Kukhona isisho esihamba ngokuthile: 'Ngokuvamile abantu beza empilweni yakho ngesizathu, inkathi, noma impilo yonke.'
Uma ucabanga ngabantu asebeke bangena emhlabeni nangaphandle komhlaba wakho phakathi nempilo yakho kuze kube manje, uzobona ukuthi lokho kuyiqiniso kangakanani… noma ngabe isizathu sokufika kwabo (nokuhamba okungenzeka) besingabonakali ngaleso sikhathi.
Nansi into: uthando lunamandla futhi luyaguquguquka futhi luhle, kepha akudingeki ukuthi luhlale amashumi eminyaka ambalwa ukuze lube nomthelela omkhulu ezimpilweni zethu.
Singathola ubuhle obungenakulinganiswa, imfudumalo, ubungane, nothando nomuntu osezimpilweni zethu okwesikhashana nje, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ubudlelwano obufushane obunomthelela ophawulekayo kithi bunganelisa kakhulu futhi buguqule impilo kunokuphikisana nje. uxhumano oluhlala iminyaka engama-40.
Izifundo Zokufunda
Wake waba nobuhlobo obakusiza ukuthi ukhule njengomuntu oyedwa?
Mhlawumbe kwakuwuthando lwesivunguvungu nomuntu ongamazi ngenkathi usohambweni, noma ubudlelwano obunesiphithiphithi nomuntu obumthanda ngenhliziyo yakho yonke, kepha obugcwele idrama nobunzima?
Cishe ukubheja okuphephile ukuthi umuzwa ngamunye ukufundise izifundo ezibalulekile ngempilo, uthando, nokuthi ungubani njengomuntu. Kungenzeka nokuthi ungubani, noma ungafuni ukuba ngubani.
Uma u ukuwa ikhanda phezu kwezithende othandweni nomuntu okuphonsela inselelo emazingeni amaningi, ungafunda ukubekezela okukhulu, uzwela, nozwela. Nabo bangafunda kunjani ukuthandwa ngaphandle kwemibandela njengoba zinjalo, kunokugxekwa ngokungaphili ngokuvumelana nokulindelwe okungenangqondo komunye umuntu.
Ukuba nothando, ubuhlobo obuseduze ngomuntu angapholisa amanxeba akudala, wakhe kabusha ukwethembana , futhi uvule izici zakho obekucatshangwa ukuthi kade zahamba. Kodwa-ke lokho kuxhumana akuhloselwe ukuhlala impilo yonke: kuhloselwe ukuba kudlule isikhathi ukufundisa okudingekayo kulowo mzuzu ukuze nobabili niqhubeke futhi niqhubeke nokufunda, futhi nikhule.
ungazi kanjani uma umngane wakho engumbombayi
Uthando Lwesikhathi Esifushane ALUYONA “UKUHLULEKA”
Abantu abaningi bagwinye iphilisi elisifundisa ukuthi ubudlelwano obufanele yinjongo yokugcina esiyifisayo. Bayakhohlwa ukuthi okubalulekile ukukhula nokuhlangenwe nakho okuza nobudlelwano uqobo.
Cishe yisikhathi esisichitha nabanye - ukusebenzisana, sisizane sikhule futhi siguquke futhi sibe ngabantu abangcono - hhayi nje ukufinyelela entanjeni ethile okulindeleke ukuthi ihlale njengoba injalo ingunaphakade.
Lokho kungaholela ekumeni, ukuthukuthela, nokudelela, futhi ukuba nobudlelwano obunothando bunyibilike kulolo hlobo lobubi kuyinto engagwemeka kangcono. Akungcono yini kakhulu ukucabanga ngothando ngokuxhumeka okujulile kodwa okungapheli kunokuzama ukubambelela entweni ethile kuphela ukuze ibune futhi ife?
Konke kunomjikelezo wokuphila wemvelo, futhi lokho kufaka phakathi ubudlelwane bothando. Futhi, sibekelwe ukuthi sikholwe ukuthi ngaphandle kokuthi ubudlelwano buholele emshadweni / ubudlelwano obuhlala kuze kube sekufeni, bekube 'ukwehluleka,' kepha lokhu kuyinkunzi enkulu *.
Uma umuntu eshiya umsebenzi ubekade eneminyaka emihlanu noma eyishumi ngoba edinga ukushintsha inkambo emsebenzini wakhe, wehluleka kulowo msebenzi? Cha, ababona abantu abafanayo ngesikhathi beqala, futhi babona ukuthi izidingo zabo zishintshile ngokufanele.
Awuyena umuntu ofanayo nobewuyisonto eledlule, ingasaphathwa eyonyaka, noma eyishumi edlule. Abantu bayashintsha njalo, futhi hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngasohlangothini olufanayo, ngakho-ke akunakugwemeka ukuthi ubudlelwano obuningi buzophela uma sebenze injongo yabo.
Lokhu akukhona ukwehluleka, ukukhula komuntu siqu, futhi kufanele kwaziswe futhi kuhlonishwe kanjalo, kunokulahlwa. Ukuphoqa ubudlelwano ukuthi buhlale isikhathi eside kunokuba kufanele ngenxa yesibopho, noma ukwesaba ukwehluleka, kusho ukuthi asikwazisi ngempela ukuxhumana okwamanje ... futhi lokho kwenza izinhlangothi zombili zingasebenzi kahle.
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- Izimpawu Eziqinisekile Zothando Olungafuneki (Nalokho Ongakwenza Ngalo)
Imvelo Yothando Ephemeral Ingakhuthaza Ukwazisa Okuqotho
Imvamisa, ukukholwa ukuthi okuthile kuzohlala unomphela kungaholela kithi ukuyithatha kalula , futhi lokho kuya ebudlelwaneni bothando kanye nezinto zomzimba.
Ukulindela kuyinto iningi lethu elinecala layo, futhi ukulindela ukuthi ubudlelwano buzohlala unomphela kusho ukuthi izinto eziningi ezibalulekile koyedwa noma kubo bobabili abalingani ziyahlehliselwa eceleni ukuthi zenziwe 'ekugcineni.' Kuzohlala kunesikhathi saso kamuva, akunjalo?
Ukhohlwe usuku lwabo lokuzalwa? Ungakhathali, okulandelayo kuzoba kuhle.
Azikho izinhlelo zokugubha usuku lokuzalwa? Inothi lakho: ngokuzayo.
Njll i-nauseum.
Uma sibazisa ubudlelwano esikhathini samanje futhi sivuma iqiniso lokuthi bungahlali unomphela, kusinikeza umbono omusha. Kungenzeka kungabi khona unyaka olandelayo wokwenza okuthile okuhle ngosuku lokuzalwa lomlingani wakho, ngakho-ke kuwumqondo omuhle ukwenza lokhu kubalwe.
Ngabe benze umzamo esidlweni esimnandi ikakhulukazi ngaphandle kwesizathu ngaphandle kokuthi bebecabanga ukuthi sizokumomotheka? Bazise ukuthi ukwazisa kangakanani abakwenzile, nokuthi kusho ukuthini kuwe ukuthi bakwenzile lokho. Kungenzeka kungaphinde kwenzeke, ngakho-ke thokozela umzuzu - nambitha konke ukuluma, uphinde ubuyisele ngendlela yakho ngokushesha okukhulu.
Lapho siphatha into noma ubudlelwano njengobungadlula ngokushesha, sithambekele ekukuthokozeleni kakhulu kunokuthi uma sikugudluza njengento ezohlala ikhona unomphela, bese siyikhumbula uma isiphelile futhi sizibuze ukuthi kwenzekeni nokuthi kungani singakwenzanga ' ngiyijabulele ngenkathi isakhona.
Uthando Langempela Akulona Njalo Ukuxhuma Kwezothando
Kwesinye isikhathi, ungahlangana nomuntu futhi uxhumane nomphefumulo osheshayo nabo. Uzohlanganyela enkampanini yabo, umomothekise ubuso bakho ngaso sonke isikhathi uma nindawonye, nikhulume amahora amaningi ngayo yonke into engaphansi kwelanga, futhi anikwazi ukulinda ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nabo.
… Kepha lokho akusho ukuthi ukuxhumana onakho okwezothando.
Sixhuma nabantu abehlukene ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, kepha iningi lethu lifakwe kumabonakude nakumafilimu ukukholwa ukuthi uthando lwezithandani yilona oluyikho konke futhi luphela-lwabo bonke ubudlelwano, ukuthi singabophezeleka ekuqondeni kabi ubungani obusuka enhliziyweni nothando lwezothando. .
Noma ngabe i- 'bromance' phakathi kwezithandani ezizwana ngobuqotho, ubungani obufana nodade phakathi kwabesifazane, noma uxhumano lwe-platonic phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane okusondelene kakhulu kunabangani noma umndeni, uthando lwangempela lungasiphephetha ngamandla alo nokubekezela.
Ngokubeka ngokusobala, awudingi ukugunda umuntu ukuze uzwe uthando olukhulu nokuxhumeka okujulile komphefumulo. Uthando lukaPlato, olususelwa ebunganeni lungacishe lube namandla amakhulu, futhi noma ngabe luhlala uhambo olulodwa lokuhamba ngezinyawo oludabula i-Iceland noma iminyaka engama-20 nangaphezulu, lunamandla okuniguqula nobabili ngezindlela ezijulile.
Ekugcineni, baningi izinhlobo zothando , kanye nencazelo yothando ingahluka kakhulu kumuntu ngamunye oyitholayo. Okusemqoka wukukhanya ekukhanyeni kwawo lapho futhi uma unethuba lokwenza kanjalo. Ungalokothi ulahle ithuba lokuthanda, noma ngabe kungasabisa. Ungahle ulimale, impela, kepha ungahle uhlangabezane nento enhle engalinganiselwe. Noma kungahlala isikhashana nje, uzoshintshwa yisipiliyoni, futhi ngokuqinisekile ube ngcono.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokuphela kobuhlobo bakho? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
