Ukufuna ukuthula kwangaphakathi kuleli zwe elinobudlova kuyinto enhle.
Ngokuthola ukuthula ngaphakathi kwethu, senza kube lula ukuzulazula ezinxushunxushwini zabanye, kungaba umphakathi noma ukubhekana nekusasa elingaqinisekile.
kungani ngincamela ukuba ngedwa
Kulula kakhulu ukubhekana nalezi zingcindezi zangaphandle lapho unokuthula ngaphakathi kwakho.
Uhambisana kakhulu nokuthi ungubani, ukuqonda kangcono okulungile nokungalungile kuwe, futhi ungahamba nokugeleza kobukhona kalula kakhulu.
Abantu baye basesha, baphikisana, futhi bazama ukudala ukuthula kwengqondo isikhathi eside abebekhona. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ifilosofi - enokuthula kwangaphakathi kumongo wayo - inezinkulungwane zeminyaka ubudala. Futhi yilokho nje esibhale kukho irekhodi!
Ukufuna ukuthula kwangaphakathi kukude futhi kugxilile, kepha kulesi sikhathi samanje, ibila impela kumaphoyinti amaningana ayisihluthulelo.
Kwangathi bangakusiza endleleni yakho eya enkululekweni ezinhlungwini zangaphakathi.
1. Thola ukuthi yini ekuphazamisayo.
Lokho kubukeka njengephuzu elisobala, elingasizi, akunjalo?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu imininingwane yesitatimende.
Yini ephazamisa ukuthula kwengqondo kwakho? Futhi kungani kukuphazamisa?
Udinga ukukhomba futhi ucacise ukuthi yini inkinga ngaphambi kokuyilungisa.
Njengesibonelo, ake sithi unezinkinga nomndeni wakho ezikubangela ukucindezeleka okuvamile, ukudabuka nobuhlungu.
Kungani? Kungani lokho kuhlangana kukubangela ukucindezeleka, ukudabuka nobuhlungu?
Ingabe umndeni wakho ungabantu abanobuthi?
Ngabe umndeni wakho ulahlekelwe kakhulu okwenza ubenze ngendlela ehlukile kunaleyo abenze ngayo?
Ngabe kukhona ukuhlukumezeka okungaphendulwanga noma ubuhlungu okungabhekwana nakho?
Yini ekucasula? Ukhathazekile? Kuyadabukisa? Yini ephazamisa ukuthula kwakho?
Ukubhala kuyindlela enhle yokukhipha le mizwa bese uyifaka kufomethi eqondakalayo.
2. Lungisa okulungisekayo.
Kunezinto ezithile esingazilawula, futhi ezinye izinto asikwazi ukuzilawula.
Imvamisa asinakho ukulawula lokho esikuthola empilweni. Kwesinye isikhathi lezi zinto zinzima futhi ziyahlukumeza. Kwezinye izikhathi zincane futhi zilungile.
Ngokuqondene nokusebenza kulezo zinkinga eziphazamisa ukuthula kwakho kwengqondo, udinga ukwazi ukwehlukanisa lokho ongakulawula kokungakwazi.
ukubuyisana kanjani nomuntu
Awukwazi ukulawula okwenzeka empilweni okuzokuvakashela. Awukwazi ukulawula izenzo nemizwa yabanye abantu.
Ungazama, kepha kuvamise ukuphela ngentukuthelo nokukhungatheka kubo bonke abathintekayo. Akekho ofuna ukulawulwa.
Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele ugxile ku- ukuthuthukisa ikhono lakho lokulawula imizwa ezungeze into ekucindezelayo.
Ngokwenza lokho, wenza umthelela wabo ube mncane, okuphazamisa ukuthula kwakho kwangaphakathi kuncane.
Le nqubo iba nzima kakhulu uma unesifo sengqondo esingahle sishintshe noma sikhulise lokho okuzwayo nokuthi uwuhumusha kanjani umhlaba. Kuleso simo, ungadinga usizo olwengeziwe kusuka kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo ukunciphisa lokho kweqisa.
3. Yenza ngendlela efanele nangendlela efanele kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka.
Kuyalinga ukuthatha imigwaqo elula uma uzama ukuzulazula empilweni.
Kepha leyo migwaqo elula kungenzeka ingabi yimigwaqo efanelekile ongayithatha. Zingahle ziholele endleleni yokungathembeki noma zenze okulula ukugwema ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka okukhona manje.
Ngeshwa, lokhu kungadala ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka kwesikhathi esizayo njengoba kufanele ushanele izingcezu zanoma yini ephukile ngokukhetha ukuthatha indlela engafanele.
Inkohliso iwukuxakaniseka okuxubile cishe okungenzeki ukukugcina kuqondile. Umuntu ugcina eshibilika, asho okungalungile, aveze amanga, bese lokho kululaza ukuthembeka kwabo.
Ukufuna ukuhambisana nokuqhubeka nokusebenza ngezenzo ezingalungile kuyakhathaza ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo.
Ungazichaya ezingxabanweni ezithile zamanje ngokuzama ukwenza ngendlela efanele, nangendlela efanele, kepha inzuzo yesikhathi eside ingcono kakhulu.
Akudingeki ukhathazeke ngemiphumela yesikhathi esizayo yezenzo zakho uma ulwela ukwenza izinto ngendlela efanele.
Kukhona okuhlukile. Wenza okudingeka ukwenze uma uzwa sengathi ukuphepha kwakho kusengozini.
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4.Dla izindaba nemidiya ejwayelekile ngamanani alinganiselwe.
Ngabe ufuna ukuba yisakhamuzi esinolwazi emhlabeni?
Abantu abaningi bayakwenza.
Inkinga ukuthi sihlaselwa ngamabhomu - amahora angama-24 ngosuku, izinsuku eziyisikhombisa ngesonto - ngazo zonke izinto ezimbi, ezesabekayo, nezesabekayo ezenzekayo emhlabeni.
Lo mjikelezo wezindaba ongapheli emhlabeni ongalali akukuhle ukuthula kwakho kwengqondo nempilo yengqondo.
Akufani nokuthi kunezindaba eziningi zezindaba ngezinto ezinhle nezinhle abantu abazenzayo emhlabeni.
Cha, kungukugeleza kolwazi okuqhubekayo mayelana nokwesabekayo nokwesabekayo.
ngifuna ukwenza ushintsho emhlabeni
Futhi ingxenye enkulu, akudingekile.
Kungaphandle kwesilinganiso salokho esingakulawula.
Impela, ungazizwa kabi ngabantu abahlupheka kwenye indawo. Kepha lokho kwenzani empeleni? Imane nje ikuphuca ukuthula kwengqondo kwakho.
Ungazwelana nalokho kuhlupheka, kodwa awukwazi ukuhlala kukho. Akuwona neze umqondo omuhle ukuhlala ebuhlungwini bakho nasekuhluphekeni ngokweqile.
Ukuhlala ngokweqile ebuhlungwini nasekuhluphekeni kwakho kubizwa ngokuthi kuyakhanyisa. Futhi ukukhanyisa kokubi kugcina ingqondo yakho endaweni engafanele yengqondo, okufaka isandla ekuphazanyisweni kokuthula kwakho kwangaphakathi.
Kufanele ube nobugovu obuncane ngamandla akho engqondo nangokomzwelo, ukuze ungasuki ebubini bomhlaba.
5. Nciphisa isikhathi sakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana noma uyeke ngokuphelele .
Imithombo yezokuxhumana idala umncintiswano lapho kungekho noyedwa othola imiklomelo ezuzisayo.
Sihlala siqhathanisa izimpilo zethu zansuku zonke nama-reels avelele wabangane nemindeni yethu, noma ngabe asizami ngenkuthalo.
Abantu bazibekela futhi bamomotheka ngekhamera, noma ngabe izinto zingajabulisi kanjani noma zimbi kangakanani empilweni yabo yangasese.
Lezo zithombe ezithandekayo zasolwandle nezokuqwala izintaba zibukeka zizinhle, kepha lelo yiholide elilodwa nje ngohlobo olufanayo lwempilo enzima ongahle uhole.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, imithombo yezokuxhumana isibangela ukuthi sichithe isikhathi esiningi esinengqondo lapho besingasebenza ekukhuleni nasekuthuthukiseni.
Eziningi zalezi zingosi zenzelwe 'izihibe zangasese.' Lokho kuyisenzo esingahlinzeka ngomvuzo owanele wokukugcina wenza futhi ufuna ukwenza okuthile ngomvuzo omncane owunikezayo.
Imishini yeslot iyisibonelo esihle kunazo zonke. Umuntu uhlala phansi, afake imali yakhe, bese edonsa isigwedlo. Akukho okwenzekayo isikhathi esiningi. Kepha uma kwenzeka okuthile? Hawu mfana! Zonke izibani nezinhlabamkhosi nomvuzo ovela ngokuwina! Futhi manje ufuna ukuwina futhi, ngakho-ke ufaka imali eningi uqhubeke.
Izihibe zeLudic yingakho ungazithola upheqa ngokungapheli imithombo yezokuxhumana. Kulula, kulula, futhi kunikezela ngomvuzo owanele ukukugcina uqhubeka.
Futhi uma uzosebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana, nciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwakho ukuzigcina ungapheqi ngokwengqondo.
6. Zixolele ngokuba ngumuntu.
Into enamandla kakhulu ongayenza ukusiza ukuthula kwakho kwengqondo ukuzixolela ngokuba ngumuntu.
Abantu bangabantu abadidekile, abanemizwa, kwesinye isikhathi abangenangqondo.
Abantu abaningi balwela ukwenza okulungile, kepha bayahluleka noma bathathe izinqumo ezimbi enkambisweni. Lezi zinhlobo zezinqumo zingenza umuntu angalali ebusuku, umuzwa wecala ubadle.
'Ukube nje bengizame kakhudlwana!'
“Ukube nje bengazi lokhu noma lokho!”
ungenza kanjani usuku lokuzalwa lwesoka lukhetheke
'Ukube ngenze lokhu nalokhuya!'
Iyaqhubeka iyaqhubeka.
Iqiniso lodaba ukuthi mhlawumbe ubungeke uzame kanzima. Mhlawumbe ubungeke wazi lokhu noma lokho. Mhlawumbe ubungeke wenze lokhu noma lokho.
Mhlawumbe uzame kanzima ngangokunokwenzeka futhi izinto zaqhubeka kabi, ngoba nakanjani lokho kuyenzeka.
Noma mhlawumbe awuzange. Mhlawumbe uyekelele lapho bekungafanele ube khona, futhi izinto azihambanga ngokohlelo ngenxa yalo.
Konke ongakwenza yikho okusemandleni akho. Futhi uma ungakwazi ukwenza okusemandleni akho, zibuze ukuthi kungani, futhi uzixolele ngokuba ngumuntu.
Awukwazi ukuba seqophelweni nasefomini ephezulu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Akunakwenzeka. Akekho ongakwenza lokho.
Humusha izingqinamba ohlangabezana nazo empilweni njengezipiliyoni zokufunda ukuze zikhule zisuke esikhundleni sezinhloso ezimbi.
Ukuthethelela amaphutha akho namaphutha kuyisinyathelo esikhulu ekuthuthukiseni ukuthula ngaphakathi kwakho.
