Lapho ulindele ukuthi abanye abantu baziphathe ngendlela ethile, uzophoxeka kalula futhi kaningi.
Yingakho udinga ukudedela imibono nezindinganiso zakho ozibekele zona bese uvumela izinto zibe njalo. Ngokuqondile, udinga ukukhipha noma ikuphi okulindelwe maqondana namaphoyinti ayi-7 alandelayo.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuthi…
1.Vumelana Nawe (Noma Ngikuqonde)
Kuyingqondo ukuzama nokukhulelwa izigidi eziyisi-7 abantu abahlukile ngokuphelele siphila kule planethi, kodwa yilokho kanye esinakho.
yiziphi ezinye izinto okufanele ube nentshisekelo ngazo
Unalokhu engqondweni, ukungavumelani akunakugwenywa ayikho indlela yokuthi wonke umuntu azocabanga noma akholelwe izinto ezifanayo nezakho.
Heck, kuzoba nezikhathi lapho abantu oxhumana nabo bengeke baqonde ngisho nemibono yakho!
Ngakho-ke, lapho abanye benemibono engqubuzanayo kokuthile, udinga nje ukwamukela lokhu bese uvumela ingqondo yakho iqhubekele phambili. Uma unamathela kokungavumelani, kuzoshayela eminye imizwa emibi futhi umphumela ongahle ube yingxabano egcwele.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuthi…
2. Njengawe
Ukulandela kusuka ephuzwini langaphambilini mayelana nokuhlukahluka okungenakulinganiswa kwabantu nemibono yabo, ungeke ulindele ukuthi wonke umuntu akuthande empeleni.
Izinto ezikwenza NIZOZENZA kwesinye isikhathi casula abanye futhi okuphambene nalokho.
Okufanele ukukhumbule, noma kunjalo, ukuthi kunabantu abaningi abakuthandayo nabakuthandayo ngalokho oyikho. Yazi ukuthi lokhu kwanele nokuthi ukuzama ukwenza abanye abantu abafana nawe kungumsebenzi ongabongi odinga ukuzidela kwakho kuphela (umhlatshelo wesimo sakho sangempela).
angicabangi ukuthi usangithanda
Ukuba nguwe kuyimpi okulukhuni ukuyinqoba njalo. Uma ufuna wonke umuntu akuthande, uzozithola usempini engapheli.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuthi…
3. Yiba 'Ok' Sonke Isikhathi
Kungenzeka ube ngumuntu wokuqala ukuvuma ukuthi awuhlali uzizwa ukhanya futhi ujabulile, ngakho-ke udinga ukuyeka ukulindela ukuthi abanye babe yilokho.
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani omunye umuntu angazizwa edangele: ukugula, ukukhathala, ingcindezi, umsebenzi, noma ubudlelwano, isibonelo.
Ngoba ungathanda ukuthi baphile kahle, akukwenzi kube njalo. Udinga ukwamukela ukuthi abantu bazohlangabezana nezikhathi ezinzima nezimbi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuyinto engokwemvelo ukudlula kuyo.
Futhi lapho bezizwa bedangele, kufanele uzame ukuzwelana nabo futhi isimo sabo sitshele abantu ukuthi basixukuzise futhi bazithathe ngaso sonke isikhathi asisizi ngendlela ongacabanga ngayo.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuthi…
4. Funda Ingqondo Yakho
Umqondo wakho uvinjelwe wonke umuntu, kepha akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhumbula lokhu.
Kukangaki ulindele ukuthi omunye umuntu azi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani noma ukuthi ucabangani? Impela, bangakwazi ukufunda ezinye izimpawu, kodwa kuzohlale kukhona ukuqagela okuhilelekile.
Inkinga ukuthi, lapho umuntu osondelene nawe engazi ngokushesha ukuthi kwenzekani ekhanda lakho, ungabona lokhu njengesibonakaliso sokuthi akanandaba. Kungenza ukungezwani futhi kubangele ukungqubuzana. Kuzwakala kujwayelekile?
Esikhundleni salokho, uma unokuthile okucabangayo, cishe njalo kungcono ukuthi uphume uzokusho. Ngokwabelana ngezinkinga zakho futhi ukuveza imizwa yakho , ungaqala ukwelashwa futhi kungazizwa sengathi isisindo siphakanyisiwe.
isono cara esingenasifihlo
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuthi…
5. Shintsha / Hhayi Shintsha
Sonke siyakhula njengabantu ngabanye okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kwansuku zonke kuba yingxenye yethu futhi ukuxhumana okusha kwe-neural kwenziwa ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Abanye bethu bangathola ushintsho olushesha kakhulu kunabanye futhi lokhu kungaba ngumthombo omkhulu wokungajabuli.
Cishe ufisa sengathi abanye abantu empilweni yakho bangahlala bengaguquki unomphela ngoba ubazi futhi ubathanda njengoba benjalo. Kwabanye, ungafisa ukuthi bangashintsha ngoba ubona izinto ongazithandi kuzo.
Ngeshwa, awukwazi ukumisa umuntu ekushintsheni futhi futhi awukwazi ukubenza bashintshe . Umthombo we-angst uyefana kuzimo zombili - wesaba ukulahlekelwa yilo muntu empilweni yakho.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, wesaba ukuthi abanye abantu bangashintsha futhi lokhu kungakuhlukanisa, kanti ngakolunye uhlangothi, awukwazi ukubona ubungane / ubudlelwano buqhubeka ngaphandle kwalapho lowo muntu eshintsha.
i-addison rae esikoleni esiphakeme
Kungaba nzima ukwamukela isimo esidlulayo sempilo nokuthi abanye abantu bazokuyeka kanjani ukuba yingxenye yakho. Ukulindela noma yini ehlukile, noma kunjalo, kuzokwenza ukwehlukana kube nzima kakhulu.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuthi…
6. Lungisa Izinkinga Zakho
Lapho useyingane, ungathembela kubazali bakho noma amanye amalungu omndeni ukuthi akusize lapho unenkinga.
Empilweni yabantu abadala, mhlawumbe usengalindela umndeni, futhi ngaleli phuzu abangane abahle , ukukunikeza izeluleko nokusizwa ngezikhathi ezithile. Lokhu akugcini nje ngokunengqondo, kepha kusiza ukuqinisa ubudlelwano.
Ngeke, nokho, ulindele ukuthi bakulungisele zonke izinkinga zakho. Banezimpilo zabo abazokuhola futhi ukhule ngokugcwele futhi uyakwazi ukuzibhekela.
Udinga ukuqala ukukhombisa ukuzimela kwakho futhi ukuvuthwa ngokubhekana nezinkinga ezizivelelayo kunokuba ubalekele kubo . Uma nje uthembele kwabanye ukuthi bakutshele okufanele ukwenze, awusoze wayithola inkululeko yokuphila impilo yakho awuzukube uhamba indlela yakho, kepha leyo obekelwe yona.
ungathandana kanjani nomuntu okuthandayo
Misa ukulindela…
7. Okubi Kakhulu Kwabanye
Kuyinkolelo yami eqinile ukuthi iningi lethu lingabantu abalungile ngokweqiniso abagcwele uthando nobubele.
Ngaphandle kwalokhu, akuvamile ukuthi abantu bacabange okubi kakhulu ngabanye - noma ngabe bayabazi noma cha.
Ungalindela ukuthi bakukhansele, baqale ingxabano, bangakubuyiseli imali abakukweleta yona. Uyazikholisa ukuthi umuntu ongamazi uzokuhleka, akululaze, noma akulimaze ngandlela thile.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ukulindela okuphansi kothile kuyindlela yokugwema ukuphoxeka, kepha futhi kungaveza nokuziphatha ofisa ukungakutholi.
Esikhundleni salokho, njengoba kungabonakala kubafundi bezikole ezweni lonke, lapho ulindela izinto ezinhle kothile, lapho ubakhuthaza, nalapho unikeza indawo abangakhanya kuyo, bavame ukwenza kanjalo.
Esikhundleni sokucabanga umuntu omubi kakhulu, zama ukucabanga ngokuhle esikhundleni salokho. Lokhu isimo sengqondo esihle kungaba njalo ukuzifeza ngendlela abanye abakuphatha ngayo.
I-Conscious Rethink: ukulahla okulindele kwabanye kukunikeza inkululeko ethe xaxa yokuba ngokwakho futhi uphile impilo yakho. Khumbula, unesibopho semicabango yakho futhi unenkululeko yokukhetha ukuthi uphendula kanjani kumzuzu ngamunye empilweni. Noma yini abanye abantu abayenzayo kodwa abanye abantu baziphatha nguwe olawulayo.
