Uma Uyeka Imidiya Yezokuxhumana, Uzobona Lezi Zinzuzo Eziyisithupha

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Imithombo yezokuxhumana ingaba namandla kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi - futhi akekho ongavikeleki emiphumeleni yayo emibi.



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Abantu abachitha isikhathi sabo esiningi kumasayithi afana ne-Facebook, Instagram, ne-Twitter bavame ukubika inani elifanele lokukhathazeka nokudangala.



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Futhi, empeleni, ungabasola?

Uma uskrola okuphakelayo kwakho, ngokungangabazeki uzohlangabezana nezithombe noma amavidiyo ongeke uwabone, okuthunyelwe okuvusa imizwa, kanye nezikhangiso ezikwenza uzizwe ungafaneleki.

Nazi ezinye zezinzuzo ezibalulekile ezitholakala ngokuthatha ikhefu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, noma ukuyeka ngokuphelele.

1. Ngeke ukwazi ukuziqhathanisa kabi nokuthunyelwe kwabanye.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi abantu abaningi baqaphele kakhulu ukuthi bathumela ini kumaphrofayli abo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.

Bafisa kuphela ukwabelana ngezici ezinhle kakhulu zempilo yabo.

Le selfie ebonakala ingenamsebenzi ethunyelwa othile - engenza abanye bazizwe bebi futhi bengafaneleki - kungenzeka ukuthi ingenye ye-100 abayinqobile.

Futhi-ke yasetshenziswa ngamadijithali ngezihlungi ezahlukahlukene yaze yabukeka imangalisa ngokuphelele.

Izithombe ezithandeka kakhulu zomntwana wakho ojabule, olele kahle, onelisekile ngokuphelele okwenza uzizwe ungumzali owesabekayo?

Yebo, lawo angcono kakhulu kunakho konke: kungenzeka ukuthi kuthathwe izinkulungwane ezimbalwa lapho owayo ekhala, ekhuza, futhi egcina umndeni uphapheme izinsuku ngesikhathi.

Abantu abaningi abapheqa nge-Instagram ukuthola ugqozi bakhohlwa ukuthi kungakanani umzamo owenziwayo ekwenzeni lezo zithombe zibukeke zilungile.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile abacabangi ngaso sonke isikhathi nezinsizakusebenza ezingena kumaphrojekthi ahlukahlukene.

Lokhu kungaholela emizweni eshiwo ngenhla yokungafaneleki - ukuthi ubuhlakani babo, amalungiselelo okupheka, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, njll.

Bazokonakalisa imizamo yabo noma badele ukuzilibazisa abakuthandayo ngoba empeleni, kusizani lapho wonke umuntu esengcono kakhulu kunabo?

Ima.

Yima ima ima. Khona manje.

Uma lokhu bekungukucabanga kwakho nhlobo, thatha isinyathelo esikhulu emuva bese ukhumbula ukuthi uyinkanyezi emangalisayo, enesiphiwo, ekhanyayo.

Awungeke ube namaphutha noma 'awwenele ngokwanele' ngoba munye kuphela nina.

Njengalokhu, awukwazi ukuqhathaniswa nomunye umuntu: uyazibona uyingqayizivele futhi uphelele impela ngenxa yokuthi ungubani noma unjani njengamanje.

Beka ifoni yakho phansi uhambe uhambe, usule ikhanda lakho, futhi ungalokothi ukhathalele ukuthi omunye umuntu wenzani, ugqokeni, ucabangani noma uthini.

Vele ukugubhe isikhashana, kulungile? Kulungile.

Inkulumo enhle.

2. Ungazizwa unesizungu futhi ucindezelekile.

Ucwaningo olushicilelwe kwi-Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology ukhombise ukuxhumana phakathi kokusebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana nesizungu nokudangala.

Ungazizwa sengathi uphuthelwa ukwazi yonke imininingwane mayelana nokuthi kwenzekani ezimpilweni zawo wonke umuntu, kodwa ekugcineni, ingabe udinga ngempela ukwazi konke lokho?

Abantu abaningi bahlala ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngenxa yeFOMO: F indlebe NOMA f UM ekhipha NOMA phuma.

Bakhathazekile ngokuthi uma bengagcinwa ku-loop, bazogcina beqhelelene nomphakathi wabo, bengamenyelwa emicimbini, njll.

Abanye abantu bayacindezeleka uma bebona izithombe zemibuthano ababengamenyiwe kuyo.

Bazizwa bedabukile futhi benqatshiwe ngoba beshiywe ngaphandle, noma ukuthi abanye bazizwe sengathi 'abalungile ngokwanele' ukumema.

Manje, okuningi kwalokhu kuhlobene nokulindela okungenangqondo.

Ngeke sihlale simenyelwa kuyo yonke imicimbi eqhutshwa yiwo wonke umuntu kwimibuthano yethu yomphakathi enwetshiwe.

Ukuthi singabangane nothile ku-Facebook, akusho ukuthi baphoqelekile ukusimemela emshadweni wabo.

Abanye abantu baphinde bacindezeleke ngempela lapho labo abasemaqenjini abo omphakathi bonke behlanganyela ngamava okuphila angenawo, noma angenakuba nawo.

Isibonelo, owesifazane onenkinga yokukhulelwa angase acindezeleke ukuthi angakwazi ukuya emaqenjini omama nalabo ababekade bengabangane bakhe abakhulu.

Akagcini nje ngokulwa nohambo lwakhe lokuzala, kepha uzizwa eshiywe ngaphandle yilabo abecabanga ukuthi unesibopho esiqinile.

Into ukuthi, abantu bashintsha okuningi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi ubungani buyaphela bugeleze ngokuya ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kwempilo.

Uma uzwa sengathi ushiywa ngaphandle kumbuthano wakho womphakathi, zama ukujoyina omusha.

Kukhona amathani amaqembu e-Meetup cishe kuwo wonke ama-niche ongawacabanga, kusuka kokudla kwasendle okufunayo kuya ekwenzeni insimbi, i-LARPing, i-winemaking, nokuningi.

Zizame, futhi ungathola ukuthi unokugculiseka okuningi okumnandi nokwakho kunanini ngaphambili ngenkathi uchitha amahora uskrolela okuphakelayo kwakho kwe-IG.

3. Uyazikhulula enkulumweni enenzondo engalimaza.

Esinye isici esingesihle neze semidiya yezenhlalo yinkulumo enenzondo yokudala ngokwengeziwe eboshelwa nxazonke.

Abantu abaningi - ikakhulukazi labo abanama-akhawunti wezokuxhumana abangaziwa - babona kufanelekile ukukhipha izinto ezinyantisa igazi kubantu abaku-inthanethi abangaze bakhulume nhlobo ebusweni babo.

Lokhu kungahle kusuka ekuhlekiseni ngomuntu ngokuthanda kwakhe, nokumesabisa ngodlame.

Abantu abaningi abanesibindi sokuveza imibono ephambuka endabeni eyimpoqo yamanje bazithola ' doxed ” : imininingwane yabo yenziwe yaziwe emphakathini, ngenhloso yokuziphindiselela yokuthi abanye baxhumane nendawo yebhizinisi yalowo muntu, noma isikole, njll. ukuze `` kukhanselwe. ''

Ngokuyisisekelo, ukuba nombono ophikisayo ku-inthanethi kungabeka wonke umsebenzi wakho, ngisho nempilo yakho engcupheni.

Kuyacindezela futhi kuyacindezela ukuzwa ukuthi awukwazi ukuveza izinkolelo zakho ngokukhululeka ngaphandle kokwesaba imiphumela emibi.

Kanjalo, akusikho ukweqa okude ukubona ukuthi umuntu ofakaza ngaleyo nzondo ne-vitriol online angaba kanjani nokukhathazeka okuningi mayelana nokuba sezingeni lokuthola.

Okulimaza nakakhulu ukuthi abantu ababucayi babone inzondo enkulu ishaywa nxazonke, futhi bazizwe sengathi umhlaba wonke uyisiphepho esivuthayo.

Njengoba ungacabanga, lokhu kungasabisa kakhulu intsha kanye nentsha.

Abagcini ngokubhekana nama-maesltroms abo angokomzwelo, kepha lapho bebhekene nolwandle olunesihluku nokuhlukunyezwa online, bangazizwa sengathi ukuhlala lapha kubuhlungu kakhulu ukubhekana nakho.

Cabanga ngokutholakele

Kunzima ngokwanele ukuthi abantu abadala bakwazi ukuzulazula olwandle lwenkulumo enenzondo, isihluku, nokuhlukumeza ku-inthanethi, ikakhulukazi uma bezwela kakhulu, njengezimpi…

… Zicabange ukuthi kunjani kumuntu omusha ongenawo umqondo othuthukiswe ngokuphelele wokuthi umhlaba usebenza kanjani noma izindlela zokubhekana ngqo nokubhekana nalokho abakubonayo.

Imithombo yezokuxhumana ingadabukisa impela, kepha nokho abantu kulindeleke ukuthi bavule izixwayiso futhi bazi konke okwenzekayo ezimpilweni zabanye abantu, kanye nezindaba zomhlaba nangaphezulu.

Kunempilo kanjani lokho?

4. Uzozizwa ungakhungatheki futhi unikwe amandla.

Kulinganiselwa ukuthi umuntu ojwayelekile uvezwa yizindaba eziningi ngosuku olulodwa namuhla kunalokho umuntu wesikhathi samaVictoria angake ezwe ngakho ngonyaka.

Ukwazi ngazo zonke izinto ezesabekayo ezenzeka emhlabeni wonke, ihora nehora, zansuku zonke, kuyinto emangalisa kakhulu.

Kwenza umhlaba ubonakale njengendawo enyantisayo, futhi kusenza sizizwe sengathi asinamandla okwenza noma yini ukusiza.

Ngemuva kwakho konke, yini esingayenza ngempela lapho sibhekene nobuhlungu obungaka nokubhujiswa okungaka?

Impela, ukuqwashisa kubalulekile ngakho-ke sonke singasekelana ngokwakha umhlaba ongcono, kepha kunzima ukwakha indlela yokwenza noma yini uma ulele phansi ngoba konke kuyesabeka, ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Uma uzibophezele ekuguqukeni okuhle, kodwa uzizwe ukhungathekiswa yikho konke okubi, khumbula umusho othi 'cabanga umhlaba wonke, yenza endaweni yangakini.'

Donsela kulwazi oluningi kakhulu mayelana nayo yonke inkalankala esabekayo eyenzeka ezinkulungwaneni zamamayela kude nawe, bese ugxila emphakathini wakho.

Zikuphi izindawo ezinzima?

Yini amandla akho?

Ungasiza kanjani?

Bhekana nezinkinga namaphrojekthi wendawo lapho okokufaka kwakho namandla kungasetshenziswa kahle.

Ngokwenza njalo, uzokwazi ukubona ushintsho lwangempela lwenzeka, futhi ube nomthelela omuhle kulabo abakumbuthano wakho onwetshiwe.

Umphumela we-ripple uzokwanda, njengoba wonke umuntu ozizwa engcono futhi enamandla ngokwengeziwe eduze kwakho ezosiza ukunika amandla nokusiza abanye nabo.

ukuzijabulisa kanjani empilweni ngaphandle kwabangane

Futhi yileyondlela imizamo emincane ibangela ngayo ushintsho olukhulu, oluhlala isikhathi eside, oluhle.

5. Ngeke wahlulele abantu kanzima ngalokho abakuposayo.

Kulula ngokumangazayo ukwahlulela umuntu ngalokho abelana ngakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.

Umbono, isithombe, isiqeshana sezindaba… ngisho nokusetshenziswa kwazo (noma ukusetshenziswa kabi kwama-hashtag) - konke kunamandla okusenza sicabange kabi ngalowo muntu.

Singavumela ngokushesha okuthunyelwe kwabanye ukuthi kuthonye indlela esicabanga futhi sizizwe ngayo ngabo.

Futhi lokhu kuyihlazo lapho singathanda omunye umuntu futhi sikujabulele ukuba nabo.

Ukuthi bazwakalise ukusekela inhloso noma inhlangano yezombusazwe ongavumelani nayo, akubenzi babe ngabantu ababi.

Futhi akusho ukuthi ngeke usakwazi ukuzwana nabo emhlabeni wangempela.

Ukuyeka izinkundla zokuxhumana kusho ukuthi awusenalo ithuba lokwakha le mibono emibi ngabangane, amalungu omndeni, noma osebenza nabo.

Futhi lokhu kungathuthukisa ubudlelwane bakho nabo mathupha.

6. Abantu abanobuthi bangayeka ukuzama ukufaka ushevu empilweni yakho.

Ngaphambi kokuthi imithombo yezokuxhumana isuke ngempela, abantu babexhumana nabangane nemindeni nge-imeyili, ngemibhalo nangezingcingo.

Manje, iningi labantu lisebenzisa amapulatifomu abo aku-inthanethi ukuxhumana nabanye ngobuningi, kunokuba kube ngabanye.

Lapho uyeka ezokuxhumana nabantu, usuke uphelelwe ngumqondo.

Uma uphuma kulezi zinkundla, mancane amathuba okuthi abantu abaningi oxhumana nabo nsukuzonke bazophuma endleleni yabo ukuze bakwazise ngakho konke okwenzekayo.

Ngemuva kwakho konke, kulula ukushicilela okuthunyelwe futhi uphendule imibono, ngoba konke kusendaweni eyodwa futhi kungabhekwana nakho ngesikhathi esisodwa.

Lokhu kungaba wusizo olukhulu empilweni yakho yonke nasenhlalakahleni yakho.

Uma uzama ukuziqhelelanisa nabantu abanobuthi, ikhefu elivela ezinkundleni zokuxhumana lingazikhulula kubo isikhashana.

Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuthatha isikhathi esingeziwe ukukugcina uzibandakanya nomdlalo wabo kungenzeka kungabaphazamisi kakhulu, ngakho-ke kuzoba lula ukukushiya wedwa.

Lokhu kusebenza kahle kakhulu ngama-narcissists, ngoba azolandela imigomo elula ukuthola ukunakwa nokunconywa!

Vele ungamemezeli kubo ukuthi uyeka, ngoba bazokuthatha mathupha, noma bakuthathe njengenselele ukukugcina / uzibandakanya nezinkinga zabo.

Ungayishiya Kanjani Imidiya Yezokuxhumana, Uma Ukulungele Ukwenza Ngakho

Ngakho-ke, usukulungele ukuyeka imithombo yezokuxhumana?

Njengoba ubonile lapha, kunezizathu eziningi ezinhle zokuyiyeka (noma okungenani uthathe ikhefu elide kuyo).

Qala ngokuzinika isikhathi sokunquma ukuthi uchitha isikhathi esingakanani kwimithombo yezokuxhumana ngosuku olumaphakathi. Bese usetha izibali sikhathi ukukhawula ukusetshenziswa kwakho.

Nciphisa leso sikhathi noma nsuku zonke, noma njalo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa - noma yini ekusebenzela kangcono.

Akungabazeki ukuthi uzothola ukuthi unesikhathi esikahle sokusebenza, njengoba manje ungasaphezi ngokungapheli.

Lesi sikhathi esokuthi ugcwalise ngezinto ezikuthokozisayo.

Thatha leyo phrojekthi yokudala oyibekele eceleni eminyakeni edlule.

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Thatha uhambo olude noma ukugibela ibhayisikili.

Tshala ingadi.

Kunezinkulungwane zezinto ongazenza ezizosebenzela izimangaliso empilweni yakho ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.

Uma usukulungele, zizwe ukhululekile ukwenza isimemezelo kumasayithi wakho wezokuxhumana ukuze wazise abantu ukuthi uthatha i-hiatus.

Banikeze ezinye izindlela zokuxhumana nawe, njengekheli lakho le-imeyili noma inombolo yocingo, bese ubona ukuthi kwenzekani.

Abantu abakukhathalele ngokweqiniso bazokwenza iphuzu lokuxhumana nawe.

Ngokuqondene nabanye, awu, leli yithuba elikahle lokunciphisa inethiwekhi yakho yezenhlalo iye ezintweni ezibalulekile, akunjalo?

Njengombhalo wokugcina, khumbula ukuthi akudingeki uyeke ngokuphelele uma uzizwa ungakhululekile ukwenza njalo, futhi ungabuyela emuva njalo uma uzizwa udinga noma ufuna.

Yenza lokhu kwenzeke ngokwemibandela yakho, uma ulungele ukwenza kanjalo futhi nini.

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