Yize ingekho inhlamvu yomlingo ebudlelwaneni obufanele, futhi akekho ojabulayo usuku ngalunye lwempilo yakhe, kunezici ezinhle impela zabantu abajabule ababelana ngazo ezibasiza ukuba baphile izimpilo ezigculisayo futhi bagcine ubudlelwano obunempilo.
Nazi izici ezinhlanu ezakha isisekelo esiqinile lapho injabulo nobudlelwano obuhle bungakhula khona:
1. Bangabantu Ukuzethemba
Ukungena egumbini lokufundela “njengomphathi” nokuzulazula uzungeze ihhovisi, ukukhonkotha ama-oda, nokwenza sengathi ungumnikazi wendawo akuyona ukuzethemba. Futhi ukubeka abanye phansi ukuzenza ubukeke ulungile.
Lokho kungukuzikhukhumeza, futhi kunomehluko ophawulekayo.
Abantu ababukela phansi abanye, noma abadinga ukwenza izimangalo ezinkulu ngokuthi balunge kangakanani, banemali engakanani, noma bagcizelela ukubaluleka kwabo kwabanye, empeleni abaphephile, futhi ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, abajabule neze. Yebo, ufunda lelo lungelo, abazithembi, bayesaba futhi badabukile.
Abantu abajabulayo abazenzi lezi zinto. Abadingi ukumemeza besophahleni lwendlu ngalokho abakwenzile noma abanakho. Banokuzethemba okuzolile okuza ngendlela yokusiza abanye ngaphandle kokudinga ukuqashelwa, futhi bengesabi siza abanye baphume engcupheni yokugubuzelwa.
Bathembela emakhonweni abo, baphakamise abanye esikhundleni sokubadiliza. Bayazazi ukuthi bangobani futhi abadingi ukufaka i-a umuntu mbumbulu ukuya phambili noma ukwenza abantu babathande.
Ngoba banethezekile esikhunjeni sabo, ababheki wonke umuntu njengongase ancintisane naye. Abantu badonseleka kubo. Ngenxa yalokho, banayo ubudlelwane obunempilo ezingagutshuzelwe umona noma umunyu, ngoba zingena kuzo njengazo, izigaxa, izigaxa nakho konke.
Abadingi baziqhathanise nabo bonke abanye abantu . Ukuzethemba wena namakhono akho kuzoheha injabulo, abantu abajabule eduze kwakho, nobudlelwano obunempilo.
2. Babona iSiling Lining
Qaphela ukuthi angishongo 'ubuhle.' Lelo yigama eligcwele ukuthi abantu bacabanga ukuthi ngomlingo liletha injabulo njengohlobo oluthile lothuli lwenganekwane. Uyayifafaza lapho uphuma ngomnyango ekuseni bese uqhuma! uhlelelwe usuku. Akusikho ukuthi kusebenza kanjani.
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Abantu abaningi futhi bacabanga ukuthi kufanele uklabalase njengesilima kubo bonke abadlula ngendlela, bese wenza sengathi yonke into enyantisayo eyenzeka kuwe ilungile ngokuphelele. Lokho akulona ithemba, noma injabulo leyo yisifihla-buso. Susa imaski.
Abantu abajabulayo abagijimi bezenza sengathi bathokozela yonke into ehlekisayo eyenzeka kubo. Abathandi wonke umuntu abahlangana naye, futhi bayamangala! banesabelo sabo sezinsuku ezimbi futhi. Umehluko ukuthi lapho abantu abajabulayo behluleka, noma behlangabezana nezingqinamba, abavumeli lokho kwehluleka kubaphazamise.
Babona ulwelwesi lwesiliva.
Bayazivuma izinto ezimbi, kepha futhi bafuna umlayezo, isifundo, noma ithuba kulezo zivimbamgwaqo. Babheka izingqinamba njengezinselele abangakhula kuzo.
indlela yokubhekana nentukuthelo emshadweni
Abakhiphi namashwa abo kubantu. Abathathi abanye phansi nabo. Bangakwazi ukuhlala nabo ukudumala , yamukele isinyathelo esingafanele, bese uqhubeka. Le ndlela yokubhekana nayo ibenza bajabule ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngoba ibavimbela ukuthi bahlale benamathele, futhi bangalimazi abanye.
3. Bavulelekile Ekwakheni Ukuxhumana
Noma ngubani ojabulayo uzojabulisa abanye - u-Anne Frank
Amagama ahlakaniphileyo avela entombazaneni eneminyaka eyishumi nanhlanu. Kepha u-Anne Frank wayeqinisile. Injabulo iyathathelana futhi yenza abanye bajabule ngokwengeziwe.
Abantu bangayizwa iphunga mbumbulu. Ukuziphatha okungazenzisi kubangela ukungathembani. Mhlawumbe usuke wasibona lesi simo phambilini: lowo mfana ephathini omamatheka ubuka wonke umuntu, ohleka zonke izindawo ezifanele, futhi uyimpilo yephathi, kepha azizwe 'evaliwe'?
Ngokushesha awumthandi, kodwa awukwazi ukubeka umunwe wakho kungani. Ushintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo, uqaphe wena, bese umbheka ngokusola. Kungani? Akenzanga noma asho noma yini engalungile.
Kungenxa yokuthi akethuli isiqu sakhe sangempela. Akaxhumani ngokweqiniso nabantu. Ubanikeza lokho akholelwa ukuthi bafuna ukukuzwa, noma ukubona, ukuze benze ukuxhumana, kepha kunomphumela ohlukile.
Ucwaningo lwaseHarvard University luhlolisise okusenza sijabule futhi esinye sezici ezivamile kwaba ukuthi: ubudlelwano obuhle busigcina siphilile futhi sijabule. Ukukhuthaza ukuxhumana kwekhwalithi nokukhulisa ubudlelwano, kusisiza ukuthi siphile izimpilo ezijabulisayo nezinde.
Abantu abajabulayo abesabi ukuxhuma, ukukhombisa ukuba sengozini kwabo, nokuba neqiniso eduze kwabanye. Ngokuba yibo ngokwabo, badala isikhala sabanye ukuze babe yibo, futhi baxhumane nabo.
4. Bazisa Abantu Nokuhlangenwe nakho, Hhayi Izinto
Isisho esithi ‘imali ayinakukuthengela injabulo’ sineqiniso elithile kuso. Ngenkathi, yebo, akekho umuntu ozothi cha kumadola ayisigidi noma emotweni entsha yezemidlalo, ekupheleni kosuku, abantu abajabule kakhulu abenziwa bajabule ngokuqongelela izinto, baqoqa okwenzeka empilweni futhi bazizungeze ngobudlelwano bekhwalithi.
Abantu bavame ukuhlanganisa injabulo nemali, kepha lokho abakhuluma ngakho impela ukukhetha, okusho ukuthi imali ikunikeza inkululeko yokuzikhethela: ungaya kumabhayisikobho nge $ 20 yakho, noma ungahlala ekhaya, kodwa kulowo mzuzu, unokukhetha ukusebenzisa leyo $ 20 noma cha.
Kukhona amandla okwazi ukunquma ukuhambisa kwakho okulandelayo ngaphandle kokuvinjelwa. Lapho abantu bengenayo imali, lokhu kunciphisa ukukhetha kwabo futhi ukungabi nalokhu kuzikhethela kuvame ukuholela emizweni yokungajabuli.
Sengikushilo lokho, abantu abaningi abacebile banemali, nezinketho eziningi, kepha bahlala bengajabule, izindlu ezikholwayo, izimoto nezingubo kuzobalethela injabulo. Ngenkathi uhambo lokuyothenga lunikeza umfutho omfushane (ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukulindela ukuthenga izinto kukhiphela i-dopamine ebuchosheni) ngokwenza umthengi ekuqaleni abe 'ojabulayo,' leyo njabulo ingeyesikhashana.
Kukangaki uwabonile amathegi ezingutsheni, elenga ekhabetheni lakho ngemuva kwezinyanga? Ungasho ukuthi lelohembe likulethele injabulo efanayo nokuchitha ubusuku nabangane abaseduze? Yini engaletha injabulo eyengeziwe? Ngokuqondile, inkumbulo yesipiliyoni nabangani bakho izohlala iletha ukumamatheka ebusweni bakho, kuyilapho lelo shati elinomaki lisahleli likhohliwe ekhabetheni lakho.
Ukuchitha isikhathi nabangane nomndeni, wenza into oyithanda ngempela, njengokuhambahamba lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lihambe lilanga lelilodwa libalele. futhi kuzokulethela injabulo lapho ucabanga ngazo eminyakeni ezayo.
Abantu abajabulayo bayakwazi lokhu, ngakho-ke noma ngabe banamathani emali, abathembeli kuwo ukuze bawafeze.
5. Abathathi Izinto Ngokwabo
Abantu abajabulayo bashiya ama-egos abo emnyango. Bazama ukuqonda ukuthi yini ekhuthaza izenzo zabanye abantu ngaphambi kokugxumela eziphethweni ngokuthi kungani beziphatha ngendlela ethile.
Noma begxekwa, noma benza iphutha, bathatha okuthile kuyo (kukhona lawo malayili esiliva futhi) futhi baqonde ukuthi akuyona yonke into emayelana nabo. Bayabona ukuthi sonke singabantu futhi sonke ngokungenakugwenywa sihlangana kwesinye isikhathi. Okusemqoka ukuthi ungavumeli lokho kuthathe impilo yakho.
Abantu abavikela ngokweqile, futhi abakholelwa ukuthi umhlaba uzimisele ukubathola ngazo zonke izindlela, kuyaqabukela, uma kwenzeka, bejabule. Bachitha isikhathi sabo befuna izitha lapho kungekho khona, futhi babona izisusa ezimbi ngemuva kwawo wonke amagama nezenzo. Lokhu kuyakhathaza, kududule abantu kude, futhi kuvimbele ukwakheka kobudlelwano obunenjongo (lokho ukuxhumana esikhulume ngakho phambilini).
Abantu abajabule kakhulu futhi abanobudlelwano obungcono nabanye yilabo abangathathi konke uqobo. Banefayela le- ukuvuthwa ngokomzwelo ukubona ukuthi abanye babhekene nani, ukuthi izenzo zabo zizobathinta kanjani, bese ulungisa indlela yabo yokuziphatha ngokufanele. Banozwela, futhi abesabi ukukwenza ngixolise . Abakholelwa ukuthi ukuxolisa kulahlekelwa ubuso, kodwa bakubone njengengxenye yokukhula futhi eba umuntu ongcono .
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Sonke siyakwazi ukuba nalezi zimfanelo ezinhle, kufanele siqhubeke sizama. Injabulo akuwona umdlalo wokuphela, wuhambo olude lwempilo. Jabulela i-adventure yakho!
