Ingqondo iyisithiyo esikhulu empumelelweni nasekuzithuthukiseni kubantu abaningi…
Ukwesaba esikugcinayo ngokungaziwa ngempilo, ikusasa, nokukhetha kwethu kungaphazamisa ikhono lethu lokwenza okuthile.
Inkinga ukuthi ngaphandle kokuthi sikhethe ukubhekana nokwesaba kwethu, bangahle bahlanganise izinkinga ebezikhona bese bakha ezintsha ngemuva kwabo.
Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi ungathola ukukhululeka kokuqhubekela phambili ngokuqonda lapho ukwesaba kwakho okungaziwa kuvela khona, ukubhekana nakho, nokukunqoba.
Abantu abaningi bayakhululeka futhi bakhe ukuzethemba njengoba bemukela futhi bengena kokungaziwa, beqhubekela phambili ezindaweni ezibenza bangakhululeki.
Ungase ucabange ngayo njengomatilosi osanda kungena olwandle, oqonde olwandle okokuqala. Kuningi okungaziwa lapho izinto zingonakala khona…
… Kepha lapho bephuma kakhulu, kulapho abanamakhono, ulwazi, nokunethezeka lapho bezoba nabantu abangaziwa.
Bakha ukuzethemba emandleni abo okuhamba ngendlela engaziwa. Futhi lokho kuhlangana kahle kulesi sicaphuno esithandwayo!
Umkhumbi osebeni lasethekwini uphephile, kepha lokho akukhona okwenzelwe imikhumbi. - UJohn A. Shedd
Awuzelanga ukuhlala phansi ubole ethekwini eliphephile. Ulapha ukushiya umaki emhlabeni obekufanele uwushiye, futhi lokho kuzodinga ukuya kokungaziwa.
ngazi kanjani ukuthi uyangithanda
Umuntu ukunqoba kanjani ukwesaba kwabo okungaziwa?
1. Buza ukuthi ukwesaba kwakho okungaziwa kuvelaphi?
Ukwesaba kungokwemvelo yemvelo yomuntu okukhona ukusigcina ekulimaleni. Ungumuntu ongajwayelekile ongazizwa esaba nakancane.
Labo abanokwesaba okumbalwa kungenzeka ukuthi bake babhekana nokwabo noma bakhululeka ngabo ukuze badlule kubo.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, isibindi sikhetha ukugqolozela ukwesaba ebusweni bese wenza noma kunjalo.
Ukwesaba okungaziwa kungahle kubangelwe yisimo esisabisayo, isimo, noma izinkumbulo zemizamo edlule eyahamba kabi.
Lolo hlobo lokwesaba lungadukisa ngoba umuntu angahle angabi nomqondo onembile wokuthi luyini usongo empeleni.
Ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kuvame ukuba kukhulu kakhulu emqondweni wethu kunaseqinisweni. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi okuthile akuhambanga kahle esikhathini esedlule futhi sagcina sesiphazamisekile noma salimala, akusho ukuthi into efanayo izophinda yenzeke.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ukwesaba okungaziwa kungaba umphumela wokuzizwa ungalawuleki.
Umuntu angazethemba futhi aqiniseke ngaye uma ezwa ukuthi angabikezela ukuthi into izokwenzeka kanjani.
Ukwehluleka kokulawula kungadala ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, kanye nengcindezi ngazo zonke izindlela ezingaba khona okungahambi kahle.
Akuyona into engavamile ngabantu abanezinkinga zokukhathazeka ukuba ukulawula , njengoba bezama ngokungazelelwe ukuthola ukukhululeka ekukhathazekeni kwabo okuyisisekelo ngakho konke okungonakala kungahambi kahle.
Ukujwayeleka noma okulindelwe kokuthi isimo esithile sizohamba kanjani kusinikeza induduzo, njengoba sinomuzwa wokuthi singathembela kumbangela nomphumela wezenzo zethu.
Asikho ngempela isizathu sokukhathazeka uma sazi ukuthi i-Action A izoba nomphumela B. Kodwa, iqiniso ukuthi izinhlelo ezibekiwe kahle kakhulu zingahamba kabi.
Kwesinye isikhathi sibhekana nezimo zangaphandle ebesingazibikezeli futhi sidinga ukwethemba ukuthi singakwazi ukuzisingatha.
kuyenzeka yini ukuthanda umuntu kakhulu kubuhlungu
Umuntu kumele akhombe ukuthi yini ayesabayo nokuthi kungani eyisaba…
Ngabe ukwehlulwa okwedlule? Ingabe akwaziwa? Ingabe kuyinto enkulu futhi esabisayo oyithathayo?
Lolu lwazi lwempande luzosiza ukuhola izinqumo zakho zesikhathi esizayo zokuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani.
2. Cwaninga futhi uqonde izingozi zangempela ezihambisana nokwesaba kwakho.
Ingqondo iyakwazi ukunweba, isonte, futhi isontise ukwesaba okungaziwa kube yinto enkulu kakhulu kunalokho kungenxa yesimo esingaphatheki salokho kwesaba okuthile.
Uma wenza okungaziwa kwaziwe futhi uqonde izingozi ezihambisana nakho, ungakwazi zizungeze kabusha futhi ugcine ingqondo yakho ingasuki kokwesaba ibe yinto enkulu kunalokho eyikho.
Okunye ukwesaba okuningi kugxile kokungaziwa, futhi lokho kwenza ukuzijwayeza okungaziwa kube namandla amakhulu kakhulu ekuqedeni ukwesaba kwakho.
Yini into ofuna ukuyenza? Yiziphi izingozi ezihambisana nakho?
Ungathola imininingwane cishe nganoma yini nge-inthanethi kufaka phakathi imininingwane ebalulekile evela kochwepheshe, ongoti, ochwepheshe, nabantu asebevele bephumelele ukwenza noma yini ozama ukuyifeza.
Qala ekugcineni bese usebenza emuva. Linganisa umgomo wakho ngokuwubhala phansi bese usebenza ubuyele emuva kuze kube seqophelweni lokuthi manje.
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Le ndlela izokugcina ungangeni ku- Ukuhlaziywa Ukukhubazeka isicupho, lapho umuntu echitha nje isikhathi esiningi ngokweqile ehlaziya futhi ecwaninga esikhundleni sokwenza uhlelo lwezinto azenzayo futhi alulandele.
Hlela izingozi eziningi zangempela ngangokunokwenzeka! Futhi uma kuvela okuthile obukade ungakwazi, phindela emuva ukuthola isisombululo okungenzeka ukuthi umuntu usesitholile. Asikho isidingo sokuvuselela isondo.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Nokwesaba Kwakho Ukufa Futhi Wenze Ukuthula Ngokufa
- Ungakunqoba Kanjani Ukwesaba Inguquko Futhi Ngokuzethemba Ubhekane Nezinselelo Ezintsha
- Ungakuguqula Kanjani Ukwesaba Kwakho Ukwehluleka Kube Isisusa Sokuphumelela
- Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukushaya Inhlekelele Ngemicimbi Esempilweni Yakho
- Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukukhathazeka Okuncane Okulindelwe Ngaphambi Kokukuhlula
3. Vumela izinyathelo ezincane ziphenduke amagxathu amakhulu.
Izimo ezahlukahlukene zidinga izindlela ezahlukahlukene zokuthi uzifeza kanjani.
Kwesinye isikhathi kungcono ukuthatha ukweqa okholweni bese ungene kokungaziwa.
Ngezinye izikhathi kungcono ukuthatha izinyathelo ezincane ukuya enhlosweni enkulu kakhulu ofuna ukuyifeza. Ngokwenza njalo, ungakha umfutho nokuzethemba njengoba wakha amakhono akho nekhono lokusingatha izimo ezizungeze into oyesabayo.
Ukukhuluma phambi kwabantu uyisibonelo esihle. Awudingi ukuqala ngokukhuluma ehholo labantu abayinkulungwane. Qala kancane. Khuluma ngendaba yakho ethile komunye obalulekile noma umngane.
Bese uqhubekela eqenjini elincane, njengeqembu labangane nomndeni. Ukusuka lapho ungadlulela emaqenjini amakhulu abantu uze ekugcineni uzizwe ukhululekile ukuyala umbhobho phambi kwezithameli eziningi.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuthatha i-leap nokukhuluma nje phambi kweqembu elikhulu kungahle kungabi wusizo phela. Ungazithola ugoqwe ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kokungahle kukuphazamise, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi ukukhuluma phambi kweqembu lelo sayizi kuzoba nokubaluleka okuthile okuxhumene nakho.
Unganqikazi ukuthatha izinyathelo ezincane uma unomuzwa wokuthi kuzokusiza ukunqoba ukwesaba kwakho. Azikho izixazululo eziningi kakhulu zosayizi owodwa, kuya ngesimo nohlobo lomuntu oyilo.
4. Shintsha ukwesaba kwakho kube yisasasa.
Injabulo nokwesaba kuvela endaweni efanayo. Banikela ngenani elithile lokugqugquzela futhi beza nokuzwa okufana nomzimba.
Ukuguqula i- ukwesaba okungaziwa ku- isasasa le okungaziwa kungaba yindlela eyodwa yokuyichitha.
Ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kuzodala ukuthi umuntu agxile kukho konke okungahambi kahle. Ukushintsha lokho kulandisa kwangaphakathi kube yinto enhle , lapho ugxila khona emathubeni okukhula nokuthi yini engahamba kahle kunganikeza lokho kuthuthukiswa okwengeziwe okudingeka ukwenze.
Lolu hlobo lokubuyisa imicabango yakho luyinto edinga ukuzinikela nokuzijwayeza ukusebenza kahle. Lapho wenza ngokwengeziwe, kuba lula ukukwenza.
Ngeke kukuvimbe ekuzweleni ukwesaba ngokuphelele, kepha kuyasiza kakhulu ukugcina lokho kwesaba kungaphazamisi amathemba akho, amaphupho nezinhlelo zakho.
5. Qaphela abantu abahamba eceleni kwakho ohambweni lwakho.
Ukwesaba kuyinto ethokozisayo ngoba wonke umuntu uzizwa ngezinga elithile. Abanye abantu bakuphatha kangcono kunabanye.
Kungaba umqondo omuhle ukuncika kubangani, umndeni, umeluleki, noma umqeqeshi ukuze akusize kangcono ufinyelele ezinhlosweni ofuna ukuzizuza.
Lokho wukuthi, kucatshangwa ukuthi banombono onempilo emhlabeni nezinkolelo ezinengqondo.
Kodwa-ke, ungathola ukuthi umbono wakho womhlaba nokuphishekela izinhloso kuthinteka ekuboneni kwabo.
uthandani ngomfana
Uma uzungezwe ngu okungekuhle noma abantu ababhubhisayo, bathambekele ekusebenzeni njengezinkalankala ebhakedeni…
… Awudingi ngisho nokufaka isivalo ebhakedeni ngoba zilokhu zidonsa lezo ezizama ukubalekela emuva ziye ebhakedeni nazo.
Le yinkinga uma kukhulunywa ngokuzithuthukisa nokungena kokungaziwa.
Ungathola ukuthi abantu abaseduze kwakho abakusekeli ukuhlola kwakho futhi banesifiso sokuphazamisa isimo sakho.
Ungase uzwe izinto ezinjengalezi:
'Yini engalungile ngokuthi izinto zinjani?'
“Awujabuli nami?”
lapho uthandana nothile
'Kungani ungajabuli nje ngalokho onakho?'
Ungathola ukuthi izifiso zakho ziyacekelwa phansi futhi azisekelwa. Ungathola ukuthi ukwesaba kwabo kungonakalisa imicabango yakho, izifiso zakho, noma imibono yakho ngoba bayakuphindaphinda futhi bakhethe ukuhlala kukho.
Akuyena, awusibo. Futhi indlela yakho akuyona indlela yabo.
Ngiyethemba, uzozungezwa ngabantu abasekelayo abafuna ukuthi uphumelele. Abantu abazokukhuthaza ukuthatha izinyathelo zokunqoba ukwesaba kwakho okungaziwa futhi uhlangabezane nezinto eziningi kulokhu kuphila.
Ungavumeli abanye abantu bakunikeze izinhloso noma indlela yokuphila.
Kwesinye isikhathi udinga ukuhamba izindlela owaziyo ukuthi udinga ukuhamba wedwa.
Kulungile. Ukukhula kusho ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi kuzodingeka ukuthi ushiye abantu ngemuva abangasahambisani nendlela ofuna ukuphila ngayo nokwenza impilo yakho.
Ngenye indlela, futhi bangathola ugqozi esifisweni sakho sokubhekana nalokho kwesaba futhi bahambe nawe.
Kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu ohambweni lwakho lokuphila olungabonakala. Ungesabi okungaziwa. Yamukela futhi uzokhula futhi uzwe okuningi kakhulu!
