Sonke sihlangabezana nokudumala ezimpilweni zethu ngandlela thile, noma ngabe kubhekene nokuphela kobudlelwano, iphrojekthi yomsebenzi engazange ihleleke, noma imizwa yokuzisola ezimpilweni zethu.
Ukufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokudumazeka futhi unqobe imizwa engakuletha kubaluleke kakhulu ekusisizeni siphile izimpilo ezakhayo, ezinelisekile.
Sizobe sisebenzisa amathiphu ethu aphezulu uma kukhulunywa ngokubhekana nokudumazeka nokuqhubekela phambili.
Amanye ala macebiso abalulekile ekubhekaneni nokudumazeka okukhulu, kanti amanye alungele ukuthola ukudumazeka okuncane, kanti amanye ayasebenza kuzo zombili izimo.
Ukulila
Yize singawuthanda umqondo wokugxumela endleleni yokuphila entsha ngemuva kokuthile okusidumazayo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukudabuka kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokucubungula imicimbi.
Asikho isidingo sokuthi kube nokufa ukuze sidabuke, kungaba ukulahlekelwa okuthile .
Ukuphelelwa ngumsebenzi, ngokusebenzisa ukuhlukana , noma ukuxabana nomngane kungaba yinkinga enkulu.
Usabhekana nokulahlekelwa ngohlobo oluthile, kanye noshintsho olukhulu empilweni yakho, futhi udinga isikhathi sokukudlula ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ngokuqhubeka phambili.
Esikhundleni sokujaha ukuzizwa ungcono ngokushesha lapho kwenzeka okuthile okungalungile, zinike isikhathi sokukucubungula futhi uxhumane nakho ngokuphelele kuwe.
Ukudumazeka kungakhishwa, njengokuncipha kobudlelwano emasontweni ambalwa, noma kungazuma futhi kushaqise.
Kunoma ikuphi, udinga ukuzinika isikhathi esithile sokuqonda okwenzekayo noma okwenzekile.
Vumela ukuzwa okuthile okungekuhle futhi uthole indlela yokukulebula - “Namuhla ngizizwa ngiphatheke kabi ngokuthi…,” “Manje sengizizwa ngithukuthele mayelana…,” “ Ngizizwa nginomona we… ”
Lokhu kungokwemvelo ngokuphelele, ukuziphatha okunempilo.
Ngokubhala imizwa yethu, singaqala kancane kancane ukuyicubungula futhi siziqhelelanise nayo. Lokhu kusisiza ukuthi sidlulele esigabeni esilandelayo sokunqoba ukudumazeka.
Lokho kushiwo, akusizi ngalutho ukuzigingqiza isikhathi eside kakhulu futhi uhlale emizweni nasemicabangweni emibi.
Zinike isikhathi sokuthi weqe imizwa yokuqala (intukuthelo, ukukhungatheka, ukudabuka, njll.) Ngaphambi kokuthi uqhubeke.
Lokhu kuzokubeka ethubeni elingcono kakhulu lokubeka lezo zinqubo zokubhekana nesikhathi eside!
Hlaziya
Cabanga ukuthi yini ngempela siyaqhubeka.
Uma usesikhathini, izinto ezincane zingazizwa njengesivumelwano esikhulu.
Zama ukuthatha isinyathelo emuva futhi ubhekane namaqiniso nawe. Kungakho ukwamukela leyo mizwa enamandla ekuqaleni kuwumqondo omuhle kangako.
Ngesikhathi usuthole lezo zikhathi ezinkulu zokukhala nokufutheka kwentukuthelo ususendleleni, ungaqala ukubheka izinto ngokunengqondo.
Bhala phansi okwenzekile empeleni - amaqiniso, izingcaphuno, noma yini ezokusiza ukhumbule izehlakalo eziyiqiniso.
Bheka emuva kulokhu ngekhanda elicacile bese uqala ukukucubungula futhi.
Ngaphandle kwemizwa enamathiselwe, ingabe okwenzekile kubi ngempela?
Kungenzeka ukuthi usathukuthele, futhi sinezindlela eziningi zokunqoba le mizwa.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi awusadingi ukuqhubeka uphendule ngemizwa enamandla kangako.
Zikhumbuze ukuthi yize ukuziphatha kwakho kungaba okwemvelo, akunampilo ikakhulukazi ukuzitika ngakho isikhathi eside.
Khulumisanani
Ukukhuluma ngalokho okuzwayo kungenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokubhekana nezinto eziningi empilweni, futhi ukubhekana nokudumazeka akuhlukile.
Qiniseka ukuthi uyamethemba noma ubani okhuluma naye - singaphakamisa ukuthi ugweme ukuthululela isifuba kozakwenu ngemizwa yakho ejulile ngaphandle kokuthi ubazi kahle, ikakhulukazi uma kuthinta noma iyiphi ingxenye yomsebenzi.
Uma ulwela ukwehliswa wukwehliswa okuthile obukade usebenza kanzima kukho, kungaba lula impela ukuphuma futhi sola abanye abantu .
Esikhundleni sokwenza lokhu, khuluma nabanye ngokuthi uzizwa kanjani njengoba lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ukusebenzise.
Ukuhamba ngekhefu noma ubhekane nokwehla kobungane kungacasula kakhulu. Ukudumala okuvela kuwo kungaba luhlaza kakhulu, yingakho ukukhuluma ngakho kungakusiza ukuthi uqhubeke.
Prakthiza Ukubonga Nokucabanga
Bheka ukuzindla - lokhu kungasiza ukwehlisa ingqondo yakho lapho uzizwa ucindezelekile.
Ukudumazeka kungakwenza kubangela imizwa eminingi ehlukene , kufaka phakathi ukucindezeleka, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukubhekana nale mizwa yesibili, futhi.
Thatha isikhathi sokuzijwayeza ukucabanga. Kungenza umehluko omkhulu ekutheni uzicubungula kanjani izimo ezikushiya uzizwa uphelelwe amandla noma wehlisiwe.
Lesi sikhathi sikusiza ukuthi zimise phansi futhi ubekhona, ume kancane ukucabanga ngalokho okwenzayo yenza usenayo empilweni yakho, noma ngabe uzizwa uphatheke kabi ngokungabi bikho kokuthile noma komunye umuntu.
ubani osasha bank oshadile
Ukubonga kuyinto abaningi bethu abasheshe bayilahle - siyazi ukuthi sinenhlanhla yokuba nophahla phezu kwamakhanda ethu nokudla esikudlayo.
Kepha kuthiwani ngakho konke okunye?
Qeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuthi ijule futhi ihlole ezinye izinto ezinkulu empilweni yakho, njengabathandekayo futhi noma yimaphi amathalente onawo , kanye nezinto ezifana nempilo yakho, ubuhlakani, nozwela.
Ngokuzilungiselela ukubonga nokuzazi, uzozizwa unethezeke ngokwengeziwe, uzinzile, futhi uzethembile empilweni yakho nasekukhetheni kwakho.
Lokho kusho ukuthi uma okuthile kungayi ukuhlelela futhi ngokuzayo, usuyazi vele ukuthi usesimweni esimnandi futhi ngeke uzizwe ukhathazeke kakhulu.
Ukuthi isici esisodwa sempilo yakho akusiyona indlela obefuna ngayo, akusho ukuthi usengakwazi ukugxila ekutheni konke okunye kuhle kanjani.
Ngokuzibeka ngale ndlela, maningi amathuba okuthi ubhekane nanoma ikuphi ukudumazeka esikhathini esizayo ngokushesha nangokwempilo, kukusize uqhubeke ngendlela enhle.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Nokuphoxeka Ebudlelwaneni
- Ungakunqoba Kanjani Ukuphelela: Izindlela Ezi-8 Zokwamukela Okungaphansi Kokuhle Kakhulu
- Ungamisa Kanjani Ukuzizwa Njengokwehluleka
- Ungakunaki Kanjani Okucatshangwa Abantu
Sebenza
Ezinye izici zalolu hlu zigxile kakhulu enhlalakahleni nasengqondweni. Singaphakamisa lezi zinqubo zokubhekana nawo wonke umuntu, kunjalo, kepha siyazi ukuthi abantu basabela ezintweni ezihlukile.
Uma ungakatholi lutho oluvela kulolu hlu oluzwana nawe okwamanje, mhlawumbe ingqondo yakho isebenza nje ngendlela ehlukile.
Ukusebenza kuyindlela enhle yokucabanga, ikakhulukazi kulabo abajwayele ukuchezuka kulokho abakubona njengezixazululo ze- 'hippie' futhi bazonde umcabango wokuzindla egumbini elikhanyise amakhandlela!
Ukugcina umzimba wakho usesimweni esihle kuyisihluthulelo kuzo zonke izinhlobo zempilo, kepha ukuhamba nokuzibandakanya nomzimba wakho kunjalo, kukhulu kakhulu uma kuziwa ekubhekaneni nezinsizi zomzwelo.
Impilo yakho yengqondo izothuthuka kakhulu lapho uqala ukufaka ukuzivocavoca empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.
Ukwengeza ukuzivocavoca indlela yakho yokuphila kunenzuzo enkulu uma kukhulunywa ngokubhekana nokudumazeka. Uphinde uthole amandla akho, angakhohlwa kalula uma ulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi noma uqeda ubudlelwano.
Sizilahlekisela kokuningi ezimpilweni zethu - imisebenzi, ubudlelwano, ubungane - okuningi kwakho okungaba nobuthi obusabekayo.
Ngokuzivocavoca, siphinde sixhumane nemizimba yethu futhi sikhumbule ukuthi siyakwazi.
Kungenzeka singabi abaphakamisa amandla (okwamanje!) Kodwa thina can yenza izinto.
Singahle singabi ngamajubane, kepha imizimba yethu iyakwazi ukunyakaza nokusithwala.
Kungenzeka singabi ngabavocavoci bomzimba, kepha singakwazi ukuzibandakanya nemizimba yethu nge-yoga ne-Pilates.
Lapho sithola amandla ethu ngokomzimba, impilo yethu yengqondo iba ngcono, futhi lokho kubandakanya ukukwazi ukubhekana kangcono nokudumazeka, ukudabuka nosizi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzivocavoca umzimba kusinika umfutho wokuzizwa-okuhle kwama-hormone we-dopamine kanye ne-serotonin. Lokhu kushaywa kusiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka okungokomzwelo okusheshayo.
Yenza Ushintsho Olungokomzimba
Futhi, singakhuluma konke esikuthandayo ngokucabanga ngomqondo 'wokomoya', kepha abanye abantu badinga okuthile okungokwenyama ukuze bazizwe sengathi izinto ziyashintsha empeleni.
Uma ufuna okuthile okuqinile ngokwengeziwe, yenza ushintsho lomzimba. Ngokwenza okuthile ongakwenza bheka okwenzekayo, uzoqala ukuzwa ukulawula futhi.
Uma ukuzindla kungakusebenzeli, shintsha okuthile ukuze ubone okuthile okuthintekayo.
Hlela kabusha indawo yakho yokuhlala, ugunde izinwele, uthole ukubhoboza okusha, noma uthenge izicathulo ezintsha.
Lokhu kungahle kungabonakali njengezindlela ezinhle zokubhekana nazo ekuqaleni, kepha kunesayensi ethile ngemuva kwakho konke!
Ngokushintsha okuthile ongakuthinta ngokomzimba futhi ukubone, ukhunjuzwa ukuthi unokulawula okuthile kwezinye izinto.
Ngokuzikhumbuza ngale mandla onawo, uzoqala ukuguqula umqondo wakho.
Thatha Ukulawula
Khumbula ukuthi, yize izinto zizwakala kanjani, nguwe olawula indlela osabela ngayo. Kungakuthatha isikhashana ukufika lapho, kepha ungakhetha ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nosuku ngalunye.
Siyazi ukuthi akunangqondo ngathi ukuphakamisa ukuthi uqale nsuku zonke uzizwe unethemba futhi ukulungele ukuqhubeka, ngakho-ke yiba neqiniso kuwe futhi uhloniphe noma yini oyizwayo okwamanje.
‘Umzuzwana’ igama eliyisihluthulelo lapho - kulungile ukuzizwa uphansi lapho ukhunjuzwa ngento ekucasulayo, kodwa ungaphenduli imizuzu emihlanu yokudabuka ibe usuku lonke lokubhujiswa!
Zikhumbuze ukuthi unamandla okushintsha umqondo wakho. Isikhathi esincane ozinika sona sokuzizwa uphansi usuku ngalunye, isikhathi esincane inqubo yokuphulukisa izothatha.
Thola izindlela zokuziphazamisa, noma ngabe ukuchitha isikhathi nabangane, ukubukela ama-movie amadala, noma ukushaya ijimu.
Zama izindlela ezahlukahlukene zokuzinika amandla futhi uzoqala ngokushesha ukunqoba ubunzima obhekene nabo.
Zijwayeze ukuzinakekela
Yiba lukhuni kodwa ube mnene! Njengoba sisho, khumbula ukuthi uyakwazi ukulawula imizwa yakho, kepha yiba nomusa kuwe , futhi.
Ukwenza ingqondo nomzimba wakho kusebenze ngokuvuselela noma yini eyenzekile ukuze uzizwe kabi kakhulu kuzokwenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu.
kanjani ukwenza izinto lapho nesithukuthezi sakho
Uma ucindezelwa ngokwengeziwe, lesi simo sizoba sibi kakhulu, futhi kuzokuthatha isikhathi eside ukudlula kuso.
Zama ukugcina amazinga akho okucindezeleka ephansi ngangokunokwenzeka. Yize kukuhle ukuziphazamisa futhi uhlale umatasa, ungakwenzi ngokweqile.
Phakathi kokuzijwayeza i-yoga nokujoyina amakilasi omphakathi amasha, zinike isikhathi sokuphumula.
Yiba namabhafu amaningi, funda ngaphambi kokulala, ziphathe ngezitayi zamakhambi namakhekhe asekuseni!
Ufanelwe ukuzizwa umuhle ngawe, futhi le nqubo yonke izothatha umthwalo omkhulu ekuzihlonipheni kwakho.
Ngokuzivuza ngezindlela ezincane usuku ngalunye, kungaba ubusuku bamabhayisikobho noma uzithengele izimbali ezithile, uzoqala ukubuyela ekuzinakekeleni nasekuzibonakaliseni uthando.
Lokhu ngeke kukwenze uzizwe ungcono njengamanje, kuzokusiza nokuthi ubhekane nanoma yini ngokuzayo njengoba uzobe ukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho nokufunda kwakho ukuthi ungazithanda kanjani futhi .
Funa Usizo Lobuchwepheshe
Vele, kwesinye isikhathi, ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe kungumbono omuhle.
Singanikeza izeluleko eziningi kepha, kwabanye abantu, ukwesekwa okuqhubekayo kuyadingeka.
Uma izinto zizwakala zingaphezu kwamandla noma ulwela ukuqhubeka isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuthi kwenzeke okuthile, kufanelekile ukuvakashela udokotela wakho.
Bazokwazi ukukululeka ngezindlela ezinhle zokubhekana nazo futhi banqobe noma yini eyenzekayo empilweni yakho.
Kungenzeka ukuthi udinga usizo lokulungisa kabusha ama-hormone wakho, ngokwesibonelo, njengoba ukungalingani kungakwenza ngempela lahla imizwa yakho .
Bangakudlulisela ekwelulekeni noma baphakamise izindlela zokukusiza uzikhulule futhi uphumule, kufaka phakathi izindlela zokwenza ngcono amazinga akho okulala , okufanele ikunikeze umfutho wokuqhubekela phambili.
Ukuthola amasu akusebenzelayo kungukhiye wayo yonke le nqubo, ngokwemvelo.
Kungathatha isikhashana ukuthola izindlela zokubhekana nezimo ezikusebenzelayo, kodwa uzofika lapho kuphela ngokuzama nokwenza amaphutha.
Zama ukwenza izinto ezahlukahlukene bese ugcina ukuthi yini ekwenza uzizwe ungcono nokuthi yini engabonakali ishintsha imizwa yakho kakhulu. Bese uqhubeka nalabo abasebenzayo bese udonsa labo abangasebenzi.
