Ukukhula komuntu nokuthuthuka kungenye yezindawo ezibalulekile abantu abaningi abangathanda ukuzithuthukisa kuzo ezimpilweni zabo. Ngaphezu kokuba nomusa ngokwengeziwe, ubekezele, futhi onesihawu , abantu abaningi baphinde babhale ukuqiniswa okuthe xaxa njengenye yezici abangathanda ukuzenza, kepha abakaze babe nokuzethemba kokuzama okwamanje.
Abantu abaningi bayazibamba ekutholeni abakufunayo ebudlelwaneni noma emisebenzini ngoba besaba ukuqina ngokuthanda kwabo. Lezi zinhlobo zamarowu zingagqashuka kuwo kuthatha isikhathi nomzamo wokwenza njalo. Sethemba ukuthi lezi zincomo zingakusiza ukuthi uphume emkhubeni wakho futhi uthole ukuzethemba obekulangazelela.
1. Chaza Ukuthi Ukuzimisela Kusho Ukuthini Kuwe
Konke kuhle futhi kuhle ukusesha uzungeze futhi uthole incazelo ye-Wiki yokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba nogqozi, kodwa indlela ocabanga ukuthi wenza ngayo ngokuqiniseka ingahluka kakhulu kunenani elifanele. Isibonelo, isiza singakutshela ukuthi ukuze ube namandla, kufanele uzame ukuthola imali emsebenzini futhi kufanele ungene ehhovisi lomphathi wakho ukuyifuna ngenkani.
Okwamanje, kuwe, ukuzithemba kakhulu kungabandakanya ukukhuluma ngokufuna ngempela ukwenza ikhekhe eliconsisa ulamula emphakathini wakho ukubhaka kulo nyaka.
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2. Thola Ukuthi Kungani Ungenzi Njengamanje Ngokuzibandakanya
Hlala phansi uthathe umzuzwana uzibuze ukuthi kungani kungenxa yokuthi uzizwa ungakwazi ukuqinisa ezimweni ezahlukene.
- Uyesaba izingxabano?
- Ngabe unomuzwa wokuthi okuthandayo nemibono yakho akunandaba?
- Noma ukuthi abantu bazokujikela uma ukhuluma okucabangayo futhi ume uqine?
- Ngabe ufundisiwe ukuthi izwi lakho alisho lutho?
- Ngabe ukujwayeze ukwenza ngokuzidela kangangokuba uzizwa uyisidlakela sobugovu ngisho ucabanga ukuzama ukwenza okuthandayo kwaziwe?
Abesifazane, ikakhulukazi, bagcwale umqondo wokuthi badinga ukukhuluma ngobumnene futhi ngokungenzi lutho ngenhloso yokugwema ukubizwa ngokuthi “ngongqondongqondo”, nokuthi izidingo nezidingo zabo kusezingeni eliphambili ekuqinisekiseni ukuthi abanye bayajabula. Kunzima impela ukugqashula kulolu hlobo lwesimo, futhi imvamisa kungathatha iminyaka noma ngaphezulu ukukufeza. Okunye ukwesaba okukhulu abesifazane abaningi abanakho uma kuziwa ekubuyiseni ukuzimisela kwabo ukuthi abalingani babo bangabashiya ngoba 'sebeshintshile'. Uma ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kungakubambezela, ungahle uthande ukucabanga ukuthi ngabe ubudlelwano bakho buyimpilo, buhle futhi obubambelele kubo.
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3. Bhala Uhlu Lwezinto Okufanele Uqiniseke Ngazo
Uma kukhulunywa ngohlobo lokuqiniseka ongathanda ukuluveza, kubalulekile ukuthi ube nomgomo engqondweni. Ngabe inhloso yakho ukuvimba umuntu ukuthi angazehlisi? Noma ukuthola ukukhushulwa emsebenzini? Ngabe uthola ukuthi une-vampire engokomzwelo yomngani futhi ungathanda ukuyivimba ukuthi ingakushiyi? Noma mhlawumbe ungathanda ukuzama izindawo zokudlela ezintsha ngaphandle kwalezo wena nomlingani wakho eziya kuzo sonke isikhathi?
Bhala phansi konke lokhu, kanti ngenkathi ukuko, zibeke ezingeni ngokubaluleka kwazo, bese kuthi eziyi-10 kube “Ngidinga ngempela ukulungisa le nkinga” bese kuthi engu-1 kube ngu “meh, uma isimo sigcinwa, siphumelele 'ungangibhubhisi ”. Usengasebenza ngendlela yakho yehle nge-1 futhi ukuhlele lokho futhi, kepha akudingeki ukuthi kube okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, futhi kungahle kubhekwane nakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Uma uzizwa sengathi usizakale ehhovisi, noma uma ungayithandi ngempela indlela umlingani wakho akhuluma ngayo nawe ezimweni ezithile, bhala lokho ohlwini lwezinto ongathanda ukuzilungisa, kanye nemishwana ocabanga ukuthi kuzoba nomthelela omuhle kakhulu ngemiphumela emihle.
Umgomo ukukwenza uzizwe uzethemba futhi unethezekile ngokuqina kwakho okusha, kunokukwenza uzizwe sengathi uzenza umuntu ohluke ngokuphelele. Ukuqina kwakho kuzoba yiqiniso ngokwengeziwe uma kuza njengesandiso semvelo sakho, ngakho-ke sebenzisa amagama nezisho zakho esikhundleni samazwibela asesandleni enikezwa ezincwadini zokuzisiza.
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Yilapho uzogcina khona amanothi ngemizamo yakho yokuqina, nokuthi waba yini umphumela wokugcina. Bhala phansi izingqinamba kanye nempumelelo, futhi uthembeke kulokho okufundile. Uma uthola ukuthi ukuqinisa kuya ngokulula kunendlela obucabanga ngayo, ungagcina usuzethemba ngokweqile kuze kube seqophelweni lokuthi ube namandla okuqina lapho isimo sokungathathi hlangothi sisifanele kakhulu isimo. Ungavumeli ukuqina kuphenduke ukuzikhukhumeza noma ukubusa.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kufanele sivale nini isihogo njengoba kunjalo nokwazi ukuthi nini zimele futhi wenqabe ukuphathwa kabi. Uma umngani wakho omkhulu esanda kwehlukana nomlingani wakhe futhi efuna ukuba ne-movie ne-ice cream binge, leso bekungeke kube yisikhathi esihle sokufuna ukukhetha kwakho kumafilimu nakuma-flavour. Myeke abe nalokhu.
Isikhathi sidlala indima enkulu empumelelweni, futhi kubalulekile ukucwilisa uzwane emanzini ngaphambi kokungena ngaphakathi, ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso. Yebo, kuwumqondo omuhle ukwazisa umphathi wakho ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uthole imali, kepha ngosuku olulandelayo ngemuva kokushona kukanina kungenzeka kungabi yisikhathi esihle sokwenza lokho, uyazi?
5. Thatha Izinyathelo Ezincane, kepha Hlala Inkambo Yakho
Kufanele futhi wazi iqiniso lokuthi uma ungazange uzimisele ngokuqinile esikhathini esedlule, wena kuthanda fika ulwe nokumelana lapho uqala ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuma umhlabathi wakho. Kungaba nezimpikiswano namalungu omndeni nabangane, ukungezwani emsebenzini, njll. Ngakho-ke kufanele uzilungiselele izindlela ezahlukahlukene zokubuyela emuva.
Isibonelo, uma uba nengxoxo nomlingani wakho futhi bakuphazamisa, bayeke ngokushesha ngokuthi ngomoya ophansi uthi 'ngicela ungangiphazamisi uma ngikhuluma'. Amathuba okuthi bavuke indlobane baphikisane, ngaleso sikhathi ungakwenza kucace ukuthi awubaphazamisi lapho bekhuluma futhi ungathanda ukunikezwa umusa ofanayo. Kuya ngokuthi bangumuntu onjani, lokhu kungahle kuholele ekuxabaneni (noma ukushaywa komnyango), kepha uma ubalulekile kubo, bazovuma ukusebenzisana nawe futhi bakhule ndawonye.
Ungavumeli lezi zimo zikuyekise, noma kunjalo! Ungahle udinge ukuhlala kubhavu futhi ukhale kamnandi lapho kuthi lapho umuntu okujwayele ukuba ngumnyango wezicabha ephambanisa izwi lakhe ngezwi lakho elisha elitholakele. Gcina lawo imingcele emisha ziqine endaweni futhi uzothola ukuthi zizokuvumelanisa nawe, noma zihambe… futhi uma kungokwakamuva, bekungafanele ukuthi babe nazo ekuqaleni. Lokhu kuyingozi oyithatha noma nini lapho wenza ushintsho olukhulu empilweni.
Ukuxhumana kubalulekile, futhi kuwumqondo omuhle ukuhlala phansi ukhulume nalabo osondelene nabo ngeqiniso lokuthi uzama ukuba namandla, kanye nezizathu zakho zokwenza njalo. Ngokucela ukuxhaswa kanye nokukhuthazwa, ungavele uthole ukuthi unabantu abaningi ohlangothini lwakho kunalokho obungakulindela, okuzosiza kuphela ekuqiniseni ukuzethemba kwakho futhi kukusize ufinyelele imigomo yakho.
