Ukudlala ngothando kungavela ngokwemvelo kwabanye abantu, kepha iningi lethu likuthola kunzima ukuzizwa likhululekile ngalo.
Kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuthi kufanele wenze kanjani nokuthi unganikeza kanjani umbono ofanele!
Ingabe ukuthola ukudlala ngothando kuyinselele?
Unenhlanhla.
Sinezeluleko ezinhle eziyi-15 zokuthi ungadlala ngothando kanjani nomfana noma intombazane ezokushiya uzizwe uzethembile futhi ukulungele ukubhekana nomhlaba wokuyenga nowokuqomisana.
1. Mbheke emehlweni.
Impela, lokhu kubonakala kuyisisekelo esihle, kepha kuyindlela enhle yokuzikhulula uma ungazi ukuthi ungadlala ngothando kanjani futhi ufuna ukukuzama!
Ukudlala ngothando kungazwakalisa ukwesaba okukhulu, ikakhulukazi uma umthanda ngempela umuntu othile, futhi ukuxhumana kwamehlo kuyisiqalo esihle, esilula.
Kuyindlela enhle yokuxhumana nomuntu osezingeni lomzimba ngaphandle kokuthinteka kakhulu.
Kubonisa ukuthi unentshisekelo kubo nakulokho abakushoyo noma abakwenzayo.
Kuyindlela enhle yokukhombisa ukuthi uthanda umuntu ngaphandle kokuzwa sengathi udlula ngokweqile, futhi akudingi mzamo omkhulu kuwe.
2. Thola ukudlala.
Ukuba nesifiso sothando kumayelana nokuba yisilima kaningi, ngakho-ke ungesabi ukuzijabulisa ngaso.
Ungaya ekuphonsweni kwezinwele nokugigitheka, ubanikeze umpompi othinta ingalo engalweni, bese udlala nje ngezinto ukuze ubone ukuthi yini ezwa ukunethezeka.
Ukudlala ngothando kufanele kuzizwe kujabulisa, ngakho-ke zijabulise bese udedela. Konke kumayelana nokubopha nokuchitha isikhathi nomuntu okwenza uzizwe kahle.
Ukudlala kuyindlela enhle yokukhombisa ukuthi unentshisekelo - ukuzivumela ube yisilima phambi komuntu omthandayo kuyabakhuthaza ukuthi babone izinhlangothi eziningi ezahlukahlukene kubuntu bakho.
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Kukhombisa ukuthi ukhululekile lapho unabo futhi uthanda ukuzijabulisa, okuyizimpawu zombili izici ezinhle kumuntu ocabanga ukuthi ungafuna ukuphola naye.
3. Thinta.
Ukuthintana ngokomzimba (inqobo nje uma nobabili nikhululekile ngayo!) Kungaba yindlela emnandi ngempela yokudlala ngothando nokubonisa ukuthi unentshisekelo kothile.
Umpompi odlalayo engalweni, ukuqhuqha amadolo, noma ukudlala i-footsie zonke kungaba izindlela ezinhle zokudlala ngothando.
Kunezindlela zokucashile impela ngalokhu, ngakho-ke ungakhathazeki ngokuhamba noma ukuzibeka lapho kakhulu.
Ungayithatha kancane njengoba udinga futhi ujabulele ukusondelana nokuba nokuthintana komunye nomunye.
4. Kwenze kube ngokwakho.
Ingxenye yokudlala ngothando ukukhombisa ukuthi uyamthanda omunye umuntu, okusho ukunaka nokuba nokuxhumana komuntu siqu.
Uma uthola uthando kulo muntu, mhlawumbe uzobe ukwenza lokhu noma kunjalo, kepha kuwumqondo omuhle ukukhombisa ukuthi ulalele futhi ufuna ukusebenzisana nabo.
Gcina ingxoxo ingeyakho - ingaqala ukuzwakala iyinkohliso futhi ungazizwa usengozini, kepha ukukhuluma ngezinto ozikhathalelayo kuyindlela enhle yokudlala ngothando futhi uvumele omunye umuntu akwazi.
Kuhle njalo uma othile abelana nawe ngemizwa yakhe futhi akhulume ngezinto anentshisekelo kuzo.
Ngakho-ke yabelana ngobuntu bakho, izinto ozithandayo, nezinto ozithandayo nomuntu omthandayo futhi uzoxhuma kwelinye ibanga!
5. Landela.
Ukudlala ngothando akukhona nje ukuthola ukuhlekisa ngengilazi yewayini - kumayelana nokukhombisa ukuthi usho ukuthi uthini.
Lokho kusho ukulandela!
Thumela umbhalo ngemuva kokubabona ukuthi basho ukuthi ukujabulele kangakanani ukuba nabo. Bazise ukuthi ucabanga ngabo futhi ubonise ukuthi unentshisekelo engaphezu kosuku olulodwa nje.
Abantu abaningi bathanda ukuzizwa bekhathalelwe futhi uyithande lapho othile enesithakazelo kubo.
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Uma ubathumelela imibhalo noma ukhomba isikhathi enisichithe ndawonye, kukhombisa ukuthi uzibophezele ezingeni (elincane), abantu abaningi abazolithola lithopha kakhulu futhi lijabulisa.
6. Tease - kamnandi.
Manje, ungangeni kanzima futhi ube nolunya!
Kepha ukugconwa ngomusa kungaba yindlela ejabulisayo futhi engenangqondo yokukhombisa ukuthi uyakhathala, nokuthi unethezekile nomuntu futhi ufuna ukumenza ahleke.
Ukugcona futhi kuyindlela enhle yokukhombisa uhlangothi lwakho lobumnandi - ungaze uzincokolise futhi uzihlekele ngezindleko zakho kancane, ngoba lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi awuthathi izinto ngokungathi sína kakhulu.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukubophela nothile kuvela ekuzihlekiseni ngobumnene, ngakho-ke ungesabi ukuzama le thiphu yokudlala ngothando lwakho.
7. Khombisa intshisekelo - futhi uqonde.
Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokudlala ngothando ukukhombisa intshisekelo ngobuqotho.
Buza imibuzo ebalulekile - bese ulalela impendulo.
Khuluma ngezinto owaziyo ukuthi bayazithanda, buza ngokuzilibazisa kwabo nokuthi yini abayenzile.
Lapho ungakhombisa intshisekelo empilweni yabo, yilapho bezokwazi ukukuthwebula khona.
Iningi lethu lithanda ukunakwa, futhi iyiphi indlela engcono ukwedlula umuntu ofuna ukwazi okuningi ngawe?
Ukukhombisa ukuthi uyakhathala kuyindlela enhle yokudlala ngothando, futhi kukusiza ukuba nazane kakhudlwana. Kukunika ithuba lokubukisa ngobuntu bakho, nakho okuhlale kuyinto enhle!
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8. Bamangaze.
Manje, asikhulumi ngesenzo esikhulu sothando, kepha ukumangala okuncane kungahamba ibanga elide.
Izinto ezincane njengokuzilethela ikhofi emsebenzini noma ukuzithenga isiphuzo ebusuku emsebenzini kungaba yizimpawu ezisebenzayo zentshisekelo.
Zikhombisa ukuthi ufuna ukwenza umzamo nokuthi uhambe endleleni yakho yokwenza into enhle - kuyathopha!
Futhi kuhle njalo ukuthola ikhofi yamahhala…
9. Khumbula imininingwane.
Lokhu kuhlanganisa izeluleko ezimbalwa ndawonye, kepha kubaluleke kakhulu okufanele ukugqanyiswa.
Ukukhumbula imininingwane emincane kuyindlela enhle yokubonisa ukuthi unake - awugcini nje ngokuklama lapho bekhuluma, awugcini nje ngokudlala ngothando ngakho, utshala imali kuzo ngokuthatha isikhathi sakho ukukhumbula abakushoyo.
Ungaletha izinto ngobuqili - “Oh, uhambe kanjani u-X ngoLwesihlanu?” - noma ngokukhuluma ngokusobala ngento ethile, ecace bha abayishilo.
Kuyindlela enhle yokwenza khombisa ukuthi uzimisele ngokubazi.
Kungaba mnandi futhi kube yisilima, ukubakhumbuza ngezinto ezihlekisayo abazishilo noma abazenzile - noma ngabe ikuphi, niyabophela, okuyingxenye esemqoka yokuphumelela ngothando.
Sebenzisa ama-emoji - uma uzizwa unamahloni mathupha.
Uma ukhululeke ngokwengeziwe ukuthola i-flirty phezu kombhalo, ama-emoji ayindlela enhle yokubonisa ukuthi unentshisekelo kothile.
Abanye bethu bakuthola kunzima ukudlala ngothando mathupha futhi bangathola ukuthinteka kancane, ngakho-ke ukuthumela imiyalezo kungaba yindlela enhle yokukhombisa umuntu omthandayo.
Ubuso obumomothekayo obuncane noma ubuso obucwayizayo kungaba yindlela enhle yokudlala ngothando uma unamahloni.
Kungazwakala kuyisilima, kepha uma ungumuntu othola ukudlala ngothando kanzima noma ulwela ukukhombisa umuzwa wakho ngaphandle kokuthanjiswa, i-emoji enamahloni ingahamba ibanga elide!
11. Sebenzisa ukukhuluma komzimba wakho.
Qaphela ulimi lwakho lomzimba ngenkathi useduze komuntu omfisayo.
Konke kumayelana nokuba nokuvuleka okuthe xaxa - ngokuba nolimi lomzimba oluvuleke kakhulu, uzobe uxhumana ezingeni elihluke ngokuphelele!
Khulula amahlombe akho, ukhombe izinyawo zakho kuzo (ngokusobala izinyawo zakho zikhomba noma yini oyithandayo kakhulu!), Futhi ungesabi ukuzwakalisa izandla zakho.
Lapho ukhululeka kakhudlwana futhi uvula ulimi lomzimba wakho, kulapho uzohlangana khona nothandana ngokwengeziwe.
Le futhi iyindlela enhle yokusiza wena uzizwe uzethemba ngokwengeziwe futhi unethezekile.
Singamakholwa amakhulu ‘ekukukhohliseni’ uze ukwenze lokho - lapho ‘uziphatha’ kakhulu ngolimi lomzimba wakho, kulapho uzoqala khona ukukholelwa ukuthi uzizwa uzethemba futhi unothando.
Futhi, futhi njengoba bonke bazi, lapho uzizwa ungcono, uzokwazi ukuzithokozisa ngokwengeziwe - okuyikho okwenza ukudlala ngothando nokuchoboza kwakho, phela…
12. Yiba khona.
Enye yezindlela ezinkulu kakhulu zokubonisa intshisekelo ukuba khona - lapho i-crush yakho ikhuluma noma yenza okuthile, naka.
Yeka ukupheqa ngocingo lwakho noma ubheke igumbi lonke!
Zibheke, gxila kuzo, futhi ubonise ukuthi uzibophezele kulo mzuzu ngesikhathi nabo.
Kungazwakala kuyisisekelo esihle, kepha kuyawenza umehluko.
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Kuyathokozisa kakhulu ukunakwa ngokugcwele ngumuntu futhi uzizwe sengathi babambe iqhaza ngobuqotho futhi banentshisekelo kulokho okushoyo noma okwenzayo - nikeza lowo muzwa omunye umuntu ngokuba khona.
Lokhu kukhombisa nokuthi usukulungele ukuvulela lowo muntu impilo yakho.
Abantu abaningi, ezigabeni zokuqala zokuqomisana noma ukubona umuntu, bangakhathazeka kancane - ngokudlala ngothando kancane futhi ukhombise ukuthi ungasinika isikhathi kothile, unciphisa lokho kucindezeleka ngaphakathi kwengqondo yabo.
Kuyancoma okukhulu ukuthi umuntu atshale imali ukuchitha isikhathi nawe nokwazi!
13. Hlala useduze.
Ingxenye enkulu yokudlala ngothando iyasondela - ngokomoya nangokomzimba.
Ukuhlala eduze (hhayi ngendlela eshubile!) Kuyindlela enhle yokubonisa ukuthi unentshisekelo.
Lokhu kuxhumanisa namaphuzu wethu wangaphambilini olimini lomzimba nasekuthinteni, kepha kubalulekile kukodwa.
Ukusondelana nothile nokumvumela ukuba asondele kuwe kuyindlela enhle yokubonisa intshisekelo - nenduduzo.
Lapho unethezeke ngokwengeziwe ngokuchoboza kwakho, kuzokwenzeka ukuthi izinto zisebenze phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Ukusondelana ngokomzimba kungasiza abantu ukuthi babone ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngawe - Kunzima ukwazi ukuthi ufisa yini umuntu othile ukuthi ahlale komunye umkhawulo wetafula!
Kepha, uma besondelene, banuka kamnandi, futhi kunjalo ikunikeza ukuxhumana kwamehlo ? Kuya ngokujula kakhudlwana futhi nobabili nizizwe nithandana ngokunethezeka futhi nibone lapho izinto zihamba khona.
14. Buza imibuzo.
Ukubuza imibuzo kuyindlela engafaneleki kangako yokudlala ngothando.
Njengezeluleko eziningi ezikulolu hlu, ziqonde ngqo - iphuzu lonke lokudlala ngothando yindlela enizizwa ngayo nobabili, ngakho-ke, kwesinye isikhathi, okuyisisekelo kungcono kakhulu.
Ukubuza imibuzo kungukubonisa okuphumelela kakhulu kunesingxoxo esingenangqondo.
Buza imibuzo - bese ulalele impendulo - bese ubuza eminye imibuzo ngokuya ngalokho abakushilo.
Lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi ufuna ukuxhumana ngezinga elijulile, kunokumane ubuze umbuzo bese ulalele kancane impendulo ngaphambi kokudlulela kokuhlukile ngokuphelele!
Le ndlela yokudlala ngothando yinhle futhi ilula - futhi kuhle uma umusha ekudlaleni ngothando noma uzizwa unovalo.
Lokho kungenxa yokuthi ubuyisela ukugxila komunye umuntu, ngakho-ke kuncane ukucindezela okukuwe.
Ngenkathi bephendula umbuzo wakho, ungathatha isikhathi sakho ukucabanga ngokumele ukwenze noma ukwenze ngokulandelayo, okwenza kube lula ukukhululeka ungene kukho futhi ukujabulele nje ukwazi ukwakheka kwakho kancane.
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15. Mamatheka!
Silondoloze okubaluleke kakhulu ’kuze kube sekugcineni, bakithi!
Ukumamatheka kunjalo ngakho-ke kubalulekile - kwazisa omunye umuntu ukuthi uvulekile futhi unobungane, nokuthi ungumuntu oqotho onemizwa yangempela.
Ukwazi umuntu kungaba yingcindezi kwesinye isikhathi, njengoba kungenzeka ukuthi nobabili nizwa ingcindezi yokuthi nihlekise, nithandeke futhi nihlakaniphe.
Ngokumamatheka, uthatha isinyathelo kancane emuva - kuyamqinisa omunye umuntu ukukubona umoyizela futhi ubakhumbuze ukuthi lokhu kuhloselwe ukujabulisa!
Ukuqomisana nokudlala ngothando kwesinye isikhathi kungazizwa kufana nokuxoxwa ngomsebenzi - uziphethe kahle, ufuna ukubonakala kahle, futhi mhlawumbe uzizwa uzenyeza.
Ngokumamatheka, nenza imizwa yenu nobabili ibe lula futhi nibeke ithoni yokuba nobungane, nokudlala ngothando, ngaphandle kokusho noma yini.
Yizame futhi uzozwa khona manjalo ukuthi omunye umuntu uziphumulele kakhudlwana kuyo - futhi mhlawumbe uzozizwa upholile futhi.
Ukumamatheka kukhombisa uhlangothi lwakho lomuntu (okungathi kwesinye isikhathi kulahleke kancane emzamweni omkhulu wokuba 'usuku oluphelele'), futhi kubenze bakubone njengethuba langempela.
Ukumomotheka kubenza babone owangempela ukuthi bangazithwebula besebudlelwaneni nabo!
Khumbula ukuthi konke lokhu kwenzelwe ukuba kube mnandi, ngakho ungaziphoqi kunoma yiziphi izimo ezikwenza ungazizwa kahle.
Ukudlala ngothando kumayelana nokuxhumana nomunye umuntu nokubazi, ngakho-ke ungesabi ukuzivulela kulokho.
Kungaba nzima ekuqaleni, futhi ungazizwa unamahloni noma unamahloni, noma ungaphandle kwendawo yakho yokududuza.
Inhloso ukusondelana nomuntu omthandayo, ngakho-ke zizwe ukhululekile ukwethembeka kubo uma ukuthola kunzima kancane ukudlala ngothando. Bazokwazisa ukwethembeka futhi mhlawumbe bakuthande nakakhulu ngakho!
Ekupheleni kosuku, uma bephendula imilayezo yakho, bevuma ukuchitha isikhathi nawe, futhi bekunaka, nabo bayakuthanda.
Okusho ukuthi ingxenye enzima isiphelile futhi uthola ukujabulela ukudlala ngothando, ukubazi, nokubona lapho kukuthatha khona…
