“Bheka ohlangothini oluqhakazile!”
“Yiba nesimo sengqondo esihle!”
“Bheka ulwelwesi lwesiliva lwalelo fu elimpunga!”
Cishe wake wezwa noma wasebenzisa le misho ngaphambili, mhlawumbe lapho ududuzwa othile ngesikhathi esinzima kakhulu, noma lapho uzama ukududuza umuntu uqobo.
Lezi zinhlobo zemishwana zikhomba 'ithemba lobuthi.'
Ukuzethemba okunobuthi ukuphika imizwa engemihle kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila ngokukufaka enjabulweni nasekutholeni okuhle.
Kwehlisa futhi kwehlise imizwa engemihle kwesinye isikhathi okudingeka siyizwe empilweni.
Impilo iba nzima futhi ibuhlungu ngezinye izikhathi. Kulungile ukuthi kube nzima futhi kube buhlungu.
Futhi kulungile ukuthi abantu bazizwe bedabukile, bethukuthele, becindezelekile, bekhathazekile, noma bephazanyiswa yilezi zimo.
Ukuzethemba okunobuthi kuyayiphika le mizwa emibi futhi kugcina umuntu ekucubunguleni imizwa yakhe kahle.
Awukwazi ukugwema noma ukuphike ukuhlupheka okuzayo.
ungithumelela imiyalezo nsuku zonke kepha akafoni
Uma wenza kanjalo, kumane kujabule kuze kube kwakha ngokwanele ukuba kube yinkinga enkulu kakhulu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, izifundo eziningi ezibalulekile zokuphila nokuhlakanipha kutholwa kanzima ngokuhlupheka nangokunqoba izinselelo ezisivezela impilo.
Ukwenqaba le mizwa emibi indawo ebafanele ukukhubaza ukukhula komuntu ngokomzwelo.
Vele, kukhona ibhalansi entekenteke okufanele ishaywe.
Yebo, akulungile ukuphika okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle empilweni yomuntu bese uzama ukukufaka esikhundleni sokuzithemba okungaphezulu.
Kepha akusizi ukuhlala ezimweni ezingezinhle zomuntu futhi.
Ukukhanyisa imizwa engemihle nakho kungadala izinkinga ngokondla isilo ngaphandle kokuthola isixazululo.
Futhi kwesinye isikhathi uvele ugule futhi ukhathele ukuzizwa ugula futhi ukhathele, ngakho-ke ushaya ukumamatheka bese uqhubeka nakho. Ngezikhathi ezithile kufanele.
Yiziphi ezinye zezimpawu zokuqiniseka ngobuthi, futhi ungakugwema kanjani kangcono?
1. Ukuzizwa unecala ngokuhlangabezana nemizwa engemihle.
'Impilo yami imnandi kakhulu, angifanele ukuzizwa kabi.'
'Ngiyisilima kabi ngokuzizwa kabi.'
Ukuzethemba okunobuthi kungabonakala njengecala lapho uzizwa kabi ngokuzwa imizwa emibi.
Vele, imizwa engemihle iyozizwa kabi. Kepha ukuzizwa ungalungile, unecala, noma unamahloni ngokuzwa leyo mizwa kukhombisa ukuzethemba okuyingozi.
Umuntu okuleso simo angazitshela ukuthi akanasizathu sokuzwa leyo mizwa futhi kufanele ajabule ngesimo sakhe.
Ungathola ukuthi ukwenzile lokhu kwabanye abantu, noma abanye abantu bakufake kuwe ngokukutshela okufanele futhi ongafanele ukuzwa.
“Mamatheka! Yini okufanele ungajabuli ngayo? ”
“O, impilo yakho ilula kakhulu. Kungani uhlala ulusizi kangaka? ”
“Akekho umuntu othanda isaka elidabukisayo. Jabula! ”
Uma ungumuntu osho lezi zinhlobo zezinto, umthetho omuhle wesithupha ukungalokothi utshele noma ngubani ukuthi kufanele azizwe kanjani noma angafanele azizwe kanjani.
Ngokutshela umuntu ukuthi kufanele azizwe kanjani noma angafanele azizwe kanjani, wenza ukuthi azizwe kanjani manje.
Lokhu kubatshela ukuthi awuyena umuntu okufanele ngabe bakhuluma naye ngezinkinga.
Uma othile ekutshela lezi zinhlobo zezinto, into enhle ongayenza ukugomela ukuthi uvunyelwe ukuba nemizwa engemihle. Ungavumi ukuthumela imiyalezo yabo.
Kungenzeka ukuthi abaqondi ukuthi banganikeza kanjani ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo okunengqondo noma ukuthi abahlakaniphile kangako ngokomzwelo.
Ukwazi ukuthi ungamduduza kanjani umuntu obhekene nesikhathi esinzima kuyikhono elifundiwe, hhayi into esizalwa nayo ngokwemvelo.
2. Ukufihla imizwa yakho yeqiniso ngokuqiniseka okungamanga.
'Ngilunge kakhulu!'
“Kungaba kubi kakhulu!”
'Akukho engizokhala ngakho!'
Ngabe wenza isikhala semizwa engemihle onayo?
Noma uzama ukuwafaka kabusha njengokuthile okuhle?
ngubani jordyn jones ukuphola
Kwesinye isikhathi okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu nemizwelo yethu akuyona nje emihle. Kwesinye isikhathi asizizwa nje sijabule, sinethemba, noma isikhuthazo.
Akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi sineka futhi sikuthwale.
Kulungile ukuzwa imizwa engemihle lapho udinga.
Kodwa kuthiwani uma ungakwazi?
Kuthiwani uma ungenaso isikhathi?
Kuthiwani uma unezinye izinto ezidinga ukuphathwa njengamanje?
Anginaso isikhathi sokukhala! Kufanele ngisebenze! Kunomsebenzi wasendlini odinga ukwenziwa! Ngidinga ukushaya ucingo ngithole lokhu kuqokwa!
Kuleso simo, kufanele ubeke eceleni isikhathi ukuze uzizwe uzizwa ukuthi yini okudingeka uzizwe.
Kepha akuphoqelekile ukuthi uzwe ukuthi yini okudingeka uzizwe khona manje.
Okubalulekile ukuthi uzinikeze isikhala nemvume yokuzwa leyo mizwa emibi lapho ukwazi.
3. Ukuhlinzeka ngombono esikhundleni sozwela nokuqinisekisa.
“Kungaba kubi kakhulu.”
'Uyazi, umuntu weXYZ unzima kakhulu kunawe.'
Umoya wokunikeza umbono othile ungahunyushwa ngokuthi uwusizo, kepha awuwenzi kahle umsebenzi.
Uzwela nokuqinisekiswa kuqhubeka kakhulu ekunikezeni ukusekelwa okunengqondo kuwe noma kwabanye.
Ukhiye wokuthola uzwela nokunikeza ukuqinisekiswa ukwazi ukuthi ungakhulumi nini.
Abantu abaningi bakhuluma ngoba bezizwa bephoqelekile, noma becindezelwa, ukuba babe nokuthile abakushoyo.
Iqiniso lodaba ukuthi kunezimo eziningi lapho kungekho nje okuhle ukusho.
Umuntu ohlangabezana nenhlekelele noma obhekene nezikhathi ezinzima akakuboni ukuhlupheka kwabanye abantu.
Okubakhathaza kakhulu okwamanje yimizwa yabo engemihle.
Ukuzama ukuhlinzeka ngombono kuyindlela yokuzama ukuzidudula noma uthinte omunye umuntu kuthrekhi ye- ukugwema.
'Ngeke ngizwe lokho engikudinga ukuzizwa ngoba omunye umuntu unakho okubi kakhulu kunami.'
Ukuzethemba okunobuthi ukugwema, njengoba kunikeza nombono.
4. Ukunciphisa noma ukuhlazisa okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho noma kwabanye.
'Bekungelula kangako.'
'Abanye abantu babhekane nobunzima.'
Lezi zinto azisho ukuthi imizwa engemihle ayibalulekile.
Lapho sinciphisa imizwa, noma ngabe ingeyethu noma cha, siphuca umuntu amandla okuzwa imizwa yakhe ngokuthembeka nangokuphepha.
Kubuyela emuva ekugwemeni okungalungile nokugxila kokungaphezulu kokuhle.
Imilayezo efana nokuthi 'akuyona into enkulu kangako' isikhuthaza ukuthi sibheke kude nobubi kunokuba sibhekane nakho futhi sibhekane nakho.
Kungani ithemba lobuthi liyinkinga enjalo?
Ukuba ngumuntu kuwumsebenzi onzima. Kunokuhlupheka okukhulu ukuzama thola ukuthula nayo empilweni.
Ngokuzama ukugxila kokuhle kuphela futhi singaniki isikhala semizwa engemihle esizizwayo, senza kube nzima kithi nakwabathandekayo ukuphola nokukhula.
Ukugcina leyo mizwa engemihle isikhathi eside nokungabhekani nayo kuyenza ibe yimbi impilo yethu ngokubanga ukucindezeleka okwengeziwe.
Futhi ukucindezela uqobo kunemiphumela emibi eminingi emzimbeni, njengokukhathazeka okwandayo, umfutho wegazi, ikhanda elibuhlungu, ukuqwasha, ukudangala, ukuzala, ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi, nokunye okuningi.
Ukuzethemba okunobuthi nakho kuyonakalisa futhi kuqede ubudlelwano.
Lapho uziphoqa ukuthi uqhubeke ujabule noma wamukele ukucabanga ngokweqile 'okuhle', ukhuluma nabanye abantu ukuthi akufanele babe nemizwa enzima abakuzungezile.
Noma kunjalo, ukusebenza ngezinkinga kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokwakha ubudlelwano.
Indlela oxazulula ngayo izingxabano noma osiza ngayo abangane bakho ukuthi basebenze ngezinto zabo ingasiza ekuqiniseni ubudlelwano ngendlela okungekho okunye okungakwenza ngayo.
Azikho izici ezinhle zokuzethemba ezinobuthi. Kuyindlela elula yokuvala amehlo ethu, ukufaka iminwe yethu ezindlebeni zethu, nokunganaki iqiniso.
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