Wena ngabe uhambe ibanga elingakanani lapho izingane zakho zazincane ukuzivimbela ekulimaleni?
Kuze kube semikhawulweni yomhlaba, akunjalo?
Lesi simiso somzali esakhelwe ngaphakathi sokukhulisa, ukuvikela, nokubasiza sinamathele kanzima kwi-psyche yethu ngesizathu esizwakalayo.
Inkinga ukuthi, lapho sigxila kakhulu endimeni yethu yokuvikela nokusiza izingane zethu ukuthi ziphumelele empilweni, kungaba nzima ukukuyeka.
Eminyakeni yobuzali bendiza enophephela emhlane, lapho yonke imikhakha yempilo yengane, kusuka kwengane isencane iye ebusheni, iphethwe nge-micro kuya ezingeni le-n-th, kunzima kunanini ngaphambili ukusika intambo futhi ibenze bakwazi ukuzimela ngokweqiniso uma sebewelile umkhawulo ube mdala.
Futhi nokho awukwazi ukumisa iwashi. Ngokungazelelwe baqeda ekolishi, baqala imisebenzi, ngisho nokushada.
Ukwamukela ukuthi sebekhulile emuva kwayo yonke leyo minyaka yokubavikela, ukubondla, ukuphatha kahle ikhalenda labo, nokwandisa amathuba abo kungaba ukulungiswa okunzima ukwenza.
Akufani nokuthi ngolunye usuku bayisibopho sakho kuthi ngakusasa ubageze izandla, ubashiye bazimele beqinile ngezinyawo zabo.
Esikhundleni salokho, inqubo kancane kancane yokuyeka ngenkathi unikeza inetha lokuphepha lapho lidingeka.
Kodwa konke kulula kakhulu ukuthi lolu sizo oluqhubekayo lube yisithiyo empeleni, lubayekise ekubeni ngabantu abadala abazimele ngempela.
Lokho naphezu kokuthi unikezwe ngenhloso enhle kakhulu, enothando.
Leli iphuzu lokunika amandla ekunikeni amandla.
Manje yini enika amandla futhi yehluke kanjani ekusizeni?
Kungani kuyingozi?
Uyeka kanjani?
Qhubeka ufunde ukuthola izimpendulo…
Uyini umehluko phakathi kokusiza nokunika amandla?
Ukunika amandla ukuxazulula izinkinga zabanye ngendlela ephazamisa ukukhula kwabo kwemithwalo yemfanelo yabantu abadala.
Uma, ngokwesibonelo, ingane yakho esikhulile ithenga i-TV entsha enkulu emshiya emfushane ukukhokha irenti, umphumela kufanele kube ukulahlekelwa yifulethi.
Kepha umsizi ungena futhi akhokhe irenti, asuse imiphumela, futhi asikho isifundo esibalulekile esifundwayo.
Umugqa phakathi kokusiza nokunika amandla ungabonakala njengendawo empunga, kodwa kunezimpawu ezithile ezicacile okufanele uzibheke ezikhomba ukuthi unika amandla ingane yakho esikhulile:
- Bakhubeka kusuka enkingeni kuya enkingeni futhi baphendukela kuwe isikhathi ngasinye ukuthola usizo.
- Besahlala ekhaya noma umboza izindleko zabo zokuphila kwenye indawo.
- Uzizwa usindwa yisidingo esiqhubekayo sokusiza ingane yakho esikhulile.
- Uzithola udela okuthile ukuze uzondle.
- Uhlala ukhathazekile ngokwenza okuthile okuzobalimaza noma kubacasule.
Wonke umzali ufuna okungcono kakhulu ezinganeni zakhe, noma ngabe zisenkulisa, ekolishi, noma zindiza esidlekeni.
Ukuxegisela indlela kubo kungokwemvelo kakhulu. Kepha uma sebekhulile, kunzima ukwamukela ukuthi manje kufanele bazenzele izinqumo kanye nokukhetha impilo.
Usuku lokukhishwa kwezicathulo ze-lebron james
Lapho behlangabezana neziqubu ezingenakugwenywa emgwaqeni, umuzwa omdala ungena bese ungena ngeparachute ngesisombululo.
Eqinisweni, noma kunjalo, badinga ukushiyela kumadivayisi abo noma bazohluleka ukukhula babe ngabantu abanokwethenjelwa, nabazimele.
Eqinisweni, abadingi ukunika amandla, badinga ukunika amandla esikhundleni.
Uma ungenza izinguquko ezimbalwa, ikakhulukazi ngokubafundisa amakhono empilo abalulekile, ungazibeka endleleni engcono eya kwinkululeko.
Lokhu kuzokukhulula kumthwalo owuthwele njengamanje futhi kubenze bazizwe bengcono kakhulu ngabo.
Kungani ukunika amandla kuyingozi?
Umcabango wokuvumela izingane esizikhulisile ngobumnene ukuba ziphume ziye ezweni langempela, nazo zonke izingozi nezingibe zalo, kungaba nzima ukwamukela.
Ngenxa yalokhu, abazali abaningi abavikela ngokweqile bawela ogibeni lokuqhubeka nokunakekela imisebenzi enjengokuwasha izingubo, ukukhokha izikweletu, ukuhlanza, njll.
Impilo ekhaya iba ephephile, elula, ingasaphathwa eyokushibhile, inketho nengane esekhulile mancane amathuba okuthi ifune ukuqala iqiniso elibandayo nelinzima lokuphila ngokuzimela.
Abantu abanjalo abavikelekile basala bengenawo amakhono empilo adingekayo ukuphatha izwe elibazungezile lapho ekugcineni beshiya isidleke esithokomele, kungaba yi-18 noma i-30s yabo.
Abakwazi ukwenza isabelomali noma ukubhekana nokuphathwa kwekhaya kwansuku zonke ngoba abakaze bafunde la makhono abalulekile.
Abanye abazali babonakala bakuthola kulula ukwedlula ukuqeqesha izingane zabo. Bayakhohlwa ukuthi enye yezindima zabo ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuba ngumzali njengothisha, hhayi ukunika amandla.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi sonke siyathanda ukuzizwa sidingeka. Kodwa ekugcineni lokhu akumayelana nezidingo zomzali kumayelana nekusasa lengane nokuzinika amakhono okuchuma ngaphandle kosizo lwabazali.
Masivume, uma uzimisele ukuqhubeka unikeza usizo, izingane zakho ezindala mancane amathuba okuthi zilunqabe futhi zingaze zizizwe zinelungelo lazo.
Lokhu akulimazi ingane kuphela, kaningi kuba nomphumela omubi kubazali abanjalo.
Ngempela, isifundo sakamuva babike ukwaneliseka kwempilo empofu phakathi kwabazali ababona izingane zabo ezindala njengezidinga ukwesekwa okukhulu.
Ukubheka emuva ohlwini olungenhla kuzokukhumbuza izizathu zokuthi kungani lokhu kungaba.
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Ukusiza wena ukuyeka.
Ukuqaphela ukuthi unika amandla omunye umuntu akulula ukwamukela.
Kuyinselele ukusetha kabusha impendulo yakho ezenzakalelayo futhi ikakhulukazi uma ukholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi uyasiza.
Ukuqonda ukuthi izenzo zakho ezinenhloso enhle empeleni zinomphumela ophambene enganeni yakho esekhulile futhi nokushintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo akulula ukwenza.
Uzothola ukusekelwa ngumndeni wakho nabangane kubaluleke kakhulu, kepha ungathola nendlebe elalelayo yomuntu ongathathi hlangothi njengomelaphi nayo izuzisa.
Ungakulungisa kanjani ukusebenza kokunika amandla.
Ngaphambi kokuzama ukulungisa le ndlela yokuziphatha, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kuyini.
Lapho umkhuba wokuhlala unikeza ingane yakho ukuzithokozisa ngokushesha ugxilile, kulula ukulahlekelwa yimiphumela yako yesikhathi eside.
Thatha isikhashana ucabangele imiphumela yokwehluleka ukufundisa ingane yakho ukupheka ukudla, ukuwasha izingubo zayo, noma ukushayela imoto. Bazolahleka ngokuphelele ngaphandle kwakho futhi bakuthole kunzima ukusebenza.
Ukufuna ukuzizwa udingeka futhi ulusizo kungumzwelo wemvelo womuntu. Kodwa kufanele wazi ukuthi lokhu akusikho ngawe kumayelana nekhono lengane yakho lesikhathi esizayo lokuchuma ngaphandle kokuncika kuwe.
Ngeke ube khona njalo, ngemuva kwakho konke.
Impela, kuzoba nzima ekuqaleni, kepha kungenzeka impela.
angisafuni ukunakekela
Kodwa-ke, isimilo osivumele futhi wasivumela ngokuphelele isikhathi eside ngeke sishintshe ngaphandle komzamo.
Ngenxa yengane yakho, kubalulekile ukunamathela ezinhlosweni zakho futhi uyikhuthaze ukuba ikwazi ukuzimela ngokuphelele.
Yize bengeke bayibone ngaleso sikhathi, ekugcineni bazokuthokozela inkululeko lokhu ebanikeza yona nokuzikhuthaza ekuzihlonipheni kwabo.
Ukuqala ibhola ligingqike, kungasiza ukubamba umhlangano womndeni. Ungaxoxa ngezinto ezinjengalezi:
- Okufundile ngokunika amandla.
- Ungathanda kanjani ukukhuthaza ukuzimela kwengane yakho esikhulile.
- Izibopho nezindima zelungu ngalinye lomndeni ngaphakathi ekhaya.
- Kungani uzizwa ukuthi amandla ashukumisayo omndeni kumele ahlolwe kabusha.
Ukukhuthaza ingane yakho esikhulile ukuthi ikwazi ukuzimela nokuzimela.
Lapho ingane isingene ngokweqiniso emhlabeni wabantu abadala, kusobala ukuthi kufanele ilwele ukuzimela.
Ngenkathi umzali onothando engeke abalahle emgwaqweni ukuze bazondle, ingane idinga ukuthi ibe nezinhlelo ezenzelwe ukuzimela kwezezimali nokusebenza kube ngumgomo.
Ngokungenakugwenywa, kungavela izingqinamba ezibaletha ekhaya: ukuhlukana kobudlelwano, izinkinga zomsebenzi, noma impilo ebuthaka, isibonelo.
Kulungile inqobo nje uma kunohlelo lomdlalo ukuze ingane ivule kabusha futhi ikwazi ukuzimela futhi.
Ukungqubuzana akuyona indlela engcono yokukhuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ikwazi ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe. Abakudinga kuwe ukwesekwa nokuqonda.
Qiniseka, wehlise umoya, futhi uzame ukungalawuli ngokweqile njengoba ubeka okulindelwe.
Lokhu kunezintshisakalo zenhliziyo yengane yakho kuphela futhi kuzozikhuthaza ukuthi zamukele ukuzimela:
eyodwa. Unganikeli imali ngokungakhethi. Noma iyiphi imali oyikhiphayo kufanele ilinganiswe nemizamo yengane yokuzimela.
ezimbili. Uma behlala ekhaya, vumelani umkhawulo wokuthi lokhu kungaqhubeka isikhathi esingakanani.
3. Bakhuthaze ukuthi banikele ekamelweni labo nasemabhodini lapho besekhaya.
Isine. Cela ukusiza ngokuqasha efulethini ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokuqala uma ukwazi ukwenza lokhu, ngokwehla okuvunyelwene kancane kancane kuze kube yilapho bekwazi ukukumboza ngokwabo.
5. Bakhuthaze ukuthi beze nezisombululo zabo kunokugxumela emibonweni yakho.
6. Khumbula ukuthi ngeke uthandwe uma ungaginqiki futhi unikeze lokho okuceliwe. Zilungiselele ukwenqatshwa wazi ukuthi bazoza ngokushesha noma kamuva (futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nokukubonga ngakho).
7. Zivikele ngokwakha impendulo esicelweni esingalindelekile sosizo.
Unganikezi impendulo esheshayo bese uzibamba usuku noma ngaphezulu. Thenga lesi sikhathi sokucabanga ngokuthi, 'Kuzofanele ngixoxe nobaba / unyoko' noma, 'Kuzofanele sicabangisise ngalokhu.'
Ngaleyo ndlela wethula ubumbano futhi ngeke uphazanyiswe ukuvumela isicelo ngaphandle kokucatshangelwa okufanele.
8. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuthi ungahlala uthi, 'Ngishintshe umqondo wami' ngesithembiso esenziwe ngaphambilini.
Ukusiza ingane yakho endala ngoshintsho.
Ingane yakho ingase imelane ekuqaleni, futhi lokho ngeke kube lula kuwe.
Uzodinga ukuhlala uqinile ekwazini ukuthi umbono wakho njengomzali ukuthatha umbono omude.
Ukucasula inqola yama-apula manje kuyindlela edingekayo yokufinyelela ekugcineni. Kodwa-ke, ukuzwa imibuzo yabo ebabazekayo enjengokuthi, 'Kungani ungiphatha kabi kangaka?' nokuthi, 'Awusangithandi?' kungaba buhlungu kakhulu.
Lapho bebona ukwesekwa esekujwayele ukuthathwa, kungokwemvelo ukuthi bazolwa.
Uzodinga ukuba nozwelo, ukuqonda, futhi uqine kakhulu - uqine ngokwanele ukumelana nokuphikisana kwabo futhi uthi abasakuthandi.
Ushintsho oluphoqelelwe luhlala lungakhululeki futhi ukwephula umjikelezo wokuziphatha kuyinselele.
Iqiniso nokho ukuthi abantu bazoshintsha kuphela uma besesimweni esingakhululekile futhi akukho okunye abangakwenza ngaphandle kokulandela.
Uma uthola ukuthi unenkinga yokubhekana nempendulo elimele neyentukuthelo yengane yakho - futhi yimuphi umzali onakekelayo ongeke? - lokhu futhi kungaba lapho udokotela oqeqeshiwe angasiza khona.
Ukuba nabo bakujoyine esimisweni sokwelapha kungaba yindlela enhle yokubenza babone umjikelezo wokunika amandla ukusebenza nokuthi ngeke kubasize kanjani ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Noma ukuhlela ukuthi bathole eyabo imishanguzo kungasiza ekutholeni lolu shintsho.
Izinzuzo zokwephula umjikelezo wokuvumela.
Lapho usuziyekisile ukunika amandla ingane yakho esikhulile, ngeke nje uzizwe usindwa umthwalo wemfanelo emahlombe akho, uzozizwa uziqhenya kakhulu ngawo.
Yonke imizamo yakho izobonakala izuzisa njengoba ubona ingane yakho yenza izinqumo ngempilo obungazenzela yona.
Uzomangala ukubona ukuthi yini abakwaziyo ukuyithola ngesiqondisi esifanele.
Ukwenza ushintsho kusuka ekubanikeni amandla okubanika amandla kuzobanika inkululeko yokuba yibo.
Ingabe sikhona isipho esiyigugu kakhulu?
