Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthandana?

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Kepha ihlala isikhathi esingakanani empeleni ukuthatha ukuthandana?

Wonke umuntu ubonakala ethandana, noma okungenani cabanga banayo, ngamanani ehlukene futhi ngamandla ahlukile.



Iminyaka yakho, umlando wobudlelwano, uhlobo lobuntu bakho, kanye nobuhlakani obungokomzwelo konke kungadlala indima ekutheni kukuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthandana, kanye nezinye izinto ezimbalwa…

Lo mbhalo uzohlola lezi zinto ngokuningiliziwe.

Uneminyaka emingaka?

Iminyaka yethu can kuthinta ukuthi sishesha kangakanani ukwakha imizwa nabalingani abasha.

Lokhu kungenxa yezici eziningi, kufaka phakathi ukuphikisana nobungozi okuqala kamuva empilweni, kanye nesipiliyoni.

Isibonelo, abantu abadala abasebasha noma abasebasha bangazizwa sengathi bathandana ngokushesha okukhulu.

Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi imizwa ivame ukuba misha kakhulu futhi ingacindezela kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi ikhule ngokushesha okukhulu kakhulu.

Ngabe udrako ibhola umoya omkhulu

Abantu abasebasha abanakho ukuvezwa okufanayo ekuqhekekeni kwenhliziyo noma ekuqhekekeni kobudlelwano ngendlela efanayo nowehlukanisile oneminyaka ephakathi.

Lokhu kudlala indima enkulu ngejubane abantu abasha abathandana nalo, njengoba bengaboni kahle ubuhlungu noma izingozi ezingabakhona.

Labo asebekhulile kungenzeka ukuthi bake bahlangabezana nokuhlukana okuningana, kungenzeka ukuthi bathole isehlukaniso, noma bamane bazi nje ngobungozi obuza nobudlelwano.

Ngakho-ke, bathambekele ekuqapheleni kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngothando.

Ngokwezinga elithile, bangazibamba ngenkuthalo ekuzizweni ngokweqile, okusho ukuthi bathandana kancane kancane. Bayinciphisa le nqubo ngenxa yokwethuka noma njengecebo lokuzivikela.

Unjani Umlando Wobudlelwano Bakho?

Lokhu kuhambisana nobudala, kunjalo, ngoba labo abanomlando omude wokuqomisana bangahle bangabaze kancane uma kuziwa ekuziphonseni ebudlelwaneni obusha.

Uma sike salimala esikhathini esedlule, kungokwemvelo ukuzibamba kancane bese uzama ukuthatha izinto ngokuqinile.

Abantu abaya ebudlelwaneni babo bokuqala bavame ukuthandana ngokushesha okukhulu - ikakhulukazi uma bobabili abalingani bengabokuqala.

Imizwa evelayo izizwa ishubile kakhulu kunaleyo engase yenzeke kubantu asebevele sebenobudlelwano obuthize obukhulu.

Abalingani abambalwa esibe nabo, sisheshe sinamathele kubo, futhi kujula lokho okunamathiselwe kokuqala okujwayele ukuba kuko.

Labo abake baba nabalingani abangathembekile bangakuthola kubathatha isikhathi eside ukuthandana nabalingani besikhathi esizayo, noma ngabe imizwa yabo ingeyangempela kangakanani.

Lesi sidingo sokuzivikela ebuhlungwini obungenzeka siyingxenye yokubhekana nezindlela ezithile futhi, ngandlela thile, siyingxenye yokuziphendukela kwemvelo.

Sifunda ukuzivikela ezintweni esicabanga ukuthi zizosilimaza ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, okunengqondo ngokuphelele.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu wehlukile, nokuthi bonke ubuhlobo buhlukile, futhi.

Labo abangazange bathembeke bangazithola bethola ubunzima ukuze bavuleke futhi babe nothando, noma ngabe bafuna kangakanani.

Ukwesaba ukulimaza omunye umuntu noma ukuba nakho ngaphakathi kuye ukukopela umuntu amkhathalelayo kungazizwa kukhubaza uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano obusha.

Ukukopela kuyesabeka, imvamisa kubo bobabili abantu abasebudlelwaneni - i imizwa yokukhaphela futhi amahloni angaba kubi kubantu bobabili, futhi ajwayele ukuqhubekela phambili ebudlelwaneni besikhathi esizayo babantu bobabili.

Kepha akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi njengokusho ukuthi ukuphuka kwenhliziyo kuholela ekuqapheni.

Abanye bethu, lapho behlukumezekile ngokwehlukana, banxanela leyo mizwa yokusondelana nothando, cishe kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi sithandane ngokushesha okukhulu ngoba sikufuna kakhulu.

Lokhu kunengqondo, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi uziqaphele futhi uqiniseke ukuthi imizwa yakho iyiqiniso ngaphambi kokuba unamathele ebudlelwaneni obusha.

Qiniseka ukuthi ufuna ngempela ukuba nawe lokhu umuntu hhayi nje noma yini umuntu ongavala isikhala!

Abanye banesibazi sobuhlungu benhliziyo kangangokuthi bacishe besabe ukudedela onogada babo, ukwethemba umuntu, nokuthanda futhi .

Lokhu kuyaqondakala, kodwa zama ukungazivali ekuzizweleni ngokomzwelo wangempela ngoba wesaba ukuthi kuzolimaza.

Khumbula ukuthi ukwenze ngokudabukisa kokugcina nokuthi uzodlula kwesinye - uma lokho kungenzeka, kunjalo.

Umuntu osabayo ukuzivumela umthande kungenzeka empeleni kube nguye, ngakho-ke asikho isizathu sokukhathazeka okwamanje!

Abantu abaphule izinhliziyo zabanye bangangabaza ukuziphonsa kobunye ubuhlobo futhi bangahle basebenzise igama elithi ‘L’.

Uma wazi ukuthi unayo kwaphela ubuhlobo futhi ushiye umuntu ophuke inhliziyo ngokuphelele, ungahle ube novalo ngokwenza into efanayo futhi.

Kungenzeka ukuthi wake wazizwa umthanda kakhulu umuntu wakho wakudala ngesinye isikhathi, futhi kuyakusabisa ukuthi awusazizwa ngaleyo ndlela.

Ungakhathazeka ukuthi uma uthandana nomlingani omusha, kunengozi yokuthi uzothanda ukuwa phuma wothando nabo , nabo, ubashiye belimele futhi bephuke izinhliziyo.

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Lokhu kuhlale kuyingozi, vele, kufanele unqume ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi kufanele yini.

Buyini Ubuntu Bakho Nemicabango Yakho?

Sonke singabantu abahluke ngokuphelele, okwenza kube nzima ukubeka isikhathi esibekiwe kunoma yikuphi ukuziphatha, ikakhulukazi okubandakanya imizwa enamandla njengokuthandana.

Abanye bethu bahle budedengu ngokobuntu - sithambekele 'ekukuphakamiseni' uma kukhulunywa ngokuhamba ngaphandle kwezinhlelo (amathikithi endiza eyodwa, noma ngubani?) Futhi angaba 'yi-scatty' empilweni yethu ejwayelekile.

Lokhu kuvame ukuholela ekutheni siziphonse ebudlelwaneni obusha futhi sithandane ngokushesha okukhulu.

Labo abanohlobo lobuntu eligodliwe, kuyaqondakala… babekiwe uma kukhulunywa ngalezi zinhlobo zemizwa.

Abantu abakhuliswe kanzima (ngesehlukaniso noma ngokuxhashazwa, ngokwesibonelo) bavame ukuthandana ngokushesha okukhulu.

Singazizwa singanakiwe okungaholela ekufuneni uthando nazo zonke izinzuzo zalo - sifuna leso sibopho esingokomzwelo futhi ulangazelela ukusondelana futhi uthando .

Lokhu kuvame ukwenziwa ukuzwa sengathi siphuthelwe yilezi zinto ngesikhathi sisakhula.

Kungasho ukuthi imizwa yethu 'yothando' ingabekwa endaweni engeyiyo njengoba sibheka lolo xhumano nomaphi lapho lutholakala khona.

Lokhu yinto okufanele siyikhumbule ukuze singaphambukisi izindlela ezithile zokuziphatha nemizwa kubantu abangase bangakwazi ukufeza izidingo zethu njengoba sidinga noma sifuna benze.

Ngokwengqondo, umbono wethu jikelele ngempilo ngokusobala uzothinta zonke izingxenye zempilo - kufaka phakathi uthando.

Njengoba kungenzeka uqagele, labo abanezinhlobo zobuntu ezikhathazayo kuzothatha isikhathi eside ukuthandana, noma okungenani qaphela ukuthi bathandane (njengoba lezi kungaba yizinto ezimbili ezihluke kakhulu!)

Labo abavame ukukhathazeka noma ukwesaba ngezinto eziningi bangathola ubudlelwano bunzima kakhulu.

Ukuthambekela kwabo kwemvelo uku cabanga izinto ngokweqile futhi ukhathazeke ngemiphumela yezenzo zabo - futhi, lapho izenzo zabo zibandakanya omunye umuntu abamkhathalelayo, lezo zinkathazo zingaqina impela.

Uthando luvame ukugxila ekwethembaneni ( ebudlelwaneni obunempilo , okungenani!) okuyinto labo abanezingqondo ezigcwele ukukhathazeka abangalwa nayo.

Ngenxa yalokhu, 'izithikamezo' phakathi kwethu zivame ukuthatha isikhathi eside ukuthandana, kepha, lapho senza njalo, siwela kanzima - uma kukufanele konke ukucabanga ngokweqile, kufanele kube kukhetheke kahle, phela.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo abanombono oqondile, okhululekile bangathandana ngokushesha okukhulu.

Lokho kungenxa yokuthi bavame ukuhlelwa (noma bazihlelele ngokwabo ngokwezinga elithile) ukuze babone okuhle kakhulu kukho konke.

Abantu abacabanga kahle bavame ukuthandana ngokushesha. Banethemba futhi nethemba labo lokuthi izinto zizohamba kahle ‘liyabavumela’ ukuba bezwe imizwa yabo futhi bathembe inqubo.

Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abantu abaphumayo bangaya nganoma iyiphi indlela - abanye abantu abazethembayo bakhululekile ukuziphonsa ebuhlotsheni obusha kangangokuthi bazivumela bazizwe izinto ngokujulile futhi bathandane ngokushesha.

Ezinye izinhlobo zobuntu eziqinile zisetshenziselwa ukuzethemba nokujabula ngenkampani yabo, isiqinisekiso, nokuzithanda kwabo abangafisi uthando lwezothando ngendlela abanye abantu abenza ngayo.

Kanjalo, bavamise ukusebenzisa indlela 'yokuyithatha noma ukuyishiya' ebudlelwaneni nasothandweni. Kungenxa yalezi zinhlobo zobuntu lapho ezinye izinto, ezifana nobudala nomlando wobudlelwano zenza umehluko.

Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):

Buyini Ubuhlakani Bakho Bomzwelo?

Abanye abantu bathinta kakhulu imizwa yabo kanye neyabanye abantu. Lokhu kusengqungqutheleni yokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo (i-EQ).

Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthandana kuzoncika ekutheni i-EQ yakho ithini.

Labo abane-EQ ephezulu kungenzeka bakhe izibopho ezingokomzwelo nothile ngokushesha okukhulu kulabo abane-EQ ephansi.

Ngakho-ke, kuyaqondakala-ke ukuthi, izinga eliphakeme lokukhalipha okungokomzwelo lithanda ukuholela kuleyo mizwa yothando ekhula ngokushesha okukhulu.

Kodwa okubalulekile futhi ukuthi umuntu usheshe abone kanjani ukuthi basothandweni. Futhi ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo budlala indima lapha futhi.

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Abantu abane-EQ ephansi ngokujwayelekile bazozifunda kabi izimpawu zothando noma bamane bazishaye indiva isikhathi eside.

Ngakho-ke ngenkathi kungenzeka empeleni babe othandweni, bangahle bangazi ukuthi bayikho.

Bangakujabulela kakhulu ukuchitha isikhathi nomlingani wabo futhi bangazizwa beqinisekile ngendlela ubudlelwane obuhamba ngayo, kepha bangazizwa bekude ukulungele ukumemezela uthando lwabo … Ngoba abaqiniseki ukuthi lokho abakuzwayo uthando.

Ngasohlangothini lwe-flip, umuntu one-EQ ephezulu naye angafunda kabi imizwa yakhe futhi akholelwe ukuthi bayathandana, lapho konke abazizwa kunamandla kakhulu umuzwa wokunamathiselwa noma ngisho inkanuko .

Ngamanye amagama, ubuhlakani obuphezulu bezemizwa abusho ukuthi ukuqashelwa masinyane ukuthi luyini uthando nokuthi yini uthando olungeyona.

Ungowesilisa Noma Owesifazane?

Ubulili budlala indima enkulu kukho konke esikwenzayo, ngakho-ke akumangazi ukuthi kungathinta ukuthi sishesha kangakanani ukuthandana nokuqina kwemizwa yethu.

Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi abesilisa bathandana ngokushesha okukhulu, yize lokho kungesikho ukuvezwa okuvamile ezincwadini nakuma-romcom!

Sivame ukubona abesifazane bethandana ngokushesha okukhulu futhi amadoda elwela ukuchaza imizwa yawo - cabanga ngawo wonke ama-movie aseHollywood ngabesifazane abathandana nabangane babo besilisa iminyaka ngaphambi kokuba indoda ibone ukuthi bayathandana nowesifazane, futhi!

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Labo abacabanga ukuthi amadoda athandana asheshe abhekise ezinhlotsheni zobuntu zamadoda - ngokuvamile, ababheki ngokweqile…

… Nabesifazane.

Abesifazane bathambekele ekucindezelekeni noma bakhathazeke kakhulu, becabanga ngemiphumela namawashi e-biological kanye nodumo nokunye.

Abesifazane abaningi bazithola beqagela okwesibili nokwesithathu ngezenzo nemizwa yabo - lokhu kusho ukuthi banqena ukuvuma kubo ngokwabo, nakubalingani babo, ukuthi bayathandana.

Iningi lamadoda livame ukuhamba nalo nje bese licabanga ukuthi izinto zizolunga!

Kuhlala kunzima ukubala ukuthi ubulili bethu buzithinta kangakanani izenzo nemizwa yethu, ngakho-ke kunzima kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngothando.

Sidinga ukukhumbula ukuthi ngaphakathi kobulili ngakunye, kunezinhlobo eziningi zobuntu nemininingwane emincane ethinta ngempela ukuthi singobani njengabantu.

Akuwona wonke umuntu wesilisa noma owesifazane ofanayo, ngakho-ke asinakulindela ukuthi amava abo othando angene kuphethini omuhle ococekile.

Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi zonke izinto ezibandakanyekile kule ndatshana ziyasebenza ndawonye - ubulili bethu buthinta ubuntu bethu, bona obungashintsha imikhuba yethu lapho sisebudlelwaneni…

Ubuhlobo Bakho Buqhubekele Kanjani?

Kukangaki ubona umlingani wakho nakho kungathinta ngempela ukuthi uthandana kanjani ngokushesha.

Uma uthandana nothile futhi umbona kaningi, kungahamba nganoma iyiphi indlela!

Abanye abantu bazothola izinto eziningi nangaphezulu abazithandayo ngomuntu abathandana naye njengoba isikhathi sihamba, okwenza uwe ngokushesha nangaphezulu.

Ngaleyo ndlela, ukubona umuntu ophola naye izinsuku eziningi kungasho ukuthi uthandana ngokushesha okukhulu.

Abanye abantu, noma kunjalo, bangathola ukuthi ukubona umuntu okuningi kungacishe kubabeke phansi!

Imizwa isengaba khona, kepha 'ubudlelwano' (ukubona okuningi komunye nomunye futhi ungazizwa sengathi unenkululeko) kungenza abanye abantu ngifuna ukwehlisa ijubane futhi bazozivimbela futhi babambe imizwa yabo.

Kulokhu, ukuthandana kuzothatha isikhathi eside.

Vele kunabantu abachitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye njengabangane abahlakulela imizwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Lokho akusho ukuthi imizwa ayinamandla lapho ivela, kunjalo.

Ezinye izibopho ziqala njengobungane, futhi lokhu kungahlala isikhathi eside impela. Abantu ababili bangahle bathandane omunye nomunye ku indlela yeplato , kepha kusengaba khona ukusondelana okuningi lapho.

Abangani ababili bangakhathalelana kakhulu, futhi babasekele kakhulu futhi babavikele ngokuthandana nabanye abantu.

Umona umuzwa wemvelo phakathi kwabangane, noma ngabe kungekho mizwa yothando ehilelekile.

Kwesinye isikhathi lo mhawu ungaholela kumzuzu ‘manje noma ungalokothi’ lapho uzuma ungazelele ukuthi awufuni ukuthi umngane wakho abe nomuntu abathandana naye futhi ufuna ukuba abe nawe.

Kunzima ukukhomba lapho abangane abagcina bendawonye bethandana. Kwabanye, kuwukushisa okuhamba kancane, okunothando okubonakala ngokuphelele lapho kwenzeka okuthile ngokomzimba (ukwanga, ngokwesibonelo) okususa isibopho ebunganeni kuye kongaba umlingani wakho.

Thanda Ekuboneni kokuqala

Ekugcineni komunye umcabango kukhona umbono wokuthi uthando lungenzeka ngokushesha lapho ubona umuntu othile.

Manje, asikwazi ukusilinganisa ngempela lesi - ayikho ngempela isayensi esingaphendukela kuyo lapha futhi, njengoba kungenzeka uqagele manje, ‘uthando’ kungaba nzima kakhulu ukulichaza!

Sikholelwa impela emizweni lapho siqala ukuyibona, kungaba eyothando, engokwenyama, noma engokomoya kakhulu.

Kwabanye, kunomuzwa wokuxhumeka okujulile okwedlula okungokoqobo - sithola isipiliyoni se-deja-vu nabantu abathile futhi ngokushesha sizizwe sisondelene nabo.

Kwabaningi, lokhu kuxhumene nokuphindukuzalwa (umuzwa wokuthi lo mfokazi kuyinto umuntu abemazi phambilini) noma kungaba sezingeni elifanayo-ngokomoya.

Okubalulekile okufanele kukhunjulwe lapha ukuthi 'uthando' lwehlukile kuwo wonke umuntu, futhi okuhlangenwe nakho kwawo wonke umuntu ngalo kuzohluka.

Abanye abantu bathi 'bazi' zisuka lapho behlangana 'noyedwa,' futhi singobani thina ukuthi bangabe balungile noma cha ?!

Khumbula: Uthando Yilokho Okudingayo

Ngakho-ke, njengoba sesisungulile, kunzima impela ukukhomba kahle ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthandana.

Uthando luyinkimbinkimbi ngokwanele lodwa, ngakho-ke kuyinkohliso enkulu ukubheka zonke izinto ezidlala indima.

Umlayezo omkhulu ongasuswa kulokhu ukuthi sizizwa esikuzwa, lapho sikuzwa.

Asikwazi ukugijimela ukuzwa imizwa ethile futhi akufanele kube khona ingcindezi yokuthi sisho igama elithi 'L', noma ngabe uzizwa kanjani sengathi kufanele ngabe ulisho!

Imizwa yethu idlula kwinqubo ende, ethandekayo ngaphambi kokuthi siyithole ngempela, ngakho-ke kufanele sizibekezelele.

Sidinga futhi ukuthi sifunde ukwethemba amathumbu ethu uma kukhulunywa ngezindaba zenhliziyo.

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Uma uzizwa ngaso leso sikhathi uxhumano oluqinile noma udonsela kothile, landela - ngeke wazi ukuthi yini engenzeka…

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