Izizathu eziyi-6 zokuthi kungani Ungeneliseki Empilweni (+ Ungaba kanjani)

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Abantu benza umsebenzi omangalisayo wokukhuluma ngokwabo ngenxa yenjabulo yabo. Kubukeka kanjalo lapho nje sesithola izinto esizilangazelelayo, ukubuka kwethu kushintshela entweni elandelayo esiseduze.



Lokhu ukuphishekela njalo izinto ezintsha, okuhlangenwe nakho okusha, izimo ezintsha kuyisinyathelo sokuhamba esingapheli esisicindezelayo kuze kube yilapho singasayitholi injabulo nenjabulo lezi zinto ezake zasinika zona.

Futhi akusizi lokho impilo inzima . Kukhona njalo into embi eyenzekayo emhlabeni ukusikhumbuza ukuthi kufanele sibe nokwazisa kakhulu, senze okuningi, sifune okuningi, sizame ukuthola okuthile okungcono kukho konke lokhu.



Esikhundleni salokho, sidinga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani singeneliseki futhi sisebenze ukulungisa leyo nkinga.

Ake sibheke ezinye zezizathu ezinkulu zokuthi kungani 'ungakutholi ukwaneliseka' njengoba amaRolling Stones ecula.

1. Awukuthandi lokho osunakho kakade.

Ukubonga kuyindawo ejwayelekile yokukhuluma esikhaleni sokuzisiza nempilo yengqondo. Nomaphi lapho ubheka khona, kumayelana 'nokubonga, ukubonga, ukubonga!'

Kodwa-ke, kuyamangaza ukuthi bambalwa kangakanani abantu ababonakala bezichaza ngempela izinzuzo zokubonga nokuthi kungayilungisa kanjani impilo yakho.

Masikwenze lokho manje.

Ukubonga kumayelana nokuguqula umbono wakho. Umuntu ogxile kukho konke angenakho nalokho abakufunayo udala ukungezwani ngaphakathi. Bahlale bezitshela ukuthi abanele, ukuthi badinga ukuba ngaphezulu, ukuthi badinga ukusebenza kanzima. Lokho akuyona indaba enempilo ongayiphindaphinda kaninginingi engqondweni yakho.

Ukubonga ukuphula leyo ndaba. Esikhundleni sokugxila kukho konke ongenakho, ugxila ezintweni onazo, noma ngabe zincane. Noma impilo yakho ingeyona ehamba phambili, noma uke wehlelwa izinto ezimbi. Zonke izinsuku sidonsa umoya uyisipho nokuthile okufanele sikubonge ngoba iningi labantu alinayo leyo nzuzo.

Kulula kakhulu ukwaneliseka wena kanye nempilo yakho lapho ugxila kulokho onakho. Uyazisusa kumshini wokunyathelisa othi 'thola okuningi' kanye nokukhathazeka ngekusasa.

okufanele ukwenze lapho umngane wakho omkhulu ekukhaphela

Eqinisweni, konke onakho namuhla kungasekho kusasa. Yindlela nje impilo ehamba ngayo kwesinye isikhathi.

2. Awuziphikisi.

Abantu abaningi bazikhawulela ngokwesaba nokukhathazeka kwabo. Yini oyifunayo ngempela? Ingabe uyakuphishekela? Noma ingabe uyasaba ukulandela?

Ingabe ufuna ukwethula lelo bhizinisi? Kuthiwani uma yehluleka? Kuthiwani uma kukubiza ngakho konke futhi kukufaka ezikweletini? Kuthiwani uma kungenzeki okulungile?

Ngabe uyafuna ukwakha umndeni onothando? Ingabe uzibeka lapho? Ukuzivumela ukuthi ube sengozini futhi uthathe izingozi eziza nokuba sengozini kubantu abasha?

Esikhundleni sokufaka amandla ezintweni esizifunayo empeleni, siziphazamisa ngezinhloso ezingaphansi ezingaduduli imingcele yethu.

Ungeneliseka kanjani ngempilo yakho ekubeni ungahambisani nalokho okwenza umphefumulo wakho ucule?

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Uma ufuna ukwaneliseka empilweni, kufanele ulandele izinto ezikubizayo.

“Kepha bambelela,” Ngiyakuzwa uthi, 'Awungitshelanga nje ukuthi ngibonge enginakho esikhundleni sokujaha okuningi?'

Yebo, kepha kunomehluko phakathi kokuzibekela inselele nokungabongi onakho.

Eqinisweni, ukuzibekela izinselelo nokwenza ukubonga akuhlangene - ungakwenza kokubili ngasikhathi sinye.

Konke kumayelana nokuthola indawo ejabulisayo phakathi kokuhlala kahle endaweni yakho yokunethezeka lapho ungahle ungaphishekeli lokho okukwenza uthokoze ngokweqiniso, futhi uziphoqelele kanzima ukuze ungathokozi izinzuzo zemizamo yakho.

Ayikho inselele evame ukusho ukuthi akukho ukwaneliseka. Ngokufanayo, ukugxila kakhulu enseleleni kushiya indawo encane yokwaneliseka.

3. Awuhlali esikhathini samanje.

Izinto zazingcono kakhulu ngaphambili! Hhayi-ke, mhlawumbe babenjalo, mhlawumbe babengekho. Izinto zizoba ngcono kakhulu esikhathini esizayo! Hhayi-ke, mhlawumbe.

Impilo ayihlali njalo sihlela ngendlela. Kwesinye isikhathi asikwazi ukuveza amaphupho ethu ngendlela ebesithembe ngayo. Noma mhlawumbe impilo ikuphose nje i-curveball enkulu, futhi manje kufanele ubhekane nokuwa kwento ethile embi. Ukugula kuyenzeka, abantu bayafa, izinhlekelele ziyanda. Futhi akekho kithi okhethekile ngokwanele ukugwema leyo nhlekelele. Konke kuyingxenye ejwayelekile kakhulu yesipiliyoni somuntu.

Kujwayelekile futhi ukulangazelela isikhathi lapho izinto bezingaba ngcono, lapho umhlaba kungenzeka ubuyindawo ecwebezelayo, noma ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke into ebuhlungu leyo. Inkinga ukuthi asinakho lokho okunethezeka. Kungukuchitha isikhathi okuningi njengokulangazelela ikusasa esingakabi nalo okwamanje.

Ukwaneliseka ngempilo kungatholakala kuphela kumzuzu wamanje, ngakho-ke kufanele phila okwamanje ukuze uzizwe wanelisekile.

Awukwenzi lokho uma ulangazelela okwedlule osekuphelile manje noma ikusasa elingaze lifike. Buyisa ingqondo yakho esikhathini samanje lapho uzithola uphupha ngekusasa noma ulahlekelwe okwedlule.

Ungasithuthukisa kanjani isipho sakho? Ungayithola kanjani injabulo ngalesi sikhathi, njengamanje? Leyo yimibuzo okufanele ngabe uyayibuza.

4. Awunayo imigomo noma izifiso.

Uyabona ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukwaneliseka ngempilo ube ungazi nokuthi ufunani empilweni?

Kuyi-Catch-22. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ufuna ukuthola ukwaneliseka ngempilo yakho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, awazi ukuthi yini empeleni ezokwenza uzizwe wanelisekile. Uqala ngaphi? Wenzani? Wazi kanjani ukuthi wenzeni?

Ufuna ukwazi imfihlo? Imfihlo eyimfihlo ngempela?

Akunandaba ukuthi wenzani. Okubalulekile ukuthi uyeke ukuzibuza, uyeke ukucabanga, bese uqala ukwenza izinto.

Ungahlala iminyaka ungenzi lutho uzibuza futhi ucabangisisa, futhi awusoze waba nalutho ongalukhombisa sonke leso sikhathi osichithile. Qhathanisa lokho nomuntu ongena shí emsebenzini bese eqala ukunyakaza. Bazofika lapho beya khona ngokushesha okukhulu.

Indlela elula yokuthola izinto ezizokufeza empilweni ukuphuma nokwenza izinto. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kukufundisa okuthandayo, ongakuthandi, futhi kukuvezela amathuba ongawaqapheli. Kubandakanya nabanye abantu ongabathinta kakhulu noma abangahle bavulele wena iminyango.

ungasho kanjani ukuthi abantu abakuthandi

'Kodwa kuthiwani uma ngenza isinqumo esingalungile!'

Uzokwenza kanjalo. Sonke siyakwenza, kungekudala. Kwamukele njengokungenakugwemeka. Uma lokho kwenzeka, bonga okwenziwayo, bese udlulela entweni elandelayo. Lokho kuyinkimbinkimbi njengoba kudingeka kube njalo.

Impilo ayihambi njalo ngendlela esiyifuna ngayo, kepha singahamba siye endaweni ejwayelekile lapho sicabanga ukuthi singafuna ukuphela. Futhi ngubani owaziyo, ungathola ukwaneliseka ku-niche ethile ekude obengazi ukuthi iyoke ikulungele. Ukuphila kuyaxaka kanjalo kwesinye isikhathi.

5. Awukuqedi okuqalile.

Ukwaneliseka kuvame ukuza ngokubona iphrojekthi noma umgomo kuze kube sekugcineni. Kepha abanye abantu banenkinga yokuqedela abakuqalile.

Esikhundleni salokho, bagxumagxuma besuka kokunye baye kokunye, benza izingcezwana ezincane lapha nalaphaya, benza imisebenzi ehlukahlukene noma izindawo zomsebenzi kunokunamathela entweni eyodwa isikhathi eside.

Ungayibiza nge- “shiny object syndrome” ngoba lapho nje lo muntu eqala into eyodwa, ikhanda lakhe liphendulwa enye into abacabanga ukuthi izoba ngcono futhi ijabulise kakhulu kunaleyo anayo. Bahlale belangazelela into elandelayo ecwebezelayo, bekholelwa ukuthi kuzoba yinto ebalethela ukwaneliseka.

Abakutholayo esikhundleni salokho yinqwaba yamaphrojekthi aqediwe ukulandela ngemuva kwabo.

Ngakho-ke uma ubeka ingqondo yakho entweni ethile, yisebenzele ngempela. Ngena ujule kuleyo nto bese uyizama isikhashana. Yibone ize iqedwe futhi uzozizwa ungcono ngayo.

Kufana nokufunda uhhafu wencwadi ngaphambi kokuyiphonsa eceleni bese uqala enye. Awusoze wazizwa wanelisekile ngokungazi ukuthi indaba ihambe kanjani. Finyelela ekugcineni, vula ikhasi lokugcina ngephrojekthi, uthole ukukhanya okufudumele okuvela ekuqedeleni okuthile.

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6. Uhlala ngaphandle kwamandla akho.

Wake wezwa inkulumo ethi 'indlela yokuphila inyonyoba'? I-Lifestyle creep igama elisetshenziselwa ukuchaza ukwanda kwemikhuba yokusebenzisa imali ukufanisa imali engenayo ephezulu.

Okusho ukuthi, lapho uthola lokho kukhushulwa okukhulu noma ekugcineni uthola lowo msebenzi ongcono, ukhulisa imali oyisebenzisayo ngoba ey! Manje usungakwazi ukuyikhokhela! Lokhu futhi kubhekela ukusetshenziswa kwemali okujwayelekile ezintweni zansuku zonke ngoba uneholo elilahlwayo elingaphezulu. Inkinga ukuthi lokhu kungaphazamisa kalula impilo yakho futhi kukushiye ngemuva.

Olunye udaba ngokuhlala ngaphandle kwamandla akho ukusebenzisa imali ukuthola izinto ozifunayo. Imoto entsha ingaba yinhle. Ukuba ne- $ 30,000 kuyo akukuhle kangako. Lokho ukuzibophezela kweminyaka ukuthatha isiqiniseko sokuthi kufanele ube sesimweni sokukwazi ukwenza izinkokhelo zakho, uma kungenjalo usengozini yokulahlekelwa yimoto nokuqothuka.

Elinye igama elisetshenziselwa ukuchaza lolu hlobo lwezinto “ozankosi begolide.” Yigama elijwayele ukusetshenziselwa ukuchaza abantu abasuka emsebenzini oholela kancane noma emfundweni baye emsebenzini okhokhelwa kakhulu. Bayaphuma bayothenga imoto kanokusho, indlu enhle, izingubo ezintsha, futhi manje kufanele bagcine lowo msebenzi nemali engenayo ephezulu ukuze bakwazi ukunakekela konke. Abasenayo inketho yokuvele bangene kuleso simo uma bengasifuni ngoba basongelwe umthwalo wezezimali.

Kuyinto enzima ukwaneliseka ngempilo yakho lapho uzama ukugcina wonke amapuleti ezungeza ukuze angafiki ezungeze wena.

Isixazululo esihle salokhu ukuthuthukisa imikhuba emihle yemali, ukwakha isabelomali (noma ngabe siyisisekelo), futhi uphile ngaphansi kwamandla akho.

Gcina isikhwama esiphuthumayo esingu- $ 1000 uma kwenzeka ukuthi i-heater yakho yamanzi iqhuma noma imoto yakho yonakale. Zama ukonga okungenani ama-20% womholo wakho. Yidla kancane. Funda ukupheka, futhi ungonga nomthwalo wemali. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, impilo izokwenzeka, futhi uzowudinga lowo mkhukhu.

Namanje awunasiqiniseko sokuthi kungani unganelisekile ngempilo? Ingabe ufuna ukuba? Khuluma nomeluleki namuhla ongakwazi ukukuhambisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhuma nenye.

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