Ngesihloko sale ngcezu, ungacabanga ukuthi isixazululo ukucisha ama-hallucinogens, kepha cha.
'I-Flying Monkeys' igama elisetshenziswe ku-psychology ukuchaza ama-sycophantic hanger-on ajwayele ukuzungeza ama-narcissists, futhi asekele / avikele konke akwenzayo.
NjengoMthakathi Okhohlakele wezinkawu ezindizayo eziseWest kuWizard of Oz, 'Flying Monkeys' (kusukela manje kubhekiselwa kuwo ngokuthi 'FMs') yizona zingane ezihlanjululwe ingqondo ezenziwa ngumqaphi ukufeza ukuqhudelana kwazo.
Lokhu kungazwakala kungavuthiwe futhi kuphazamisekile engqondweni, futhi kungahle kube nzima ukukholelwa ukuthi noma ngubani uzokwehla kakhulu ukuze asebenzise abanye ukubenzela umsebenzi wabo ongcolile, kepha hheyi. Kwenzeka kaningi kunalokho ongase ucabange.
Ngezansi kunezibonelo ezimbalwa zendlela lokhu okungenzeka ngayo, nokuthi ungayivika kanjani leyo mijezi enobuqili.
Indlela AbakwaNarcissist Abazisebenzisa Ngayo Izinkawu Ezindizayo
Uma uke wabandakanyeka kwi-narc isikhathi esithile, wazi kahle ukuthi ulahlwe kabi ukuthi bangabakhohlisa kanjani abanye abantu ukuze bavumelane nezifiso zabo kanye nezidingo zabo.
Isimo esisodwa esivamile lapho kuqashwa khona ama-FM kungemva kokwehlukana. I-narc ngokungangabazeki izoheha abantu abambalwa abasha ukuqinisa ukuzidla kwakhe, futhi laba abasha bazotshelwa konke mayelana nokuthi i-ex yabo yayiyimbi kangakanani, ihlanya futhi mhlawumbe yayihlukumeza kanjani.
Laba bantu abasha kungenzeka babe nozwelo, izinhlobo zokuzwelana, futhi ngokushesha bazofuna ukududuza nokuvikela i-narc ngangokunokwenzeka.
Bangase banikele ukusiza noma ngabe bangasiza kanjani, okunikeza i-narc ithuba elihle lokuqhubeka nokusebenza umlingo wabo omubi empilweni yakho.
Lezi Zimfene Ezindizayo zingahle zisetshenziselwe ukusiza umuntu osebenzisa le narcissist…
1. Ukuhlola
Ake sithi nguwe owaqeda ubudlelwano, futhi usuhambile “ akekho oxhumana naye ”Emzameni wokuziqhelelanisa futhi phola kulokho kungcola .
INarc ingahle ithole i-FM eyodwa noma ezimbili ukuthi zihlole ama-akhawunti wakho wezokuxhumana ukuze ubone ukuthi wenzani, bese uyakubika.
lapho isoka lakho lingenaso isikhathi sakho
Ungakugwema Kanjani Lokhu:
Setha amaphrofayili wakho wemidiya yokuxhumana nabantu abe yimfihlo, futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ukhetha kakhulu ukuthi ngubani omnika izicelo zobungani.
Yamukela kuphela izicelo ezivela kubangani babangane, bese ubuza ukuxhumana okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuthi bangobani laba bantu abasha. Yenza i-recon encane ngaphambi kokubanika imvume.
Lokhu kungabonakala kuyindida, kepha uma usebenze kanzima ukuphuma ngaphakathi kwezingcongconi zomshayi-narcissist, kufanele umzamo owengeziwe wokuzigcina uphephile.
Ukuthatha lezi zinyathelo kusho ukuthi ngeke kudingeke ukuthi ukhathazeke nganoma yiluphi ulwazi lomuntu siqu mayelana nokuthi uzobuyela kowawushade naye. Amanxusa akhe ngeke nje akwazi ukufinyelela utho ngawe ongaluhlanganyeli nomphakathi jikelele.
2. Imikhankaso Yezinhlebo / Smear
Abaningi bethu bathambekele ekuhlebeni kaninginingi, kepha uma kuthathwa kufinyelela kwelinye izinga futhi uyi-sucker empofu okukhulunywa ngayo, kungakwenza uzizwe kabi.
Ngokudabukisayo, abakwa-narcissists kanye nabangane babo bahlanganyela kulolu hlobo lokuziphatha kobuxhwanguxhwangu ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Kuyinto edabukisayo ngempela, eyentsha ukuyenza, kepha uma bezizwa benganakiwe nganoma iyiphi indlela futhi befuna ukukujezisa ngokufuna ukumisa uhambo lwabo lwamandla nokukulawula, bangahle bawele emkhankasweni we-smear.
Uma ungawazi lo mqondo, umqondo oyisisekelo ukuguqula abanye abantu bakumele.
Benza lokhu ngokubatshela amanga ngezinto ezinyantisayo osuzishilo noma ozenzile, noma bathathe izinto obatshele zona ngokuzethemba (emuva lapho wawunolwazi olwanele lokuzethemba) nokuzenza zivele emphakathini.
Inhloso ukukujezisa nganoma yikuphi ukona oke wakucabanga ngabo, nokwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi bathatha isinyathelo bakupende “njengomuntu omubi” ngaphambi kokuba ube nethuba lokwenza okufanayo kubo.
Ama-FM angasiza kule ndlela ngokungeza amanye amazwi kumculo we-sh * t okhonjiswa ngawe.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, i-ex enganelisekanga ichithwa kalula kanjalo, kepha uma abantu abaningana besho into efanayo, kuyo yonke imiphakathi ehlukahlukene yomphakathi… kahle, kufanele kube neqiniso kulokho, akunjalo?
Bubula.
Imvamisa, umkhankaso we-smear uzobandakanya abangani bobabili ngisho nomndeni wakho uqobo lapho i-narc izobe ibatholile ebudlelwaneni bakho.
jim neidhart imbangela yokufa
Lokhu kuyenza ilimaze kakhulu futhi kungaholela ekonakaleni kobudlelwano obubalulekile obubodwa ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Ukufunda okubaluleke kakhulu kwe-narcissist (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Indlela Yedwala Elimpunga Yokusebenzelana Nombhali WamaNarcissist Lapho Ungeke Uhambe No Oxhumana Naye
- Ukukhanyisa ngegesi: Izibonelo ezingama-22 zalesi Senzo Sokuhlukumeza Ngesihluku ck
- Kungani Ungalokothi Uzame Ukwelashwa Kwemibhangqwana Ne-Narcissist
- Izindlela ezi-5 AmaNarcissist Avimbela Izisulu Zawo Ekuhambeni
- Izinto eziyi-8 i-Narcissist Angeke ikwenzele zona (Noma Noma ngubani Omunye)
- IRollercoaster Yokubuyiselwa Okusuka Ekuhlukunyezweni KwamaNarcissistic
Ungakugwema Kanjani Lokhu:
I- 'Rise Above' izwakala njengegama elishisayo nelisetshenziswe ngokweqile, kepha lifanelekile. Yiba inguqulo enhle kunazo zonke, eqotho kuwe, kunokuzama ukuziphindisela noma ukuzivikela.
Uma othile ekubiza ngezinto ezinyantisayo ocabanga ukuthi uzenzile kule narc okukhulunywa ngayo, vele uveze ukuthi uyifisela injabulo le narc bese uyifisela okuhle.
Lokhu kuzodida izinkawu futhi kuzenze ziqagele okwesibili ukuthi imininingwane eziyifakile iyiqiniso yini.
Ngokuyisisekelo, uma ungaziphathi njengomuntu omubi abashiye ukuthi unguye, maningi amathuba okuthi badele bese behamba.
Kungaze kuhlwithe abanye abantu - ikakhulukazi labo abekade bekwazi ngaphambi kwe-narc - baphume esimeni sabo sokuluthwa futhi babakhumbuze ukuthi ungubani ngempela bangobani hhayi ukuthi i-narc ikwenza ube ngubani.
Ziba okushiwoyo, vimba labo bantu abangaphandle abanesabeka futhi abahlukumezayo kuwe, bese uqhubeka nokuqhubeka.
3. Ukuhlaselwa Kweqembu Nokungenelela
Leli qhinga lifaka iqembu lezinkawu ezindizayo ezisebenza ndawonye emzameni wokukuqinisekisa ukuthi uhlobo oluthile lokuziphatha luzokuzuzisa kakhulu.
Kuphela empeleni kubakubo / kwabakwa-narc ababamele.
ukuxhumana ngokomoya phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane
Kuvame kakhulu emindenini lapho i-narc okukhulunywa ngayo ingumzali, njengoba kusho umzali engavame ukufaka ushevu kubantwana bakini kanye namalungu omndeni akhulisiwe ngokumelene nawe ngokubatshela ukuthi ubalimaze kangakanani, ukuthi abakaze benze lutho olubi, njll.
Ungazithola usesimweni lapho abafowenu, odadewenu, abazala bakho, obabekazi, kanye / noma omunye umzali wakho ekutshela ukuthi bazi konke ngesimo futhi bayazi ukuthi kufanele uziphathe kanjani ukuze usilungise.
Ungakugwema Kanjani / Misa Lokhu:
Uma ungakwazi (noma ungathandi) ukusika bonke empilweni yakho ngokushesha, khona-ke into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukwenza lokho wenqaba ukusabela .
Bona ukukhohlisa nokuzama kwabo ku-FOG (Ukwesaba, Isibopho, Necala), futhi ungahlanganyeli nabo.
Indlela enhle ukuthi, uma bekhuluma, ukubenza bachaze ukuma kwabo nezizathu zabo ngalokho abakushoyo.
Qhubeka ubuze imibuzo, qhubeka ubabuze ukuthi bakhulume ngalokho abatsheliwe, ukuthi yini “abakwaziyo,” ukuthi bafunani, njll.… Kodwa UNGALINGI ukuvikela ukuziphatha kwakho noma wenze noma yimuphi umzamo wokutshela uhlangothi lwakho lwendaba .
Ukuthi nje bathathe lesi sinyathelo sokungenelela kusho ukuthi abanandaba kangako nanoma yini okufanele uyisho, futhi bazivumele ukuthi bathonywe ngokuphelele futhi basetshenziswe ngumhlukumezi we-narc.
Uma sebekhulumile, ungasho ukuthi ngokusobala beze emibonweni naseziphethweni zabo ngaphandle kokukhuluma nawe wedwa nokuthola uhlangothi lwakho lendaba, ngakho imibono yabo ayisebenzi, futhi awunantshisekelo noma yini okufanele bayisho.
Ukuphela kwengxoxo.
Vele uqiniseke ngokuphelele ukuthi uhlala uzolile futhi ukhubazekile ngokomzwelo kulo lonke ulwazi.
Inhloso yabo ukukwenza ube novalo futhi ukhungatheke, futhi uma uhlala unenhloso, uzolile, futhi ukhombisa okuncane ekutshalweni okungokomzwelo, lapho-ke usuthole amandla aphezulu futhi ngeke bakuthinte nakancane.
Abantu abakwazi ukukulimaza uma ungabaniki ukufinyelela kuwe, kungaba ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo.
Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuzisusa ngokomzimba ku-narcissist kanye ne-Flying Monkey brigade yabo, khona-ke okungenani, ungazisusa ngokomzwelo.
Isibonelo esihle salokhu kungaba umqondo wokuthi 'isudi elingenalutho' ku-Aikido: ukuthi uyisitsha esingenalutho, futhi umane usebenzise amandla omphikisi ukunqoba impi. Bakhiphe, bese uhamba uhambe.
Eqinisweni, ukuhamba kude ekugcineni kuyindlela enhle kunazo zonke ongayisebenzisa ukususa bobabili i-narcissist nezinkawu zabo zenkawu empilweni yakho, unomphela.
Kungaba nzima ngendlela exakile futhi kube buhlungu ukwenza lokhu, ikakhulukazi uma amaFlying Monkeys engamalungu omndeni noma elukelwe eduze empilweni yakho yezenhlalo, kepha kufanele uzinakekele nganoma iziphi izindlela ezidingekayo.
Uma lokho kusho ukushintsha igama lakho, ukupakisha izinto zakho, nokuhamba ezweni lonke ukuqala impilo entsha ngokuphelele, kude nabahlukumezi, kuthathe.
