Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukushaya Inhlekelele Ngemicimbi Esempilweni Yakho

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Ingqondo ingamandla amakhulu emvelo angakusebenzela noma aphikisane nawe.



Ingabe okwakho kusebenza ngokumelene nawe ngokuqhuma izimo ezinengqondo noma ezicindezelayo zibe izingcezu zokukhathazeka nokwesaba?

Le yinqubo ebizwa 'Ukubhubhisa' lapho ingqondo yakho icabanga ukuthi umphumela ongaba mubi kakhulu kungenzeka kakhulu - futhi uvame kakhulu kunalokho ongahle ucabange.



Impilo igcwele izinselelo nobunzima. Sivame ukushaywa yizimo ebesingazilindele, ezingaphezu kwamandla ethu ngokuphelele.

Esikwazi ukukulawula ukuthi sisabela kanjani ngokwengqondo kulezo zingcindezi futhi sisebenzele kuzo lawula imizwa yethu ezihlobene nazo.

Manje, kwabanye abantu, lokho kungazizwa njengomsebenzi ongenakunqotshwa. Futhi ngeke uhlale ukwazi ukulawula yonke imizwa emincane eyodwa noma umcabango odlula ekhanda lakho. Akunakwenzeka noma akunangqondo.

Kodwa, ngisho nokulawula idlanzana kuphela laleyo micabango kungathuthukisa kakhulu izinga lomuntu lokuphila nokuthula.

Singaqala ngokuhlola izinqubo zokucabanga ezizungeze izingcindezi ezahlukahlukene.

Isibonelo 1: Ukuhlukana nomlingani wakho othandana naye.

TO ukuhlukana nomlingani othandana naye njalo isikhathi esinzima, esinzima.

Kwakha umehluko ophawulekayo empilweni yethu, nokuthi izinto besizilindele kanjani, nokuthi sihlele kanjani ukuthi izinto zikhule. Izinhlelo esazizwa zifakwa ematsheni - okungenzeka ukuthi besithembele kuzo - zingahle ziqhume.

Ukwesaba kungafika kanye nosizi nentukuthelo yokwehlukana.

' Ngabe ngiyoke ngithole uthando futhi? Ngabe ngiyophinde ngiluthole uthando olunje?

kungani ujames charles elahlekelwa ababhalisile

Yini engonile ngayo? Yini abayonile?

Ngizombuyisela kanjani lo muntu omangalisayo? Ngabe ngifuna ukuzwa uthando futhi?

Ngabe ngiyovele ngiphuke inhliziyo futhi? Ngingathembela kumuntu ngokweqiniso? Ngingamethemba omunye umuntu ukungithanda ngempela, ukunikeza uthando lwami ngempela?

Ngabe kungcono kimi ukuba ngedwa? Kungani lokhu kwenzeka njalo? ”

Futhi ngenxa yalokho kuphazamiseka nokwesaba, sibeka engcupheni yokuthi izingqondo zethu zibaleke namathuba nemibuzo, kwehlisa amandla ethu okuthola ukuthula nenjabulo okwamanje.

Isibonelo 2: Ukubhekana nokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi.

Umsebenzi noma umsebenzi uyisidingo ezimpilweni zabantu abaningi. Ngemuva kwakho konke, izikweletu zidinga ukukhokhelwa, ukudla kudinga ukubekwa etafuleni, futhi ukulala ngaphandle unyaka wonke akuzona izimo ezikahle kakhulu zokuphila.

Kuvamile futhi kulindelwe ukuzwa intukuthelo, ukwesaba, nokukhathazeka ngethemba lokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi.

“Kusho ukuthini lokhu ngekusasa lami? Ngimalini engikulondolozayo?

Ngabe ngiyakufanelekela ukuthola usizo lokungasebenzi? Ngabe ngizowuthola umsebenzi omusha kungekudala?

Uma kungenjalo? Ngizokwenzenjani-ke?

Ngingakwazi ukuthenga ukudla? Ukuqasha kwami? Izikweletu zami?

Kuthiwani ngeminye imisebenzi yami? Umkhaya wami? Ngibaphoxile? Ingabe ngiyazehlisa? ”

Futhi, lokho kungakhululeki nokwesaba kuzohlanganiswa njengoba izingcindezi ziqhubeka, njengoba sizama ukubuyisela izinyawo zethu ngaphansi kwethu ukuze sikwazi ukuma sime emuva kokushaywa phansi.

Ukuhlukumeza Njengeziprofetho Zokuzigcwalisa

Izibonelo ezimbili ezingenhla zikhombisa ukuthi kanjani imicabango emibi ingavuka ngokuphendula izehlakalo ezingamukeleki, kepha inqubo efanayo nayo ingenzeka lapho sicabanga ngomcimbi oyinhlekelele wesikhathi esizayo.

Esikhundleni sokusabela ekwehlukaneni noma ekulahlekelweni umsebenzi, umane ucabange lezi zinto njengezindawo ezingenakugwemeka ezisendleleni okuyo.

Mhlawumbe uxabene nomlingani wakho. Akunandaba ukuthi buhle kangakanani ubudlelwano bakho noma ukuthi ukungavumelani kungaba kuncane kangakanani, uyazikholisa ukuthi lokhu kungukuqala kokuphela kothando lwakho.

Mhlawumbe umphathi wakho ukhetha omunye umuntu phezu kwakho ngephrojekthi entsha ebalulekile. Ngokushesha uqala ukucabanga ukuthi abakuthandi noma bakubheka njengongawufanelekele lo msebenzi. Ukuxoshwa kwakho kuseduze futhi akukho msebenzi omningi ozokwenza umehluko manje.

Kulezi zimo, ukubhujiswa kwakho empeleni kungaba iziphrofetho ezizigcwalisayo njengoba uqala ukuziqhelelanisa ngokomzwelo nomlingani wakho noma ulahlekelwe yisisusa somsebenzi wakho.

Ushintsho emqondweni wakho lungagcina luholele ezintweni ozozesaba kakhulu.

Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):

Silawula Kanjani Futhi Silwe Nobungozi?

Lapho imicabango yethu isibalekela bese yehlela kwalasha ongenathemba, singaba kanjani nethemba lokuphinde sithole okwethu ukuzinza ngokomzwelo ?

Amaqhinga angezansi angakusiza ukubuyisela emuva indlela yakho ebheke phansi futhi uphinde uthole ukufana okuthile kokulawula ingqondo yakho.

1. Ukunikezela isikhathi esethiwe ukucubungula inkinga.

Ingxenye enkulu yezinqubo zokucabanga ezibalekayo ezihambisana nokulimaza kuvela ekuhlaleni.

Lapho ubhekene nesimo esicindezelayo noma esinzima, kulula ukungenwa izihibe ezingapheli zemicabango engemihle.

Imicabango ingasihlupha emini noma isigcine siphapheme ebusuku, sibheke ophahleni lwekamelo lethu lokulala ngenkathi siqhubeka nokukhathazeka ngamathuba.

Enye indlela ongayisebenzisa ukulawula le micabango ukusetha isikhathi esabiwe sokucabanga ngenkinga nangezixazululo.

Leso isitatimende esihlukile, esifushane. Kufanele sigxile ku inkinga futhi izixazululo ezingaba khona - hhayi yonke into engonakala ngokungafanele ngenxa yenkinga.

Singaphoqa ingqondo yethu ukuthi icabange imicabango ehlukene lapho sibona ukuthi sihlala ngokungenasidingo.

Yisixazululo esilula, kepha akulula. Kuthatha ukuzivocavoca futhi kube lula ngokwengeziwe lapho ukukwenza.

2. Ukuphazamiseka enkingeni kungenza kube lula ukubhekana nakho.

Ukuphazamiseka kuyindlela elula nephumelelayo yokugcina ingqondo ingazukulawula lapho ihlangabezana nesimo esingokomzwelo noma inkinga.

Lokho akusho ukuthi siyiziba noma siyigweme ngokuphelele inkinga. Ukuningi kakhulu kunoma yikuphi ukuqondisa akukuhle noma kunempilo, ngoba kukushiya ungakulungele ukubhekana nokuwa kwenkinga engahle ibe khona.

Kunezindlela eziningi esingaziphazamisa ngazo lapho sibona ukuthi izingqondo zethu zizama ukungalawuleki.

Umuntu angabuka umbukiso ohlekisayo noma amahlaya, angafunda okuthile okuyinkimbinkimbi okuzodinga ukucabanga okugxile, adlale umdlalo, noma avele ahlale phansi nepensela nephepha adwebe okuthile.

Thola umsebenzi ozokuvumela ukuthi ugxilise ingqondo yakho kulowo msebenzi uqobo.

Futhi njengethiphu lokuqala, kudinga ukuzinikela nokuzikhandla ukuze uthole okulungile. Ilula futhi iyasebenza, kepha akulula ekuqaleni.

Lapho wenza ngokwengeziwe, kuba lula ngokwengeziwe ukuphuma emicabangweni ebalekile ungene kokuphambi kwakho. Ngokwenza kanjalo, uphazamisa lezo zinqubo zokucabanga ezingafuneki.

3. Lwela ukugxila emibonweni enengqondo, enengqondo ephathelene nenkinga.

Amaqiniso angasebenza njengehange elidingeka kakhulu kubulukhuni beqiniso. Umbono obheka izinhlangothi eziningi zenkinga efanayo ungathola ibhalansi maphakathi.

Umuntu angahle aphuke inhliziyo ngokuhlukana, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi ukuphela kwendaba noma injabulo yakhe. Bangu-7 billion abantu emhlabeni. Ngempela kukhona omunye umuntu laphaya ongathanda, futhi athandwe.

Futhi cha, ngeke kufane nalokhu esasingaba nakho. Akukaze kube njalo, ngoba sisebenzelana nabantu abahlukile ezimweni ezahlukahlukene.

Lokho kuphuka kwenhliziyo kungaholela othandweni nasekuthandweni ngumuntu olingana kangcono noma ozimisele ngokutshala umsebenzi omningi ebudlelwaneni.

Ngokufanayo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi kungaba yisibusiso uma ufika. Singahle sithole ukuthi umsebenzi wethu ubusenza sibe lusizi ngokuphelele, kepha besintula amandla noma ugqozi lokuzama ngempela ukuguqula isimo sethu.

Ukuphela komsebenzi kungasebenza njengesikhuthazo sezinguquko ezibalulekile empilweni yethu, ukulwela ukuzenzela kangcono emsebenzini omusha, noma mhlawumbe sibuyele ekolishi ukuze sikwazi ukwenza umsebenzi ohlukile.

Sivame ukugxila ukwesaba okungaziwa , ngoba okungaziwa kuletha nokungaqiniseki. Kepha, iqiniso liwukuthi, lokho okungaziwa kungamemezela ushintsho oluhle ezimpilweni zethu.

Lokho kuguquka kuncike ekutheni sikhetha ukubheka kanjani izimo nezimo esibhekene nazo.

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Ukufunda Ukulawula Imicabango Nemizwelo Yakho

Masibhekane nakho, ukulawula imicabango nemizwa yomuntu akulula.

Izibonelo ezedlule yizinqubo mina, nabanye abantu abaningi, esizisebenzisayo ukulawula imizwa ebalekayo ebangelwe yi-Major Depression kanye ne-Bipolar Disorder, zombili lezo eziletha imicabango eminingi, engalungile, engenangqondo, nengaphenduki kahle.

Kudinga ukuzijwayeza njalo, umzamo, nokuzibophezela ekuyenzeni isebenze.

Futhi uma uthola ukuthi udinga ukuqondiswa okugxile kakhudlwana, kungaba umbono omuhle kakhulu ukukhuluma nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo mayelana nokulawulwa kwengcindezi nokulawulwa kwemizwa.

Ukucela usizo kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo kuyisinqumo esiqinile uma uzizwa ukuthi ukukhubazeka kwakho kuhlobene nodaba lwezempilo yengqondo, noma kuyinkinga ejwayelekile empilweni yakho.