Akukho kungabaza ngakho, amazwi enduduzo angaba nzima ngokweqile.
Isifiso ukuhlanganyela usizi lwakho nomunye ososizini ngokwengeziwe, kepha lokho akuzizwa kulungile, akunjalo?
Ngisho okwamanje, wena uzizwe it: ukubhidlika okukhothayo kunokuba kube nokwamukela induduzo.
Into yokugcina ofuna ukuyenza ukwengeza ezinhlungwini zabo, kungaba emngcwabeni wangempela noma ngisho nangesikhathi lapho oshonelwe ebuyele ekuhambeni komphakathi jikelele.
Ngakho-ke ngokujwayelekile sithi 'Siyaxolisa ngokulahleka kwakho.'
Kepha kukhona amagama amane agxumela ngaphakathi ajule futhi asinde kunalezo zinkomba ze-by-the-numbers zokungaphatheki kahle?
Le nkulumo isetshenziswe ngokweqile ayikho indlela yokuthi izwakale njenganoma yini enye ngaphandle kokuthi kuyisibopho - isenzo sethokheni - futhi noma ngabe lisho kahle, wonke amagama ayi-barb.
'Uxolo' kubeka abashonelwe endaweni enecala. Noma sesisebunzimeni bosizi, asifuni ukuthi abanye bahlupheke ngenxa yethu.
Uxolo yigama esilizwa ngomuntu osonile, kepha esimeni sosizi, kuba sengathi sikonile ngomthwalo ongokomzwelo ozama ukuwunqaba ngesizotha.
'Okwe' iba umugqa oqondile oxhuma abafileyo abashonelwe kukungaphatheki kahle kwakho.
'Okwakho' ihlukanisa abafelweyo, isho ngempumelelo ukuthi noma kungenzeka zwelana kubo, ukulahlekelwa kweqiniso kungokwabo ukubhekana nakho, hhayi okwakho.
'Ukulahlekelwa.' Sengathi abashonelwe bebengabamba. Sengathi abakwazanga ukugcina impilo isithandwa sabo.
Ukulahlekelwa. Othile akasekho, futhi oshonelwe akakwazi ukubabuyisa.
Noma ngabe babheke kuphi ngeke babathole.
Konke lowo muntu ayeyikho akusekho.
Yonke imicu yokuxhuma kubo? Kuhlukanisiwe.
Oshonelwe, njengosindile, uyedwa.
Indawo yonke yokulimala esikhathini esisodwa sokuphefumula. 'Uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho.'
Kepha ekunikezeni kwakho induduzo, awukwazi lokhu ngoba umuntu oshonelwe umomotheka, amange ngokushesha, futhi - mhlawumbe kwesinye sezikhathi eziningi ngaphambi kwezakho - alwe ngempumelelo nezinyembezi ukuze athi, “Ngiyabonga. ”
Ngabe singenza kangcono? Ngicabanga ukuthi singakwazi.
Sinakho kithina ukuthi sibe mnene ngozwela lwethu, sibe qotho ngosizo lwethu, futhi singesabi ngempela ukuba khona kothile.
Yini ongayisho ezimweni lapho amagama enganele nje?
1. Ngilapha Kuwe
Lokhu kungaba enye yezinto ezinamandla kakhulu ongayisho kumuntu ososizini. 'Ngilapha ngawe.'
Akudingeki ukuthi kube ukuthululwa okukhulu kozwelo lomzwelo akufani nomdlalo we-carnival wokufinyelela ezingeni elithile ukushaya insimbi.
Kufanele kuveze ukwazi ukuthi uzobamba isikhala somunye, noma kunjalo bayasidinga nangesikhathi sabo, okuvumela abashonelwe ukuthi bazithululele kuwe ukuze baphumule, balulame, futhi babuyise umuzwa wokuxhumana ngemuva kokuhlukumezeka kowamanqamu Hamba kahle.
Kuhambisana nokuthinta - mhlawumbe ukwanga (ukwangana ngokuvamile kusebenza kahle) , mhlawumbe ukubamba ngesandla ngobumnene, umzuzwana uzokutshela - le nkulumo itshela abashonelwe ukuthi ababodwa ...
… Hhayi bodwa osizini, hhayi ngokuzizwa kwabo bodwa, hhayi ekubhekaneni nenani elingalindelekile nelikhulu lokungaqiniseki.
ungasho kanjani ukuthi ulahla inzalo
Lapho sidlula ezivivinyweni, noma (noma ikakhulukazi) ezivivinyweni ezivame kakhulu, ezingenakugwemeka, esivakashela umhlaba izikhathi ezingenakubalwa ngosuku, ukufa, izinto ezinhle kakhulu esizitholayo iziqinisekiso zokuthi asisodwa.
2. Ukuthula Uphile Kahle
Ukufa kugibela kanzima futhi ngokushesha lapho kuletha izindaba zako zokufa, kusishiya sididekile futhi singaqiniseki ngamabhere ethu njengoba sikhanya ngaphakathi kothuli lokudlula kwawo. Yonke into ejwayelekile iba yinkohliso futhi iyesabeka.
Ukufisela umuntu “ukuthula kube kuhle” kunoma ikuphi ukuhluka kwalelo binzana elizwakala likhululekile olimini, kungamandla amakhulu okusimamisa.
Kwenza oshonelwe akwazi lokho ukuthula kungenzeka , kanye nenani lamandla kuleso siqinisekiso kungaba yi-godsend kothile obamba ibhalansi.
'Sulama' kuvuma ukugula okusontekile abangase bazizwe.
Ngokubambisana, ukuthula nokuba sempilweni kwenza isifiso sisuka komunye ngamandla wempilo kuye kwesisidingo sethemba, okunikeza umqondo wokucaca okuzayo.
Noma singazizwa sengathi ukuthula kukuphi lapho siseduzane, sifuna ukwazi ukuthi kungaba njalo.
3. Unenhliziyo Nokuxhaswa Kwami
Njengokuthi 'ngilapha ngenxa yakho,' 'Unenhliziyo nokusekelwa kwami' kuvala igebe elivela kungazelelwe emphakathini liye ekuhlukanisweni ukufa okungadala engqondweni yomuntu obhekene nokulahlekelwa okunjalo.
'Inhliziyo yami' ibamba onqenqemeni olunzima losizi okwabiwe ngalo ngendlela yokuthi 'uxolo,' 'ukudabuka,' noma noma yikuphi ukwehluka kwalelo gama elimpunga, elilusizi konke kusilela ekufinyeleleni.
'Unenhliziyo yami nokwesekwa kwami' akusona isikhumbuzi sokulahleka ngendlela 'Uxolo ngokulahlekelwa kwakho', kodwa a isithembiso sobumbano noma ngabe usizi luzama kanjani ukudiliza umuzwa womuntu wokujwayelekile.
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ekumiseni umuntu ngesikhathi sezinxushunxushu zakhe.
4. Ngiyazi Kunzima…
Kwesinye isikhathi uma kufanele usho okuthile, yisho ngama-ellipses. Akekho ozwa ukuthi 'Ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima…' okudinga ukuthi uqedele lowo musho.
Ukuzenza onamandla yisithiyo sokuqala salabo abashonelwe. Ukuvumela nje kubo kwazi lokho wena bazi izigodi, amagquma, nobunzima abazobhekana nakho - futhi abazobekezelela - kubakhulula ebunzimeni balokho kuzenzisa.
Ngandlela-thile, ibahalalisela ngaphambili ngokufika ekugcineni kohambo bengenalutho, beqinisiwe, futhi bezilungiselele ukulingwa okulandelayo okungenakugwemeka.
5. Ngivumele Ngisize
Mhlawumbe lena akudingi ukushiwo.
Naphezu kwakho konke esikwenzayo, amagama aduduzayo azohlala ezwakala njengembewu kukhonkolo ngaphansi kwesibhakabhaka esisheshayo nesimpunga.
Sifuna ukuhlanganisa izinhliziyo nezingqondo zethu nezinye ukuze sinciphise ubuhlungu bazo, kodwa amagama okwamanje, ngisho nalezo zimbongi, awakaze azizwe enele kulo msebenzi.
Lapho abashonelwe benesikhathi sokuzindla, mhlawumbe izimbongi zizokwenza. Izinkondlo zingakhuluma ngezindlela umphefumulo oziqondayo noma ingqondo ingazi.
Kepha kunezikhathi lapho umzuzu udinga ukuthula okumsulwa futhi okulula kwe- okungakhulunywa ukuncenga: ake ngisize ungivumele ngidabuke nawe hlala phansi, uphumule, ube.
Lokhu kungadluliselwa ngokugona okuqinile ngokunikela ngebhokisi lezicubu lapho lidingeka ngaphandle kokubuzwa ngokusiza abashonelwe ukuba baphume esihlalweni sabo noma ngisho nokunikela ihlombe lakho ukuze ikhanda labo libeke bangu izindlela eziyisigidi ukukhombisa ukuthi ukhona ngomunye umuntu.
Amagama abopha igebe. 'Ukudabuka okujulile ngokulahlekelwa kwakho,' 'ukuzwelana nokulahlekelwa kwakho,' 'uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho' kuyizithunzi nje zalokho okusenhliziyweni yakho.
Akunandaba ukuthi uthatha ini ukusho kumuntu, qiniseka ukuthi kuyasiza.
Baphakamise, ube nabo, ubazise ukuthi awuyena nje omunye umcabango emncintiswaneni wezinhlungu, oqala ukunyamalala kubo ngisho nangaphambi kokuba zonke izibopho zomphakathi zomngcwabo zifezeke.
Abashonelwe bazoba nezipoki ezanele abangalwa nazo uzwela kufanele lukuholele ekutheni ube mkhulu.
ukuthanda umuntu okuthandayo emuva
Akukaze kube lula ukuthola amagama 'afanele'. Ukube bekulula, ngabe akunangqondo.
Kuthiwa singabantu bethu lapho sinosizi noma sijabule yonke into ephakathi ididekile. Amagama obubele kufanele aveze ubuntu bethu.
Lezi ziphakamiso zingasiza noma zingasizi. Azenzelwe ukuba zibe izitembu zenjoloba ezintsha esikhundleni sezidlakela, eziqhephukile iningi lethu elizisebenzisayo manje, zingabaqondisi kuphela.
Impilo ihamba phambili uma sivumela ubuntu, uzwela, kanye nokuzimisela ukuphakamisa izinhlungu zabanye emahlombe abo kusiqondise, noma ngabe umzuzwana nje.
Kuningi okungenziwa futhi kushiwo esikhathini sokuphefumula.
Khuluma ukunethezeka futhi ukhulume kahle.
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