Kungani impilo inzima kangaka?
Iningi labantu lizibuza lo mbuzo njalo.
Ngaphandle kokuthi ungumamukeli wesikhwama sokuthenjwa ongasebenzi, onempilo enhle, onabazali bezingane zakho, nezibopho ezimbalwa okufanele akhulume ngazo, maningi amathuba okuthi nawe uzibuze ngalokho.
Ukuseshwa kwewebhu okulula kwalowo mbuzo kuzoletha zonke izinhlobo zezimpendulo…
Lokhu kusukela kokuthi “sithinteke kakhulu ngokomzwelo” kuye “kunjalo nje impilo: sebenzelana nayo.”
Kukhona nezimpendulo eziningi ze-glib ezisho ukuthi izinto zinzima kuphela uma singalamukeli uhlelo oluthile lwaphezulu, noma ukuthi yisimo sethu sengqondo esinquma ukujabula noma ukucindezeleka.
'Impilo Ingumshikashika Wawo Wonke Umuntu Nakho Konke'
Impela, lokhu kungaba yiqiniso emazingeni amaningi, kepha ukutshela lokho kumuntu ozelapha ngokwakho njalo ukuze azigcine ememeza kuyingozi enkulu.
Okubi kakhulu uhlobo lwenkulumo-ze lapho abantu betshelwa ukuthi kufanele bazakhele eyabo injabulo…
… Ukuthi uma bethola impilo inzima, kungenxa yokuthi ukwenza kunzima kubo ngokwabo.
Iningi labantu aliqondi ukuthi lokho kungalimaza kanjani ukusho kothile.
Ukusho okuthile ngomphumela wokuthi 'oh, impilo inzima kuzo zonke izinto eziphilayo, kuthiwani ngokufuna ukudla nendawo yokuhlala nokunye okunjalo' kukhulu kakhulu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyachitha kakhulu l izingqinamba abantu okufanele babhekane nazo.
Yebo, yonke into ephilayo izobhekana nobunzima obuthile uma ifuna ukuchuma, kepha zikhona okukhulu umehluko lapho.
Isikwele onenkinga yokuthola ukudla azokubeka ebusika akunakufaniswa nomzali ongayedwa ophila ngobumpofu edolobheni osekuphele iminyaka engenawo amanzi okuphuza ahlanzekile.
Leyo squirrel akudingeki icabange ngomshuwalense wezempilo wezingane zayo, noma isikhathi esingaba sejele uma ukukhokha kwemali mboleko yasekolishi kumile, njll.
Umuntu osongelwe ukukhathazeka, osebenzelana nezinkinga zokugcinwa kowakwakhe owayehlukumezeka uzoba nobunzima obuhlukile kunomuntu ovela emlandweni wobuzwe obuncane obhekene nokucwaswa nokuhlukunyezwa okungapheli.
Inani labantu liyakhula futhi nemisebenzi iyancipha. Ungaba nenkinga yokuthola umsebenzi ensimini yakho. Noma yimuphi umsebenzi nhlobo, ingasaphathwa eyokuhola kahle.
Akuvamile ukuthi ochwepheshe abanemisebenzi yesikhathi esigcwele basebenze njengabashayeli be-Uber ngezimpelasonto ukuze basize ukuziphilisa.
Ngikhulume nabantu abaningana ngenkathi ngicwaninga le ndatshana, futhi ezinye zezindaba zabo zingishiye ngiphatheke kabi enhliziyweni.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, bangenza ngabona ukuthi ayikho impendulo 'yobukhulu obulingana bonke' yokuthi kungani impilo ingaba nzima ngendlela emangalisayo.
Ngokwesibonelo:
- Umzali ongayedwa onakekela izingane ezincane ezimbili ezingalapheki, ngenkathi ebhekene nezinkinga zakhe zempilo engokomzimba nengqondo.
- Umuntu osemncane odlulayo onomndeni okholwayo, okholwayo owalahlile, manje ophila ekuphazamisekeni okuphelele ngokomzwelo, ojwayela izinguquko zomzimba omusha, eyedwa.
- Umuntu ofunde kakhulu, ophakathi nendawo obekufanele athathe umsebenzi abawudelelayo lapho, ngenxa yenhlekelele engazelelwe, baba ngabanakekeli bodwa kumalungu omndeni asengozini.
- Osemusha osemusha impilo yakhe yasekhaya inobuthi kangangoba uthola izaba zokuthi angahlali kude, futhi usebudlelwaneni obungenampilo kwezothando ukuze nje abe nendawo ephephile abalekele kuyo.
- Umuntu onekhono lokudala ophila ngobumpofu obukhulu ngoba umsebenzi uyindlala, futhi ukhishelwa kakhulu abantu baphesheya kwezilwandle abazimisele (futhi abakwaziyo) ukusebenzela amapeni.
Lezi ngezinye nje zezindaba ezabiwe nami, futhi zibonisa ukuthi impilo ingaba nzima kanjani ngokumangazayo kuwo wonke umuntu, noma ngabe ngezindlela ezihluke kakhulu.
'Asikho Isihlahla Esisinda Sodwa Ehlathini.'
Cishe ujwayelene nesisho esithi: 'Kuthatha isigodi ukukhulisa ingane,' okusho ukuthi kuthatha wonke amalungu omphakathi ukukhulisela umuntu oyedwa ebudaleni obunempilo.
Ngizothatha leso sinyathelo ngiqhubeke ngesilinganiso engisizwile ohlelweni I-OA :
Asikho isihlahla esisinda sodwa ehlathini.
Singacabanga ngezihlahla njengabalindi bodwa, kepha lokhu bekungeke kube kude neqiniso. Ngamunye uyingxenye yesimiso semvelo esiyinkimbinkimbi, esixhunyiwe.
Lesi yingcaphuno evela endatshaneni Ingabe Izihlahla Ziyakhulumisana? kusuka kuThe Smithsonian Magazine:
Izihlahla zomama ezindala ezihlakaniphile zondla iziqu zazo ngoshukela ongamanzi futhi zixwayisa omakhelwane lapho kufika ingozi.
Intsha engenankinga izifaka engcupheni yokuchitha amaqabunga, ukujaha ukukhanya nokuphuza ngokweqile, futhi imvamisa ikhokha ngempilo yayo.
Izikhulu zomqhele zilinde ukuwa kwamakhosi amadala, ukuze zithathe indawo yazo enkazimulweni egcwele yelanga.
Zonke izihlahla zixhunywe ngamanethiwekhi we-mycelial (fungal) ngaphansi kwenhlabathi, kwakheka '… ubambiswano, ubudlelwano bokuncikene, obugcinwa ngokuxhumana kanye nobuhlakani obufanayo obufana nekholoni lesinambuzane.
Ngabe lokhu kuhlangene ngani nobunzima bomuntu?
Kalula nje, iningi lethu lilahla indlela yethu ezimpilweni ngaphandle kokuba yingxenye yomphakathi weqiniso.
Ngaphandle kokusekelwa okutholakala ngokuhlanganyela.
Ngaphandle kwesizwe.
Ukuzinakekela / Ukuphila Impilo Ibhalansi Kulula Ukuthi Kwenziwe
Ekumemezelweni ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, nginezimpendulo eziyiqiniso nezithembekile ezivela kubantu abangaligcini ngokulambisa.
Asivamisile ukuhlangabezana naleli zinga lokwethembeka kusiko lethu lesimanje lenjabulo, kodwa izimpendulo ezinjengalezi zikhuluma kabanzi ngemizabalazo abantu abaningi ababhekene nayo:
Ngiyafa ukukhathala. Ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngikhathele kakhulu.
Ngivuka ngikhathele, ngizulazula usuku lonke ngizama ukubamba, bese ngilala embhedeni, angibanga nezikhathi eziningi zokuzenzela inkomishi yetiye, ngiphendula okuthunyelwe ku-Facebook, noma ngishosele ukudla okudla ngamandla emlonyeni wami.
Lokho okuthunyelwe 'okukhuthazayo' akusizi futhi: 'zinike isikhathi sakho ngoba impilo imfushane futhi abantu ngeke bakhulume ngendlu yakho ehlanzekile emngcwabeni wakho.'
Noma yini.
Ababheki ukuthi uma UNGAKHANZI udoti wekati noma uthathe inja ukuhamba ngesikhathi, amakati achamela embhedeni wakho, futhi inja ishaya iroli, bese uthola umsebenzi ophindwe kathathu ngizama ukululama kulokho.
Kunemiphumela yokuthatha isikhathi sakho: Izingane ezincane zidinga ukondliwa, noma zizolamba. Imindeni esikhulile idinga ukunakekelwa, noma izolamba ekungcoleni kwayo.
Izikhathi zokugcina kufanele zihlangatshezwe, noma uzoxoshwa. Izindlu zidinga ukuhlanzwa noma uzongena ezimbungwini nasekungcoleni.
Ngigijimela ngokoqobo izikhuthazizi kanye namaphilisi ezinhlungu, kepha iningi lethu libonakala lisinda ngale ndlela, ukusisheshisa bese lisinciphisa.
Noma ngabe ikhofi newayini, izithasiselo nokuzindla, noma i-cocaine nama-opiate, ABANINGI bethu bazithambisa nge-INTO * nje * ukuqhubeka.
Abanye 'banempilo' kunabanye, kepha nalabo 'abanempilo' (njengokudla okuphezulu kakhulu kanye nengokomoya) thina ESINAMATHELA ukuthanda impilo yethu sincike kukho.
So… umphakathi. Futhi ngikhathele nje.
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Ukubaluleka Komphakathi
Nginabangani abakhulele emiphakathini ebumbene yenkolo noma yamasiko lapho umphakathi nokuthembana bekujwayelekile futhi kungokwemvelo njengomoya ophefumulayo.
Abangane, amalungu omndeni akhulisiwe, nomakhelwane babehlala bengena bephuma ezindlini zabanye.
Uma othile ebenengane entsha, ungaqiniseka ukuthi bekukhona “obabekazi” abayishumi nambili abasiza endlini: ukunakekela omncane, ukugcina izingane zakini ezindala zondliwa, kuqinisekiswa ukuthi umama uthola isikhathi esiningi sokululama.
Kwenzeka okufanayo uma ilungu lomndeni ligula, noma uma kube nokufa okungazelelwe.
Lobu budlelwane babungagcini ngokulinganiselwa ezinxushunxushwini ezinkulu noma: ukuvakashelwa nsuku zonke, ukudla okwabiwe masonto onke, ukuhlangana njalo kanye namapikiniki nemikhosi konke kwakuyingxenye yempilo yansuku zonke.
kusho ukuthini uma umfana ekunika ukubukeka okunenhlonipho
Abantu babengaqhamuka beboleka inkomishi kashukela, basize ekwakheni ipaki, noma bavele bazipholele egcekeni kusihlwa okufudumele kwehlobo.
Bengicabanga ngalokhu muva nje ngokuthi bangaki bethu abaphila impilo eyodwa bodwa.
Singaba nomndeni oqinile wenuzi, nomlingani, izingane, mhlawumbe umzali noma ababili, kodwa kuphelele lapho.
Abaningi bethu abazi ngisho nomakhelwane bethu, ingasaphathwa eyokuxhumana nabo njalo.
Ngizokunikeza isibonelo somuntu siqu:
Eminyakeni eminingana edlule, mina nomlingani wami sathatha isinqumo sokuthuthela esigodini sasemaphandleni kwesinye isifundazwe ukuze sibalekele umshini wokuqothula umphefumulo owawusenkabeni yedolobha iToronto.
Lesi sinyathelo sinezinto zako ezimbi kanye nezinzuzo zako.
Sihlala endaweni ezolile, evundile, enomoya omningi ohlanzekile, indawo eluhlaza, nokudla okutshalwe ekhaya.
Njengoba izindleko zokuphila ziphansi kakhulu lapha, akudingeki ukuthi sisebenze amaviki angama-70 ukuze siphile. Sinesikhathi sokupheka, sokufunda, sokwenza i-yoga, nokuzindla.
Lokho esingenakho yilowo mqondo oshiwo ngenhla womphakathi.
Omakhelwane bethu abaseduze bahamba kahle. Akukho esingakuhlanganisa nabo, futhi kukhona ngisho nomgoqo wolimi, njengoba ulimi lwasemaphandleni lwesiFulentshi abalukhulumayo luhluke kakhulu kulolo esalufunda esikoleni.
Ukuhlangana nabangane ngekhofi akuyona inketho, ngoba umphakathi oseduze esiwulimile ungama-550km kude.
Impela, sinezingxoxo zevidiyo nezingcingo, kodwa lokho akufani neze, akunjalo?
Kuyafana nokuhlela isikhala segadi lomphakathi, noma ama-barbecue eqembu. Noma oxhumana nabo besimo esiphuthumayo.
Siyazi futhi ngesidingo somphakathi, futhi ngethemba lokuthi singathuthela endaweni lapho singathola khona ukulingana phakathi kwempilo emnene, nokuqina komphakathi.
Kepha futhi, ngempilo yanamuhla njengokukhululeka nokufuna njengoba kunjalo, kufanele sibeke phambili .
Ukuba wedwa ozolile, noma umphakathi endaweni enengcindezi?
Uphi umhlaba ophakathi nendawo?
Kulapho indawo ephakathi nendawo?
Ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kuzonqunywa.
Isidingo Esiphelele Sokulinganisa Umzimba / Ingqondo / Umoya
Ngaphezu kwesidingo esikhulu sokuvuselela umphakathi, abantu bayabuzwa ukuthola isilinganiso esithile sangempela ezimpilweni zabo.
Baningi kakhulu abasebenzela ithambo ukuze nje bakwazi ukuziphilisa, okushiya isikhathi esincane (noma cha) sokwenza ukuxhumana kwabantu okuyikho, ubuhlakani nokuzinakekela.
Enye yezimpendulo engibe nayo ekubizweni kwami ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ibivela kumngani wami onguthisha ogama lakhe lingu-Ariadny obenokwabelana ngalokhu:
Amagugu amasiko ethu ahlanekezelwe ngokuphelele futhi abuyele emuva kulokho okufanele abe yikho.
Sisebenza phansi futhi sitshelwa ukuthi siziqhenye ngokuba matasa. Esikhundleni sesikhathi nabantu esibakhathalelayo, sitshelwa ukuthi sizibambise thina, ophathina bethu, izingane zethu izinto .
Sitshelwa ukuthi ukuthanda izinto kuyinto enhle.
Sitshelwa ukuthi ubuciko buyindlela - akuyona ingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yesipiliyoni sabantu.
Sinqamukile emoyeni, noma ngabe kusho ukuthini kumuntu ngamunye.
Asivunyelwe ukusebenza ngejubane lomuntu: nje ukuba ndikindiki, ukulandela umthetho izinyosi zezisebenzi.
Abantu abaningi bavumelana nesitatimende sakhe, futhi ngazithola sengicwebe izinyembezi futhi ngavuma ngekhanda kanye nabo.
Ngikhumbula ukuthi kwakunjani ukuphila ngaleyo ndlela, ngisebenza imisebenzi emithathu eToronto ukuze nje ngiphile.
Kuyadabukisa ukucabanga ukuthi yilokho kuphela okukhona kulokhu kuphila komuntu okuyisimangaliso esikunikiwe.
Ukuhamba ngezinsuku ezingapheli ku-cubicle noma ehhovisi, ukwenza umsebenzi ongeke ubaluleke nhlobo eminyakeni eyishumi noma emibili…
… Kuphela ukulindela ukuphumula kweminyaka embalwa eminyakeni yethu engama-70, uma sikwazi ukukhipha ndawonye imali eyanele yokuthatha umhlalaphansi.
Kufanele kube nokuningi okungaphezu kwalokho, ngaphandle komzabalazo oqhubekayo, ongapheli.
Isikhathi sokwenza, isibonelo, noma ngabe umdwebo, inkondlo, noma utamatisi onamanzi ambalwa kuvulandi.
Isikhathi esiqotho esisichitha nalabo esibakhathalelayo.
Isiko lokuzinakekela ngokomoya kanye nomkhosi.
Yini Esingayenza Ukwenza Ukuphila Kube Lula?
Impilo ivame ukuba nzima ngenxa yezinto zangaphandle ezingalawuleki.
Silindeleke ukuthi sibe ngabasebenzi abasebenza kahle (nozakwethu abanobudlelwano)…
Thola futhi usebenzise imali, uqhubeke nokubukeka, shaya imimango efunwa umphakathi…
Shintsha, futhi ungene emabhokisini amukelekile, futhi wenze sengathi konke akunamsebenzi.
Faka ezintweni zokuxhumana zomphakathi zanamuhla mayelana nokuthi kufanele ubukeke futhi wenze kanjani, futhi impilo iba nzima kakhulu.
Ukulindela kuya ngokuya kungenzeki, futhi lokhu okulindelwe kuyaphoqelelwa kubantu ngaphambili nangaphambilini empilweni.
Singanciphisa kakhulu wosizi lomuntu siqu ngokusungula okubaluleke kakhulu kithina, nokuthi yini okungeyona esiyidingayo, nokuthi yini esingayinikeza abanye.
Thatha i-journa yakho nepeni, bese uzibuze le mibuzo elandelayo:
- Yiziphi izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ozwa ukuthi udinga ukukhula?
- Iziphi izici zokuphila kwakho ozibona ziyinselele kakhulu?
- Bangakusiza kanjani abanye abantu?
- Ungabasiza kanjani abanye nabo?
- Yikuphi okulindelwe ngumphakathi okukwenza uzizwe uthukuthele?
- Uyawujabulela umsebenzi owenzayo?
- Uma kungenjalo, hlobo luni lomsebenzi oluzokhulisa umphefumulo wakho?
- Ngabe unakho okulindelwe ngempilo kufanele ukufana?
- Ingabe lokho okulindelwe kukwenza ungajabuli?
- Ngabe impilo yakho ingaba lula kancane uma dedela lokho okulindelwe ?
Ukuphendula le mibuzo kunganikeza ukuqonda okuncane mayelana nezingcindezi zakho ezinkulu.
Uma usuzibonile, ungacabanga ngokufaka izinhlelo ekusebenzeni kuzo.
Uma uzwa ukuthi ufuna / udinga ukuba nomphakathi onamandla, cabanga ngezinto ezahlukahlukene ongathanda ukuba nazo eduze kwakho.
Ngabe uyafuna ukuzizungeza nabantu abanezinkolelo ezifana nezakho ezingokomoya?
washona muphi unyaka u-eddie guerrero
Noma labo abanezintshisekelo ezifanayo zokudala?
Imiphakathi engokomoya nengokwenkolo ivame ukwamukela impela, kepha kunamaqembu omphakathi amaningi ongazihlanganisa nawo, ngokuya ngokuncika kwakho.
Nginomuzwa wokuthi kubalulekile ukusho lapha ukuthi ilungelo lidlala indima enkulu uma kukhulunywa ngomphakathi.
Ngokudabukisayo, abantu baphathwa kabi, abahlonishwa, futhi benziwa bazizwe bengamukelekile emaqenjini ahlukahlukene omphakathi ngokususelwa kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezici ezahlukahlukene.
Isizinda sobuhlanga, inkolo, ukuma emphakathini, ukuqina, nobulili kungezinye zezici ezimbalwa ezingenza umuntu azizwe amukelekile eqenjini, noma zimenze azizwe egwenywa futhi engafunwa.
Uma uphathwe kabi ngamaqembu othemba ukuwajoyina, ungahle ungabaze ukuzama futhi ngokwesaba ukwaliwa noma ukulinyazwa.
Lokho kuyaqondakala ngokuphelele, futhi ngiyaxolisa ukuthi nihlangabezane nalolo hlobo lobubi.
Sethemba ukuthi ungathola iqembu elizokwazisa futhi likwemukele ngendlela ofanelwe ukwamukelwa ngayo.
Uma usuvele uyingxenye yomphakathi, zibuze ukuthi uvulelekile futhi wamukela amalungu amasha, noma uma kukhona ukucwasa komuntu siqu okudingeka usebenzele kukho.
Kuhlala kunendawo yokufunda, nokwenza ngcono, nokukhula, nokuphulukisa, uma sizivumela ukwenza kanjalo.
Asidalelwanga ukuthi sidlule empilweni sisodwa. Ukuhlukaniswa komphakathi kulimaza impilo yethu yonke , futhi ikakhulukazi inhlalakahle yethu engokomzwelo nengokwengqondo.
Ukuphinda wakhe umqondo oqinile womphakathi - nokufunda ukuthi kulungile ukuthembela kwabanye lapho sibadinga - kungahle kungazixazululi zonke izingqinamba zempilo, kodwa kungabenza babekezeleleke kakhulu.
Ufuna impilo yakho izwakale ilula kunamanje? Khuluma nomqeqeshi wempilo namuhla ongakudlulisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhuma nenye.
