Futhi kumuntu odinga ukuguquka, lelo qiniso elibi kungaba yisisusa abasidingayo ukuze ekugcineni bazamukele izinkinga zabo bese benza okuthile. Kungaba isenzo somusa esikhulu kunazo zonke ongabanika sona.
Ngazi kanjani ukuthi umuntu ushintshile?
Udweba imingcele yakho, ukhukhuleka usuke kothandekayo wakho obhubhisayo, futhi ekugcineni, bayabuya bakutshele ukuthi bashintshile.
Wazi kanjani ukuthi ngabe empeleni zishintshile noma zizama nje ukubuyela emseni wakho omuhle? Lo mbuzo unempendulo elula ngokumangazayo.
Vele ubabuze ukuthi benzeni ukuze bashintshe. Uma bephendula okuthile okufana nokuthi, 'O, ngivele ngakhetha futhi ngakwenza,' kungenzeka ukuthi abathembekile. Kungenzeka, kodwa akunakwenzeka.
Ukushintsha imikhuba engenampilo nokulimazayo kunzima futhi kuyinselele. Kudinga umsebenzi omningi, ukuzihlola, ukushintsha imikhuba emidala, ukwakha imikhuba emisha.
Abantu abavamile ukuthola ukuthi bangakwenza kanjani konke lokhu bebodwa. Imvamisa bazodinga ukwesekwa okwengeziwe, umeluleki, umeluleki, izincwadi, noma yiziphi izindlela zokufunda imikhuba yabo yakudala bese beyifaka emisha.
Futhi kuthatha isikhathi. Kungathatha izinyanga noma iminyaka ukwenza iminyaka yemikhuba enobuthi neyonakalisayo. Akuyona into engaxazululwa ngesifinyezo seminwe.
Ufuna ngempela ukuzwa noma yiluphi uhlobo lwempendulo ejulile noma eyinkimbinkimbi. Lokho kuvamise ukuba yisibonakaliso esihle sokuthi bakhuluma iqiniso.
Ukukhula komuntu kanye noshintsho kuvame ukuba izinqubo ezinde, ezibuhlungu. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi ushintsho kungenzeka kakhulu kubantu abazimisele ngokushintsha, abazimisele ukufaka lo msebenzi, futhi babhekane nokungaziwa.
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