Uma othile ebengacelwa ukuba akuchaze ngegama, into yokuqala efika engqondweni ibingeke ‘ibe nomdlandla.’
Ulwela ukubonisa umdlandla ngezinto.
Mhlawumbe kusemsebenzini…
ukungabi nabangane futhi ngizizwe nginesizungu
Mhlawumbe umphathi wakho uphawulile ngokuthi kubonakala kanjani ukuthi awuniki umsebenzi wakho konke. Noma uzisebenza futhi ukuthola kunzima ukufaka umdlandla ebhizinisini lakho owaziyo ukuthi lidinga ukuchuma.
Noma mhlawumbe kusempilweni yakho yangasese…
Mhlawumbe ulwela ukukhombisa intshiseko kubangani bakho, umndeni, noma umlingani wakho. Mhlawumbe kuzizwa kungumfokazi ukujabula ngeziphakamiso zabanye abantu, imibono, noma ukugubha izikhathi ezinkulu ezimpilweni zabo nabo.
Futhi mhlawumbe ukuthola kunzima ukujabula ngezinto zakho futhi…
Uhambo olukhulu, ukukhushulwa, noma yini eyenzekayo empilweni yakho engaholela ekutheni abantu abaningi bavele amakhokho e-champagne ijwayele ukudlula nje uthenga okungagunyaziwe, noma okungaziwa ngokuphelele.
Mhlawumbe konke lokhu okungenhla.
Akunandaba ngempela. Umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu uthi:
Ungaba kanjani nomdlandla ngokwengeziwe?
Ungathanda ukuthi indlela yakho yokuphila engenamdlandla empilweni iguquke.
Ufuna ukuthola umdlandla ngezinto. Hhayi nje ukwenza abanye abantu bazizwe kahle lapho befeza okuthile, kodwa futhi ngoba, masibe neqiniso, kubukeka kumnandi kakhulu kunendlela ophila ngayo.
Abanye abantu kubonakala sengathi bayakwazi ukuhlala okwamanje, bajabulele impilo, babone okungenzeka namandla, futhi babungaze izinto ezinhle, noma ngabe zincane noma zincane.
Ngenkathi uhlala uthambekele kakhulu ekugxileni kokubi futhi ukuthole kunzima ukuba nomdlandla, noma ngabe ukulangazelela kangakanani okuthile, ukuthi usebenze kanzima kangakanani ukukuthola, noma ujabule kangakanani ngakho ngokujulile phansi.
Ngakho-ke ungaba kanjani nomdlandla ngokwengeziwe? Kokubili ngezinto ezenzeka kuwe, nakwabanye.
Ungabakhombisa kanjani abanye abantu ukuthi ujabulile ngezinto?
Futhi ungangena kanjani kulowo muzwa wentshiseko yangempela nenjabulo ebonakala ize ngokwemvelo kwabanye abantu?
Nawa amathiphu ambalwa wokujova umthamo wentshiseko empilweni yakho.
1. Gxilisa ukunaka kwakho njengamanje.
Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko abantu abalwela ukuba nomdlandla ukuthi abakaze babe khona ngempela okwamanje.
Bahlale becabanga ngalokho abakwenze kabi izolo noma ngesonto eledlule.
Futhi uma bengagxilile kokudlule, bakhathazeka ngekusasa, nakho konke abanakho ohlwini lwabo lwezinto abazokwenza.
Kunzima ukuba nomdlandla ngokwenzekayo empeleni phambi kwamehlo akho lapha nakalokhu uma ucabanga izolo noma kusasa.
Ngakho-ke, isinyathelo sokuqala sokushiseka ngokwengeziwe ukugxilisa ukunaka kwakho namuhla.
Noma nini lapho uzibamba uhlala ezintweni ezingenzeki okwamanje, thola indlela yokuzibuyisa.
Ukuzinika isikhathi sokuphefumula ngokujulile futhi ugxile emisindweni ezungeze wena kungaba yindlela enhle yokuqinisa ulwazi lwakho.
Bheka nxazonke zakho bese uqaphela ngobuhle izinto ozibona nsuku zonke.
Yenza uhlu lwazo zonke izinto ozibongelayo ngalolo suku, noma zonke izinto ozizuzile, noma ngabe zibukeka zincane kanjani.
Lokho kuzokusiza ukuthi ukwazise kakhudlwana konke onakho nangezinto ezikuzungezile, okuzosho ukuthi uthola okuningi ongaba nentshiseko ngakho.
2. Ungakhathazeki kancane.
Abantu abaningi balwela ukuba nentshisekelo ngezinto ngoba bahlala bekhathazeka ngokuthi 'kuzokwenzekani uma.'
Bahlale beqiniseka ukuthi kukhona okuzokonakala futhi bagxile kulokho kunakuyo yonke into eqhubeka kahle.
Uma ukwazi ukuziqeqesha ukuthi ungakhathazeki kancane bese uhamba nokugeleza kuphela, lapho-ke kuzoba lula kakhulu ukuzizwa unentshiseko ngezinto ezinhle ezenzekayo, kungaba zinkulu noma zincane, empilweni yakho noma ezimpilweni zabantu abaseduze kwakho.
Ukuzindla, ukuphefumula izivivinyo, nezinhlelo ezinhle zokwenza konke kungakusiza ukubeka izinkathazo zakho ohlangothini olulodwa futhi ujabulele izinto ezinhle empilweni ngenkathi zihlala.
3. Yehlisa okulindele kuwe.
Ungakuthola kunzima ukuzizwa unentshiseko ngempilo ngoba uhlala ubeka ibha kakhulu futhi ucela okuningi.
umyeni wami ungithethisa okomntwana
Yize kukuhle ukukhomba phezulu futhi uziphushe kuze kube sezingeni elithile, uma unokwengeziwe okulindelwe ngokweqile akunamathuba amancane okuthi uphoxeke.
Ngaleyo ndlela, lapho izinto zisebenza kangcono kunalokho okulindele, njengoba kuzovame ukwenzeka, ngokwemvelo uzozizwa unentshiseko enkulu kakhulu kunalokho obungathanda uma ubunquma ukuthi unentaba enkulu ongayiqwala.
Lokhu kumayelana nokushaya indawo yokuthokozisa phakathi kokungazibekeli phansi wena nokuqiniseka ukuthi unokuthile okuzokugubha lapho izinto zihamba kahle.
4. Beka eceleni umona.
Ukuntuleka komdlandla ngempumelelo yabanye abantu kwesinye isikhathi kuhlobene kakhulu nomona.
Uma umuzwa wakho omkhulu lapho uzwa izindaba ezinhle zabanye abantu umona, ngakho-ke kungokwemvelo ukuthi ngeke uphendule ngentshiseko.
Uma uthola ukuthi ulwa nomona, isinyathelo sokuqala esihle kungaba ukukhawulela ukusebenzisa kwakho izinkundla zokuxhumana.
Sonke siyazi ukuthi abantu ikakhulukazi babelana ngezinto ezinhle kuphela, hhayi ubunzima babo.
Kepha uma ubona izithombe ezingapheli zabantu ababonakala benza ngokumangazayo empilweni, kungaba nzima ukukugcina ngendlela efanele futhi uyeke ukuba nomona.
Ngakho-ke, ukuhlehla emuva noma ukunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwakho kwemithombo yezokuxhumana kungaba kuhle ekuthambiseni lesi silo esinamehlo aluhlaza.
Uma uzwa izindaba ezijabulisayo zabantu mathupha kune-inthanethi, kuzoba lula kakhulu ukuzijabulisa ngabo. Futhi unamathuba amaningi okuthi uzwe ngomgwaqo onamadwala ogcine uwafinyelele ezinhlosweni zawo, okuzobeka izinto esimweni esifanele.
Noma ngabe kumithombo yezokuxhumana noma empilweni yangempela, yenza umzamo wokuyeka ukukala impilo yakho kanye nempumelelo yakho ngokuqhathanisa neyabantu abaseduze kwakho.
5. Zindla ngempilo yakho, izinhloso, nenjabulo yakho.
Uma ulwela ukukhombisa intshisekelo nganoma yini empilweni yakho, noma imicimbi emikhulu njengokugcina ngokuya eholidini lempilo yakho yonke, ukuthola lokho kukhushulwa okukhulu, noma izindaba ezinkulu emndenini wakho, lapho-ke kungaba yisikhathi sokuzindla.
Mhlawumbe ungumuntu nje ozolile, onokuthula ozizwa ejabule kodwa angalokothi abe nentshiseko eyeqile nganoma yini. Futhi lokho kulungile.
Kepha kufanele ucabangele ukuthi ukuntula kwakho intshisekelo ngempilo kungahle kudalwe ukungajabuli noma ukunganeliseki.
Zinike isikhathi sokucabanga ngendlela yakho empilweni. Okuzuzile nokuthi uhlose ini. Cabanga ngalokho okungahle kube khona nokuthi ngabe udinga ukwenza noma yiziphi izinguquko.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ushintsho olulodwa oluncane endleleni ophila ngayo impilo yakho lungenza umehluko omkhulu ekutheni umbono wakho unethemba kangakanani. Futhi, masivume, uma uzizwa unethemba, unamathuba amaningi okuba nomdlandla.
6. Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi uzohlangana kanjani.
Mhlawumbe ungumuntu onomdlandla ngaphakathi kodwa awuthandi ukukukhombisa ngoba unamahloni futhi uyakuzonda ukunakwa nguwe.
Ngakho-ke awenzi umbukiso omkhulu wezimpumelelo zakho noma amandla akho angaphakathi wezinto okungenzeka uzenza. Uyigcine nje ibhodlela.
Yize lokhu kungaba ubuntu bakho bemvelo, ufunda le ndatshana ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungaba kanjani nomdlandla ongaphezulu, futhi lokhu kungabandakanya ukudlulela ngale kwendawo yakho yokunethezeka.
Okufanele uqaphele ukuthi lapho umuntu ezwakalisa intshiseko yakhe ngokuthize, cishe njalo kubeka isithombe esihle salowo muntu. Akekho ozocabanga noma yini ngaphandle kwemicabango emihle ngawe uma ukhombisa ukuthi unentshiseko engakanani.
7. Fake it uze uyenze.
Kulungile, ngakho-ke ukuzenza into ongeyona akusona iseluleko esihle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kepha, kuleli cala, ukwenza sengathi unomdlandla omkhulu kunawe empeleni kungenza umehluko omkhulu kunalokho obucabanga.
Cabanga ngakho njengokuziqeqesha ukuze uzizwe unentshiseko ngezinto.
Kungase kudingeke uziphoqe ukukwenza, kepha lapho abanye abantu benezindaba ezimnandi, zama ukubhala imibono yokuhalalisela kokuthunyelwe kwabo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ubathengele okuncane abangakusho ukuthi benze kahle, uthumele amakhadi, ubanike izingalo ezinkulu (ngemvume yabo) , okuphakamisa isidlo sokugubha…
Esimweni sakho, ziphushe ukuze wabelane ngempumelelo yakho nalabo obathandayo futhi uphakamise imikhosi, noma mane uthathe isikhathi esincane sokubungaza ngalokho okufezile futhi umake umcimbi ngandlela thile.
lapho ungathandi umuntu kodwa ungazi ukuthi kungani
Uma ungathatha ngisho namathiphu ambalwa ngenhla ukuthi uwacabangele, nakanjani uzoqala ukuzizwa unentshiseko enkulu ngazo zonke izinto ezinhle empilweni.
Futhi lokho, kukodwa, kuyinto efanele ukubungazwa.
Namanje awuqiniseki ukuthi ungaba kanjani nomdlandla? Khuluma nomqeqeshi wempilo namuhla ongakudlulisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhuma nenye.
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