Ukubona impilo ngombono oqondile akuhlangene neze nezingilazi ezinemibala yama rose evame ukunikezwa labo 'abangakuboni' okungokoqobo. Kuthatha umsebenzi omningi kakhulu ukuthi ube nethemba lokuchitha umzamo njengePollyannaish noma ukuzivocavoca kokuphika.
Kunezinto eziningana ezibalulekile umuntu onomqondo oqondile azenzayo ukuze ahlale ohlangothini lwezinto.
1. Bona Gxila Kumzuzu
Ukuba khona kuthatha isenzo se-Herculean sentando lapho kubonakala sengathi zonke izici zempilo yansuku zonke zenzelwe ukwanda ukudida nokuphazamisa kakhulu ngokwezomnotho, kwezepolitiki, noma ngokomoya.
Kodwa-ke, ukuze umuntu abe nethemba, kufanele akhumbule.
Ikhono lokwazisa okwenzeka ngomzuzwana nje, bese kuthi okulandelayo, bese kuthi ngemuva kwalokho kugxile ezifisweni zethu ezingahleliwe kanye nasekucabangeni kobuchopho esimweni sokucabanga esivimbela ukwakhiwa kwamanga anjenge-plaque.
Ukuhlala ugxilile, ugxile, futhi wazi kubalulekile emqondweni omuhle.
2. Bafuna Ubuhle
Ibhendi le-funk-soul i-Earth, Wind & Fire lalinethalente lokwakha izingoma ezahlala engxenyeni efudumele yomphefumulo. 'Uma kungekho buhle kufanele wenze ubuhle' engomeni Konke Ngothando munye.
Umhlaba uyindawo embi. Linomsindo omkhulu, liyethusa, futhi kaningi lifanelwe izinyembezi.
Kepha hamba unqamule noma yiliphi ihlathi uzobona umhlaba uyindawo enhle ngokweqile. Indawo emnene. Futhi uma kwenzeka uwela izindlela nomuntu ongamazi kulelo hlathi elifanayo, ungahle ube nenhlanhla yokubona lowo muntu muhle futhi emnene futhi.
Ubuhle abuzivimbi izici ezingathandeki, ezimbi zempilo. Lowo akuwona umsebenzi wawo. UBeauty buthule, ngobumnene uthemba ukukhumbuza wonke umuntu ukuthi ukhona eceleni komoya onamandla, ama-bramble, nama-barb asontekile esivame ukugxila kuwo njengokuphila 'kwangempela'.
Ukunquma ukubona ubuhle bubeka ubuhle phambi kwethu. Futhi uma ngengozi kungakatholakali, siyakwenza.
udlalwa kanjani umdlali ngemuva kokulala naye
3. Babandakanya Ubuciko Babo
Wake waqaphela ukuthi abantu abahle bavame ukuba nobuciko?
Ubabekazi osheshe wahleka ubhake ophaya abaphambili intombi yasekolishi ebimamatheka nayo yonke ilukiwe izikhafu kanye namagilavu ngathi kuphelelwa yisikhathi.
Abantu abaqondile benza ukukhetha ukuba nobuciko kokuthile. Bazozama ukudla okusha ekhishini, noma mhlawumbe bahlanganise imixube yesiphuzo ukuze babone ukuthi bazokuthanda yini ukunambitheka.
Imvamisa bangabafundi, ukufunda kube ngumdlalo wokugcina wetiyetha lokudala kwengqondo.
Ukukhetha kwenziwa ukuthola isiphephelo sokudala kusuka kuzidingo zasekhaya, umsebenzi, umndeni, noma nothando. Uma, njengabantu, singakwazi ukubaza isikhala sokuveza 'thina,' siziqinisa ngenjabulo futhi sithathe indawo yonke engemihle njengokunikeziwe.
4. Babhekana Namaqiniso
UNkulunkulu anginikeze ukuthula ukwamukela izinto angikwazi ukushintsha isibindi ukushintsha izinto engikwaziyo nokuhlakanipha ukwazi umehluko.
Siyazi ukuthi njengoSerenity Prayer, owabhalwa ngo-1951 yisazi semfundiso yenkolo uReinhold Niebuhr.
Kubalulekile futhi kubalulekile emqondweni omuhle ngoba kukhombisa isici esibalulekile sokuphila okuhle: ukubhekana nezwe kudala amandla athile ahlehlela ngamabomu angasoze.
Kunzima ukuba nethemba langempela ngaphandle kokuthi umuntu aphile impilo eqotho. Umuntu ovumayo wenza ukukhetha aqaphele ukubhekana namaqiniso ukuze enze kabusha izingxenye zawo ukuze zithuthukise bonke, kukhishwe umuzwa wecala nokuzizwa enecala ngokungabi yingxenye yesixazululo sakho konke.
5. Bathola “Ukunqoba”
Ukuthola umsebenzi omkhulu wokukopisha ngaphandle kwejamu elilodwa lephepha: win.
Ukubamba zonke izibani eziluhlaza ngesikhathi sedrayivu eyihlane: win.
Ukufundisa ingane yakho ngempumelelo imiqondo engemuva kokuheha kazibuthe nokwenyanya: win.
Umuntu ovumayo ufuna ngezikhathi ezithile zosuku lwakhe ukubala njengokuwina, ngoba njengabantu, sidinga labo pops bokukhanya ukuze basazise ukuthi senza okuthile okulungile.
Ukunqoba okukhulu kuhle, kepha ukunqoba okuncane kwansuku zonke okusisekelayo.
6. Abahlali Esikhathini Esidlule
Ukuba nethemba akusho ukungaziboni (noma thina uqobo lwethu kungukuthi siyimbangela) yezimo ezingezinhle.
uma lolu thando lungahlala impilo yonke
Kusho ukuthini ukuthi umuntu oqondile bakhetha ukungazicwilisi ngokwabo esikhathini esedlule njengezimpukane ezilahliwe ku-flypaper engokomzwelo.
Umuntu ovumayo ukhetha ukwamukela okwedlule futhi, uma enenhlanhla, afunde kukho, kodwa adwebe umugqa ekuzizwa encindezelwe yikho.
Umuntu akakwazi ukugxila esikhathini esizayo samanje noma ngisho nakamuva lapho azama ukuphila esikhathini esedlule.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungayishiya Kanjani i-Monologue Yakho Yangaphakathi Ebheke kokuthile Okuthuthuka Kakhulu
- Izici Ezinhle Zobuntu eziheha Injabulo Nobudlelwano obunempilo
- Izinto Ezi-7 Abantu Abazinzile Ngokomzwelo Benza Ngokuhlukile
- Izici Ezi-5 Zomoya Okhululekile Ngempela
- Izinkolelo ZamaBuddha Ezizoshiya Ukuqonda Kwakho Ngempilo Kukwenze Ujabule
7. Ziyisibani Sokukhanya Kwabanye
Into exakayo ngokungabi nalusizo ukuthi ibangela abantu ukuba banqene ngokuzinikela kodwa babe nobugovu ngokuzenza babe lusizi, kushiye yonke impilo yomuntu izizwa ihamba kancane futhi ihamba phambili.
Zimbalwa izinto ezinika amandla, kepha, kumuntu onomqondo oqondile kunokubona omunye umuntu ekhanya, futhi uma kuthiwe umuntu ovumayo angazikhanyisela yena ngokukhazimula komunye umuntu, ngokuvamile bazokwenza kanjalo.
8. Balalela Ngaphezu Kokukhuluma Kwabo
Kuye kwathiwa sifunda okuningi ngemilomo yethu ivaliwe kunokuvuleka.
Ngisho naku-intanethi, ukusabela kwethu kokuqala lapho sibona okuthile esicabanga ukuthi abanye bangakuthola kuphawuleka ukuthi 'sikhulume' ngakho. Uma singaphawuli ngandlela thile noma okunye, umuzwa uyangena: siyaphela ekubeni khona!
UHarlan Ellison ubhale indaba emfushane ngasekupheleni kweminyaka engamashumi ayisithupha enesihloko esithi “Anginomlomo Futhi Kufanele Ngiklabalase,” okuyisisekelo esigoqe umumo wamanje wama-21stimpilo yekhulu.
Umuntu ovumayo uyazi ukuthi banomlomo nezwi, kepha ukhetha amagama abo ngokuncane ngaphandle uma ngabe kukhona abakuthole ngokweqiniso engxoxweni ezocebisa bonke abathintekayo ngaphezu kwemiyalo elula ye-ego.
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9. Abangezi Emsindweni Ojwayelekile Wokungqubuzana
Emigqeni ye- ukulalela , umuntu ovumayo usebenzela ukugwema izinhlobo eziningi ze-bandwagon hopping, ngaphandle kwalokho kulula kakhulu ukuthi ungakhukhulwa igagasi lezinkinga kanye nentukuthelo ekhungethe umhlaba namuhla, futhi ukuphinda uthole indawo ephephile yomuntu iba ngumgudu oqhubekayo.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi umuntu ovumayo akenzi izwi lakhe lizwakale noma alwele ushintsho.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, banamazwi anamandla ngokunembile ngoba abahlale bekhona endlebeni yomuntu, bephawula kukho konke okuthunyelwe, noma benanela ukukhathazeka kwayo yonke inkinga ethinta abantu.
Abantu abanesifiso esihle sokuthola izixazululo, bathole lezo zixazululo, bese babelana ngazo lapho kudingeka.
10. Bayayithokozela Impilo Yomzimba Njengokuthi Okomoya
Umuntu ovumayo empilweni yakho kungenzeka angabi yisibonelo sokuphelela ngokomzimba, kodwa ukubheja okuhle benza umzamo ojwayelekile wokuthola imizimba yabo ukuthi yenze okungaphezulu kokuyihambisa nje ikamelo negumbi.
Kubuye kube ukubheja okuhle abakuthokozelayo okuthokozisayo. Nezocansi. Futhi ugeza isikhathi eside. Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi injabulo engapheli yokunwaya iklwebheke kahle futhi kuhle.
Ukuzindla nokubandakanyeka ngokomzwelo kuyathandeka, kepha, esikhundleni sokuphikisana nobumnandi benyama, kukhona okuhle ngokwazisa izimangaliso ezinikezwa yizigidigidi zezinzwa nezamukeli.
11. Baletha Ukuqiniswa
Ukulondeka kungancipha.
Ukuze uhlale usohlangothini oluhle, umuntu ovumayo uzophinda lezi zinqumo ngosuku olulandelayo, nakolandelayo, njalonjalo, ngoba ukuhlala unethemba phakathi kwamaphimbo okulwa, ahlukanisayo akulula.
Futhi kufanele babekezelele amazwi okweqa, ngoba 'ukuqiniseka' kusenemicabango engeyinhle yokuba yingxenye eyodwa yokuphunyuka, ingxenye eyodwa ukungabi nalwazi, nengxenye eyodwa ukukhohlisa ithemba.
Kepha ukuze abe nethemba langempela, umuntu akumele nje avume ubumnyama bethu obukuyo yonke indawo, kodwa bheka ke, bese unquma ukuyiphikisa.
Umuntu ovumayo ukhetha ukufinyelela eminye imithombo yokukhanya lapho edinga ukuvuselelwa kabusha: abangane, abathandi, othisha, bonke labo ababonwa njengamalambu akhanyayo ngezindlela zabo ezihlukile.
Ukuba nombono omuhle kuyisenzo sobuqhawe, amandla, nokusebenzela abanye. Yikho okwenza umhlaba ungabi yilutho ngaphandle kwameva lapho sima ukunuka ama-rose. Ukube nje yonke imidwebo yezimbali esiya kuyo ingaba mnandi kangako.
