Kukhona isisho emigqeni sokuthi kunezinto ezimbili kuphela empilweni eziqinisekile: ukufa nezintela.
Impela, abantu abaningi bayakwazi ukukugwema lokhu kokugcina, kepha okwedlule kuyinto okufanele sonke isidalwa esiphilayo sibhekane nayo ekugcineni.
Ukufa kuyingxenye engenakugwemeka yokuphila ingxenye yomjikelezo wempilo uqobo lwawo… futhi kuyisihloko esisabisa kakhulu ingxenye enkulu yabantu.
Isiko laseNtshonalanga ikakhulukazi liyaphika ukufa, nenkolo yalo yentsha futhi ibonakala izonda noma yini endala noma egulayo.
Lokhu kuyishwa, ngoba abantu ababhekana ngokungazelelwe nokuphela kwempilo bavame ukuba sesimweni sokwethuka nokwethuka, ngoba bebengakaze babonane kahle nenqubo phakathi nempilo yabo.
Ngakho-ke, umuntu ukwenza kanjani ukuthula neqiniso lokufa, futhi aqede ukwesaba okuhambisana nakho?
7 Izizathu Eziyinhloko
UCainlin Doughty, udokotela oshonile kanye nomsunguli we I-oda lokufa okuhle uqoqe izizathu eziyisikhombisa zokuthi kungani abantu bevame ukwesaba ukufa:
- Ukwesaba ukuthi ukufa kuzobangela usizi kwabathandekayo.
- Ukwesaba ukuthi izifiso ezibalulekile namaphrojekthi kuzophela.
- Ukwesaba ukuthi inqubo yokufa izoba buhlungu.
- Ukwesaba ukuthi ngeke besakwazi ukuba nokuhlangenwe nakho okuthile.
- Ukwesaba ukuthi ngeke besakwazi ukunakekela abathembele kuye.
- Ukwesaba ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma kukhona ukuphila emva kokufa.
- Ukwesaba okungase kwenzeke emzimbeni wabo lapho sebeshonile.
Uma ukhomba kahle ukuthi yini le ekuthusayo, uyakwazi ukubhekana nokwesaba uthole isisombululo, akunjalo? Ngakho-ke, ake singene futhi sikhulume nabo ngamunye ngamunye.
1. Ukwesaba Ukufa Kubangela Usizi Kubantu Obathandayo
Usizi alunakugwenywa, njengoba sinolwazi oluningi kakhulu empilweni yethu. Noma ngubani ozwa uthando ekugcineni uzoluzwa usizi, kepha abantu bangaphezulu kakhulu kwalokho ukubekezelela kunokuba sivame ukubanika isikweletu.
Yebo, ukulahlekelwa nguwe kuzobangela ubuhlungu, kepha ekugcineni abangane bakho namalungu omndeni wakho bazokwazi ukugxila kukho konke okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle ababa nakho nawe, futhi ukuthi ubumnandi buzonciphisa usizi.
Uma ukhathazekile ngezinto ezishiyiwe zingashiwongo, noma uzwa sengathi ufuna ukuziqinisekisa ngokuthi zithandwa kangakanani, babhalele izincwadi ukuthi zingavuleka uma usuhambile.
Yisho konke okudingayo ukusho, futhi wazi ukuthi amagama akho (okungcono abhalwe ngesandla sakho) azokwaziswa futhi afundwe kaninginingi ukuletha induduzo.
2. Ukwesaba Imiklamo Ebalulekile Engagcwaliseki
Kulokhu, ukuba nohlelo oluqinile lwezehlakalo nokuhleleka kokuhleleka okudingekayo kunganciphisa ukwesaba kwakho.
Isibonelo, uma ubulima ingadi enhle yomphakathi, qiniseka ukuthi unezinhlelo ezibekelwe ukuthi ufuna ziqhubeke kanjani.
Nikeza lezi zinhlelo kumgcini owaziyo ukuthi ungamethemba ukuze akwenze kwenzeke, ukuze wazi ukuthi konke kuzoba sezandleni ezinhle uma ungasekho.
Ingabe uqhuba inhlangano engenzi inzuzo? Nikeza othile ukuthi aqhubeke nomsebenzi wakho ngendlela oyikhethile.
Ngabe unikeza isisa esithile esithile? Qiniseka ukuthi bangabanye babazuzi entandweni yakho.
Ekugcineni, kwehlela enhlanganweni, ngakho-ke uma unesikhathi esithile samahhala, hlala phansi wenze izinhlelo ezithile eziqinile zisebenze.
3.Ukwesaba Ukuthi Inqubo Yokufa Iyoba Buhlungu
Isihloko esisodwa eza ngokungenakugwenywa lapho usebenza nokwesaba ukufa ukukhathazeka ngokuthi kuzolimaza.
Kubukeka sengathi iningi labantu alikusabi ukufa kunalokho indlela abangafa ngayo .
Kubantu abaningi, okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ngokufa kuze kube manje kugxile ezihlotsheni ezifele esibhedlela, imvamisa izifo ezifana nomdlavuza.
Kuyaqabukela bebonela ukufa uqobo: okusezandleni zabasebenzi nabahlengikazi, ngakho-ke inqubo yokugcina icatshangwa kunokuba ibe ngeyangempela, nazo zonke izinhlobo zezithombe ezethusayo ezivela kwifilimu naku-TV ziphonswa ngesilinganiso esimibalabala ukunqanda imicabango ibe ngokweqile.
Ikona kuphoqelekile ukuba nefa eliphilayo lapho ubeka khona izinkomba ezisezingeni eliphakeme uma ungafuni ukungenelela ngokweqile kwezokwelapha ukusindisa impilo yakho.
Abantu abangenazo lezi ziqondiso endaweni bangaphansi kwezigatshana 'zokubagcina bephila nganoma iyiphi indlela edingekayo' ezibhedlela eziningi, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi ubhala ukuthi yini futhi engamukeleki kuwe.
Uma kukhulunywa ngobuhlungu ongabhekana nabo, kunezixazululo ezinhle kakhulu zokuphathwa kobuhlungu ezitholakalayo, kufaka phakathi inketho yokufakwa ku-coma ye-palliative uma ubuhlungu bungabekezeleleki.
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Ama-Do Not Resuscitate ama-oda angafakwa, futhi ezindaweni lapho ukufa okusizwayo kuyindlela ongakhetha kuyo, kukhona namandla okuzibulala ngokuthanda kwakho uma usukulungele ukwenza kanjalo.
4. Ukwesaba Ukungasakwazi Ukuba Namava
Kungabonakala kulula ukusho, kepha isixazululo kulokhu ukuthola lokho okuhlangenwe nakho MANJE.
Uke wafunda lezo zinhlu ezi-5 (noma eziyishumi) eziphezulu ezihlanganiswe ngabahlengikazi be-hospice, ngezinto abantu abasembhedeni wabo wokufa abazisola ngazo kakhulu?
Okunye ukuzisola okuvame kakhulu bekungukuthi ukungaphili impilo eyiqiniso ngokwengeziwe: ukungaphili impilo ababeyifuna ngokweqiniso, ukwenza izinto ababefuna ukuzenza.
Hlunga lokho. Manje.
Uyasazi isisho esithi, “phila usuku ngalunye kube sengathi kungokugcina kwakho”? Kuyiseluleko esihle, njengoba kusikhuthaza ukuthi sijabule ngobuhle esinabo phambi kwethu MANJE esikhundleni sokuhlehlisa ubumnandi kuze kufike usuku olude lapho sinomuzwa wokuthi singakwazi noma kufanele sikwenze lokho.
Uma ukwesaba ukungaboni into ebalulekile kuwe bekukade kukukhathaza, zinike isikhathi ukubheka ukuthi yini ozwa ukuthi usafuna ukuyifinyelela, nokuthi kungani kubaluleke kangaka ukuthi wenze njalo.
Yenza uhlu (umqondo wokuthi “uhlu lwamabhakede” luzwakala lushizi, kodwa ngokungathi sína, bhala lokhu phansi), bese wenza okulandelayo:
- Izinto osafuna ukuzizuza.
- Izizathu zokuthi kungani ufuna ukwenza lezi zinto.
- Kungathatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi ukwenze.
- Izinsizakusebenza zidingeka ukuzenza zenzeke.
Beka lokhu ngokulandelana kokubaluleke kakhulu kokungabalulekanga kangako, futhi sicela, uthembeke kuwe uqobo.
Uma ubheka labo abaphezulu ohlwini - labo ofuna ukuzwa noma ukufeza ngempela - zibuze ukuthi yini ekuvimbela ekwenzeni lezo zinto.
Ukusuka lapho, unganquma uhlelo lwezinto ezingakusiza uzenze zibe ngokoqobo. Lokho kuzohamba ibanga elide ekwehliseni (noma ngisho nasekuqedeni) ukuzisola, futhi lokho kukhulu impela uma kukhulunywa ngokwamukela ukuthi le mpilo izophela ekugcineni.
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- Ukuqonda Izigaba Zosizi Futhi Ungakudabukisa Kanjani Ukulahlekelwa Kwakho
- Ukuthola Izinsuku Lapho Ukhumbula Umuntu Olahlekile
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- Esikhundleni sokuthi “Siyaxolisa Ngokulahlekelwa Kwakho,” Veza Izinduduzo Zakho Ngale Misho
5. Ukwesaba Ukungasakwazi Ukunakekela Abathembele Kubo
Yinto enkulu le, futhi kunengqondo ukuthi kungani abantu bekhathazekile ngayo, ikakhulukazi uma kubandakanyeka izingane ezincane noma abazali abagulayo.
Uma lokhu kungenye yokwesaba kwakho okukhulu, hlala phansi nommeli nixoxe ngokuthi yini ongayikhetha.
Ungahlela izimo zokugadwa, izimali zokwethenjwa, kanye nazo zonke izinhlobo zeminutia ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi labo obakhathalelayo bazoba sezandleni ezinhle uma ngabe ezakho zingasatholakali futhi nini.
6. Ukwesaba Ukuphila Ngemuva Kokufa (Noma Ukuntula Lokho)
Uma kukhulunywa ngokwesaba impilo yangemva kokufa - noma ukungabi bikho kwayo - kwehlela kulokho okukholelwa ngokweqiniso, ngokomoya.
Uma lokhu kukuthusa, zama ukukhomba ngokuqonde ngqo ukuthi yini oyesabayo: ingabe uyasaba uhlobo oluthile “lwesihogo” olulindele wena, ngoba ucabanga ukuthi ufanelwe uhlobo oluthile lokujeziswa ngenxa yokwephula umthetho?
Noma wesaba ukuthi emva kokufa kuzoba khona lutho nje?
Uma ukhathazekile ngempilo yangemva kokufa, funa umholi wezenkolo enkolweni noma kwifilosofi ehlangana nawe kakhulu, bese ukhuluma nabo mayelana nokwesaba kwakho.
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Kucishe kuqinisekiswe ukuthi noma yini embi ongase uyicabange ikukhathaza kakhulu kunaleyo yakho yempilo eqondene nenkolo yangemva kwalokho.
Yonke inkambiso emhlabeni inombono othile ngempilo yangemva kokufa. Kwabanye, yindawo enhle efana neZulu noma i-Summerlands, nakwabanye, kukhona ukuphindukuzalwa: ukuthi sishiya lezi zidumbu zesikhashana njengezimpahla zokugqoka, futhi imiphefumulo iyaqhubeka ibe yimizimba emisha, noma iphakamele ezindizeni eziphakeme zokuphila, njengokuhlangana kabusha noMthombo wawo wonke amandla.
Noma ungekho ngokomoya ikakhulukazi, kepha kunalokho unamathela ekuthini uNkulunkulu akekho noma izindlela zokuthi uNkulunkulu akekho / isayensi, kukhona induduzo engathathwa ngokuthi akukho okuphela ngeqiniso. Awukwazi ukuqeda amandla: kumane kuguqule ifomu.
Uthisha ongumBuddha nomlobi uThich Nhat Hanh wabelana ngokufaniswa kokufa kufana nomjikelezo wamanzi wemvelo:
Cabanga ngefu elimhlophe elikhukhumele esibhakabhakeni. Kamuva, lapho kuqala ukuna, awuliboni ifu elifanayo. Akukho lapho. Kepha iqiniso langempela ukuthi ifu lisemvuleni. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi ifu life. Kungaba yimvula, iqhwa, iqhwa, noma amafomu amaningi… kepha ifu alinakuba njalo lutho . Ubungeke ukhale ukube ubazi ukuthi ngokubheka ngokujulile emvuleni usazolibona ifu.
- Kusuka Akukho Ukufa, Akukho Ukwesaba: Ukududuza Ukuhlakanipha Okuphila
Lokhu kuhlobene ngokuphelele nokufa kwefomu lethu lamanje: asipheli, simane siguqulela esimweni esisha sokuba khona. Amanzi angashintsha abe yizinhlobo eziningi ezahlukahlukene, kepha awapheli Yiba.
7. Ukwesaba Okwenzeka Emzimbeni Emva Kokufa
Uma ngabe ubuke iziqephu eziningi ze-CSI nama-marathons ama-movie asabekayo, kungenzeka ukuthi uyazibuza ukuthi yini engenzeka emzimbeni wakho ngemuva kokufa. (Sawubona i-apocalypse ye-zombie! Uyadlala nje. Cha, impela.)
Noma umzimba wakho uyimoto yesikhashana nje ohamba ngayo, unamathele kuyo futhi usuyinakekele iminyaka, ngakho-ke ukukhathazeka ngokubola kwayo okungenakugwemeka kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele.
Kungumqondo omuhle ukwenza ucwaningo lwakho ngezinketho ezahlukahlukene ezitholakalayo zokuhlunga umzimba wakho uma ungasahlali kuwo. Ukwenza i-aphoyintimenti yokukhuluma nodokotela oshonile kungumbono omuhle, kepha kunezincwadi eziningi okufanele ungene kuzo.
Ukushiswa kwesidumbu nokungcwatshwa kwemvelo kuyizinketho ezimbalwa nje - ungacindezela nomlotha wakho ube yidayimane elincane umuntu othandiweyo angaligqoka, noma umzimba wakho ungcwatshwe ugoqwe ngosigaqa oluzokhula lube ngumuthi omkhulu, omuhle, ondliwe izinsalela zasemhlabeni.
Bheka kuwo, futhi uma usuthathe isinqumo sokuthi iyiphi inketho oyithanda kakhulu, ibhale phansi ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi izokwenzeka.
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Into eyodwa ethusa abantu abaningi umqondo wokuthi ukufa kungenzeka nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ngokoqobo. Sithanda ukuthi izinto zihlelelwe, zithembeke: sithambekele ekugwemeni isimanga, futhi ... ukuphela kwempilo kungasimangaza nakanjani.
Esikhundleni sokufanekisa ukufa njengamandla amabi ahamba ezungeza, alungele ukushaya noma yimuphi umzuzwana, kungcono ukukuthatha njengomngane omnene osikhuthaza ukuba siwujabulele ngokugcwele umzuzu wamanje.
Ekugcineni, yilokhu kuphela esake saba nakho.
Lapho futhi uma uzibamba udidekile ngokuphela kokuphela kwakho, buyisela emuva okwamanje.
Ngobumnene, ngaphandle kokuzigxeka: vele uthathe ukuphefumula okujulile bese ubheka okwenzekayo kulo mzuzwana.
Lokhu umoya, lokhu ukushaya kwenhliziyo, lokhu ukuzwa.
Ngiyazi ukuthi sengikuthinte kaningi lokhu kuma-athikili engiwabhale lapha, kepha ukukhumbula nokuhlala kumzuzu wamanje kungenye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokulwa nokukhathazeka nokuqeda njalo 'kuthiwani uma kuvela', ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngokufa.
Kusivumela futhi ukuthi sikujabulele ngokugcwele futhi sikujabulele konke okwenzekayo, futhi sithole ukuthula okukhulu kuloluhambo olungavamile esilubiza ngokuthi impilo.
