Incazelo Yangempela Yothando Olungenamibandela (+ Ungaluqonda Kanjani)

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Abanye abantu babheka uthando olungenamibandela njengenganekwane emsulwa, inganekwane okwabiwe futhi kwaseshwa kuwo wonke umlando wesintu.



Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi akuyona eyangempela kuphela, kodwa into ekhona kakhulu ekhona.

Lo mbhalo uzophakamisa ukuthi kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukuthanda ngokungenamibandela, kepha ukuthi abantu abaningi bamane abakuqondi kahle ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukwenza njalo.



Sizohlola izingqikithi bese sikala amaphuzu enkulumompikiswano ukuzama nokunikeza incazelo ecacile yothando ngendlela yalo engenamibandela.

Okungenamibandela = Ukuzidela

Incazelo engokoqobo yegama elingenamibandela ayinayo imibandela, kepha lokhu ukuhumusha kanjani kube ngokoqobo?

Ukuphendula lokhu, kufanele uqale ngokubheka ukuthi luyini uthando olunemibandela .

izinto okufanele wazi ngempilo

Uthando olunemibandela luyisinamathiselo nomuzwa womuntu oncike kuye ngokuziphatha ngendlela ethile.

Enhliziyweni yayo kunombono wokuthi umuntu onikeza uthando (isithandwa) wenza kanjalo ngoba uthola okuthile ngokubuyisela - okungukuthi impendulo evela kumuntu othola uthando (othandekayo) oluhlangabezana nolwabo, kaningi okungenangqondo, okulindelwe .

Ngokunemba ngokwengeziwe, luthando oluthembele kothandekayo HHAYI ukwenza ngendlela isithandwa esikuthola kungamukeleki noma kungabekezeleleki.

Uthando olungenamibandela, ngakolunye uhlangothi, lukhona ngokungabi bikho kwalowo othandekayo.

Kweqa konke ukuziphatha futhi akuncikile nganoma iyiphi indlela yokuphindisela.

Akunabugovu ngokuphelele futhi ngokuphelele.

indlela yokubhekana nabantu abanenkani

Ayikwazi ukunikezwa ngokugeleza okuningi ngaphandle komzamo osuka enhliziyweni yomuntu kunokuba ize ngokuqonda engqondweni yomuntu.

Akukho lutho olungama endleleni yothando olungenamibandela.

Ukufisela Othandekayo Okuhle

Ngokuzidela kuza isifiso sokugcina sokubona othandekayo echuma futhi ethola ukwaneliseka.

Akudingeki ukuthi ibandakanye noma yiziphi izenzo ohlangothini lwesithandwa, kepha kuvame ukwenzeka.

Kwesinye isikhathi kuhilela nezinga lokuzidela komuntu siqu.

Kungamandla okushayela okukugqugquzela ukuthi wenze noma yini ongakwenza ukusiza othandekayo wakho abe yinguqulo engcono kakhulu kubo.

Kuqala Kudinga Ukuzithanda

Ukuze uthande umuntu ngaphandle kwemibandela, kufanele uqale ngokuzithanda ngendlela efanayo.

Kufanele ufunde ukwamukela ukuthi ungubani ngaphandle kokufuna ukushintsha.

Uma ugcizelela ukuthi ushintsho luyadingeka, ubeka imibandela othandweni onalo ngawe.

Lokhu akusho ukuthi ushintsho ngeke lwenzeke, kepha luzoba ngokwemvelo, olungaphoqelelwe, futhi olunganakwa.

Kuphela lapho uyeka ukujaha izinguquko kuwe lapho ungaqala ukuthanda abanye ngaphandle kwesidingo sabo sokushintsha.

Kungaleso sikhathi lapho uthando lungathathwa njengolungenamibandela.

Ukukholelwa Kokuhle Umuntu Anakho

Lapho uthando lunikezwa ngaphandle kwemibandela, kuwuphawu lokuthi uyakwazi ukubona okubi kakhulu kumuntu kodwa ube usakholelwa ukuthi bayakufanelekela uzwela lwakho.

Yingxenye yakho ethethelela okubonakala kungenakuthethelelwa lapho kungekho omunye umuntu okwaziyo ukukwenza.

Uthando olungenamibandela alukwahluleli futhi alunikezeli kulabo umphakathi ongabathatha njengokuziphatha okubi noma okubi.

Kuyinkolelo yokubona ngaphezu kwamaphutha angaphandle omuntu ukuze agxile, kunalokho, kwisidalwa esingaphakathi abanye abangasibiza ngokuthi ngumphefumulo.

Ngeke Kushiwo, Kuzwakala Kuphela

Umbono oyiphutha wokuqala ngothando olungenamibandela ukuthi ungamemezela komunye umuntu.

Kukhona ithuba lokuthi uyabhekana nakho, kepha futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwa usondelene kakhulu nayo, kepha ngandlela thile untula.

Ayikho indlela yokubikezela ukuthi ungasabela kanjani kumuntu esimweni esithile esinikeziwe.

umfana akaze angithumele imiyalezo kuqala kepha uhlala ephendula

Ungathola ukuthi kunemikhawulo othandweni lwakho obukade ungalwazi phambilini.

Ngenxa yokungaqiniseki okungokwemvelo kwesikhathi esizayo, uthando olungenamibandela lungaba khona njengomuzwa hhayi njengomqondo wengqondo noma owokukhuluma (le ndatshana uqobo lwayo ngeke ichaze umongo wayo).

Ngeke wazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi lokho okuzwayo kunguthando olungenamibandela, kepha lokhu akukuphikisi nakancane ukuba khona kwakho.

ukwazi kanjani ukuthi intombazane inentshisekelo

Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):

Ubudlelwano Akudingeki Bube Nemibandela Futhi

Okunye ukungaqondi okuvamile inkolelo yokuthi uthando olungenamibandela ludinga ukuthi wamukele noma yini oyithandayo kuwe.

Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi ubudlelwano bube nezimo ezahlukahlukene kubo - imingcele ethile - kepha uthando alunalo.

Ungenza ukukhetha uku qeda ubuhlobo ngoba kubandakanya ukuhlukunyezwa noma ngoba othandiweyo wakho wenze ngendlela ongeke uyikhiphe esiswini.

Lokhu akudingeki ukuthi kusho ukuphela kothando lwakho ngabo.

Kungenzeka ukuthi usabafisela okuhle kodwa, ubone okuhle kubo, futhi zamukele njengoba zinjalo - izakhiwo zothando olungenamibandela ezichazwe ngenhla.

Kungenzeka ukuthi uzobathanda ukude kunokuba ubanjwe yisimo esingazilimaza.

Ubudlelwano kungukubambisana phakathi kwabantu ababili.

Ubudlelwano abuwona umuzwa - abulona uthando lwanoma yiluphi uhlobo - buyisitsha nje lapho uthando lungafakwa khona.

Uma ubambiswano lungasimami, umkhumbi ungaphuka, kepha uthando alupheli njalo lungasuswa ngaphandle kobudlelwano futhi lube lodwa.

Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi uthando olungenamibandela alunasisekelo ezenzweni nasekuziphatheni kothandekayo.

Izimpilo zakho zingagcina zithathe izindlela ezihluke ngokuphelele kuze kufike ezingeni lapho ubudlelwane buba nzima khona, kepha uthando lwakho ngabo alunciphi.

Ungathola Imizwelo Emibi ngasikhathi sinye

Uthando olungenamibandela alusho ukuthi uzizwa ufudumele futhi uthando maqondana nesithandwa sakho ngaso sonke isikhathi ungumuntu phela.

Ungabathukuthelela, ubakhungathekise, futhi ulimale yibo ngenkathi usabathanda.

Ukuba nezimpikiswano akulunciphisi uthando oluza ngaphandle kwezimo ngokweqiniso.

Njengoba nje amagagasi aphezu kolwandle engakuthinti ukujula okungezansi, ukuphakama kwemvelo nokuphakama kobuhlobo akukwazi ukungena ekujuleni ngokwanele ukuthinte umuzwa oyisisekelo.

Uthando olungenamibandela Ngokombono Ongokomoya

Izinkolo eziningi nemikhuba engokomoya ifaka umqondo wokungabi bobabili futhi lokhu kungaba ngomunye umthombo wothando olungenamibandela.

Uma uzizwa uhlukile kwabanye, unenketho yokuthi uyabathanda noma cha, kepha uma ubheka umakhelwane wakho ngendlela ozibheka ngayo, uthando alunakugwemeka.

Uma uhlala ukhululekile emikhawulweni yengqondo ekhona kuningi labantu futhi uhlangabezana nomhlaba nakho konke okukuwo njengokwakho, kungani ungakhetha okunye ngaphandle kothando?

Yize kuyivelakancane, lolu hlobo lothando olungenamibandela lukhona kwabanye abantu.

Akufanele Kubekho Icala Lapho Kushoda khona

Ungazizwa ubheke komunye noma ungeke, kepha ukungabikho kothando olungenamibandela akuyona into okufanele uzizwe unecala ngayo.

buza indawo yonke ukuthi ufunani

Kangangokuthi ungafisa ukuzizwa ngale ndlela futhi uzibonele izizathu zokwenza njalo, akunakufunwa ukuthi kube khona.

Lokhu uhlobo lothando akunakufiseleka, kungajahwa, noma kuqongelelwe. Kungaba njalo.

Kungaba buhlungu ukubona ukuthi uthando lwakho ngomunye lunezimo, kepha lokhu akuyona into ongayilawula.

Ngakho-ke ungazishayi lapho uthando lwakho ngomuntu luyaphela , ukube beyenzelwe ukuthi iqhubeke ivutha, bekuzokwenza.